News with Homosexual Tendencies
by Andy TowleNovember 20, 2008 | 5:49pm
Just be yourself says
November 20, 2008 at 6:04 pm
I saw the Bonnie Hunt episode with that You Tube guy on it. Are Bonnie Hunt and all the straight men on her crew enjoying this guy because he’s a safe, comfortable stereotype of a feminine, swishy queen dancing to a FEMALE singer’s song and doing a FEMALE dancer’s dance? Do they like this guy because he is so easy to summarize as another silly, girly gay who doesn’t threaten straight men at all?
Would they have had the same admiration for a masculine, macho gay guy who breaks all stereotypes? Doubt it.
November 20, 2008 at 6:06 pm
God bless the internet.
November 20, 2008 at 6:16 pm
I got the impression he was on the show because he was just being himself (feminine, swishy gay guys actually exist, sorry if that upsets you) and he can dance remarkably well. They weren’t laughing at him at all.
November 20, 2008 at 6:21 pm
Just Be Yourself: I think they are enjoying it because it’s entertaining. Where in that video did you extrapolate all of your conclusions from? Should he be any less entertaining because he is effeminate? Let’s not make a stink where there isn’t one.
November 20, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Shane is a cutie with some nice moves! Love his upbeat attitude. Nothing wrong at all with how he acts.
I do find it ironic that someone with a posting ID of “JUST BE YOURSELF” is so critical of someone who’s just being himself.
November 20, 2008 at 6:35 pm
@JUST BE YOURSELF: You’re trying really hard to be a victim, but pervasive straight oppression can no longer explain away all of your inadequacies. Get a new job.
Sargon Bighorn says
November 20, 2008 at 6:44 pm
American are shallow vapid drama queens, and only about 10% are Gay. Go figure.
November 20, 2008 at 6:54 pm
Wasn’t Shane in the video for Elton John’s “I’m Still Standing”?
God save the queens!
November 20, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Feminine queen? Not my scene.Im more of the masculine Car/Truck lovin’,dress up in guys clothes,button down shirt wearin’,dance to house music,computer tech,deep voiced with New Yawk accent,dont draw attention to myself,defy the “gay acting” stereotypes designed by str8 people,kind of a gay guy.I never found the feminine,whining drama queen,girly make-up and lingerie wearin’ “Miss Thang” fem lisping stereotypical attitude attractive.Hense why my lover is a “Masculine” guy,not some random fem bitch I came across in the village.To each his own,or “her” own if you are one of the gays who likes to go “GRRRRL”.Being urself is all good and all but I find many of the fems in New Yawk like to draw attention to themselves and they live for gossip and drama.As you can see I have no fem friends.Well,I have one but I more here today gone tomorrow with him/her
November 20, 2008 at 7:12 pm
and YES I am out and proud,I just dont feel it necessary to come off as some dramatic flaming blow-torch of a queen to be proud of being gay.
November 20, 2008 at 7:15 pm
And some people thought SNL was offensive!
James N Philly says
November 20, 2008 at 7:24 pm
Wow, there sure are a bunch of cats out tonight! I think this kid did an amazing job dancing the way he did: gay, flamboyant, whatever! As someone who took dance lessons for fifteen years, his ability to mimic the video perfectly should be something to celebrate and not get so bitchy about!! Great job Shane, shake what you want and dance your ass off, it looks like you already have :o)
Paul C says
November 20, 2008 at 7:30 pm
He reminded me of the guy in Silence of the Lambs actually.
November 20, 2008 at 7:33 pm
Per my comment above, I was actually wrong and way too childish/nasty. Maybe I’m the one with the inadequacies. After all, look at how defensive I got.
November 20, 2008 at 7:48 pm
^^^ Get your own nick, imposter. You’re not even comfortable enough with yourself to be you?
November 20, 2008 at 8:07 pm
Damn, what is with the hate for someone because he’s effeminate? Get over it. Your just gay bashing.
Newsflash: A LOT of gay men are effeminate! Right?
Imagine if some gay kid who is being bullied at school for being effeminate read your words. Nice way of making him feel accepted.
Up until the 1960s there were some organizations within the African-American community that only allowed those who were the color of or lighter than a brown paper bag acceptance. A little internal institutionalized racism/colorism that said some African-Americans were better than others.
And, here we have the gay version.
Well, Shane not only gets his 15 minutes of fame but the chance to leverage it to boost his career.
November 20, 2008 at 8:21 pm
Confirmed! Homosexuals are a self-loathing, divided and cliquey lot alright! This would be one of the reasons behind our lack of political strength – the multitude of “stereotypes” and minorities within a minority that many of us have an inability to overcome and stand united. Why should our oppressors divide and conquer us, when we do that ourselves already? Our community is a unique one, not bound by something as strong as racial identity but by our sexual identity, resulting in homos gravitating to those they’d rather bone and to cut down those they don’t, instead of finding common ground and supporting each other. I think you’ll find it hard to win votes if you’re only there to support 25-34 hot straight acting gay marriages.
I get it – he’s camp and you don’t want to bone him. But don’t forget that a diverse of homosexuals stood up for gay rights in the past – drag queens at Stonewall riots, as well as butch and non-butch homos and probably some fag hags as well. Especially in our community, it’s important to embrace diversity, from lesbian single mother librarians from Arkansas to cheerleader twinks in monogamous relationships.
United we stand, divided we fall
November 20, 2008 at 8:38 pm
Okay, I guess I need trot out my (I thought) tired old history lesson and explanation of fem guys, drag queens, and the “masculine continuum.”
Drag queens fought back at Stonewall. Up until then, only “respectable” looking gay men were working towards any semblance of equal rights. You owe EVERY right you have as a gay man to a femmy drag queen.
And it takes more balls than I’ll EVER have to be an out femmy guy. It’s easy to conform to stereotypes of how “men” act — most guys, straight AND gay, do. But to defy those stereotypes and be a “flaming queen” is a hell of a lot harder. Flaming queens get bashed. Those of us who can “pass” for straight don’t (as much). Who got beaten up in high school? The queeny types. Yet they were being themselves.
Good for our queens, drag, flaming, and anything else. Good for our macho, masculine, butch fellas too. And bully for everyone in between, or who sometimes takes a stab at walking in someone else’s workboots — or pumps.
And in wake of Prop 8’s passage and the spirit of outreach to other communities, I think it behooves US to reach out WITHIN our own community to those we don’t know, don’t understand, or don’t think we like.
Have you thanked a drag queen today?
And as far as Shane goes, honey, I _wish_ I had his body and attitude, but I just gotta be me. I like guns, digging in the dirt, computers, and musical theatre. I have a moderate sense of interior design, but not a lot of fashion sense and very little hairdo sense. I’m me. And boys, I’m taken, but we can be friends and I’d love to hang out.
Especially w/ Derrick from Philly.
Enough with the minstrel shows says
November 20, 2008 at 8:44 pm
JUST BE YOURSELF is right! That youtube guy is just a modern day minstrel show (only he’s gay instead of black). A minstrel show that only straight people seem to enjoy. Any gay guy who acts like this is setting the homosexual movement back YEARS AND YEARS. It makes life harder for mainstream gays who WAY outnumber the stereotypes.
November 20, 2008 at 8:48 pm
And now that I’ve seen all 3 of Shane’s vids, I gotta say I’m in love. He’s AWESOME. Pretty AND talented. And honey, I can only imagine some of the other moves he can do.
Thanks for making the vid — that was fun.
Shane: (call me)
November 20, 2008 at 8:57 pm
He’s probably doing more for the homosexual movement than you are. Okay, sorry, that’s not fair because all I know about you I’ve gleaned from your posting above.
I used to HATE effeminate gay guys, dancers like Shane, Liberace, Paul Lynde, flaming queens, bitter queens, etc. Couldn’t stand ’em. Thought they set the movement back to the stone age (you know, the 70’s). And it made it harder for me to come out, because I didn’t see the “normal” looking gay guys (BTW, I don’t use the word “normal” anymore).
I couldn’t see those other gay guys because they’re not as visible to a young guy who doesn’t know any better.
It took me a lot longer than I wish it had (my issues, not theirs), but now I love me my queens. No, I’m not a flamer, hell I’m practically wearing a flannel shirt right now, but I’m proud of them.
And I think they pave the way for the rest of us every day. You should be grateful.
November 20, 2008 at 10:54 pm
Our community is diverse and, of all people, we should know better than to sneer at those don’t hold themselves the way we choose to hold ourselves. The boy looks like he’s having fun and enjoying himself. Why would you want to take that away from him or cut him down? Furthermore, how dare you accuse him of setting back the “gay movement” by being himself? Should he apologize to gays for acting out of turn? That attitude is much more likely to hold back any movement of acceptance.
And to Vincent… don’t kid yourself, you sound bitchier than any effeminate queen I’ve ever met. Read back your post and realize that you just labeled yourself into a very tiny box; one you probably don’t even fit into. I really hope your post was a joke.
November 20, 2008 at 11:05 pm
I think I won’t read any comments on Towleroad any more. When and why did everybody get so mean and judgmental? Sheesh.Lighten up, please. It’s just some pop culture. And when it’s about public policy, try to take a longer view than the end of the week. Just suggesting that life should be sweeter if we can possibly make it so. Please.
November 20, 2008 at 11:17 pm
Don’t forget us!
I'm just saying... says
November 20, 2008 at 11:47 pm
Well, I agree that one must be himself or herself, but what the sociology and psychology studies reveal, is that overly effeminate gay men tend to drop the “gay act” once they truly love themselves and no longer feel threatened or act on their oppression (usually after their 20’s). Most men whom were interviewed afterward cited that they felt they had to really show the world that they were indeed free and no one was going to stop them…so they learned to throw their femininity at everyone as a protest of “I’m here so get used to it!” Once these men realized that true acceptance first comes from oneself, most of them stopped the overt femininity (including swishing their hips, crossing personal boundaries of strangers, dressing feminine, and binge drinking). I’m simply citing some studies which are pretty interesting…I could care less if someone decides to be feminine or butch…as long as they really love themselves, and they aren’t doing it to prove a point.
Kurt from Milwaukee says
Wow, some people in here really need to talk through their issues with a counselor. I can’t tell if “Just Be Yourself” was trying to be ironic or if he was serious. I’m quite saddened by my fellow gay folk in their comments tonight.
How dare so many of you try to put guilt on Shane for being a flaming gay dancing queen. Don’t you think he’s probably been through plenty of shit in his life – he obviously doesn’t blend in like some other homos. I think he’s great – funny, outgoing, caring – and he’s an amazing dancer. And just because I might not want to “bone” him I certainly would love to be his going out buddy.
As a soccer jock fag he makes me proud.
@ DAMIEN & TJC: I totally agree with everything you both said. (Call Me)
November 20, 2008 at 11:48 pm
November 21, 2008 at 12:33 am
So Left I'm Right says
November 21, 2008 at 12:42 am
Good lord the self hate on here tonight is amazing. I thought Vincent was being snarky and funny until he felt the need to second post to confirm that he “is” out and proud (of what exactly?). Just doesn’t like the “queens.” Nice. I am not sure I ever got the memo when “queen”-ness was a requirement for gay pride, but it sure as hell isn’t a disqualification. Grow up. All of you.
November 21, 2008 at 1:02 am
Come on flamers are funny. It is not that big of deal. He is a great dancer.
November 21, 2008 at 2:02 am
ANDY~~ Congrats on the TOWLEROAD shout-out on AC360 last night on your coverage of the ‘Single Ladies’.
I’d pay to hear AC “Say My Name”….lol
November 21, 2008 at 5:26 am
Ok, yeah, the guy’s really effeminate. And what of it? For whatever reason, be it inborn or contrived, the guy is flaming, and has probably already caught a lot of flak for it, with more flak on the way. This world’s tough for the flamers. Now, having read all these comments, I get both sides. After just seeing the show, I was with the “haters”, and here’s why: we see this as a minstrel show and wince, because it presents a false stereotype, and we’re afraid that we’ll be associated with flaming queens, even if we’re naturally just kinda straight-acting, or even play it up by peppering our speech with “dude” and “bro”, believing that this somehow makes us appear less gay, and even more amusingly, more secure with our identities. In short: we’re embarrassed to even be associated with this little fairy. We ARE the ‘paler than a paper bag’ group. And it’s not a good place to be.
Will this kid’s prancing probably influence the opinions of a lot of retarded rednecks? Honestly, it just might. But if we show our support, the straight majority will see that there is considerable behavioral variance in the (now perceived as unified) gay community, and that will be a positive. This dancing queen will no longer be seen as a minstrel show, because our support and inclusiveness will grant him legitimacy; this is what the alleged ‘haters’ among us fail to see. By supporting the guy, we are sending a message that says we as a group are strong, we are unified, and we don’t take shit. Remember, most straight people see sexuality as a dichotomy. If we shun this guy, we’ll effectively be saying that we’re fragmented, and trust me, the conservative spin dogs will LOVE IT. Open season will be declared on flamers if we do nothing. Notice that Hannity & Co. have yet to start with the shit-talking; they’re WAITING to see how much shit they’ll get into if they make fun of the flaming queer. Sending a message of unity will make them too scared to send their hate into every TV in America. We are literally either with the flamers, or we’re against them. Sniffing dismissively falls under the latter, fyi.
So ok, all you tough macho guys who drink beer, wear your chest hair with pride, consider yourselves ‘just one of the boys’, compare the number of times you slept with women with you ‘bros’ and associate it with greater masculinity, are current on sports scores and player switches and all that jazz, you guys need to realize that you look just as silly to the gay community as the flamers do. Both (may or may not) have contrived their personalities and mannerisms to suit the persona that they wish to project, and both often look foolish and insecure. But the “straight-acting” guys still have it easier: they enjoy broader acceptance both inside and outside of the queerosphere. But just as some of you guys actually did grow up as queer jocks who GENUINELY liked sports, some other guys were *really* into the glitter at an even younger age. I still remember, when I was 12, the only thing in the whole world that mattered to me was my Nintendo. Everything else was irrelevant. A former lover had a different experience: he experimented with makeup, effeminate clothing, and cholita eyebrows, and was also in heat and busy chasing the 18 year-olds! Gays are very much a heterogeneous people, funny as it sounds. Sean Cody’s boys DO NOT constitute a valid sample. The reason that we’re not making as much political headway is that we’re still very fragmented, and unwilling to act as a whole. By essentially being homophobic and disparaging this kid, we’re giving the fucking conservatives ammunition. And really guys, is that what you want?
Preemptively, I will tell you this: I am not a flamer. I am out to everyone, and most were quite surprised. I’m also not a jock; I’ve done some competitive swimming, but the only balls that I’ve held in the last 10 years were, well, balls. In short, I can ‘pass’, and sit in the middle: a self-righteous and all-knowing academic working on the first of many redundant degrees. And I fully admit that I don’t do much for the cause. Yeah, I go to pride, no, I don’t march. Yeah, I’m out at school, no, I haven’t joined or supported out on-campus queer-peer group. So, am I doing all I can reasonably do to support my people, and my rights? No, and I’ll bet a lot of you are in the same boat. We’ve seen how well the right-wing Christian and Mormon groups unite, rally, and make themselves heard? We have to be at least that good. The next four months are CRITICAL in the Prop 8 case. The con’s are already threatening a voter recall of the judges if they abide by state law (Prop 8 IS illegal, people!). They’re getting their misguided and hateful message out, and have already branded this debate as a feud between ‘all righteous people’ and ‘all godless assfucking heathen': polls of ignorant voters support the premise that the conservative message has enjoys wide penetration .Our ad campaign was shit, and we MUST rebrand this debate as one of civil rights versus bible-clutching theocrats. We’re won’t accomplish this unless we support each and every visible member, and make it disadvantageous for O’Reilly & Co. to spew their hate, because they’ll know that there’ll be consequences. See the conservatives are losing their shit over what we ‘did’ to that dumbass cardboard cross-bearing hag? Well, we have to be JUST as supportive of Shane Mercado as they are for that rabble-rousing war-mongering cunt. Or, we can be the REAL gay stereotypes, and be too self-involved to even fight for our basic human rights. Simple as that.
November 21, 2008 at 5:36 am
^ ^ ^ ^ ^ Oops. Forgot that there was already a ‘Peter’ posting here. My bad. I’ll just have to take ‘Pete”, then.
November 21, 2008 at 6:43 am
WOW! This lot is simply amazing. I think the self-haters amongst you are the one’s that try to conceal who you are. Most of my friends and co-workers never got me, because I wasn’t “gay enough”. I’ve long since come to accept the fact that I am who I am and don’t pretend to be anything else. On the other hand, I absolutely love this video workout. As someone else posted, this is just pop culture. Sit back, take a deep breath, relax and enjoy it for what it is…camp, fun and ballsy! LOVIN’ IT!
November 21, 2008 at 7:43 am
So ok, all you tough macho guys who drink beer, wear your chest hair with pride, consider yourselves ‘just one of the boys’, compare the number of times you slept with women with you ‘bros’ and associate it with greater masculinity, are current on sports scores and player switches and all that jazz, you guys need to realize that you look just as silly to the gay community as the flamers do.
It really doesn’t matter whether someone’s overly masculine or feminine as long as they’re genuine. Unfortunately a lot of the femmy guys get a lot of flack (and I admit when someone posted Shane’s video on their Facebook I made some snarky comment about it), but there have been times I’ve gone to a bar like NYC’s The Eagle and I’ve had to laugh at all the macho posturing.
At least the queens have some biting wit.
November 21, 2008 at 8:46 am
It’s so interesting to watch how gay politics have shifted away from the right and ability to live differently and toward the necessity of being the same and fitting in. Who needs heterosexual “experts” to fix us for acting in gender “inappropriate” ways when we’ve got other gay folks working to ensure we act like everyone else?
November 21, 2008 at 9:23 am
Shame on some of the commenters above for their snarky condescending bitterness. Wonder why we lost on prop 8, some of us should look in the mirror!! Shane is an example of an out and proud gay man comfortable in his own skin. He’s a role model not only for the young guys who will see him in the media, but frankly even for this tired 40 yr old. So Shane, ignore the idiots and thanks for showing the courage and confidence we should all be proud of, and great dancing by the way!
November 21, 2008 at 9:43 am
ALL YOU IDIOTS here like
‘JUST be yourself” and “charles” complaining, maybe if you CAME OUT OF THE DAMN CLOSET and add to the number, maybe we would see all different kinds of gay men. instead you sit on your closeted ass and type crap.
November 21, 2008 at 9:57 am
this is SO SAD, gay people have been matching on the streets for weeks complaining about homophobia when it is right here. i wonder if isaiah washington said any of the things written here,would you people be complaining? or are gay people allowed to be homophobic against the “flamers” who actually remind people that we exist, take the beatings for us through out high schools, while people like you hide with your friends laughing away, waiting to come out whenever. if you ever.
weren’t you people complaining when that skater was abused by another gay skater for being a “flame”? HYPOCRITES.
November 21, 2008 at 10:08 am
“Any gay guy who acts like this is setting the homosexual movement back YEARS AND YEARS. It makes life harder for mainstream gays who WAY outnumber the stereotypes.”
Actually, it’s homophobic gay guys with masculinity issues who are setting the “homosexual movement” back. How can you stand up for gay rights in general if you can’t even stand up for your effeminate brothers? Anyone who’s secure in his masculinity doesn’t need to proclaim how butch he is or worry about how feminine someone else is. Shane is genuinely effeminate, talented, and getting some deserved attention for doing what he likes to do–how is that a bad thing or a harmful stereotype? The harmful stereotype is the one where every gay guy must “pass” for straight or else be considered a minstrel act, less than human, or a threat to the manhood of butch guys (who usually aren’t 1/2 as butch as they think they are) who lack the balls to be accepting of others.
November 21, 2008 at 10:16 am
God bless you kid and all of your splendor! Shine on and never let them steal your joy/sparkle.
Mark in NYC says
November 21, 2008 at 10:22 am
Shane’s totally not my type, but I will defend his right to be the biggest flaming queen he wants/needs to be ’til I die. He’s a talented dancer and I gladly salute him and all the other nellies out there. Where is the outrage at tough-acting hyper-masculine bull dykes?
Get with it folks, this is the 21st century. Like it or not, we come in different shapes, colors, and sizes.
Viva la difference!
Derrick from Philly says
November 21, 2008 at 10:30 am
People like you are the BEST company anybody could have–unpretentious with a superior sense of humor. How many macho butch queens got that?
Oh, Vincent…Vincent… Vincent. Ask any straight motha’ fucka’ what they think about a macho man who lets other men stick their dingdongs up his macho booty. The ultimate act of feminine submission!
Sugah, to many straight homophobes “Feminine” aint just what you do with your hipsit’s also what you do with your anus.
Whenever I say the above it makes “down low” guys want to kill me. I love it!
November 21, 2008 at 11:59 am
Awwww, shucks Derrick….. you made me all teary-eyed. Thanks for the smile and kind words.
November 21, 2008 at 12:40 pm
“Feminine queen? Not my scene.Im more of the masculine Car/Truck lovin’,dress up in guys clothes,button down shirt wearin’,dance to house music,computer tech,deep voiced with New Yawk accent,dont draw attention to myself,defy the “gay acting” stereotypes designed by str8 people,kind of a gay guy.”
So you like masculine guys who dance to house music, is that right Vincent?
You poor, poor thing
November 21, 2008 at 1:12 pm
I’m amazed that some up tight a**hole actually flagged that UTube video as inappropriate.
MR ROBOTO says
November 21, 2008 at 1:42 pm
What I find most hateful and ironic about this is that Andy originally posted this on Nov. 20, Transgender Day of Remembrance & Awareness.
I agree with everyone who said they’d fight ferociously for Shane to be whoever he wants to be. For me, that’s nothing more or less than a ferociously talented dancer and performer. If nothing else, Beyonce ought to be on the phone booking Shane as a featured dancer on her next tour.
November 21, 2008 at 1:50 pm
That is one talented kid! and adorable.
Why do we have to see him as one dimensional? Personally, I can arrange flowers, sew, dance and decorate as well as rebuild an engine, repair plumbing, build furniture (from scratch), and do electrical work. I consider myself middle of the road as far as butch or fem, but would never want to be considered mainstream. How boring.
Tom N says
November 21, 2008 at 2:16 pm
I’m amazed that he did that live, single-take; unlike the girls in the video who no doubt did it over and over. Quite a talent!
November 21, 2008 at 2:28 pm
“….repair plumbing, build furniture (from scratch), and do electrical work.”
Sounds like quite a catch to me. If those guys out in Washington state haven’t caught you yet, then they aint the smart Obama supporters I thought they were.
Then again, can you do a Beyonce impersonation? No? Well, you’re still a catch.
Alex Sarmiento says
November 21, 2008 at 2:38 pm
I don’t want to make any comments about the “flaming” thing, other than I personally am right in the middle between butch and, uh, effete. I do want to say that I’m sick of that damn Beyonce Knowles and her blonde weave/lace front and her rapping-singing combo platter. Plus, I doubt that she’ll gladly support us. Make money off of us, yes, and have us do her makeup and hair, sure, but I don’t expect her to be playing a gig for gay guys anytime soon.
November 21, 2008 at 2:47 pm
November 21, 2008 at 2:58 pm
Commenter Albert already mentioned it, but it was great to hear Anderson Cooper’s Towleroad shout out last night on AC360, he also did it last week when he showed a crazy doggie video that was featured here.
November 21, 2008 at 4:16 pm
Without people like Shane, the “Gay” world will be so very dull, shame on all of you people who pick on one of our own “Gays” in a time of fighting our civil right such as the Prop 8!
November 21, 2008 at 4:43 pm
i would typically not be into a guy like shane, but the dude totally puts it all out there and has a great deal of confidence in himself for which i can only say bravo…and resutantly i find him kinda hot now.
November 21, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Go Shane! It takes a lot of strength and guts to be this fabulous and put it all out there like this.
Jack H. says
November 22, 2008 at 11:09 am
The virulence of the comments on both sides reveals a larger truth, one that many in the LGBT activist community are loathe to admit. Human sexuality is not a “this or that”, black or white proposition. Desire/attraction ranges across a spectrum from men who never look at a woman sexually to men who have only the slightest flicker of same sex attraction.
Of course, if you’re an activist, suggesting that the category “gay” is an unreal political construct is heresy. How can you advocate if the only real categories are male and female.
Much has been written by authors more eloquent than I, that 40 yrs. of activism has greatly improved the lot of the usual suspects, i.e. urban gay ghetto dwellers, affluent educated suburbanites in “blue” state America, and those employed in the stereotypical careers, i.e. designers, florists, the arts etc.
At the same time men who were more masculine “mainstream” types are being forced by activist P.C. correctness to defend viewpoints, including a love of effeminacy and “fabulosity” they do not share. They retreat even more into the closet, and they are, some studies have indicated, the core audience for gay porn which remains determinedly macho masculine throughout.
Therefore, before you “we love our swish queen” types get too full of yourselves reflect on the fact that the majority of men with same sex attraction (to whatever degree on the spectrum) will never be “out and proud”. Just the way it is folks. Yes, you’ll all defend this Stepin Fetchit kid but diss all males who don’t march with you in P.C. correctness.
November 22, 2008 at 11:32 am
Not a single comment about Cubby?
November 22, 2008 at 12:18 pm
Jack H: where’d you get that half-digested theory? So “gay” is a construct but male and female are “the only real categories”? Sorry, hon. Read some Butler. You really can’t have it both ways any more.
I haven’t read any actual statistics, but I suspect that now the scales have tipped in favor of people being out of the closet. Given the number of same sex couples now on censuses and the number of same sex marriages/CUs/partnerships and the number of people who come out for pride or now political demonstrations, I think MOST gay people now are not on the down low. A few Larry Craigs and Ted Haggards among the far right, but they’re now the minority.
November 22, 2008 at 6:45 pm
Holy christ. The kid dances along to a Beyonce video. This isn’t about politics. It’s about entertainment. And as far as I can tell, all Bonnie Hunt did was have him on and praise his talent. So why doesn’t everyone calm down and let Shane have his 15 minutes. He can dance his ass off, so he earned them. Though I do want to give him a muffin–so skinny!
November 22, 2008 at 11:26 pm
“Shane is an example of an out and proud gay man comfortable in his own skin.”
@Tom: Has he made a statement to that effect? I don’t know anything about him other than the dance videos, and haven’t heard any commentary from him except about the routine.
“…Once these men realized that true acceptance first comes from oneself, most of them stopped the overt femininity (including swishing their hips, crossing personal boundaries of strangers, dressing feminine, and binge drinking). I’m simply citing some studies which are pretty interesting…”
@IM JUST SAYING: I haven’t heard of these studies. I wouldn’t accept or reject them without reading the methods. Do you have a link?
November 24, 2008 at 12:17 am
I think they all our just having fun and not at his or any other Gay man’s expense.
I guess if we need titles to define ourselves, I’m the truck driver type (or electrican-HVAC type).
Shane reminds me of my lover and its hawt!
Makes me wish I was there where he is with a fist full of singles! (Keep the minds clean girls.)
You DO NOT want to see my type trying to do those moves!!!
I’ll stick with the texas two step, thank you.
November 24, 2008 at 4:54 am
good on him! we need not apologize, nor should we judge.