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  1. Daniel Berry, NYC says

    wow. terrific technique. that kid’ll never forget this lesson, and, God willing, for the rest of his life will understand what it means to walk in the shoes of others. I believe such a lesson to be fundamental to a decent society. I wish conservatives could get their heads around it.

  2. BuckeyeWxGuy says

    I think your headline is very misleading. It makes the father look abusive. I think he is a great parent and justified in his choice of punishment. What a valuable life lesson this kid is learning. Now he has a taste of what the bullied kids feel. I wish more parents today acted like parents and not “friends” to their kids.

  3. Peter says

    This is child abuse. Honk if you “hate” bullies? Do we really want this kid to feel hated? Odds are he already suffers from low self-esteem, as most bullies do. This could exacerbate the problem.

  4. me says

    nope, that’s terrible. bullies bully because they already feel inferior, not because they’re invincible. If someone bullies others the problem usually lies in the family and should be treated accordingly.

  5. Eric says

    There’s actually some good research out of Australia that shows that public shaming, if done correctly (they call it reintegrative shaming) and with an appropriate population, can be transformational for people who transgress social norms and/or the law.

  6. Mike8787 says

    Social workers and sociologists have long affirmed that bullies bully because they feel inferior, often because of abuse, mistreatment, and being bullied at home.

    Is it any surprise this child bullies his classmates when his parents’ form of discipline is public shame? A good parent leads by example, does not public shame their children, and certainly does not use psychological trauma to inflict a “lesson.”

    Anyone who thinks this is good parenting knows nothing about child rearing, bullying, or healthy social behaviors.

  7. TampaZeke says

    The only thing I would change about this is I would have had the sign read, “I’m a Bully! Honk if you hate BULLYING”.

    The way the sign reads it, unintentionally, calls for people to hate his son.

  8. MickleSt. says

    “Hopefully he’ll take that with him so the next time he tries to bully someone he’ll think about it twice.” Yeah, or he’ll be really angry at his father and take it out on another kid.

  9. says

    If the father had made his son do this for no reason, THAT would be bullying.

    Doing this to teach his son how his victims feel is called PARENTING.

    Some bullies act out because they have esteem issues, but most bullies do it because they are little sh*ts whose parents don’t do their f*ck*ng jobs.

  10. says

    oh, those poor bullies, those poor rapists, those poor violence criminals, those murderers and their suffering of low self-esteem. There’s no need for juvenile detentions and prison systems anymore.

    I agree with the Tampazeke’s comment suggesting of the instead sign “I’m a Bully! Honk if you hate BULLYING”.

  11. oncemorewithfeeling says

    People have forgotten what shame is and they don’t instill healthy shame in their children. This is a good way to make sure this kid learns it and doesn’t forget.

    A little humiliation never hurt anyone when it’s earned and justified.

  12. Matt says

    I would have gotten ready to honk until I saw the word “hate.” I think it should have been a positive message, like “Honk if you appreciate my plan to change my ways.”

  13. disgusted american says

    hmmm, well Im torn on this one…..its better then being slapped/beat by your dad? ..this way – you stand out there – hold a sign for 2-3hrs-whatever, then afterwords…your dad takes you home, has a talk with you as to WHY that was your punishment – making you understand, and you never bully again….dad, says I love you- you hug…bully goes away….?

  14. Jack says

    Boy, sounds like many people here think that any form of discipline would be “bullying.” It just makes him angrier at his father! So he’ll take it out on other kids! The mollycoddling of today’s youth continues…

    You know that thing about walking in someone else’s shoes? THAT is what this father is trying to do to his kids. To make him know what it feels like. Sometimes, that is the best or ONLY way to learn the impact of your actions on others. If you just tell a kid not to bully, he’ll wonder why – and just telling him that it makes other people feel bad is not going to dissuade him from doing it in the future. Now, this kid knows what it feels like, and that is much more likely to make him stop and think before he does it again.

    For all the bitching and moaning you all do about how parents don’t seem to care about their kids’ bullying behavior, it amazes me that you would protest a parent who is actively trying to teach his kid that it is NOT ok.

  15. says

    I said “STOP” with all the amateur garbage being written.

    There are many opinions on this one; but they are all just opinions…..on someone else’s parental disciplining.
    Since when did that become Amateur Hour ?
    The father asked for a ‘honk’ if you agree, he didn’t ask for all this whining.

  16. Patrick says

    Interesting. When we lived in Maui this was a fairly common form of punishment meted out by judges for both adults and juveniles. It seemed to have a good effect in the small communities of Maui where all the locals know each other.

  17. Angelia says

    It takes a village… I am so proud of both father and son. One was willing to teach a tough lesson in a day an age where fathers are often MIA, and mijo was able to absorb and empathize…Good job. I am sure the bullied kid breathed a sigh of relief that maybe, just maybe, he/she would have sum peace instead of terror daily…
    I proud of my family.

  18. Smartypants says

    I think it’s important the kid wasn’t made to hold the sign by himself. The dad stood out there with his son the entire time. Harsh, but you have to hope it has the desired effect.

  19. Hagatha says

    You people crack me up. I’m thinking about the bullies in junior high school. None of them had identical parents or were raised in identical ways. So the only reasonable conclusion is that being a bully is simply what happens when a child exerts power and gets away with it. In other words, they do it because they can. So a parent who teaches them that there will be consequences is a good parent.

    Thanks to whiny POS like you people, the public schools can’t actually discipline a child anymore… and the kids figure it out in about the third grade… and isn’t that working out just swell?

    If you people are anything like Chris Hayes, and I suspect that most of you are exactly like Chris Hayes, then it’s little surprise that people bullied you. I would shove Chris Hayes in a locker myself.

  20. DannyEastVillage says

    The boy’s father is standing there on the street with his son – which means that, in some manner, he’s taking heat for this also. I’m sure that’s not lost on him.

    This is not humiliation. It’s embarrassing yes–but this kind of embarrassment isn’t going to hurt the boy at all, and could be his making. I support it, although perhaps the word, “hate” needn’t have been used in the sign.

  21. Derek Pearce says

    Actually, recent research has pointed that bullies (rather than hiding feelings of inferiority) have an overinflated sense of self-importance, ie. too much ego. So this type of repercussion for the kid makes sense. And as pointed out above, the father is there with him so is taking heat for it.

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