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  1. says

    While I enjoy the gratuitous shirtless man posts more than some here seem to, I do not see the point if they do not include any decent pics of the bod. What’s the point? Obviously no one cares about dude.

  2. Kyle says

    Complete off topic, but there is an ad for Gay Mature Dating on the main page and they have pictures of guys who are 38 and 40 years of age. Maybe I am overly sensitive since I am newly single after 12 years, but I have to ask, what if you are, say, 46? Is there a Gay Ancient Dating site that we are to go to?

  3. TANK says

    What if you’re 46? Then you’re screwed…totally screwed. Ouch. Not in a good way, either, unless you pay for it or have an equally creepy old bf (rare).

  4. Kyle says

    @Joe–

    I don’t feel ancient, nor am I sulking. My point is that the mature dating site thinks that 38 and 41 qualify for mature dating. I have always thought of “mature” in that sense as synonymous with “senior,” as in the AARP crowd. I found it rather shocking that the limits have crept down to 38.

  5. Anthony in Nashville says

    The conversation about the mature dating site is more interesting than the athlete featured in the post!

    For what it’s worth, I was under the impression that 40 was always considered “old” in gay years, dating back to Boys In the Band and all our media.

    I think that explains some of the behavior of gay men. You either party like a rock star to get all your thrills before getting past the expiration date for hotness, or you get body work/buy new clothes/lie about your age in an attempt to convince everyone you’re still worthwhile.

    I wonder if lesbians have that same issue?

  6. Scott says

    @Anthony

    I guess I’ve known about the pink ceiling for a long time now. Maybe my shock has come from the fact that I’ve suddenly reached it and shockingly, don’t really care all that much. At 34 I’m wiser, richer, and more confident in who I am than I ever was at 24.

    But I’m hoping that the “mature” in the ads just means for adults not interested in poppers and penis size rather than an arbitrary past expiration date age.

  7. Anthony in Nashville says

    Scott I understand what you mean. I am 33 but don’t have your sense of serenity about aging. I was never a big clubber but I go to gay functions and sometimes find I’m one of the oldest people in the room. It’s a strange feeling.

    I may have to try that mature site.

  8. TANK says

    Yeah, wtf about not caring about poppers and penis size… That’s the big girl excuse…”you’re all superficial!”…well, I’d rather be superficial than haul around that extra person of an ass.

  9. says

    No Poppers!

    No penis size issues (not that I have that issue of course)!

    Zut Alors!

    Are you telling me that one day we have to grow up? Please say that doesn’t also mean boring. If I wanted to be old and boring at 46, I’d be straight!

  10. elg says

    A 40-50+ year old divorced or single straight guy of sound mind and body (and decent income) wouldn’t have too much trouble finding a good woman to spend the rest of his life with.

    A middle-aged gay man should be able to find a suitable same-sex partner with about as much ease as a middle-aged straight man can find a suitable girlfriend/wife.

  11. TANK says

    Except that’s not true for a host of reasons, elg. One of them is that gay men and straight women aren’t the same in what they value in a partner (let’s be honest, straight women are biologically programmed to be more forgiving of deficits), and strictly as a numbers game, there are a lot more eligible contenders for a middle aged straight man than a middle aged gay man.

    Of course, one shouldn’t give up hope of finding a partner when they’re middle aged.

  12. TANK says

    Except that’s not true for a host of reasons, elg. One of them is that gay men and straight women aren’t the same in what they value in a partner (let’s be honest, straight women are biologically programmed to be more forgiving of deficits), and strictly as a numbers game, there are a lot more eligible contenders for a middle aged straight man than a middle aged gay man.

    Of course, one shouldn’t give up hope of finding a partner when they’re middle aged.

  13. mike says

    How’s that again, Kyle? The “AARP crowd”? God! You just gotta love gay ageism. Well, FYI, Kyle, dear, there are a lot of men who come here to Towleroad who are–GASP!–47, maybe 50, maybe even–FAINT!! SWOON!!–55, 60!! Get over it, girlie-boys. Age ain’t nothin but a number.

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