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  1. Rod Roddy lookalike says

    :I will add his name and face to my cell phone’s wallpaper, along with that of Tyler Clementi. Very upsetting. This is one “honor roll” (of a sort) that I DON’T want to see any more young people’s names added to. My condolences to his family.

  2. says

    That is just the saddest news.

    We write here every day about the bigotry and the viciousness of the homophobes. We rail against injustice and discrimination and inequality; we continue to fight day after day.

    Then we are brought to tears by the terrible news of reality, an innocent young life crushed before it could begin to grow strong.
    It’s where the arrogance of not selling a wedding cake to gays ( because it’s against the Bible )or despising them/us in the locker room, or bullying them/us in the play yard at school, meets up with the shocking aftermath of the heart breaking pain these kids are suffering.

    Enough with the self righteous homophobes, in their own religious terminology there is no forgiveness for those who harm one of these, my little ones.
    My sorrow and sympathies go out to his loved ones.

  3. AnonaGay says

    Another one.

    Out of thousands over the years.

    Driven to suicide by the words of fundamentalist Christians, and their Satanic minions.

    They claim that we’re coming for their children. It’s about time we started making it clear that they’ve been coming for ours all along, murdering them all along…

  4. says

    This is just so very sad. His parents will never be the same and their lives will always hold an emptiness the rest of us will never feel. Is Jadin in a better place now? Who knows. What we all do know is that he is no longer here with us. It just doesn’t get any sadder than that.

  5. Markus says

    Would it be cruel to say I want a world in which it is straight boys who kill themselves over liking girls? Better them than us?

    Do people understand that a single death of a single young man is too high a price to pay for stubborn opinion?

    I had a cousin in Ireland that hung himself. He was 18. I wrote a condolence letter to his parents, aunt and uncle, simple, a few lines, no mention of gay anything, or questions of any kind, just simple sympathy from the heart. I was so shocked when it was treated by the family as a victory letter from the devil’s winning side. How dare I write.

    Not that they used those words, but I realized after the fact that the last thing they wanted was sympathy from a gay man even in the family. No wonder the kid killed himself, I have to admit I almost succeeded at killing myself when I was 18 as well.

    I had been given Phenobarbital, 500 mgs in a quart jar of 500. I ate a lot of them one holiday weekend night in the service, I woke up late for work four days later. I don’t know what happened over those days but I know this, if I have to die for being gay I am taking as many anti gay targets with me when I go as I can. I am not going to die from a suicide, I am going out fighting if I have to go at all. But better yet I am going to live and make life for haters a total hell in which they slash their wrists or hang themselves because they know they have lost.

    I don’t want anybody to die, I don’t even want them to be unhappy. But what straight people do to gay people amounts to genocide and that has got to end yesterday. It is time for us to agree that persuasion has failed, politics is too slow, and justice has got to be done. It does not get better. Life is just as horrible now for a gay man as it was in 1973 when I was in high school. We are not doing young people a favor by telling them that if they can just get through to college they will be fine. It is media hype, if it were going to get better it would not have taken 40 years to find out I still cannot marry.

  6. ARMY BOI says

    May G-d have mercy on the souls of the NEGLECTFUL PARENTS who spawned and so poorly raised the awful, bigoted, contemptible, hateful, heartless, sinful, vicious, ill-bred things who so thoughtlessly tortured this young man. These parents sould be ashamed for having so INEFFECTIVELY PARENTED the monsters who caused this tragedy. I am so sick and tired of hearing about stories like this. WAKE UP AMERICA! COMPASSION AND TOLERANCE BEGIN IN THE HOME, PEOPLE! If you, yourself, are a stupid, low-class, trash talking idiot, guess what your kids are going to grow up to be? If I were the parent of one of those filthy little devils, I’d die from pure shame.

  7. Bill Michael says

    Markus, I don’t agree with you. Life IS a lot better than in 1973 and you CAN marry if you travel to a state that allows it. I’ve lived in what I believe is a golden age. I’ve gone from seeing outhouses to seeing astronauts in outer space and then even more. It’s a great time to be alive, hearts and minds are changing as we have this discussion. As tough as it sounds, it was ultimately Jadin’s decision to hang himself. He could have called someone, he could have waited another day, he could have run away to another town, but no, he took his own life and died on his own terms. I can talk about this because I spent many years in the depths of depression fantasizing about suicide and the only thing that saved me from pulling the trigger was wondering how awful it would be for the rest of my family to find me dead. I did what everyone who survives does, I convinced myself that “tomorrow is another day”, and that things will change, one way or another. I know I made the right decision. I wouldn’t dream of it now, but back then, it would’ve been my decision to live another day or to splatter my brains against the four winds. I am sorry that Jadin made his fateful decision, but I am even sorrier for his family and his friends who he kicked in the teeth by leaving behind. There was a fellow here in Louisville who took his own life a year ago this month and the most tragic message of condolence came from his buddy who said, “Dylan, you were my best friend in the whole world.”

  8. omg says

    Is this really the kind of kid who would do this?

    Surrounded by friends, supportive family, and people who liked him? Strong, outgoing, bright, and friendly? Not isolated or desperate?

    Sorry this seems more like murder than bullying.

  9. ratbastard says

    I’m Agnostic, but *bump* what Steve said.

    It’s very sad this poor young man’s [kid] family and friends weren’t enough for him. Who k nows what was going on in his head, being 15 is a crazy time for anyone, you’re full of all kinds of emotions, desires, to find and define yourself. And I’ll say it again because it’s not said enough by TR posters who concentrate almost solely on bullies; was Jaden on psychiatric meds, and of so, what? There is NO QUESTION these drugs [dangerous substances, especially for young adults] that are given out to kids and young adults like skittles, are having major social consequences. Sometimes they help, often they make matters worse, including making kids and young adults MORE suicidal AND HOMICIDAL.

  10. Francis says

    Hate take another one.

    I really, really hope federal anti-bullying laws are put in place in the near future, with strong punishment towards schools that violate the policies. That’s probably the only way this will ever change. It’s time to hold schools accountable and it’s time to go the extra mile to protect our LGBTQ youth. We can’t hope and pray for straight teens and adults to simply not be hateful, because that clearly isn’t going to work.

    RIP, Jadin. You’re an angel in the sky now. We will never forget.

  11. jamal49 says

    May God take this beautiful young man’s soul into Eternal peace.

    How sad that once again homophobia and bullying based in homophobia has driven an innocent youth to suicide.

    Condolences to his family and his friends.

    This insanity must stop. Our LGBT youth are being murdered by homophobia, either directly or indirectly.

  12. omg says

    According to the story he hanged himself in a public place. “On Jan. 19, a Saturday, Bell went to Central Elementary School near the high school and hanged himself on a play structure.”

    That’s a bit odd. How often does this happen in public? Was he was alone at the time this happened or do the bullies have “blood on their hands”?

    Remember Matthew Sheppard? Another bright and outgoing young star. There is more to this story.

  13. ratbastard says

    @OMG,

    People commit suicide including hang themselves in public places all the time. It’s well known that some suicidal people will travel to a particular place, like NYC, and hang around for a few days before finally killing themselves at the GW bridge, Empire State Building, in front of a subway train, whatever.

    The school playground must have had significance for him. Very sad.

  14. carlitos says

    This is all so very agonizing and sad.
    It seems so unnecessary. Why can’t people leave gay kids alone. By now, everyone knows how damaging such bullying is to the
    psyche of a yong person struggling with his (or her) identity. It just makes me so unbelievably sad when these things happen.
    God help us as a society to be more accepting.
    –carlitos

  15. funinsnows says

    With ‘bullying’ gays and lesbians need to hear the truth that their sexual behaviors are harmful just as drug junkies need to hear truth that their behaviors are harmful. If gays and lesbians can’t take hearing it anymore and commit suicide because others told them truth that gay/lesbian sexual behaviors are harmful, then again the ‘disguised blessing’ is that gay/lesbian behavior rates went down. Bringing gay/lesbian behaviors to 0 and abolishing sex change mutilations is what must be accomplished and if gays, lesbians and transexuals committing suicides accomplishes this goal, then again it’s a disguised blessing. Big Island Chronicle’s journalist fat Squaw Tiffany Edwards Hunt is a drug junky who smokes cocaine and marijuana. Big Island Chronicle’s Tiffany Edwards Hunt farts in front of her kids and her 2 children have smelled Tiffany Edwards Hunt’s turds. Big Island Chronicle’s Tiffany Edwards Hunt is a fat Squaw which is why Tiffany Edwards Hunt smokes drugs and again, she farts in front of kids.

  16. Derrick from Philly says

    “…then again the ‘disguised blessing’ is that gay/lesbian behavior rates went down.”

    Andy, I guess Monday is your “take all opinions day”. But why? This creature is a lunatic–an uneducated one. And the other lunatic that keeps posting “N.gger music” on the Beyounce threads why, oh why, are you allowing their postings to stay?

    I wish some n-words would kick both of their f.ckin’ flat pale azzes.

  17. says

    it’s disheartening, Derrick, but take solace:

    those people have to say what they’re saying, in the anonymous way that they say it, because they have absolutely nothing of worth in their lives to care about.

    it’s ugly, it’s hatful, it’s cowardly. but that’s the only way that ugly hateful cowards know how to be.

  18. funinsnows says

    LittleKiwi, I have told gays to their face that their sexual behaviors are toilet behaviors. Bringing gay/lesbian behaviors to 0 and abolishing sex change mutilations is what must be accomplished and if gays, lesbians and transexuals committing suicides accomplishes this goal, then again it’s a disguised blessing. All the transexuals could kill themselves :)

  19. omg says

    @Ratbastard

    My wish is to know more of what actually happened so that justice can be done. Maybe he had a lot going on emotionally. I don’t know. I am also not criticizing Jadin, the complete opposite.

    This is very sad and absolutely shouldn’t have happened. I think we all agree on that. A kid this seemingly stable and well adjusted with many friends caught everyone by surprise. If he had no friends and was constantly threatened and saw no other way it would be equally sad but make more sense.

    Jadin seemed to be the guy that other gay teens should have had the chance to look up to.

    I’d like to see someone pay for this.

  20. says

    thing is, OMG, Jadin (according to statements of friends) was “the kind of gay” that…well… that the cowardly grown-adult trolls on this site denigrate and mock and belittle on an almost daily basis.

    he wasn’t “the football player who also happened to be gay” – he was “that gay teen”. the known one. the visible one. the one with the target on his back.

    yes, he seemed to be the guy that other gay teens should have had the change to look up to. any young person who has the courage to be as Out as he has should be looked up to, and admired, and their strength and resilience should inspire change in others.

    but the pressures of being who he was, where he was, in the culture of peer-hatred that was apparently prevalent, simply proved to be too much.

    i can’t even look at that photo of him without my heart utterly sinking.

  21. funinsnows says

    OMG, they must abolish sex change maimings. My problem is with gays & transexuals. Harvey Bernard Milk and Methew Wayne Shepard have become 2 icons for gay groups but both mistreated others. With Harvey B. Milk gay/lesbian groups such as Laramie Project, Shepard Foundation’s Executive President Jason Marsden (Fartsdn) and Journalist Tiffany Edwards Hunt of Big Island Chronicle see nothing wrong with Harvey B. Milk committing homosexual statutory rape on a 16 year old boy and there’s a holiday after him in California.

    Not pleading the case of the 2 who killed Shepard in October 1998 but Methew Wayne Shepard a drug junky who mixed Ecstasy with antidepressants. Before that October 1998 day, Methew Wayne Shepard was regarded by many including friends as moody, obnoxious and selfish who even rudely cut in line in front of handciapped while shopping. Other news is that Methew Wayne Shepard chose Univeristy of Wyoming out of all colleges but then insulted the college and Laramie. In August 1998, 2 months before his killing Methew Wayne Shepard falsely accused a man of a crime which was disproven by medical tests because nothing had happened. Excuses made by Shepard’s friends and family is his depression, PTSD, etc. Truth is before Methew Wayne Shepard was killed he was viewed as obnoxious, moody and selfish but after he has killed by 2 men, then he got hero worship as Harvey B. Milk has gotten when both were bad people who mistreated others and in the end were killed.

  22. says

    @OMG, I hear ya buddy. we can’t go back to our own teen years, but we can be inspired by what these brave young men and women do.

    by being adults, and being Out, we can change the world for them. help open the doors.

    by being Out to a coworker or acquaintance, we could very well save the lives of other young people like Jadin. every time we “personalize” GAY – we put a face and name to who we are, and What It Is, we make this world a more welcoming place for them.

  23. funinsnows says

    With ‘bullying’ gays and lesbians need to hear the truth that their sexual behaviors are harmful just as drug junkies need to hear truth that their behaviors are harmful. If gays and lesbians can’t take hearing it anymore and commit suicide because others told them truth that gay/lesbian sexual behaviors are harmful, then again the ‘disguised blessing’ is that gay/lesbian behavior rates went down. Bringing gay/lesbian behaviors to 0 and abolishing sex change mutilations is what must be accomplished and if gays, lesbians and transexuals committing suicides accomplishes this goal, then again it’s a disguised blessing. Big Island Chronicle’s journalist fat Squaw Tiffany Edwards Hunt is a drug junky who smokes cocaine and marijuana. Big Island Chronicle’s Tiffany Edwards Hunt farts in front of her kids and her 2 children have smelled Tiffany Edwards Hunt’s turds. Big Island Chronicle’s Tiffany Edwards Hunt is a fat Squaw which is why Tiffany Edwards Hunt smokes drugs and again, she farts in front of kids.

  24. funinsnows says

    OMG, I troll with truths which I write whether people like it or not. Since gay/lesbian sexual behaviors are toilet, it’s right to be closed minded on this. Gays again have higher rates of incontinence & many gays wear diapers. It’s best for gays & lesbians to be celibate until cure is found for gay/lesbian sexual behaviors. May all the transexuals kill themselves. :) With this gay committing suicide, the incidence of gay/lesbian sexual activitity went down 1 homo @ a time dies off.

  25. mikro says

    That began my 1 man campaign to find & post good info & try 2 fix bad info. Called hosp 3/4x daily I posted updates where/when I could On 1/31 early afternoon EST hosp wouldn’t answer ? if he still drew breath. I posted that it was likely he passed based on change in hosp Some hunting & pecking later found someone told them of my hosp exp. Speaking 2 them sometime later I was told he was still alive & posted that & apologized 4 earlier

  26. Mary says

    Funinsnows, I don’t believe you’re really anti-gay. You sound to me like a pro-gay person trying to make anti-gay people sound evil instead of just misguided (what most of them are.) The constant comparison of gay/lesbian sex to the toilet makes no sense. And all this talk about death being a “disguised blessing” is also suspicious. There no no conservative tradition, religious or secular, that encourages gloating over people’s deaths.

    You sound like someone who would have sided with the cops at Stonewall. I think you’re faking these posts…..unless you’re from the Westboro Baptist Church. No need to try to make the anti-gay side sound so bizarre. It’s clearly losing the fight against gay equality.

  27. mikro says

    funinsnows Why do u speculate? This was a sweet young kid. Why do u go to dark places with you rants? If your mind is so obsessed with these ideas I suggest you r the troubled
    1. His Parents were making his funeral arrangements today. If you really want 2 know about him oregonlive.com & enter his name in the search box. Google “Portland OR TV stations” go to their various sites & do same in their search boxes. Better yet GET A LIFE

  28. mikro says

    funinsnows BTW if u r not gay why don’t u just get the hell out of here. We’re not going to ur rite-wing supposed Christian sites and posting our views.

  29. mikro says

    funinsnows Look you’re not getting any converts here, so you’re just wasting your time. Or is it your purpose to be annoying and get a reaction out of us. Can’t you even have the common decency to let us mourn for Jadin?

  30. mikro says

    I spoke to the funeral director (& family friend) who has been assisting Jadin’s family as I noticed in his obit that it says memorial donations are being accepted (family hadn’t yet decided that when I sent a check) or when I posted the info saying I didn’t know them nor had they asked me to solicit same on their behalf.Any way he said he wasn’t sure of the medical expenses but the funeral expenses were “substantial”. Jadin’s parents bought his burial plot today. They had to buy a coffin,& a vault (you’re required to place coffin in vault to protect it from the weight of the earth above & around it) and everything else from picking up Jadin’s body in Portland (250mi)to his burial.Please help if you can.

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