1. Francis says

    Very happy for Tony, but given the school was literally forced into making this decision, I hope that all eyes are on the faculty/students at this school to ensure that they don’t mistreat Tony or allow mistreatment during the prom. At least she’s a senior so after graduation, time to get the hell out of dodge.

  2. Sean says

    Can some trans sisters come help this kid before he goes to the prom cuz he is looking busted as a woman. I’m not trying to be mean but the whole look is like some broke ass cracked out hooker in a Halloween wig. It makes him look crazy. Kinda reminds me of Crackie Jackie from Reno 911. But I seriously hope she gets it together and looks fierce at prom.

  3. Dull Blade says

    Next Headline: “Towleroad commenter Rick goes ballistic over Spring, Texas trans-teen being allowed to wear dress to high school prom; self-professed ‘masculine’ internet troll cuts off own penis with dull-bladed pocket knife.’

  4. UFFDA says

    My heart shrinks down to a vapor of ice at the very thought of the kind of blind nerve it would take to be Tony and actually go to the prom under these circumstances. What kind of being could do it? The bravest, fiercest, most stubborn, tough, idiotic or heroic? I can’t imagine it at all and don’t know what to think.

  5. Acronym Jim says

    Sing out Laverne: Schlemiel! Zamazal! Hasenpfeffer Incorporated! You’re gonna do it!

    Keep making those dreams come true.

  6. Diego says

    In running this story on Towleraod, I guess Andy Towle is telling us that a story about dude who identifies as a girl and wants to go to her prom in a dress is relevant to gay people.

    Andy Towle thinks that gay boys want to be girls and wear dresses. Shame on Andy Towle for spreading 1950s stereotypes about gay people.

  7. says

    Actually, Diego, Andy is doing the right thing by highlighting this story, among others. That prejudice and injustice and a daily struggle and fight to be yourself, in a world that doesn’t want you to be who you are, is ongoing.

    Some transgendered people are gay, some are not. Some are bisexual. This is one transperson’s story. Why doe it upset you so much?

    If you’re so concerned about “spreading stereotypes”, how about your make a little youtube video yourself and you can show the world how non-stereotypical you are?

    Of course this story is relevant to gay people – gay people are still often not allowed to bring their same-sex partners or dates to proms. Others “would” be allowed but they’re too afraid to do it. It’s about defying a culture of bigotry, prejudice, and fear.

    Shame on you for not being smarter, in 2013.

    And ROCK ON, TONY! Have a blast at your prom. Your strength and resilience is inspiring.

  8. Matteom says


    Ice is not a vapor. And going to a prom in a dress does not make one the “bravest” or most “heroic” person in the world. Bravery and heroism involve sacrifice for others. A firefighter who runs into a burning building to save a baby is heroic.

    Dressing up like a girl for prom is for this kid’s own enjoyment and benefit, and he is likely to be protected during the whole event. So heroic? Not so much.

  9. Francis says

    He’s more of a hero than you, Matteom. BTW, standing up to institutionalized discrimination and doing so without ever backing down, taking it head on and fighting back against it and eventually winning, is brave. Very brave. And something that can give many kids out there struggling with their gender identity or who are trans but worried about backlash, some hope and someone to relate and look up to.

  10. says

    Anti-gay prejudice is still bad enough that we get grown adults hoping that people can’t tell that they’re gay.

    It takes courage and strength to come out, live openly and live visibly.

    This is, of course, utterly true for our trans brothers and sisters. If you don’t think it takes an incredible amount of strength and courage to go out each day and “present” something that the still-prejudiced and ignorant world chooses to take issue with, you’re either utterly delusional, or a trolling closet case that doesn’t want to assign the label of “bravery” to people you don’t want to think are, in actuality, much braver than you.

    Heroism can be a simple thing – as simple as openly and visibly defying cultural bigotry.

  11. Diego says

    @Little Kiwi:

    If this kid wants to be recognized as a girl, then I say fine. But in that case, the only way she could be gay is if he likes girls. Is there any proof that she likes girls? No. She almost certainly likes guys, which makes her straight. What these trans activists want is to have it both ways. “Gays, you have to treat me like a girl, but then, even though I like dudes and am straight, you still have to consider me one of you.” It is all very dishonest.

  12. says

    That made no sense whatsoever.
    Did you eat a brain tumor for breakfast?

    It’s not remotely dishonest – she’s transgendered and wants to go to prom as herself, not an image that she does not relate to.

    Why are you upset about it? What decent human beings want is for our culture to allow us all to be exactly who we are: gay, bi, trans, etc.

    What’s your problem? That she got to wear a dress and you didn’t? Or that she doesn’t care what people think and you do?

  13. MateoM says

    Littlekiwi, there is no reasoning with anti-trans folks. They’re willfully ignorant and have no intention of changing.

  14. Derrick from Philly says

    @ “What these trans activists want is to have it both ways.”


  15. jaragon says

    Ok so this kid wants to wear a dress to the prom- is he bringing a guy as date- is he just a trannie in waiting? For a guy who like to wear women’s clothe he did not seem particularly effeminate?

  16. Marc says

    Rock on Tony! You are changing more lives than you may know just by being authentic and asking to be treated with dignity and fairness.

    If you are reading this, please let us know how Prom goes!

    And for the record, do you prefer to be referred to as “he” or “she”?

    Have a wonderful time! I’m proud of you.

  17. FFS says

    Anyone who thinks Tony isn’t brave and is in for a night of happy fun times at the prom has clearly never been to a prom in Texas.

    In Texas, conformity is king and individual self-expression is met with a response similar to a floating turd in a public pool.

    I truly hope Tony has the kind of support system in place to help her through.

  18. Tom Nunnery says

    I am pleased to see that this student is willing to put herself out there, and the school is unwilling to take this fight on. Let’s hope a good ending for her.