‘Inception’ Star Tom Hardy: ‘Of Course’ I’ve Had Sex with Men


Inception star Tom Hardy tells the Daily Mail that he's had sexual relations with men:

"The 32-year-old Inception star, who is engaged to British actress Charlotte Riley, 28, and also has a two-year-old son with a former girlfriend.  But asked if he'd ever had any sexual relations with other men, the broody actor said: 'As a boy? Of course I have. I'm an actor for ****'s sake.
'I've played with everything and everyone. I love the form and the physicality, but now that I'm in my thirties, it doesn't do it for me. I'm done experimenting but there's plenty of stuff in a relationship with another man, especially gay men, that I need in my life. A lot of gay men get my thing for shoes. I have definite feminine qualities and a lot of gay men are incredibly masculine.'" 

The paper adds: "In an interview with Now magazine, the former party-boy who has battled drink, drugs and crime to turn his life around, added: 'A lot of people say I seem masculine, but I don't feel it. I feel intrinsically feminine. I'd love to be one of the boys but I always felt a bit on the outside. Maybe my masculine qualities come from overcompensating because I'm not one of the boys.'"


  1. Cesar says

    This man is effin sexy! He was my 2nd favorite character in Inception behind Joseph Gordon-Levitt & who wouldnt mind being behind Joseph 😉 I hope we see more great work from him!

  2. Fenrox says

    I love how frank he is, It made me immediately want to see inception, but then I IMDB’d him and he was Shinzon in Star Trek Nemesis so….. pass….

  3. Wes says

    Yea I know I wasn’t the only one who had trouble focusing on the actual movie whenever he was on screen. Those lips, my god. He played a gay guy (in love with Gerard Butler’s character) in RockNRolla and went totally nude for like 5 minutes straight in ‘Bronson’, fyi.

  4. True Words says

    First of all of course Tom you have had sexual relations with another man because I am one of them. It was 2007 in South Wales, we ran into one another several times over the course of my stay there. We ended up finally saying “hello” near Holland Park and with no more than that we were chatting like old friends. I did take note of your smile and told you so but you were a bit shy so I left it alone. Soon we worked our way to the outskirts of Chelsea; I needed to check in with a friend and you “awkwardly” agreed to wait for me. the rest of the evening was full of laughs and slight touches on the leg and shoulder. Grabbing a black box around 1AM, I said I was done for the evening. With great ease you leaned forward and kissed me full on the lips; while shocked i accepted and we retired at my place in Knightsbridge. Tom you are a prince full of manners and desires. I do think about you!

  5. veg says

    I hope that we can all be so honest and open about ourselves.

    I kind of feel the same way as Tom Hardy, but in reverse.

    To many of my friends I’m a lesbian and a feminist. And although I’m petite and Asian I identify most with traditionally masculine pursuits and, in my mind, I am larger and tougher.

    But, like some lesbians, I’m also drawn to gay men of all persuasions (and I wouldn’t be a regular reader and commentor on Andy’s blog if I weren’t so drawn).

    And I’ve messed around with quite a few men. Ha!

    But after exploring around, and as I’ve aged, I’ve found that my primary orientation is lesbic.

    Last year I read this book called SEXUAL FLUIDITY by Lisa Diamond. I totally found myself in those pages. Yes, there are folks who would never, ever think of being with anyone outside of their primary gender-of-focus. But others of us at certain times in our lives are/were fairly sexually fluid.

    I appreciate Tom Hardy’s honesty so much.

    Thanks for the post, Andy!

  6. Rad says

    Refreshingly honest! We need more of his type in the world!

    Side bar: Interesting that all the sons of Star Trek captains were played by gay/gay-affirming actors… (Merritt Buttrick comes to mind).

  7. Rob says

    He dinged the dar, surely enough. And I loved him in the movie. Cool to hear he’s at least an ally, open, whatever. Wish him well and success.

  8. tkirk says

    this is a shining example of the incredible power of “coming out” that so many of us gone through! When we come out we provide safety for everyone to come out in truth and acceptance. What a beautiful trickle down effect!

    I am grateful to this very visible man for speaking and owning his truth, so that others may find the courage to do so!

    He is beautiful on the outside, no doubt, but now even more attractive from the inside out!

  9. Rovex says

    Ive always fancied him, yes, even in Star Trek Nemesis. He just exudes sex appeal and he does seem such a nice guy.
    In bronson he was over pumped, and looked older than he is (fitted the part perfectly) , but he is reducing back to a more natural shape slowly (so as not to look scraggy and used up as some actors do after a bulk up).

  10. 24play says

    Sweet Jesus. If you loved Hardy in Inception and you haven’t yet seen Mr. Madonna’s “RocknRolla,” get thee to thy Netflix queue post-haste!

    Hella hawt—and served with a smoking helping of Thandie Newton on the side, too!

  11. JimmyD says

    He is yummy!

    Seems kind of odd for some to dismiss him because they don’t like a couple of the movies he’s been in/characters he’s played.

    But… to each his/her own!

    He can visit my dreams any time!

  12. says

    Tom Hardy swore he wouldn’t tell a soul about what happened between us when we went back to his house after school. And now he’s gone and blabbed to the media.

  13. Mark says

    I totally fell in love with him in “Bronson”! I loved that movie and his portrayal. This makes him even more hot that he’s so open and honest about his life and experiences.

  14. Bill says

    He’s such a liar. I don’t believe for a second he had sex with men. This is another Robert Downey Jr./ rock band-like stunt to appear edgey. He then goes into another cliche and lie that under his tough guy/ good ol’ boy facade he’s a teddy bear/ femme. Get the f out! Looking at the responses it once again shows how pathetic many gay men are to have “validation” from haterosexuals especially haterosexual males.

  15. jimstoic says

    It’s that interesting balance of masculine/feminine that draws me. The package is masculine (no pun intended), but the feminine comes through the eyes and sometimes the gestures. Since seeing him in Rocknrolla, I will see any movie he’s in. I didn’t know he was in Inception until I saw him on the screen, and it made the film (which I loved anyway) all the better.

  16. DireFates says

    “I feel intrinsically feminine.”

    Could he be a latent or coy trans-sexual?

    Jackson, Bill, they say Hollywood is all smoke and mirrors. 😀

  17. Matt says


    REAL ANSWER from 2009:

    “As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor for fuck’s sake. I’m an artist. I’ve played with everything and everyone,” he tantalisingly told Attitude magazine before going on to disappoint his queer fans.

    “But I’m not into men sexually. I love the form and the physicality but the gay sex bit does nothing for me. In the same way as a wet vagina would turn someone else into a lemon sucking freak. To me it just doesn’t compute now I’m into my 30s and it doesn’t do it for me and I’m done experimenting.”


  18. dizzy spins says

    At first I was blown away by his candor. And even more impressed about him saying how he needs gay men in his life. But then he said the line about how “we get his thing about shoes” and I remembered why actors are given lines to read rather than make up their own.

    I know he didnt mean to insult, but f^&ing SHOES? I dont know crap about shoes—does that mean Im not a useful gay man?

  19. Joe says

    I thought his character in Inception might be into men. He made fun of Arthur way too much.

    I love this guy, and his fan base just exploded with this interview. Helps that he’s a solid actor too.

  20. Jaxtall says

    Kids, not one mention of his totally sensual version of Sir Robert Dudley in The Virgin Queen…and now to find that he has such a sophisticated attitude about sexuality…I can only hope this kind of attitude will prevail, even in the gay world.

  21. Lili says

    So, Hollywood dudes, see how easy it is? Nothing to it.

    May I also add that there is nothing sexier in the world then being so at peace with oneself.

  22. says

    Good for Tom Hardy on his open candor and admission! I have always felt human sexuality is a very complex, personal thing and that people should stop having their hang-ups about it. If only more men would be REAL men like Tom and not get all bent out of shape if they happen to have desires for men as they continue to see women. When people are more honest and frank, the persistence of speculation lessens.

    Good for hot-n-hunky Tom Hardy!!

  23. Kyle says

    He’s hot, but unless he’s done gay porn or something, I really don’t care. It’s great that he’s been with guys, and that he’s open, but he’s not CURRENTLY gay, it’s like he’s saying he is basically straight now, but has a gay past. Nothing shocking there.

    Maybe he will be with a guy in the future, who knows? Doesn’t sound like he leaves that option open, though.

  24. says

    I thought he was the best thing about Inception. I’d love to see him in some more movies, pronto. That said, I don’t care who he sleeps with… but I do appreciate the honesty. It would be nice if more guys admitted the fact that they’ve at least fooled around with other guys at some point or another… most guys have… even if it wasn’t serious and longterm.

  25. MrsPatrickCampbell says

    She is among the majority of homosexuals who, realizing that the Hershey Highway is the road to misery, has decided to embrace the Lesbian lifestyle by marrying a fish – thus acquiring social/career acceptance while still no doubt enjoying sausage on the side!

  26. says

    @jason, I don’t think he said that for publicity.
    When the jounalist asked the question, he just answered: he is frank and is not ashame of his sexuality, that’s all. No need to see the evil everywhere 😉

  27. Eoin M says

    I’m curious about True Word’s account, sounds plausible. And if so it would make Tom Hardy somewhat of a lying hypocrite to say that gay sex doesn’t ‘do it’ for him when he’s been recently as 2007 involved with a man. That is if the account is true. And it is not as if True Word’s has gone to the papers and told for money. He has possibly stated it as a protest to the words Tom Hardy is now saying. This would be I presume during the time Tom was with his previous female partner so maybe more to hide! Who knows.

    On the whole, nothing to get excited about. He’s a fine actor and on some level he likes men. You can’t switch that off and I believe he is doing it to possibly remove more stories coming out about him in the press, by a pre-emptive strike, so to speak. It was cool of him to be as honest as he can be though, and I like him as an actor so…

  28. more gay rumors says

    He appeared last season in a play at the Goodman in Chicago. He starts off the play nude and he has a very nice size dick. He also has a lot of tattoos. But, more importantly, there were a lot of rumors at the theatre that Mr. Hardy was having a fling with one of the understudies…a male understudy.

  29. says

    It’s not often that you hear an actor admit he used to have flings with men.

    But London-born Inception star Tom Hardy, 32, who is engaged to British actress Charlotte Riley, 28, and also has a 2-year-old son with a former girlfriend, Rachel Speed, doesn’t mind sharing the info.

    He was apparently asked by England’s Now magazine in an interview if he’d ever had any sexual relations with men and he replied: “‘As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor … I’ve played with everything and everyone. I love the form and the physicality, but now that I’m in my thirties, it doesn’t do it for me.”

    Hardy went on to explain that he’s “not into men sexually.” He added, “I’m done experimenting.”

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