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  1. Mike says

    The film looks very worthwhile, but I agree it seems odd that she would fund a film this way. She is extremely wealthy and used to own a beachfront mansion in Santa Barbara, and has a family foundation with her husband. Perhaps going the Kickstarter route is more for marketing/grassroots support reasons than anything else.

  2. mykos says

    Tear-jerker, no BUT definitely sad. The moral of the story is to make sure you have some sort of living will/trust to ensure you DON’T have to go through what Shane did. My condolences to him……..

  3. Tim NC says

    @MYKOS….. completely agree. This couple was living in CA and should have had a CA Domestic Partnership which would have given them ALL the state level rights of marriage.

  4. Tim NC says

    @MYKOS….. completely agree. This couple was living in CA and should have had a CA Domestic Partnership which would have given them ALL the state level rights of marriage.

  5. Tim NC says

    @MYKOS….. completely agree. This couple was living in CA and should have had a CA Domestic Partnership which would have given them ALL the state level rights of marriage.

  6. JT says

    @Tim NC, they may not have considered getting partnered or ‘married’ per se. It’s a pretty big decision to make. The sad thing is that tragedy often strikes before you can take that big step.

  7. lessthan says

    I saw this video when it was originally posted here. I want to know how the story is going. Did the Bridegroom’s unbend enough to answer Shane’s questions? What happened that night?

  8. Tim NC says

    @WAYNEMPLS…. I’m not dismissing the tragedy of the story. But, I am pointing out they could have had the same protections as a married straight couple and chose not to. In fact, the same exact scenario could have (and probably has) happened to an unmarried straight couple.

  9. Bob R says

    Interesting. In a matter of days $600,000 plus was raised for an elderly bus monitor who was exposed to 10 minutes of nasty bullying by a few adolescent boys. Here we have an opportunity to help raise a few dollars to tell a love story about two gay men and there’s nothing but advice on what they should have done and doesn’t Thomasen have the money?

    Now I’m not begrudging the elderly bus monitor her $600,000 plus windfall, but this sounds like a story that should be told and just might help the cause of marriage equality. I can’t donate much, but I’ll send a few bucks. Maybe it’s just me, but I’d rather see my money go towards a gay cause that might change some minds than some other less meaningful cause. But then, I guess there’s something not quite right about my priorities.

  10. JSG says

    @ Bob R (Interesting. In a matter of days $600,000 plus was raised for an elderly bus monitor who was exposed to 10 minutes of nasty bullying )

    Posted by: Bob R | Jun 28, 2012 3:14:58 PM

    Bob R, It was more than one day that she was bullied. There are more videos of OTHER days the same bullying went on. The police are now investigating with the help of the OTHER videos that were shot from OTHER days she was bullied

  11. mykos says

    @ waynempls – I did, in fact, watch the entire clip; hence my comment.

    My only question for him would’ve been that if you’ve taken steps to create a business, purchase a home, etc. (all of which he states was done together), why not have the forethought to take the next (logical)step to protect these investments/opportunities? Unfortunately, we’ll never know…….

    ….and why was Tom on the rooftop anyway?!?

  12. Steve says

    Somehow I feel the heartfelt, home-made youtube video will be have more impact than a $300,000+ hollywood production. best of luck though to this wealthy lady raising the money.

  13. Bob says

    WOW! THE JUDGEMENTAL QUEERS WHO FAULT THE COUPLE FOR NOT GETTING LEGAL PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!!
    These are young guys, not from University educated homes, who were not yet ready for marriage, yet you think they should have been among the small number of Gays who predicted that CA marriage equality would be overturned by Prop 8.

    @MYKOS — it was a flat CA roof of an apt, with a low parapet, which you would know if you paid attn rather than judging

  14. Tim NC says

    @BOB… you say this couple was young and not yet ready for marriage… yet the story is making the claim that the lack of marriage equality is what caused the problem. Your claim is that even if marriage was available, they weren’t “ready” for it. So, it wouldn’t have helped. But, if marriage equality was all they were waiting for, they could have gotten the same rights with domestic partnership.

    A young unmarried hetero couple would have been in the same situation. So, it’s not a “gay” issue.

  15. TomTallis says

    They were residents of California and could have entered into a California Domestic Partnership which would have protected Shane from Tom’s family’s depradations (especially since they both knew Tom’s family’s attitude toward their relationship) and made Shane Tom’s legal next of kin. It was naive of them not to have done it, and it cost Shane acres of heartbreak later.

  16. Mike says

    Maybe they are like me and don’t want a domestic partnership. I want to be able to get Married and don’t consider a domestic partnership the same.

    @Mykos It is my understanding that Tom was a photographer and was doing a photo shoot when he tripped and fell off of the roof.

  17. mykos says

    @ Bob – I am NOT judging them, so please do not jump to that conclusion. Also, as my educational background is in Dentistry NOT Architecture, forgive me if I’m not as well versed as you in roofing structures.

    My point is/was that seeing as how they had these investments (business/home/banking) they could/should have taken the opportunity to further protect themselves, especially given how Tom’s family did not welcome his relationship.

    As a former resident of SF (and someone who completed the domestic partner registration back in ’05) my partner and I (now of 14 years), immediately following that process, completed our living will/trust; despite the fact the neither of our families have any problems with our relationship. We did so to protect ourselves in the event that something DID happen and one of us be denied by an entity that did not recognize our relationship. Both my partner and I were young when we did it (myself, then 26 and partner, then 29) and we didn’t have a business nor had we purchased a home as Tom & Shane had/did.

    @ Mike – thank you!!

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