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Filmmaker Hopes to Document Gay Couple's Surrogacy Journey: VIDEO

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Here's a Kickstarter project that caught my attention. Filmmaker Edward Mcdonald is looking to finance a documentary about Troy and Ian, and their chosen surrogate, Ian's sister LeAndra.

Writes McDonald:

More Than a Village will take an eye-opening look at two men’s journey as they attempt to procreate in the 21st century. The couple has already been turned down by other surrogacy agencies because of their sexual orientation—but their determination is steadfast. I plan to document their unique process of procreation from start to finish, capturing the egg harvesting, in vitro fertilization, pregnancy, complications, birth of the children, and everything in between.

The film will also look closely at the surrogate’s life.

Have any of our readers had kids through surrogacy? If so, feel free to share.

Watch the Kickstarter trailer with the couple's story, AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. how about adopting.

    Posted by: Chris | Jul 27, 2011 11:31:33 AM


  2. Chris, adoption isn't for everyone.

    Posted by: Brian | Jul 27, 2011 11:37:51 AM


  3. Yeah because it's SO easy to adopt Chris.

    Why don't you Captain judgmental presumptuous braniac list ALL the states where it is legal to adopt as a gay man or a gay couple? And also how long it takes? And how expensive it is?

    Furthermore, do you realize if you are not wired differently, re with an amazing amount of empathy, which humans tend to lack severely that it is not advisable to adopt an abused kid who has lived in the state system?

    Whatever Moron.

    Why

    Posted by: Rowan | Jul 27, 2011 12:14:30 PM


  4. My partner and I have three kids through surrogacy, and from day 1 never had any negative experiences from any part of the process - including their births in a hospital down south, where we were treated extremely well.

    Posted by: Will | Jul 27, 2011 12:33:15 PM


  5. Anti-adoption tirades on Towleroad? Now I've seen everything. Yes, adoption isn't for everyone. You have to have love, compassion and enough humility that you don't think the world needs your seed to be spread.

    There are too many people in the world, already, but if you don't feel up to caring for any of them, then certainly by all means don't. But it doesn't take "an amazing amount of empathy" to adopt a baby. It does take a lot of love to adopt an older abused child and if you don't have that kind of love, what makes you think you'll have it if and/or when your surrogate child turns out to be a problem?

    And, seriously, ihstead of maniacally attacking someone demanding they provide you with knowledge -- with the implication that something that is done every day is somehow insurmountably impossible -- did you ever consider just acquiring that knowledge yourself?

    Posted by: ohplease | Jul 27, 2011 12:53:40 PM


  6. My partner and i live overseas thanks to doma, amd cant adopt here. So we pursued surrogacy in california as an option. We tried for three years but couldnt get things aligned, with either the egg donor or surrogate dropping out because we were gay. That was especially frustrating as the women always stated their objections, if any, to working with gay couples on their data sheets. Obviously we chose from the smaller pool of those willing to work with us, but things fell through anyway. We eventually gave up, although i wouldnt say we were a cautionary tale. I think being so far away made all the logistics complicated, and i think also scared away many of the surrogates. I wasnt aware of this initially, but many of the surrogates want to remain involved with the child, so being overseas made that less practical. I would just say that it is a business like any other, and those involved often overpromise and underdeliver, so go into this with your eyes wide open.

    Posted by: Brian | Jul 27, 2011 12:54:42 PM


  7. The Ford Foundation is giving filmmaking grants for docs. Check 'em out.

    Posted by: Jackson | Jul 27, 2011 12:56:39 PM


  8. Whoa, Rowan. Let's all take a deep breath.

    Whenever I hear that gay couples are having a child through surrogacy, I actually think the same thing, "why not adopt?" My partner and I are currently in the adoption process. I can list all the states where gay adoption isn't legal, and I can tell you that surrogacy is far and away the more expensive option. Also, "abused kid[s] who [have] lived in the state system" are not even close to the only children in the adoption system.

    We thought through all the options when deciding to have a kid. At first surrogacy was at the top of our list, but after we thought about it (and saw the price tag), we realized it was really just our vanity and some misplaced, albeit natural, notion that biological children are somehow more prized that led us to that conclusion. Adoption is almost certainly the longer and more complicated process, but one that made sense to us and felt like the "right" thing to do.

    There's more than one path to being a parent, and it doesn't hurt to raise questions or talk about the pros and cons of various options. Your knee-jerk reaction to a simple question doesn't further anyone's understanding of the complexity of being a gay parent, and, quite frankly, turns your insults back on yourself. And seriously, go watch Teen Mom, and tell me we don't need many more adoptive parents, gay or straight.

    Posted by: Casey | Jul 27, 2011 1:10:21 PM


  9. With the scientific advances and increasingly fair legal implications evening out the playing field, Chris, perhaps you can rephrase and ask why straight people don't all adopt.

    Some people just yearn to have a biologically related child. That's all. The gay couples that do surrogacy are very lucky they can afford it. Bless all parents out there!

    Posted by: freddy | Jul 27, 2011 1:20:08 PM


  10. @Brian - very sorry to hear about your troubles with the process. We have three children through surrogacy, and although there were many bumps in the road, none were related to our being gay. Have you tried this agency: www.growinggenerations.com? They used to work only with gay men (domestically and internationally) but have now expanded.

    Posted by: GayDad | Jul 27, 2011 1:29:22 PM


  11. Guys, get a grip!

    adoption AND surrogacy has its pros and cons. Why not adopt? and Why not do surrogacy? shouldn't be the topic or question.

    Posted by: Jeff | Jul 27, 2011 1:48:38 PM


  12. We've got two of the most beautiful kids - both through surrogacy from the same woman - biologically from each one of us. We did the whole process privately with an attorney. It was not an easy journey by any means but well worth it. We founded www.featherboafathers.com to help other gay men/couples in the Puget Sound region and provide support who are interested in building a family. I'm also a therapist that works with Gay men in this area www.nwtherapyfinder.com, www.larrynicholas.com

    Posted by: Larry | Jul 27, 2011 5:46:36 PM


  13. I'm with Chris. If you seek a little fashion accessory, why not get one that needs a good, loving home?

    Posted by: Shane | Jul 28, 2011 7:24:41 AM


  14. its true Adoption is a great way to build a family..

    Posted by: surrogacy | Aug 5, 2011 8:12:45 AM


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    Posted by: Gay Couples | Aug 1, 2012 8:28:00 AM


  18. Lets Support Gay Surrogacy, I hope everyone on this earth has freedom to marry who they love whether it is straight or gay.

    Posted by: Surrogacy in India | Apr 18, 2013 3:07:33 AM


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