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'Hung' Star Thomas Jane Says He Turned Tricks with Men as a Teen, Then Chose to Be Straight

In a new interview with the L.A. Times, Hung star Thomas Jane says he worked as a hustler and turn tricks with men to make ends meet when he first moved to L.A.:

Jane Hey, you grow up as an artist in a big city, as James Dean said, you're going to have one arm tied behind your back if you don't accept people's sexual flavors. You know, when I was a kid out here in L.A., I was homeless, I didn't have any money and I was living in my car. I was 18. I wasn't averse to going down to Santa Monica Boulevard and letting a guy buy me a sandwich. Know what I mean?

You're a lot more open to experimentation as a young man. And for me, being a young artist and broke in Los Angeles, I was exploring my sexual identity. And probably because of my middle-class, white blue-collar upbringing, I would have never had the opportunity to confront some of my own fears and prejudices had I not been hungry enough to be forced to challenge myself in that way.

He says the experience "blew the doors off of [his] conventional upbringing." Then, he says, he chose to be heterosexual:

And then you actually have a choice, and I chose to be a heterosexual guy because that's what my DNA dictates and my nurture dictates that I am...I don't know. I think up to a point it's a choice. But I'll tell you what — it's not a choice until you're open enough to experience both male and female sexuality. Until you've tasted the food, you don't know whether you'll like it or not, as my mom always said.

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  1. Oh, man. How long before he comes out and says, "I was misquoted. I didn't say that."

    Posted by: Chad | Oct 3, 2011 3:31:25 PM


  2. There you have. Bisexuals opting to live as straight think that being gay is a choice. Yeah. Old story.

    Posted by: Lexxvs | Oct 3, 2011 3:32:25 PM


  3. I would strongly encourage Thomas Jane to include that part of his history into his role on 'Hung'. I mean, if he's back to being a hustler, why not do it the way he used to? Pretty, please?

    Posted by: hugo | Oct 3, 2011 3:34:28 PM


  4. Correct to say that most people have some attraction to either gender and are perfectly capable of responding sexually to either gender......and therefore correct to say that up to a point, there is a choice.

    And this is a GOOD thing, if a culture has transitioned from a Puritanical, sex-is-bad mentality to a liberated, sex-is-good mentality.

    It frees people from living in boxes and allows them to find their own particular comfort level that may involve varying degrees of bisexuality...or may not.

    When we start touting this idea rather than being threatened by it, then we will see REAL change that brings about something better than just "tolerance", which is all we are going to get otherwise.

    Posted by: Rick | Oct 3, 2011 3:40:34 PM


  5. He didn't choose to be straight. He was all along. He CHOSE to go gay for pay.

    Posted by: Aaron | Oct 3, 2011 3:44:39 PM


  6. He chose to ACCEPT his heterosexuality. He didn't choose to be heterosexual ... nobody does.

    Posted by: Tom | Oct 3, 2011 3:45:40 PM


  7. I would be that small minority of men who is not capable of responding sexually to the opposite gender then, Mr. Jane.

    I know what I like and I know what I don't like. Vagina happens to be the latter.

    Posted by: Jesus | Oct 3, 2011 3:45:59 PM


  8. @ Aaron -- You nailed it, IMHO.

    Posted by: MikeMick | Oct 3, 2011 3:47:09 PM


  9. This was his personal experience... perhaps he is bisexual. Perhaps it doesn't matter. This whole 'choice' question is beginning (or already has) to get tiresome. I don't think it's a choice, but what if it was? Who cares who I choose to love (and/or have sex with)?

    Posted by: Married in MA | Oct 3, 2011 3:52:00 PM


  10. @Aaron Tell me, in all seriousness, how does one get an erection, even, much less carry out intercourse, if one is really and truly repulsed by the idea of sex with someone of a certain gender? It is simply impossible to become aroused to the point of being able to have sex with another individual if you truly have no attraction at all to them.

    Many of you have been conditioned to tout the "born this way" "it's either gay or straight with no in-between" idea out of fear that not doing so makes you "guilty" of making the "wrong" choice, but if you continue to do so, you are only entrenching yourselves in the old paradigms and preventing progress.

    Posted by: Rick | Oct 3, 2011 3:54:00 PM


  11. VERY poor word choice in describing his experience. All the uninformed/ unenlightened people will grab onto here is "Yeah, when I was desperate I could hook up with dudes, but then CHOSE to go back to being straight". Not helpful.

    Posted by: RDUB | Oct 3, 2011 3:55:20 PM


  12. @Rick,

    so you're saying I have a chance to get into your pantaloons someday?

    Posted by: Rin | Oct 3, 2011 3:55:51 PM


  13. So he's bisexual is what he's saying. Ugh. Why can't they just call this show a dud? Him and Anne Heche...

    Posted by: MKe | Oct 3, 2011 4:00:14 PM


  14. @RIN Hey, it's bad enough that half the guys on this site secretly are turned on by me.....now you too? (LOL)

    Seriously, though, my approach to this whole subject is empirically based; if it were not, then I would not have a convincing case intellectually. I am simply looking at the data that researchers have provided and adding to it the anecdotal evidence that we all know about (from prisons and other environments where men are deprived of access to females).

    Did you know that half the actors in gay porn films are "straight"? Now tell me, how on earth does a guy pound another guy's butt if he is repulsed by that butt and by the very idea of what he is doing? It is just impossible without some degree of arousal. Physically impossible--for men at least--to fake an attraction, though perhaps not for women.

    Posted by: Rick | Oct 3, 2011 4:02:58 PM


  15. You choose your behavior, not your orientation. You can discover your orientation, or aspects of it, as you grow older, but your orientation doesn't change and it's not a choice.

    Your behavior, though, doesn't have to conform to your orientation. I'm absolutely a carnivore, but that doesn't mean I'm incapable of enjoying a salad. I'm not religious, but that doesn't mean I've never been to a church service.

    Gay men having wives and children has happened since the beginning of time, as has straight men having sex with men for any number of reasons. And then, of course, there's also the varying degrees of bisexuality.

    In other words, nothing new here -- except for the candor.

    Posted by: justme | Oct 3, 2011 4:03:16 PM


  16. Yawn

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Oct 3, 2011 4:06:02 PM


  17. huh?...so he gave it away for a "sammie"? Heck that's cheap, I need a GOOD pizza and GOOD beer before I let a man get to my nether regions. lol

    Posted by: FreddyMertz | Oct 3, 2011 4:09:26 PM


  18. Because, @RICK, "a hole is a hole." It's the same way gay porn actors can have sex with women. You get fluffed and do your duty. It's not uncommon for people to be attracted to both sexes, especially in their youth. It's not as cut and dry as you are making it out to be. Are you telling me that you have never EVER gotten an erection just from being drunk and horny and with someone who, although unattractive, was just there. Or gotten one from sliding down a rope in gym class or wrestling etc. Or from a dream that was not sexual at all?

    Jane is being candid but I wish he didn't use the word "choice".

    Posted by: FernLaPlante | Oct 3, 2011 4:11:04 PM


  19. I chose to marry a woman and have children with her. I remained married to her 15 years, at which time I realized I was repressing my fundamental sexual urges. So my sexual organs can work with either sex. So what? It never made me heterosexual. Did I choose to be gay at some point? Hell, no. I chose to repress it for a long time, though.

    Posted by: ccandideinnc | Oct 3, 2011 4:17:15 PM


  20. Oh just stop getting all worked up about the choice business. He was discussing his own reality as he saw it. It was an incredibly brave thing to do to open up about this past that many young men have lived in Hollywood, and I commend him for the honesty.

    Posted by: ynot | Oct 3, 2011 4:20:18 PM


  21. @Rick Your saying that there is a gray area is just as much of an opinion as someone else saying that there isn't. I'm not denying the existence of bisexuals but he said himself that he is heterosexual after trying sex with men. He said he's hetero. Stop making him bisexual. And stop telling us all that we should be freer in our sexuality when you know nothing about it. You, Rick, can go out and have sex with whomever you like. And You, Rick, have a bisexual agenda!

    And I'll answer your question with some questions. Do you think prostitutes are always attracted to their clients? And what about the need for Fluffers in porn? When did I say I was repulsed by sex with the opposite sex? I've done it. A bunch. Had fun. Don't regret it. But that does not a bisexual make! The ability to have sex with both sexes doesn't make you bisexual. The equal desire or close to equal desire to have sex with both sexes makes you bisexual.
    I didn't choose to be attracted PRIMARILY to males. I just am. He never mentioned being actually attracted to the men he let buy him sandwiches.

    Posted by: Aaron | Oct 3, 2011 4:26:24 PM


  22. Thomas really isn't a very good speaker, at least in this situation. One can somewhat see what he's trying to say but he doesn't do a good job getting the point across. Plus, his knowledge on sexuality is very ignorant.

    As Aaron put it, he chose to be gay for pay. That doesn't make him gay. What it does make him is a guy is a romantically/emotionally/mentally straight, but sexually bisexual.

    His problem is essentially saying sexual activity=sexual orientation. That we all have a choice to have sex with either sex and being with one sole gender is a choice to be exclusive with only men or women. What people like him don't get is that not everyone is bisexual, some people just like the opposite or same-sex. And that doesn't make them "not open"----that's just their immutable sexual orientation. Sort of similar to Anne Heche, and people think sexuality is a choice, because she's bisexual to a certain extent and is now with a man after being with Ellen.

    And that goes for you too, Rick. No, bisexuality clearly isn't something to be threatened by, it's totally a legit sexuality. But the bottom line is, not everyone is bisexual. And stating that everyone can just freely choose bisexuality is incorrect.

    Posted by: Francis | Oct 3, 2011 4:26:24 PM


  23. If he ever needs a snack, he can give me a call.

    Posted by: Jack M | Oct 3, 2011 4:31:39 PM


  24. Personally, for me was not a choice. Definitely born that way, earliest memories and motivatuions were same sex. I am not saying that applies to everyone, but yeah, no choice on my part. I certainly would not have "chosen" that hell of a closeted adolescence, high school and college years, I would have been banging any chick that would have had me.
    Great if you can choose, even better if you are happy with your choice.

    Posted by: Jerry | Oct 3, 2011 4:32:55 PM


  25. Did he choose to have big feet?

    Posted by: BobN | Oct 3, 2011 4:34:36 PM


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