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How 'Linsanity' is Improving One Gay Man's Sex Life


Gay Asian blogger Yellow Peril on how the craze over New York Knicks star Jeremy Lin is having "sociosexual" implications:

Normally I don’t like it when guys bring up my race when they’re hitting on me. Without question, race is usually a major component of sexual chemistry (and I certainly have my own preferences), but there’s no easier way to feel like a piece of meat than when you’re being compared to an anime character. But this was different. And it was entirely new to me.

I was being likened to an all-American mainstream superstar, not a niche fetish.

Since then, I’ve gotten wing-manned by Linsanity on several more occasions. On my Adam4Adam account, I have a picture posted that features me clutching a strategically-placed basketball. (I took this picture as one of the subjects of a photography project called Sexy Geeks.) The photoshoot was taken months before Jeremy’s Shakespearean rise to meteoric stardom, when the image of an Asian man clutching a basketball was meant to be a critique on societal stereotypes. How quickly things change.

Now, I’d gotten no less than 30 messages on Adam4Adam that directly comment on the basketball picture, gushing about Jeremy Lin.

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Asian Men with Balls: Sociosexual Implications of Linsanity [i am yellow peril]

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  1. Race is only a "major component of sexual chemistry" for bigots. You should be embarrassed.

    Posted by: Nino | Feb 21, 2012 1:44:59 PM

  2. it's been very interesting watching people suddenly realize that cultural insensitivity toward the Asian communities still exists. It's oft forgotten. We knew "blackface" was wrong, but didn't have a problem with Mickey Rooney's racist tour-de-force performance as Mr. Yunioshi, complete with bottle-glasses and buck-teeth.

    we still have the culture of "no asians" from gallingly clueless guys online.

    the recent flurry of nonsensical puns related to Lin's ethnicity have been (hopefully!) a wake up call to those out there who believe that there aren't still very-real levels of racial prejudice, bias and perception in our society.

    The Work is not done....

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 1:48:09 PM

  3. Haha - if Jeremy Lin can get me laid more often, I'm all for it. Hopefully more guys would now see us Asian guys as sexual objects ;)

    Posted by: Kyle | Feb 21, 2012 1:54:24 PM

  4. Nino - get outta her with that. People are bigots when they don't want to hire someone based on race.

    People's different sexual attraction preferences do not a bigot make.

    Posted by: David in NYC | Feb 21, 2012 1:58:37 PM

  5. I like how people just throw out shits like "race is a component of sexual chemistry means you are a bigot".

    The fact that a big part of sexual attraction is primal and instinctive means that you are not to confuse that with racial prejudice. Just because you happen to find everyone could be attractive that doesn't mean everyone is attractive to everyone and this should apply to everyone. Many factors, genetics, social backgrounds, upbringing, and everything in between could shape the perspective of what is deemed attractive. And in this case, especially as gay men, depends on your sexual identity, the attraction could mean anything from being masculine or feminine or everything in between. Just like personality, talents, and looks, race, which plays an important role of how you look somehow cannot be part of your sexual selection simply because it is not political correct? You got to be freaking kidding me. what you are attracted to is simply that, what you are attracted to, stop throwing your worthless 2 cents of political correctness in this. God am I sick of these self righteous pricks.

    Posted by: david | Feb 21, 2012 1:59:47 PM

  6. here's a fun fact that a lot of people will deny - if what you don't like about the person is their ethnicity, then you have AN ISSUE WITH THAT ETHNICITY.

    into white guys? well, you're clearly not into ALL white guys.

    how, then, can one say "i'm not into asians"? you dont' see The Person, you see The Ethnicity. That means you have an unacknowledged, and perhaps subconscious, issue with that ethnicity.

    you can argue with me all you like. you're still wrong.

    and before some dunce brings it up, NO, it's not like saying "you hate women because you're gay", because orientations are concepts of attraction and beauty are two wholly different separate things. so there.

    "not into asians" ? great. you're a product of white-worshipping culture and don't have the brain power to see it, acknowledge it, and rise above it.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 2:03:34 PM

  7. Regardless of your preferences, you should still be able to identify when someone is attractive regardless of race. I have my preferences but have found beautiful guys of all types. It doesn't make you racist. Am I hairist because I prefer darker haired guys over lighter?

    Posted by: TyN | Feb 21, 2012 2:04:40 PM

  8. oh, by the way, before someone gets their insecure-white-panties in a bunch about this:

    you're free to have your preferences against ethnic groups. just like the rest of us are free to prefer not to associate with intellectually-feeble men with racially-biased preferences.

    "not into asians"? well, i'm not into guys with racial preferences. sorry. it's just my preference.


    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 2:05:58 PM

  9. ""not into asians" ? great. you're a product of white-worshipping culture and don't have the brain power to see it, acknowledge it, and rise above it."

    Just curious: how do you approach non-white ethnicities who express preferences for particular ethnicities? Do you spend as much time berating them as you do white men for being racist? Or do you prefer to just completely deny their agency and claim that they're self-deluding subscribers to a white heterosexual patriarchy?

    Posted by: Nat | Feb 21, 2012 2:08:57 PM

  10. "here's a fun fact that a lot of people will deny - if what you don't like about the person is their ethnicity, then you have AN ISSUE WITH THAT ETHNICITY."

    That's not a fact, that's an opinion. You calling other people idiots because of it doesn't make it anymore a fact; you're merely affirming your own desire for self-righteous expression.

    Really, your inability to try to rationalize independently of your own predilections towards bullying is a genuine shame, because you appear reasonably intelligent.

    Posted by: Nat | Feb 21, 2012 2:13:11 PM

  11. Nat, same thing - just as many gay men are culturally "taught" to loathe "gayness" (and NO, gayness doesn't mean anything to do with being effeminate: one can be visibly, and Obviously, Gay without being "femme", you know).

    they too are experiencing the trickle-down effect of white-worshipping culture. this is evidenced all-over, actually: many cultures still value the "more white-appearing" members of their own ethnic and cultural communities. marketing. advertising.

    what is "beautiful"? look at the myriad "Black and White" doll tests that are done on children - we have a culture that says Blonde and White is the Gold Standard for beauty, and that doesn't just affect how white people see beauty, it does indeed GREATLY affect how non-white people see themselves.

    if you're not into a person BECAUSE OF THEIR ETHNICITY then you do indeed have a racially-biased "preference" indicative of a learned societal bias toward that ethnicity. there's no way around that. sorry.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 2:18:16 PM

  12. Amazing how EVERYTHING ends up about 'cultural sensitivity', 'racism', and usually 'bad' white [males]. EVERYTHING...LITERALLY, at least when dealing with hardcore P.C. 'progressives', whose talking points are white males=the enemy.EVERYONE apparently needs someone to hate on, a negative to create a positive?

    BTW I'm white and I've always found Asian males attractive in the same way I find any other good-looking [at least what turns me on sexually] male, white or otherwise. And of course there's the notorious [and accurate] white heterosexual male's yellow fever Asian female attraction. But I think all other non-Asian heterosexual males also find Asian females very attractive.

    I suppose Asian dudes must deal with the powerful 'geek' factor, which is generally not a turn-on for a lot of people. Is this specifically 'racist'? No. And I attended H.S. for 2 years in a Chinatown neighborhood, my school was more than 50% Asian,mostly ethnic Chinese. There were plenty of dudes who were neither geeks nor particularly smart.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Feb 21, 2012 2:22:03 PM

  13. actually, Nat, it's not an opinion. it's sociological fact. it is. it's not self-righteous to point out such sociological realities.

    we live in a world that values Money, Whiteness and Heterosexuality above all else.

    "i'm not into him because i'm not into asians"

    right. there's nothing remotely indicative of an unaddressed issue with ethnicity in such a statement. when you only see The Ethnicity and not The Individual you have an unaddressed issue with that ethnicity.

    there's no way around that.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 2:25:15 PM

  14. Sexual attraction is like the "golden mean" in art and architecture, an almost indescribable and individual response to other people, sometimes having a strong reaction to one person while having none to one who looks quite similar. If someone says, "Ugh! I could NEVER be attracted to a _____" it could very well be racist, but someone saying "I've never really been attracted to ____" might be a simple statement of fact. And no one OWES it to another person to have sex with them. And who wants to be a pity-f*ck anyway?

    Posted by: Caliban | Feb 21, 2012 2:25:33 PM

  15. You didn't actually answer my question.

    I didn't ask: what do you think of non-white ethnicities being exclusively or mostly attracted to whites?

    I asked: "how do you approach non-white ethnicities who express preferences for particular ethnicities?"

    What animates the mindset of a gay black man who only prefers other gay black men or gay East Asians? How about a gay First Nations man that only prefers gay Arabic men? How about a gay Turkish man who only likes gay black men? What set of prejudices and values are roiling around in their heads that make them desire the particular ethnicities that they do?

    Posted by: Nat | Feb 21, 2012 2:30:35 PM

  16. It's impossible to try and explain to a white liberal why they're a racist. They recycle, how could they possibly be racist? It's like talking to a brick wall, only with a brick wall your chances of getting it to agree with you are greater.

    Posted by: RGB | Feb 21, 2012 2:35:49 PM

  17. Nat, it's not just the environment we grew up in , but how we did (or did not) fit in.

    the first thing to understand in this issue - you can't compare White to Non-White as if they're on an "even playing field" - you cannot disregard that this is still a very much a White Man's World. This is an important distinction.

    and there are indeed the flip-side attractions: those who are "into" certain ethnicities in an ethniccally-fetishized way.

    my asian friends who have legions of stories of men wanting, literally, a subservient "oriental boy" (or woman). my black friends who all too often meet guys who aren't Color-Blind, but Color-Fetishizing - they want the dominant black thug.

    asians are passive effeminate bottoms. blacks are rough thug tops. and so on, and so on.....

    people fetishize ethnicity. people have knee-jerk negative responses to ethnicities.

    the reality is that none of these responses is INNATE - they're all indicative of our greater culture and the underlying biases and preconceptions associated with ethnicity and race in our culture.

    come ON, folks.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 2:38:42 PM

  18. @Kiwi: "no Asians" is indeed clueless, and, even if someone feels that way, is both stupid and mean-spirited to put out in public.

    That said, I'm curious: how do you propose people get past their racial hang-ups vis-a-vis attraction? I've been aware for years that I find white and hispanic men more attractive. I even, for a time, would feel guilty for not finding every black and asian man who hits on me attractive (before I realized I also don't find every white and hispanic man to hit on me attractive; I do, however, unquestionably find a greater proportion of them attractive). But I'm at a complete loss on how I change what turns me on.

    I would never say "white and latin only" (and have in fact had black and asian lovers), but you seem to be implying that a decent human being would somehow-- without actually explaining how-- change what he (or she) finds sexually attractive. I'm curious as to how you think that works.

    Posted by: Dan E | Feb 21, 2012 2:41:37 PM

  19. Little Kiwi,

    You still have not answered Nat's question so I will repeat it:

    how do you approach non-white ethnicities who express preferences for particular ethnicities?"

    Indeed, you may think they are products of a society that values white above all else,
    but DO YOU BERATE THEM FOR THEIR PREFERENCES like you berate white men on here?

    Posted by: jmg | Feb 21, 2012 2:44:16 PM

  20. "This is an important distinction."

    No, the particular way you've constructed that statement makes it irrelevant to what I'm asking.

    You're still not actually answering my question. You're only repeating cultural stereotypes about certain ethnicities.

    Is it your implication that the First Nations man only being attracted to Arabic men arises out of internalized stereotypes about Arabic men? What is that First Nations man thinking about, culturally?

    Posted by: Nat | Feb 21, 2012 2:45:37 PM

  21. Dan E, the first step is literally the same as the first step that anti-gay people need to take: STOP TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU DON'T LIKE _______ EVERY DAY.


    people reinforce their own nonsense all the time.

    how do i approach them, JMG and NAT? well, when some non-white people come on we'll see how that goes. so far it's just white people insisting that they're not in any way racist for finding all people of _____-ethnicity collectively unappealing.

    how HAVE i approached them, in the past? well, considering that it's never come up with the same energy that the angrily-defensive white boys tend to bring, it doesn't have the same level of berating. truth.

    oh, and i don't "think" they're the products of society - i'm stating a sociological fact that they are the products of society.

    concepts of beauty and attraction are cultural. societal.

    asians have been desexualized in society, unless you're counting the subservient "oriental beauties" in pornography who just love being gangbanged by groups of non-Asian men.

    do a search online and try to find porno of asian men with white women.

    are there any asian male porn stars in north american porn, anyway?

    asians are oft disregarded in our culture. every year at the oscars the talk of "lack of black nominees" comes up. how about the fact that only two asian actors have ever won acting oscars? (miyoshi umecki and haing s. ngor).

    or when gay men complain that there aren't enough "masculine gay male role models on TV" ...well, for more than a decade BD Wong (openly gay actor) has played gay characters on two HUGELY SUCCESSFUL television series: Oz and Law & Order: SVU.

    why, then, are his portrayals not cited as the "non-stereotypical" gay characters that they are? simple: it seems that to many gay men being an Asian "doesn't count".

    i don't find EVERY PERSON of every ethnicity attractive. i do, however, find individual people within our world's glorious ethnic cultures sexually attractive.

    guys who are only into white guys aren't into EVERY white guy, right?

    but how to get over such limitations? it's a process. and it starts with people simply stopping the reiteration of "I dont like _____" every day.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 2:58:24 PM

  22. Little Kiwi,

    Are you telling me you have never met a black gay man who is not into Asians? Or vice versa? By your standards they should be ridiculed as much as the whities.

    Posted by: jmg | Feb 21, 2012 3:03:06 PM

  23. David, why is it when a straight white male says he's "not into black women," he's perceived as racist (John Mayer a few years ago), but when a gay white male says he's "not into Asians" its just his "preference"? This is a problem, and we can't ignore it.

    Posted by: Nino | Feb 21, 2012 3:05:37 PM

  24. JMG, nothing in any of my comments suggests that.

    if you want to understand this discussion re-read what i've written a few times. if you're just here to argue with me, you wont' have a good time because i actually know what i'm talking about.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 21, 2012 3:07:37 PM

  25. "they're all indicative of our greater culture and the underlying biases and preconceptions associated with ethnicity and race in our culture."

    That CAN be true, but it's just as likely to be a matter of preference toward certain physical traits. Some people have a strong attraction to blonds so they're unlikely to find an Asian, Black, Hispanic, Jewish, or Italian person attractive unless they have light hair, which is unlikely in some of those cases.

    Personally I'm NOT attracted to blonds as a general rule and prefer hairy men, so my reaction to those groups is different and it has nothing to do with a deeply held dislike of Scandinavians. I'm frequently attracted to "swarthy" men with dark (preferably black) hair, often attracted to black men, but very rarely to Asian men not because I think they're "inscrutable" passive math whizzes but because they just don't push my "buttons." It isn't even that I don't think they're attractive or aesthetically pleasing, but that I rarely have an erotic response, there's no heat to my appreciation.

    And I'm not interested in rewiring my erotic responses just to suit the self-appointed standard bearers of what is correct or right for everyone else.

    Posted by: Caliban | Feb 21, 2012 3:08:39 PM

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