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How Many Dates Should You Go On Before Having Sex?

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According to Time Out, that’s the number of dates you should go on with that new beau of yours before the two of you have sex for the first time. Time Out surveyed 11,000 people across the world in major metropolitan cities asking them a wide variety of questions about what turned them on in potential partners and their general dating habits. Respondents reported finding British accents the most attractive, meeting the bulk of their dates online, and thinking that halfway through the fourth date was as good a time as any to take a roll in the hay.

What say you all? How many dates should one go on before letting things get physical? Sound off in the comments.

Introducing Wankband: The Wearable Designed To Help You Stay Charged - WATCH

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One of greater hurdles facing most pieces of tech these days is battery life. You’ve been there--out on the town, heading to a bar or friend’s place, only to realize that your phone is on the brink of death with little to no chance of making it through the rest of the night. What if, you’ve undoubtedly thought to yourself, there was a way that you could charge your devices on the go? What if there was a way to harness the kinetic energy of your body’s movement to charge your smart watch in the same way that you charge your everyday wristwatch?

Soon there will be with the...provocatively named WankBand. As you might have surmised from its name the WankBand is a small wearable device that generates an electric charge while you’re...being vigorously celibate. As Caity Weaver points out writing for Gizmodo, it’s questionable just how much energy one might be able to produce while using their shake weights or mixing martinis. But then again, you’d be surprised what you can accomplish with a little bit of elbow grease and determination.

Check out the first (totally legitimate and mostly SFW) ad for the WankBand AFTER THE JUMP...

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There Is a 1 in 100 Chance You Are Intersex


The recent conversations about gender expression have rightfully supplanted the ways that we once conflated psychological and sexual variance. As a society, we’ve grown become more cognizant and accepting of the ways in which one’s gender identity is not always tied to one's body. Though we’ve grown more accustomed to thinking of gender as existing on a spectrum, it’s not often that we think the same of our biological sexes.

“The main problem with a strong dichotomy is that there are intermediate cases that push the limits and ask us to figure out exactly where the dividing line is between males and females,” Arthur Arnold, a biological sex research at UCLA explained to Nature magazine. “And that's often a very difficult problem, because sex can be defined a number of ways.”

The basic biology that we’re all brought up to believe in states that men and women can be differentiated by the presence or absence of the Y chromosome. While that logic holds true in the most general of senses, a closer look at chromosomal variance reveals a much more interesting and not immediately obvious truth: in many cases physiological sex can shift on a genetic level.

Differences of sex development (DSD) manifests itself in a number of different forms depending on which different specific genes are functioning in a variety of different ways. The sort of DSD that we’re most familiar with are those in which a person’s body demonstrably belies their assumed sex such as genetically female women who discover that their gonadal tissue developed into small testes rather than ovaries. These cases, Claire Ainsworth explains for Nature, occur 1 in about every 4,500 births. If we were to take more minute sex variation into account, however, 1 in every 100 people could consider themselves intersex.

“These discoveries do not sit well in a world in which sex is still defined in binary terms.” writes Ainsworth. “Few legal systems allow for any ambiguity in biological sex, and a person's legal rights and social status can be heavily influenced by whether their birth certificate says male or female.”

Recently Thailand, India, and Australia have made small inroads in allowing for a wider variety gender representation, but Ainsworth raises a valid point. The law, generally speaking, is no friend to those in the biological in-between.

'Hotness,' It Turns Out, Is A Contagious Idea Rather Than A Subjective Assessment

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Here at Towleroad we’re no strangers to ogling the occasional attractive man reading a book, rapping, or just sort of pretending to be gay. We’ve got an entire tag dedicated to “HOT MEN” because hotness as a concept is both as newsworthy as it is purely objective. Right? According to new research published in Advances and Consumer Research, that logic is somewhat flawed.

Our general perceptions of what’s hot and what’s not, it turns out, have less to do with our own inherent aesthetic preferences and are heavily influenced by what we perceive to be socially acceptable. The study, entitled "Instantaneously Hotter: the Dynamic Revision of Beauty Assessment Standards,” drew upon photos and “hotness ratings” from

Participants in the study were instructed to rank other people’s photographs. Occasionally after giving a numerical score, participants would be allowed to see how other people ranked them, though not every time. As Jesse Singal writes for NY Mag’s Science of Us blog, the study focused on the ways in which people ranked others’ hotness after they were allowed to see the decisions that other people had made:

"The researchers found that when people saw ratings after making their own judgement, in subsequent judgments they got closer and closer to other people's overall average rating of that photo. In other words — and I'm making up the specific numbers — if on the first photo they ranked they were off by 2 points on a 10-point scale as compared to the average, by the 20th photo they were off by, on average, 1.25 points."

Beauty, it turns out, isn’t as in the eye of the beholder as we might think to believe. The study’s findings can be interpreted in a number of different ways, but it’s important to keep in mind the specific circumstance under which the results were found. It’s not often that you’ll have a numerical representation of the public’s hotness score of another person. Thinking that the whole of your sexual attraction to another person is entirely skewed by societal expectations is a rather depressing thought, to be sure, but this isn’t exactly the first time that this idea has been substantiated with numbers.

Sound off in the comments with your opinions.

Some Helpful Tips For Being A Good Top on Valentine's Day: VIDEO

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Gay couples the world over are celebrating Valentine’s Day today with gifts, cards, dinners, and perhaps a little something extra. It almost goes without saying that for many people sex is an integral part of the full V-Day experience.

It stands to reason that like all other things one does with their significant other on Valentine’s Day, one would want the sex to be good if not better comparison to a regular old Saturday roll in the hay. Sex is a collaborative effort, but in his latest episode of Just The Tips R.J. Aguiar and guest Ricky Roman explore the ins and outs of what it means to be a good top.

Some key takeaways: communicate, be present, and maybe (just maybe) have a bit of experience sleeping on your bottom bunk yourself. What do you think?

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'3 Eras Of Gay Sex In 3 Minutes' - VIDEO

3 Eras of Gay Sex in 3 Minutes

How much can sex possibly change? Well, for the gay community in the U.S. at least, a fair bit. In a short video titled "3 Eras of Gay Sex in 3 Minutes", filmmaker Leo Herrera covers the variety present in gay life from pre-Stonewall to modern day.

It's more of an audio-visual collage than a documentary, but it's a fascinating look all the same, and you can watch it AFTER THE JUMP...

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