1. Michael Bedwell says

    WHAT are they talking about??? DOMA never did prevent one’s same-sex partner from being notified AS LONG AS that person is designated for such notification in their personnel file. This was spelled out in the Pentagon report released in November 2010, emphasis mine:

    “[T]here are some benefits that are NOW, under current law and regulations, FULLY AVAILABLE to ANYONE of a Service member’s choosing, INCLUDING A SAME-SEX PARTNER, because they are ‘member-designated’ benefits. Examples here are beneficiaries for Servicemembers’ Group Life Insurance and Thrift Savings Plan, MISSING MEMBER NOTIFICATION, and hospital visitation access. If Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is repealed, Service members may designate a same-sex partner for these benefits without then having to conceal the nature of the relationship from the military … These designations are usually made on the Service member’s DD Form 93, Record of Emergency Data (RED) and the Servicemembers’ Group Life Insurance (SGLI) Policy. Service members may want to designate permissible benefits to someone other than a person in the priority list set by law. This COULD INCLUDE AN UNMARRIED PARTNER, significant other, friend, or distant relative. SERVICE MEMBERS MUST BE DILIGENT to ensure their DESIRED beneficiaries ARE PROPERLY DOCUMENTED in the event the Service member dies or goes missing while serving.” – “Report of the Comprehensive Review of the Issues Associated with a Repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” Department of Defense, November 30, 2010.

  2. says

    A friend of mine recently had a heart attack and was in a come. His partner is a soldier stationed in Afghanistan. The partner happened to be in the US at the time (he was coming for a visit) so he was able to come to AZ to see Tony, but then had to return to duty because he was not officially married. Tony died and his partner was unable to be there. It is heartbreaking. DOMA affects people every day.

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