Cayman Kisser Sends Island’s Bigots into a Gay Panic

***LETTER from CAYMAN ISLANDS dept. of Tourism***

Dear Mr. XXXXXXX,

Thank you for taking the time to contact the Cayman Islands Department of Tourism with your concerns. I can attest that since 2001, the Cayman Islands has confirmed a policy of non-discrimination and continues to graciously receive all visitors to our shores. Recently an isolated guest complaint sparked speculation of our policy. This is unfortunate and I wish to confirm contrary to speculation no one was charged with any crime. The Cayman Islands is a hospitable and traditionally very conservative country. While we absolutely do not discriminate against any race, gender or sexual preference we do sometimes feel uncomfortable with overt displays of intimacy. Every year more than a million visitors call on our shores and most are intrigued by and respectful of our cultural differences. I can state with absolute conviction that the Cayman Islands welcomes all visitors to its shores as well as families, divers, single travellers and people from all walks of life, and will continue to do so. I do hope that you will reconsider your decision regarding visiting the Cayman Islands.

With warm regards,
Jo Gammage PR Officer

***END OF LETTER***

Gay kissers raise doubt [cay compass]

Comments

  1. Disgusted American says

    No Problem lady – Ill NEVER go to your Islands….Go EFF yourself, and stick a Palm tree where the sun don’t shine…LGBT’s Boycott!

  2. Fergus says

    Second Street in NYC? Is that some gay hotspot I haven’t heard about, in my OWN backyard?
    I’m getting a little tired of all this religious bullshit, especially since THAT is a choice.

  3. jeff says

    Wait, I thought the LGBT community gets chastised for boycotting places that sanction hatred. Can we finally change course and refuse to go to Jamaica and the Cayman Islands??? Screw them.

  4. says

    OK my fellow homosexual brothers and sisters let us look at it this way — $$$$ talk and it is a known fact that homosexuals have a larger dispensable income than heterosexuals, especially when coupled.

    So instead of supporting an economy that is wishy-washy or even would arrest someone for kissing the person they love start spending your money where the values that you hold dear are upheld.

    Not to over simplify my point but sometimes it seems that it is necessary.

    Would a black person send/donate money to the KKK organisation?

    If your answer is no, then tell me why so many homosexuals travel to Jamaica and pump their money into that economy…

    When I learned that a gay man had been drawn and quartered for being a “suspected” homosexual, by a mob and the government turned a blind eye – I refused to continue to sell any vacation that involved Jamaica.

    I will in now way, shape or form support that. To this day, with my new career, I will not have anything to do with Jamaica.

    There are lots of places to go with sand, sun, palm trees, blue oceans and cocktails that will either embrace you with open arms or simply accept you for who you are without batting an eyelash.

    Think about it!

  5. Ted B. (Charging Rhino) says

    When will the gay community wise-up and recognise that the safest island in the warm southern seas is Key West…for what that’s worth. Any of the other Carribean or Gulf Stream islands are populated by backwards, homophobic locals who resent the “white foreigners” in the first place, and find a safe outlet in their rabid homophobia directed towards their G/L island visitors. Their cynical Bureaus and Ministries of Tourism might attempt to place a Smiley-Face over this ugly truth to appease the cruise operators and the international hotel chains, but the reality is quite different.

  6. John says

    Frankly, there has been a breakdown in parliamentary procedure here.

    The Speaker should’ve put an end to this the moment it became clear that Mrs. O’Connor–Connolly had absolutely no intention of talking about the budget legislation. Her comments are not germane.

    What does same-sex marriage have to do with the budget?

    However, she is a member of the opposition. So, her criticism of the Tourism Director was clearly designed as a slight against the government as “soft” on homosexuals. She obviously wants to stir up the homophobic backlash for political purposes.

  7. FL SUX says

    Yeah, but Ted, Florida is turning out to be one of the least gay-friendly states in the nation (closeted gay governor notwithstanding). Why homos keep pouring money into Key West is beyond me. Save the cash support for San Francisco, P-Town, NYC, and other more progressive places until these bigots come around.

  8. says

    “So instead of supporting an economy that is wishy-washy or even would arrest someone for kissing the person they love start spending your money where the values that you hold dear are upheld.” @ Turniphed

    New Jersey has some nice beaches and we are doing our best in the Garden State to be gay-friendly…so come help get us out of debt!

    http://www.atlanticcitynj.com/gayfriendlyac.asp

  9. crispy says

    Ugh, are we really gonna do the “all Caribbean islands are backwards and homophobic” thing again? Sure, Jamaica and apparently Grand Cayman are not gay friendly. Don’t go there.

    But there are plenty of other islands in the Caribbean that are gay friendly and would greatly appreciate your tourist dollars. Or are you that fucking stupid that you can’t do a little research before you spend money to go on vacation?

  10. CK says

    Instead of dissing someone who went to a homophobic Caribbean place (inadvertently?), Crispy, rather share your knowledge of which of which places are gay friendly there. In fact that could be a very good story/list, Andy, maybe a rating of 1-10 from anti-gay to gay-friendly… make it easy for people to avoid the haters and support those that support us.

  11. crispy says

    CK,
    To be clear, I wasn’t dissing Aaron Chandler (AKA the Cayman Kisser, which I think is a hilarious nickname).

    I was referring to the commenters above and on other threads about this who group all of the Caribbean islands together because of this incident. That’s as narrow-minded as people who presume all gay men cruise public bathrooms.

    Gay-friendly islands I’ve been to: St. Thomas, St. John, Grand Turk, and Puerto Rico.

  12. MCnNYC says

    Boycott Jamica
    BOYCOTT CAYMAN ISLANDS

    And lets call on our congress to close the tax loopholes in the Cayman Islands (YEAH YOU HALIBURTON)

    Viva Puerto Rico.
    Good to see ANDY not being so pollyanna/school marm on this issue any more.

  13. CK says

    Thanks Crispy, good to have that info! My partner and I were looking for a place to go (warm, beaches, etc.), but have consistently ignored the caribbean because all we ever hear is of homophobic attacks and rhetoric there.

    However, in defense of those that blanket-label the area as homophobic, the places that are not discriminatory don’t necessarily market anything to us (with the exception really of Puerto Rico as far as I know). Talk about a dream marketing plan for them right there… let’s hope someone involved in that realizes it and actively courts our $$$… happy to support those that support us!

    And I am definitely a Jamaica boycotter here… the nasty little island can just sink away as far as I am concerned… along with their other slimy little homophobic cohorts.

    I do however feel a Puerto Rico vacation coming on… 😉

  14. Bosie says

    BOYCOTT…F**K THEM…porr hungry idiots…they live on shit and they eat shit…I WILL NEVER GO THERE TILL I’M TREATED EQUALLY OR EVEN BETTER than the treat themselves…I have my money and I can spend it elsewhere where we are safe and have fun with out worries….Thank you Andy =)

  15. deanpaul1 says

    There’s a plague of homophobia in de islands and it needs treated. Eradicate it – start with the OConner creature.

  16. Greg says

    OMG…isn’t she pretty? She has more chins than a chinese phone book! No wonder she is so angry. She probably blames the gay guys for men not lookin at her ugly mug. Yikes, and if they look like that there, who would want to travel there anyway! :)

  17. sneezer says

    Hey guys have you ever thought I feel? Me a open gay caymanian!! I live here it’s my home, YES WE HAVE A BUNCH OF A-HOLES IN POWER. Mr. Chandler with all due respect has done nothing for my cause, if anything he’s made if worse, now before you all jump on me and tell me I live in a shell, let me explain “my agenda”. I can only change one person at a time, my mother and close family respect me but I still don’t do “anything” in front of them that I think might be disrecpecfull to them – including smoking a cigarette. Am I changing minds about gay people – I think so, people I know 10 years ago have a totally different perspective on things, and not because I forced them to accept my lifestyle. Now don’t get me wrong, what Mr. Chandler went through was wrong and I was not personally there to witness the incident, however I still don’t smoke in front of my mother, if you get my drift. Not all of the people of Cayman are bigoted, homophobic neanderthals. There are alot of great straight caymains here, I know, they are my friens. Don’t bash till you walk in my shoes.
    Peace/Love/Harmony

  18. Boots says

    OK guys and girls, give us a little break here. I am gay and live and work in Cayman which is a little on the conservative side but slowly coming around.I agree Julianna is a stupid, ignorant closet case! We win them over one at a time! Now you do have to understand that Cayman has a population of 60,000, which is at least 1/2 is ex-pat from around the world.

    Now if I were going to a small southern town in the US, I don’t think I would be kissing my girlfriend in the middle of town. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. It’s just a matter of respect. In time this will all change. Most people in Cayman are gay friendly they just don’t want it in their face….yes I know that’s a little old school but to be honest….I am not a big fan of any PDA straight or gay! Chandler was in a spot that has a wide range of people and ages from kids to seniors. It was suggested that he not kiss his partner a couple times…..I don’t know, if I were in another persons country I would have just restrained myself.

    Love to all…..gay in Cayman

  19. Hamp says

    Julianna Oconnor Connolly looks butcher than K.D. Lang, Phranc and Lea DeLaria combined. Hell, that woman makes Hulk Hogan look like Diana Ross.

  20. Gregory brown says

    I agree with posters who suggest that a bit of discretion and awareness of local mores is both polite and a useful survival method. There are times and places for a bloody go at the barricades but choices have to be made.

    Am I the only person to note the number of recent stories in which middle-class, Black professional women have behaved outrageously re: queer people? The school official who outed the lads is one, there was another, now this. Are they responding to all the foolish DL hype? Or did Jesse Helms perversely endow some secret fund to supprt them?

  21. Gregory brown says

    I agree with posters who suggest that a bit of discretion and awareness of local mores is both polite and a useful survival method. There are times and places for a bloody go at the barricades but choices have to be made.

    Am I the only person to note the number of recent stories in which middle-class, Black professional women have behaved outrageously re: queer people? The school official who outed the lads is one, there was another, now this. Are they responding to all the foolish DL hype? Or did Jesse Helms perversely endow some secret fund to supprt them?

  22. Reggie says

    Anyone who think they can change or even affect the inborn hatred of Gays and Lesbians that exists in the Caribbean Islands, especially Jamaica, and now
    Cayman, is not being realistic. I grew up in one of the islands mentioned, and there is no way that society will ever even think of us as human. Their bigotry is solidly based on their illiteracy. The best action is to just boycott them, and spend our money elsewhere.

  23. says

    Very easy solution: plenty of other islands in the Carribean…

    Anyone know of a Carribean island that has marriage equality and is glbt friendly? I’m due for a nice vacation…

  24. Mike says

    One probably stands a greater chance of experiencing such bigotry in the USA, so I’m boycotting that old testament backwater.

  25. Donn says

    Just freaking boycott Cayman Islands! Why bother to go to a place where you’re not wanted? Let’s face it – overt displays of intimacy is a euphemism they’re using for homophobia. If you could just buy them, I’d change the name to Gayman Islands.

  26. Ty Jones says

    Gays and Lesbians should pool their resources and just purchase an island.
    Rosies ship can stop there and it would have marriage rights and BANKS! The initial investment represents levels of ownership.
    100. = lifetime visitation rights
    timeshares and residences
    Let’s do it!!!
    Call it Raibovia.

  27. Brandon says

    Gregory: why oh why did you have to take it there? There are all these recent stories about middle-class black women behaving crazily toward gays? These are three separate instances. Two of the “perpetrators” are African American. One is Afro-Caribbean. Exactly how are they tied together? Oh, it’s because share two traits. Ok, well there have been stories about McCain suggesting a long-term presence for the U.S. in Iraq. Hillary Clinton has suggested bombing Iran. And George Bush recently indicated that war he started in Iraq has been a success. Does that mean that old, well-educated white people are warmongers?

    With all due respect, you’ve created the link between these three individual women. You “noticed” the pattern.

    My hope is that no one else mentioned it because they weren’t going to tie three individuals together simply because they shared two characteristics: race and gender.

    Part of me is glad that I read this blog because I know what people think. But the other part of me is just so sad. It’s just too often that an issue involving a black person becomes an albatross for all black people.

    No group of people should be made to pay for the sins of one individual irrespective of their race, gender, sexual orientation, etc.

    Before posting, please think about whether you’d want to be grouped with a bunch people because you share a similar characteristic. If not, please don’t do it to others.

  28. mariah spears cosby aguilera barrymore says

    To say that a group or individual is “ok” with homosexuality, but then in the same breath say that you just “shouldn’t show it” or “put it in their face” is a complete joke. That seriously is like saying “I don’t have a problem with fat people, but I just don’t like to see them in public”…

    we have the same right to express ourselves through affection that anyone else does, everywhere. period.

  29. EvilEuropean says

    I feel sorry for gays and lesbians who live on this island.
    Basic rights are not being enforced on the island. I wish my government, the UK, which this island is an overseas territory off, ensured that, if not gay marriage or civil unions are legal, that basic rights are enforced.

  30. says

    They don’t want the fagalas cause we’re so evil. but have no problem helping drug dealers and other miscreants launder their drug money.

  31. Andy says

    BTW, what is this 2nd street gay area? Have I been missing something on my way to work? Damn!

    I think OutTraveler or some gay rag did a story on GLBT travel in the Caribbean. MOST of the islands didn’t fare too well.

    Crispy: USVI are NOT gay-friendly. I work with their gov’t and many people from my office have traveled there. Fags have a bad habit of thinking everything is wonderful just because it hasn’t happened to you. Look at the overall experiences of GLBT people – look at the policies and practices of the governments – don’t just look at how many margaritas you drank and how many times you tricked while you were there (though that does tend to make a trip much much better!).
    Boots: FU. Have you ever tried to kiss your gf in a “small Southern town in the US?” Based on that ignorant statement, I would say no. And as far as the Rome comment, keep that shit to yourself – if you want to bend to the bigots, feel free.
    Brandon: get a life.
    Gregory: yes, we noticed, but just because there is a story doesn’t make the person or the action particularly outstanding. It could have just as easily been a white woman/man/trannie.

  32. crispy says

    Andy @ 7:49:28 AM,
    I’ve been to the Virgin Islands twice. How many times have you been there? Didn’t think so.

    On both trips I went with my boyfriend. We stayed in a room with 1 bed, and every night we ate together in restaurants. We experienced nothing but kindness. And no we did not trick with anyone there. Your assumptions about me are as misguided and idiotic as your assumptions about the islands.

  33. says

    OK I’M GOING TO START A SHITSTORM HERE BUT I HAVE TO SAY IT.

    I WONDER HOW MANY OF THE MOST OUTRAGED BY THIS STUPID INCIDENT ARE MIDDLE INCOME TO UPPER INCOME PRIVILEDGED WHITE GUYS.

    A LOT OF THE COMMENTS HAVE A REALLY NASTY ANTI-POOR (“THEY EAT SHIT”) OR ANTI-BLACK (“BLACK WOMEN…”) BENT TO THEM.

    I THINK WHAT THE “CAYMAN KISSER” DID WAS REALLY DISRESPECTFUL OF LOCAL MORES. MORES I DON’T AGREE WITH BUT THEIR MORES NONETHELESS.

    I WAS RAISED IN L.A.. I HAVE LIVED IN LAS VEGAS FOR TWO YEARS NOW. I RECENTLY SPENT THE WEEK IN L.A.. I CAN’T EVEN BEGIN TO TELL YOU HOW REFRESHING IT WAS TO BE IN SUCH A GAY FRIENDLY PLACE. GUYS WERE OPENLY GAY. THAT’S NOT THE CASE IN VEGAS. I BET IT’S NOT THE CASE IN MOST OF THE COUNTRY. WE FORGET WHEN WE LIVE IN OUR GAY GHETTOS THAT THE REST OF THE WORLD MIGHT HAVE DIFFERENT WAYS OF BEING. I’M NOT SAYING THEY’RE RIGHT, JUST DIFFERENT.

    MR. “CAYMAN KISSER” WAS ASKED SEVERAL TIMES TO STOP. HE DECIDED AS A TOURIST HE DIDN’T HAVE TO. HE GOT IN TROUBLE, DUH. WHEN EVER I’VE TRAVELED I’VE SEEN THIS BEHAVIOR AMONGST WHITE TOURISTS. DON’T BELIEVE ME? GO TO TIJUANA ANY WEEKEND FOR AN EPISODE OF “WHITE GUYS GO WILD”. THE COMMENTS ABOUT “LOCALS” HERE HIT HOME BECAUSE IF YOU GO TO A CLUB HERE IN VEGAS ON A WEEKEND YOU GET A HOARD OF WHITE GUYS HITTING ON THE LOCAL BLACKS AND LATINOS AS IF THEY HAVE ONE WEEKEND TO SCORE SOME COLORED ASS/DICK.

    I HOPE NO ONE HERE THINKS I’M A RACIST. I DEPLORE RACISM FROM BLACKS/LATINS/ASIANS ETC. JUST AS MUCH FROM WHITES. I JUST FEEL IT NEEDS TO BE POINTED OUT THAT AS A WHITE MALE YOU ARE USED TO CERTAIN PRIVILEDGES THAT OTHERS ARE NOT AND CAN’T EXPECT EVERYONE TO COME FROM THE SAME PLACE AS YOU.

    BTW, HOW MANY OF YOU WOULD GO TO RURAL GEORGIA AND OPENLY KISS YOUR BF? HOW ABOUT POLAND? NIGERIA? CHINA? YOU SEE WHAT I MEAN? JUST TRY TO UNDERSTAND NOT EVERYONE THINKS LIKE WE FROM THE MORE PROGRESSIVE PARTS OF THE U.S..

    AND IF THE REST OF OUR COUNTRY WERE AS PROGRESSIVE AS WE SCREAM WE ARE IN COMPARISON TO THE CAYMANS OR ANYWHERE ELSE, HOW DO YOU EXPLAIN THE REPUBLICAN PARTY WINNING ELECTIONS BASED ON FEAR OF GAY MARRIAGE.

    I INVITE COMMENTS AND REFLECTIONS ON WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN, HOWEVER, IF YOU’RE GOING TO CALL ME NAMES, PLEASE, BREATHE AND DON’T HIT SEND. HAVE A LITTLE RESPECT FOR ANOTHER POINT OF VIEW.

  34. Boots says

    DW314, thank you for your comments.

    Reggie, sorry to tell you this but both my parents are from Jamaica and they do not have a problem with my lifestyle. The same goes for my partner who’s family are from Cayman. People can change and I have seen it over the years in Cayman. Forcing people to change does not work. As I said one at a time they come around but at the same time I don’t puch it in their faces. I guess I am not a PDA type of person (staight or gay). I beleive there is a time and place for everything. I don’t walk around with a gay chip on my shoulder. Cayman is small and I am sure that most people know that my partner and I are a couple and we have never had any problems. We live in a beautiful place and have many friends, straight and gay.

    There are ignorant people everywhere, why would Cayman be an exception?

  35. says

    ANDY, I’m sorry but BRANDON was right on the money with regards to GREGORY’s statement! How in the world do you associate three “black” women- who, as a matter of fact have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in common- with the rest of that demographic?

    I totally agree with “Cayman Kisser”, I put my money where my mouth is! Literally! The Cayman Islands may not be tolerant of PDA, gay or straight, mild or not, but in that case, EVERYONE should refrain from displaying affection. Otherwise it’s pure homophobia. So in other words, you ain’t getting none of my gay dollars, Caymanians!!

    As for those shouting MY BACKYARD IS BETTER THAN YOUR BACKYARD! You may have a point to an extent but we gays still have a long way to go be it here in Toronto, war-torn Somalia or Moldavia. So play nice & safe!

  36. CHURCHILL-Y says

    I SINCERELY HOPE THAT ANDY AND ALL OTHERS WHO HAVE READ THIS BLOG FINALLY SEE THE DOUBLE STANDARDS OF THE BLACK MILITANTS WHO POST HERE WICH IS REFLECTIVE OF THE GENERAL AFRICAN AMERICAN POPULATION.
    PEOPLE JUST REMEMBER WHEN YOU GO INTO THAT VOTING BOTH WHAT THESE PEOPLE ARE ALL ABOUT.
    BECAUSE AS BAD AS SOME WHITES MIGHT BE TIME AND TIME AGAIN BLACKS HAVE SHOWN THEIR VICIOUSNESS WHEN IT COMES TO GAY PEOPLE.
    IF YOU VALUE THE FREEDOM YOU HAVE HERE IN THE STATES TO FREELY KISS YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT HARRASMENT AND THE SECURITY IN THAT IF HARRASMENT OCCURS THE POLICE WILL AID YOU UNLIKE IN PLACES CONTROLLED BY THESE PEOPLE INCLUDING PLACES HERE IN THE USA THAT THEY INHABIT, THEN THE CHOICE IS CLEAR COME NOVEMBER. NOT SO MUCH BECAUSE OF OBAMA BUT MORE SO FOR THE TYPE OF PEOPLE HE IS GOING TO BRING TO GOVERNMENT.

    NObama!!!

  37. Boots says

    Churchill-y when you do a post like that, you put yourself in the same category as the stupid ignorant gay hating people. You cannot lump groups together by their colour, plus you seem to be assuming that caribbean blacks are the same as american blacks. You are also assuming that anyone from the caribbean is black. Get an education!

  38. 24play says

    Churchill-y,

    I value the freedom I have here in the States to tell you to freely kiss my ass.