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WWII Veteran Marries Partner of 20 Years in Senior Home's First Gay Wedding: VIDEO


John Banvard, a 95-year-old World War II veteran married his partner, 67-year-old Gerard Nadeau, a Vietnam veteran at the Chula Vista Veteran's Home on Thursday. It was the facility's first gay wedding, FOX5 San Diego reports:

“We were waiting on the Supreme Court to make that decision,” said Banvard.

Many of the couple’s friends who live at the veteran’s home attended the small and simple ceremony. “The world is changing, we have to go along with it,” said one guest. 

Facility director Neal Asper said news of two men getting married at the VA home wasn’t well received by everyone. A town hall meeting was held at the VA home to address concerns from other residents. “It’s been somewhat controversial,” said Asper. “I told them, they have the right to get married here just like everybody else.”

One resident told Fox5 he didn’t agree with Banvard and Nadeau’s celebration of their love for each other, but supported their legal right to do so.

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  1. Sweet and touching.

    Posted by: Matt27 | Sep 15, 2013 2:50:27 PM

  2. Wow. That's wonderful. And what clearer sign could there be that the Religious Right has lost than two veterans getting married at the VA home and the response is “The world is changing, we have to go along with it,” and "They have the right to get married here just like everybody else”?

    Posted by: Caliban | Sep 15, 2013 3:10:11 PM

  3. This is great! ... But really, that nonagenarian is kinda robbin' the cradle, dontcha think?!!

    Posted by: Rexford | Sep 15, 2013 3:20:08 PM

  4. He was 75 when he was 47 when they set up house which means that he was seven when he was 35...I say it's pederasty even if they're married.

    Posted by: UFFDA | Sep 15, 2013 3:38:13 PM

  5. Altzheimers love affair.

    Posted by: Jake | Sep 15, 2013 4:30:41 PM

  6. Andy was stunningly handsome in 2005. I saw some pics. Dreamy.

    Posted by: GB | Sep 15, 2013 4:33:43 PM

  7. Yep, "The world is changing, we have to go along with it," sums it up. The objectors at this point are the miserable souls of the world.

    Posted by: Ernie | Sep 15, 2013 5:42:27 PM

  8. Unfortunately the only objectors are the trolls on gay sites moaning over the age difference as if its any of their business. How dare you call a 95 year old veteran a pederast you pig.

    Posted by: Jerry | Sep 15, 2013 5:56:37 PM

  9. "The world is changing, we have to go along with it" really is a simple yet very succinct quote. You may not approve, you may not like it, we all know many don't. But times have changed and so has society, on this and many other things. No point in fighting something you can't prevent.

    Congrats to John and his husband Gerard.

    Posted by: Francis #1 | Sep 15, 2013 6:17:47 PM

  10. At last, a Real Same-Sex Wedding story. Instead of the usual young, handsome male model types, we have 2 elderly men, who look like real people, who are tying the knot. How refreshing! The 2 men are very brave, and I wish them all the BEST. A great story!

    Posted by: David From Canada | Sep 15, 2013 6:17:53 PM

  11. @UFFDA, JAKE Put a sock in it you self-loathing, emotionally brain dead, lackluster queens! (Does it somehow empower you to ridicule others?) Listen to the much more perceptive view of the majority others who wish them well! Hope that you realize the deep love and affection that these two courageous people have felt for each other for over twenty years. (In all likelihood they probably STILL feel that way.) If the younger one was 47 when they started living together that hardly makes it pederasty no matter when he was born. One served in World War II and the other in Vietnam. And just because they now live in a retirement home that cares for seniors does not imply that either one has Altzheimers. (So what in blazes if it did?) That they got married is just GREAT. It says something beautiful about their commitment to each other and something deeper still about the yearning of the human spirit! This is inspiring and certainly deserves not derisive contempt but our heartfelt admiration! As for them being old now, well . . .


    Posted by: Mike | Sep 15, 2013 7:12:07 PM

  12. Mik , I have a feeling that it wasn't the real Uffda posting but someone using his name and trying to make him look bad. The real Uffda would be glad that a couple this old lived to see same-sex marriage legalized. What possible difference does it make how old spouse #1 was when spouse @2 was 35? They weren't together when either of them was underage, so the question is pointless.

    Posted by: Mary | Sep 15, 2013 8:02:45 PM

  13. Hey jokers, I was joking. Good God get ahold of your boas...and choke yourselves.

    Of course I am thrilled for them, really, how wonder ful to meet someone and fall in love when you're 75 and he's 47. So what their age.

    Mary, it really was me but thanks for your generous doubts - (boy did that go down wrong!).

    Posted by: UFFDA | Sep 15, 2013 8:48:21 PM

  14. Re: David From Canada,

    I too was getting just a tad nauseated from all the young gay model looking cutsie engagement videos, and am more than happy to see some actual regular looking gay folks expressing their long term love for a change.

    Posted by: Ian | Sep 15, 2013 8:55:43 PM

  15. Beautiful! Beautiful! BEAUTIFUL!

    Posted by: Leroy Laflamme | Sep 16, 2013 12:00:53 AM

  16. I like the elderly woman in the background.

    Posted by: Brian in Texas | Sep 16, 2013 12:40:51 AM

  17. Is this going to be Wedding Central? Find something more interesting to write about.

    Posted by: Phil | Sep 16, 2013 1:23:05 AM

  18. @PHIl, You mean like One Direction, Miley Cyrus, or Bryan Fischer's brain fart of the day?

    Posted by: Zagreboi | Sep 16, 2013 2:06:04 AM

  19. I want this to be wedding central.

    Posted by: UFFDA | Sep 16, 2013 2:23:55 AM

  20. That guy at the end completely gets it. This movement isn't about demanding the moral approval from anyone, but about ensuring we have equal legal protection. It's that simple.

    Posted by: Stefan | Sep 16, 2013 3:45:36 AM

  21. lmao UFFDA that word doesn't mean what you think it means

    Posted by: JMC | Sep 16, 2013 6:59:01 AM

  22. So sweet.

    Hey Jake, how does it feel to make the world a worse place to live?

    Posted by: Daniel | Sep 16, 2013 11:46:20 AM

  23. I recently presided at a wedding for two retired men who have been together over 35 years. They had planned a quiet, low-key wedding in their living room, just them, me, and two witnesses. Word got out in their retirement community. Some friends sprang into action and organized a cookout potluck reception. Ceremony was moved to the poolside, 40 folks came. The neighbors who "disapproved" stayed home. The couple asked me "What should we do about this?" I said, "Let them do it. Your friends and neighbors are telling you they love you and want to celebrate with you." They are from a generation of gay men who never imagined they would be able to marry. In some ways, it was "just a formality," as one said to me, but the neighbors said, "It's a big deal and we're very, very happy for you!" It was quite wonderful!

    Posted by: revchicoucc | Sep 16, 2013 1:37:10 PM

  24. Daniel:
    Not worse, just more real. I don't have the emotions for this. I still remember the other world. This is bad comedy. It's somebody else's wet dream, not mine.

    Posted by: Jake | Sep 16, 2013 7:28:12 PM

  25. Wonderful.

    Posted by: Mikah | Sep 17, 2013 11:12:17 AM

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