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  1. jack says

    It’s sweet and touching, but I kept wondering:

    1. Would it kill her to turn off the tv?
    2. Would it kill her to sit up?

    I mean, this is probably the most momentous occasion of this kid’s life and she acts like she’s just taking a quick break from her “stories”.

  2. Pablo says

    Very sweet an emotional, but one of countless others on youtube. Why is this one being posted? Why is Ben Cohen the ally that always gets hilighted? Just posting the hot hunky ones kind of undercuts everything.

  3. Will says

    I’m with @MARYM.

    I am glad to see I am not the only person that rolls their eyes and gives an exasperated sigh every time similar videos are posted on this site. Too much meritless filler is one of the reasons I switched from that ‘news’ site that starts with a Q.

    Also…
    Mom: “I don’t think people should broadcast their sexuality.”
    Son: Posts video on YouTube.

  4. Perry says

    There is just something disturbing with people recording all of the most intimate and private aspects of their lives. Are people that desperate for attention and fame? And I am sure that it helped that this guy is a good looking white guy and that is why it made it on this website. There are many more of these videos online but of course they don’t make it on here because those people aren’t nice to look at.

  5. Joey Y says

    @MaryM/Will, no one forced you to watch it, and if you took the time to read the boring WORDS in the article instead of JUST watching the video, you would have seen: “I found other similar videos of people coming out to family members on a hidden camera really helpful. I noticed that there weren’t very many of these videos, so I wanted to create my own to help other people in the same way that I found these videos helpful. If you’ve created a similar one, I guarantee you I’ve seen it, so thank you so much for helping me.”

  6. Joey Y says

    @MaryM/Will, no one forced you to watch it, and if you took the time to read the boring WORDS in the article instead of JUST watching the video, you would have seen: “I found other similar videos of people coming out to family members on a hidden camera really helpful. I noticed that there weren’t very many of these videos, so I wanted to create my own to help other people in the same way that I found these videos helpful. If you’ve created a similar one, I guarantee you I’ve seen it, so thank you so much for helping me.”

  7. says

    “If you’ve created a similar one, I guarantee you I’ve seen it, so thank you so much for helping me.”

    I hear that! When I was a teen and the internet was a strange and wonderful new thing I scoured the web for “homepages” (geocities, anyone?) of gay guys – coming out stories, pre-blog blogs about their experiences; looking for guidance and inspiration and avenues of hope. It was tremendously useful to me as a young teen to see stories of young guys who’d come out to friends and family, sharing their experiences with anyone and everyone online.

    That’s the beauty of the world wide web – if you can’t get into every town, you can reach every home with an internet connection.

    Kudos to this young man and his family, and all who reach out to help.

  8. Mark says

    It’s unfortunate that many of us assign motives to this young man’s actions of posting this extremely personal, intimate situation on line. Ultimately, what he has done is FANTASTICALLY HELPFUL.He has shown other GLBT youth that, even if their coming out situation is a horrible experience (I never came out to my parents, my father was an abusive alcoholic), there ARE parents in the world who love and care for their children and accept them for who they are .Were I a gay youth, I would seriously consider letting my parents “accidently” seeing this video and gauging their response to determine how they would react to my coming out. Then reference the video in my own coming out process. If I had to assign a motive to this young man’s behavior, it would be one of trying to help his brothers and sisters in the gay community.

  9. says

    AMEN, MARK!

    I’m truly puzzled by the, I’m assuming here, grown adults whinging about this video. It ain’t for you. It’s for everyone who’s still looking for inspiration and guidance. Not only are videos like this incredibly helpful to young people, but they’re also incredibly helpful to the PARENTS of young LGBT people. Seeing how other parents react, respond ….it often helps guide them through the “news” of having a gay child. Come on, already. It’s not about fame, it’s not about anything of the sort – it’s about using the web to get that useful message to the people who need it most, whom you can’t reach in-person.
    Yes – things like this are useful. I’m living proof.

  10. John says

    I feel that Ryan has watched Tom Daley’s video & chose to do something similar so as to help other young gay men & women. That is how i see it. And more power to him & all the other young men & women so churned up inside. Now he is a free spirit. As for the dog,he knew something was up & as these beautiful animals always do came in to console. Expect more of these videos. It’s a good thing. It is the social media age people.

  11. BillR says

    Very sweet story, very touching… but, Punkin, dontcha think the tight pink tee might have given it away? LOL, in any event, I’m glad you put it out there for us to see

  12. *****overTX says

    MaryM, this is almost the 14th year of the 21st century. Young people are involved with living their lives on a different level than you lived yours. You grew up in a society that used pictures for special occasions. Births, birthdays, first day of school, vacations, graduations, weddings, and the first grandkid. The youth of today have had photo and recording equipment in their lives since they took their first steps. Young people live their lives in front of cameras and on social networks and by recording their “Kodak moments” and posting them to YouTube. Your approval is neither desired nor required. As long as the posting meets his criteria, it becomes a part of the vast recorded record of the human condition and moves into the annals of recorded history for future generations.

  13. says

    I think the fact that he’s crying so much at the beginning demonstrates that this isn’t a cynical bid for attention.

    For me coming out was an intense experience even though I knew on some level that my parents wouldn’t freak out. I came out to my father first and it was a very powerful experience. Keep in mind that this was the 1980s, I was 17, and my dad was born in the 1920s, so was part of the generation that isn’t known for their acceptance of difference.

    But when I told him I was gay he said he loved me and asked why I hadn’t told him before. I said that I didn’t *think* it would happen but I’d heard of kids being kicked out of the house by their parents. He looked hurt by the suggestion and said “I’d sooner cut off my own arm.”

    What was kind of funny is that my older brother is also gay and was not out to my parents at the time. He’s more obviously gay than I am in some ways so they called him the next day and said “Your brother just told us he’s gay. Is there anything you’d like to tell us?” He hung up and called them back a few hours later and came out so they learned about both of us within a day.

    I think it’s important to put the “good” coming out stories out there so people know their fears may not happen. More and more those ‘good’ stories happen more often and kids are coming out earlier and finding more acceptance.

  14. Tim says

    My God that was creepy. He interacts with his mother like a 5-year old would — grasping on to her, talking into her bosom, asking if she is “mad” at him, getting “awww, sweeties” from her. Isn’t this supposed to be an adult male? Unless he has some sort of mental disability, I find this whole video quite bizarre. The fact that he taped it w/o her knowledge only deepens the creepiness.

    On a more positive note, it looks like we have finally found the perfect boyfriend for Little Kiwi.

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