Will Our Young Lead Us To A Gender Free Future?
BY DAVID MIXNER
One of my favorites quotes is from Nobel Prize winner Bertrand Russell who wrote in the first lines of his three volume autobiography:
"Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind"
The quote has been on my desk ever since it first appeared. Russell continues:
"I have sought knowledge. I have wished to understand the hearts of men. I have wished to know why the stars shine. And I have tried to apprehend the Pythagorean power by which number holds sway above the flux. A little of this, but not much, I have achieved."
Even now, being officially a 'senior citizen,' one the great joys of my life is seeking new knowledge. Taking great pride in living my life on the edge, I seek not only wisdom from those who have come before me but also I discover joy in listening to where our young want to lead us.
Recently over dinner with a new young friend he wonderfully shared his vision of a 'gender-free' world. While having some knowledge of the concept, the reality of how important this is to young people was an eye opener. Clearly this could be a real possibility for future generations and it was exciting to learn from him what it meant. The endless potential for healing between people simply by erasing the concept of gender is breathtaking.
This former college football player who gives off a strikingly handsome, self confident and masculine aura, was fearless in his convictions. With great animation he shared with me the dialogue taking place among his friends who were attempting to abolish gender.
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At one point he turned to me and said,
"Really David if we all are truly equal why do we have to make distinctions on gender? Doesn't that concept literally become irrelevant? Just think everyone will be liberated from the current gender requirements and totally free to explore every aspect of themselves. Now, David, that is freedom."
With that stimulating and challenging conversation, I began to seek other young people to see if this remarkable young man was a brave lone soul in his vision or if indeed this was a concept that has some base of support among other young people. Much to my amazement, this is being examined and debated by a significant number of our young.
Quite simply the vision is of a world without gender or labeled sexuality.
People can be exactly who they want to be at any particular moment. They are just people. They can dress how they want, explore every aspect of their personalities and have intimacy with whom they want at any time in their lives. No one is labeled, stereotypes are thrown out the window, judgement of others quickly disappears, the roles that are currently demanded by gender identity are ended and shame of such exploration is non-existent.
If I have been listening carefully enough (and I have much to still learn), wearing a skirt to a meeting would not be because I want to dress as a particular gender. It is simply because I feel comfortable in it or even feel sexy. Parents would be parents and not mother and father. Tasks at home would not be based on gender stereotypes but on what logically makes sense between the couples. Sexuality could be fluid and filled with exploration.
Honestly, my examination of this concept still feels imperfect. What I do understand is that I am loving receiving this new knowledge from the young and maybe hanging around long enough to see this become a reality.
The world is never boring as long as you open yourself to it.