SF Archbishop Says He’ll Attend NOM Hate March for Marriage Because ‘Love is the Answer’

San Francisco Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone has rejected calls from LGBT leaders and elected officials like Rep. Nancy Pelosi (D-CA)  urging him to not attend the National Organization for Marriage's (NOM) March for Marriage on Thursday in Washington D.C.

CordileoneWrites Cordileone in a letter:

The March for Marriage is not “anti-LGBT” (as some have described it); it is not anti-anyone or anti-anything. Rather, it is a pro-marriage March. The latter does not imply the former. Rather, it affirms the great good of bringing the two halves of humanity together so that a man and a woman may bond with each other and with any children who come from their union. This is precisely the vision promoted by Pope Francis, who recently said, “We must reaffirm the right of children to grow up in a family with a father and mother.” Rest assured that if the point of this event were to single out a group of individuals and target them for hatred, I most certainly would not be there.

While I cannot go into all of the details here of your allegations against the sponsors of this event and scheduled speakers, I do know that at least some of what you say is based on misinterpretation or is simply factually incorrect. For example, it is not true that the National Organization for Marriage connects homosexuality with pedophilia and incest. What is true is that three years ago a conference was sponsored in Baltimore by the group B4U-ACT for the purpose of finding ways to encourage tolerance for pedophilia. A statement on NOM’s blogpost objecting to this conference affirmed that this is something that would outrage people in the gay community as well. Unfortunately, many conclusions are being drawn about those involved in the March for Marriage based on false impressions.

It gives me assurance that we share a common disdain for harsh and hateful rhetoric. It must be pointed out, though, that there is plenty of offensive rhetoric which flows in the opposite direction. In fact, for those who support the conjugal understanding of marriage, the attacks have not stopped at rhetoric. Simply for taking a stand for marriage as it has been understood in every human society for millennia, people have lost their jobs, lost their livelihoods, and have suffered other types of retribution, including physical violence. It is true that historically in our society violence has been perpetrated against persons who experience attraction to members of the same sex, and this is to be deplored and eradicated. Sadly, though, we are now beginning to see examples, although thankfully not widespread, of even physical violence against those who hold to the conjugal view of marriage (such as, most notably, the attempted gunning down of those who work in the offices of the Family Research Council). While it is true that free speech can be used to offend others, it is not so much people exercising their right to free speech that drives us further apart than people punished precisely for doing so that does.

Please do not make judgments based on stereotypes, media images and comments taken out of context. Rather, get to know us first as fellow human beings. I myself am willing to meet personally with any of you not only to dialogue, but simply so that we can get to know each other. It is the personal encounter that changes the vision of the other and softens the heart. In the end, love is the answer, and this can happen even between people with such deep disagreements. That may sound fanciful and far-fetched, but it is true, it is possible. I know it is possible, I know this from personal experience. When we come together seeking to understand the other with good will, miracles can happen.

BrownHowever, as Jeremy Hooper at NOM Exposed explains, the NOM March will feature speakers who have attacked LGBT people:

The NOM march will feature speakers who have described marriage equality as a "satanic plot to destroy our seed," speakers who have equated kids of same-sex parents to kids who lost their parents on 9/11, speakers who have claimed that "homosexuality spreads because somebody abused children," and multiple speakers who have directly compared homosexuality to bestiality and incest (see more here).

Heck, even NOM's own president, Brian Brown, has admitted that he believes homosexuality to be a sin that is both "not logical" and "degrading to the human soul," according to his version of the bible, which is likely why Brian has advocated for "ex-gay" programs and marched in the streets against an openly gay religious figure. He even took the extraordinary step of traveling to Russia so that he could speak in favor of a ban on same-sex adoption. Who does that?!

Brian does. NOM does. And this march will only be as anti-gay as its speakers.

Read Cordileone's letter below:

Cordileone – NOM Hate March


  1. woodroad34 says

    That comedy routine isn’t even good enough for Comedy Central. Sociopaths make the worst comedians.

  2. pete n sfo says

    Ah, yes… the “you objected to my desire to oppress you in an objectionable way therefore, I can’t hear you” defense.

    So if we remained conciliatory while you organized & fundraised beyond reason to remove my rights, it could have been different for us?

    Suck my d*ck.

  3. Kenneth says

    It’s a sin to lie father, but you and your dress wearing, child molesting brethren have conveniently ignored that for centuries, so why stop now, right?

  4. Jon says

    Let them have this DUI Arrested Catholic Con-Artist! The LGBT Community very often seems to have a very short memory. It wasn’t long ago that this Imposter and religious zealot was arrested for DUI, yes another Catholic Clergyman involved in something very Un-God-Like. We need to spread the word through numerous media forums so that his adherents turn their collective backs on him like many faithful have since the news of Rampant Child Molestation hit the Catholic Church.

  5. Jon says

    Oh BTW-Doesn’t Brian Brown’s smirk with his tongue in the corner of his mouth look like he just finished Rimming a juicy, west

  6. says

    a march full of people who would rather their gay children die, in the closet, than come out and maybe even one day fall in love and marry.

    that’s what’s so sad. this is not a group “free” from gay people. there will no doubt be closeted gay children forced to march with their families.

    hate kills. just as Rick Warren.

  7. Burt says

    The only thing that’s going to change his message, and that of his colleagues, is money, or the lack of it. The catholic church has already experienced a serious downturn of attendees in the US and western Europe, largely as a result of their out of date teachings. The church is money-driven and cinching up the purse strings by monied parishioners is the only way to get the church to change. As long as the money flows, so does the venom. The church needs a money base to minister to the billion or so who are dirt poor.

  8. HadenoughBS says

    Archbishop Cordileone + his fellow Papist leadership brethern = homophobic haters and pedophile enablers. THAT is all one needs to know to understand his NOMbie participation.

  9. says

    to Burt’s point – i’m really chuffed that pretty much all of my friends who were raised Catholic are not merely “lapsed” now, but have utterly renounced their Catholicism. it’s one of those awesome things – when your friends realize that the faith they were raised in is telling the world to hate the people they LOVE – they choose love.

    you can’t win this battle, Vatican – we gays are too enjoyable to be around. we live, we laugh, we love, we brighten the world. and we will outlast your every fight against us.

  10. CPT_Doom says

    The Church takes such a stand on the sanctity of marriage and the need for children to have both a mother and a father that they recognized Newt Gingrich’s current “marriage” to his third wife – NOT the one with whom he has children. F*cking hypocrites.

  11. CPT_Doom says

    The Church takes such a stand on the sanctity of marriage and the need for children to have both a mother and a father that they recognized Newt Gingrich’s current “marriage” to his third wife – NOT the one with whom he has children. F*cking hypocrites.

  12. 1♥ says

    So he’s claiming people are being fired for NOT supporting marriage equality, but his church has fired teachers for being in a same gender marriage.
    Without his hatred he would have no religion.

  13. M McL says

    Its weird that the Christian Right made a fuss about same-sex marriage but never a recent peep is made about ending the

    California Confidential Marriage License. What is that? It is where, within Mitt Romney’s ‘Judeo-Christian’ civilization, a marriage takes place without witness, is without blood tests and is kept off public records.

    I’m unsure myself

    if say a creditor

    in pursuit of sufficient funds in the spouses’ joined accounts

    must keep a tight lip about the secret marriage when discovered.

    Since the legalization of same-sex marriages in California I’ve begged a (single?)co-publisher of a local daily newspaper to do an expose’ on the California Confidential Marriage License to make us all the more familiar with it, but to no avail. In a county laden with huge divorces it would be beneficial to know about covert weddings.


  14. Heartboy says

    Closet cases all of them. It’s a Hate March Cardinal – you gay faced hypocrite.

  15. Sergio says

    Is this the Archbishop whose father paid for him to have sex with prostitutes while he was a teenager? The father was afraid that his mother would have to strong an influence on him, and so forced him to have sex at 13 and 14 with prostitutes.

  16. StillmarriedinCA says

    There are still many LGBT folks who belong to the Catholic Church. This is your church at work. Wake up.

  17. Håkon says

    Yes, I believe that’s him. Psychologically dysfunctional – lots of forced sex as a teen, and then zero healthy outlets as an adult will do that to you.

  18. northoftheborderguy says

    waiting for the day Archibishop Cordilleone is arrested for tapping his foot in an airport washroom stall…..

  19. Bernie says

    It seems Mr. Cordileone has no clue or is lying about NOM and what the definition of anti-gay is…..His defensiveness, minimization and denial about tying being gay and pedophilia is inane!

  20. simon says

    Don’t see the reason why he shouldn’t go. Their march for “marriage” serves no useful purpose other than rallying their most extreme Catholic base. His presence indicates the Church is still under the illusion they have a fighting chance to protect “marriage”. They will suffer defeat and humiliation just like they did in France. Unlike the US politicians licking their ass, the French socialists were not that polite. They essentially told them to butt out. As the visionary Justice Scalia pointed out :
    “the court’s holding – while limited to the Defense of Marriage Act – is a sure sign that the majority is willing to declare gay marriage a constitutional right.”

  21. says

    thing is – i don’t know why anyone would even want the respect of a man who, if he’s a true Catholic, believes that the more than 6 million Jews exterminated in the holocaust are burning in hell for eternity for “not accepting Christ as their lord and saviour and the true son of God” . oh, and that Gandhi is in hell, too. sharing a room with anne frank, no doubt.

  22. simon says

    That alone tells us that Justice Scalia is a lot more realistic about uncontrollable circumstances than those “holy” men.

  23. simon says

    Little Kiwi:
    Their belief in the past had real consequences. During the Spanish Inquisition, they tried to convert the Jews and Muslims by various forms of torture. They even fed them “jamon Iberico” or cured pork to test if they were lying.
    Luckily these delusional bastards are no longer in charge.

  24. simon says

    His holiness forgot to mention in the 4th century during the reigns of some Christian emperors, homosexual acts were punishable by burning at the stake. They did not just lose their jobs.

  25. Anon1852 says

    And still there are gays that cling to this imitation of a religious institution.

  26. simon says

    “that there is plenty of offensive rhetoric which flows in the opposite direction.?”
    What does he expect? “yes sir you are right”? If he doesn’t want that, just STFU.

  27. SalvatoreCordileone says

    I’m not anti-Jewish, I’m just pro traditional German family!

    I’m not anti-gay, I’m just pro traditional Russian Family and pro traditional sexual relations!

    I’m not anti-gay, I’m just pro traditional Ugandan family!

    I’m not anti-gay, I’m just pro hetero supremacy!

    And just because I say that gays are the Devil and are worthy of death, that doesn’t mean I condone violence! No no, I stand for love, heterosexual love.

    I’ve never bashed any gays! All I do is give people the motive and impetus, and maybe some weapons. But that’s it.

    Yes, I’ll downplay, trivialize, and whitewash anything my hetero supremacist flock does, like NOM. I won’t talk about how they try to pit entire communities like blacks and Latinos agasint gays, and I don’t talk about how NOM’s people vilify and lie about gays constantly.

    And yes, I’ll hype, exaggerate, and confabulate stories about how ‘intolerant’ and ‘violent’ gays are. I’ll take the one and only shooting that ever took place against an anti-gay group like the FRC and neglect to mention the shooter was STRAIGHT and MENTALLY ILL. But that’s ok.

    It’s all about LOVE, after all…

  28. simon says

    I am not racist and anti-black. I am pro-white. That’s why we should let the whites sit at the front of the bus. Did Timmy Donut said similar things. We are not anti-bra bra bra….. And they think they have a “clever” argument.

  29. JackFknTwist says

    These pics. of Brian Browne, always remind me of a fatter version of the blond kid who sang “Tomorrow Belongs To Me”, the Nazi song in “Cabaret”.