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Maggie Gallagher's Final Syndicated Column

NOM's Maggie Gallagher says good-bye to her syndicated column.

Maggie_gallagherHere are a couple excerpts:

Men and women are different. A society that pretends otherwise is not going to raise boys to be loving, reliable family men. Marriage is about settling for less but raising up an ideal much bigger and more important even than the most urgent whispered promises of romantic love.

Sex makes babies. Society needs babies. Babies need their mother and their father. Men and women need each other. We all need a strong marriage culture, whether we choose to marry or not. If it is true that sex makes babies, then that is clearly the most important thing about sex, the thing around which a decent person or society will organize sexual values, behavior and norms.

If they saw clearly. If they were only told the truth. For of all the ways adult society can abandon the young, one of the worst is to ignore the key adult task of creating and sustaining a larger meaning for sex and sexual desire for young people.

And more:

Without a powerful ideal of masculinity that points men toward marriage and fatherhood, more and more young men are deciding the hard work of becoming marriageable is not worth it: Porn, beer, video games with the guys, freedom and fleeting sexual encounters are good enough. The most urgent overlooked need is the deep need of boys for masculine ideals.

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  1. I can't be bothered to read the blathering of this con artist.

    Posted by: homer | Jan 4, 2013 7:56:57 AM

  2. The basis of her entire messed-up treatise is that society wants to treat men and women the same. In a way, she's right, but only as far as women's equal rights go.

    What she's failing to see is that gay people realize men and women are different, that's what makes us gay. And it doesn't mean that we're incapable of romantic love.

    Sex makes babies. Right Maggie, but heteros have sex all the time with zero babies being the intended result. I guess that's OK in her world view, but NO sex allowed for us gays (which also results in zero babies).

    Then she argues that we need a culture of marriage. Well, that's exactly what gay people want too, Mags. And it's not "settling for less", it's settling for the best. There must be some sad marriage issues for Mags since she views marriage in that narrow construct.

    Agree with everything in the last paragraph except that love, marriage and fatherhood are available for gay men, too, if only Mags could open her pea-sized, religion-drenched mind for a split second.

    Posted by: johnny | Jan 4, 2013 8:00:13 AM

  3. I don't understand how she could have sustained a weekly column with her very limited message, which boils down to a baby needs a father and a mother. I hear her say the same thing again and again, but that's in a stump speech or a debate. But a weekly column, read by the same people week after week?

    You can just imagine the conversations it inspires at the breakfast table: "well, lookie here, Mabel, Maggie's coming out strongly in favor of family values this week!".

    Posted by: Brian Renaud | Jan 4, 2013 8:03:40 AM

  4. She's leaving?

    Posted by: the sooner the better | Jan 4, 2013 8:04:07 AM

  5. What planet does she live on that she thinks we need more and more and more babies?

    And this? "Marriage is about settling for less". She's a real advocate for marriage, that Maggie.

    Posted by: Dastius Krazitauc | Jan 4, 2013 8:20:11 AM

  6. It is interesting that she feels "Marriage is about settling for less". I never did settle for less. Real love didn't come for me until I was 37, but my husband and I have been together for 7 years now, and far from settling, my life has been enhanced in every way.
    I think she has some very deep issues, and the NOM thing is the way she is working them out. Although, I don't understand why she can't just go to a psychiatrist instead of inflicting her BS on our community.

    Posted by: Mawm | Jan 4, 2013 8:22:34 AM

  7. "if it is true that sex makes babies"
    i didn't know that this was questioned!

    Posted by: Joe | Jan 4, 2013 8:22:50 AM

  8. So sorry she had to settle for less. My partner and I have been together for over 35 years. I don't think either of us could say we settled for less. We are so much more together than we could each have ever been by ourselves. That is what love means Maggie.

    Posted by: jleo71 | Jan 4, 2013 8:28:45 AM

  9. If her last column is an example of her writting style, it amazes me that she lasted as long as she did. Whether one agrees or disagrees with her message, this is just a poorly written string of nonsense. I guess they quit teaching rhetoric before she got to school.

    Posted by: voet | Jan 4, 2013 8:31:53 AM

  10. If her last column is an example of her writting style, it amazes me that she lasted as long as she did. Whether one agrees or disagrees with her message, this is just a poorly written string of nonsense. I guess they quit teaching rhetoric before she got to school.

    Posted by: voet | Jan 4, 2013 8:31:54 AM

  11. So Jabba The Hutt is going back to his home planet. Big deal.

    Posted by: FuryOfFirestorm | Jan 4, 2013 8:36:45 AM

  12. Isn't she divorced or something? We never hear about her well balanced, husband/wife, Father/Mother life. Isn't her son gay?
    She's a mess.

    Posted by: JimmyD | Jan 4, 2013 8:37:08 AM

  13. Rarely do you find people so obsessed with sex. Her and others like her seem to spend almost every waking hour thinking about, talking about or writing about other people's sex lives.

    Posted by: Chadd | Jan 4, 2013 8:42:24 AM

  14. "We never hear about her well balanced, husband/wife, Father/Mother life."

    Maybe that's what she means by "settling for less". Her husband is so "less", he's not even there.

    Posted by: Dastius Krazitauc | Jan 4, 2013 8:45:27 AM

  15. Who is she anyway?

    Posted by: Michael | Jan 4, 2013 8:46:55 AM

  16. She'd be a great Greeter at a WalMart.

    Posted by: Oliver | Jan 4, 2013 8:50:07 AM

  17. "Marriage is about settling for less.....but raising up the ideal."

    Huh ?
    Less what ? Less love ? Less security? Less happiness ? Less money ? Less sex ?
    Why on earth should marriage be "settling for less".......what a dreadful view of marriage.
    And then she says the reason for "settling for less" is to hold up the ideal .

    How hold up an ideal which in her view doesn't exist because we are all settling for less.
    Her marriage may have settled for less but I fail to see why that should be extrapolated into a General Theory of Marriage.
    PS/ esperit d'escalier:
    But looking at her photograph I am beginning to understand why she settled for less.....or is that mean spirited of me ?

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jan 4, 2013 8:55:34 AM

  18. Thanks for posting her photo Andy. I always wondered what Velma from Scooby Doo would look like without her glasses.

    Posted by: Bobby | Jan 4, 2013 9:02:18 AM

  19. As a social conservative, I can tell you what Maggie meant by marriage making us "settle for less," She meant that marriage is about more than romantic love and sex, and about more than just having a good time. What people who marry give up (whether a straight marriage or a gay marriage) is immediate gratification since they now share a household with someone and are a "couple." That is, they can't do whatever they want every minute. Also, children, who we exepct to result from a marriage, are a huge responsibility. Single childless people have the advantage of having more personal freedom and being able to spend more of their money directly on themselves.

    At least I THINK this is what she meant.

    Posted by: Mary | Jan 4, 2013 9:12:37 AM

  20. You should marry Maggie, Mary.

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Jan 4, 2013 9:16:25 AM

  21. This woman needs to have an orgasm.

    Posted by: David C. | Jan 4, 2013 9:31:51 AM

  22. So that's why we're resented; we can spend more money on ourselves !

    So this whole "settling for less" is some kind of baloney self sacrifice elevated to the status of "the ideal".
    The "settling for less" is really a formulation of resentment that because we, generally, don't have children we have all that money and free time to spend on our selves......and straight marriage is so superior because it is so self sacrificing.

    BTW even single people cannot do everything they want every minute every day !
    I may not be allowed to marry but my BF and I have never "settled for less" contraire, being together has given each much more expansive lives not lesser ones.
    This whole straight way of looking at relationships seems stewed in embitterment and resentment and in "settling for less"....

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jan 4, 2013 9:51:16 AM

  23. It's sort of sad. You can tell it all goes back to her son, and the guy who left them. It doesn't make what she does better, but it's still sad. She's a really hurt and angry woman.

    Posted by: JonB | Jan 4, 2013 9:53:03 AM

  24. sounds like she doesn't like men much, in general.

    Posted by: doug | Jan 4, 2013 10:06:12 AM

  25. Buh-bye gurl. Don't let the door hit you in your fat arse on the way out.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Jan 4, 2013 10:06:39 AM

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