1. AJ says

    UGH! Quit getting your panties in a bunch over the words “lifestyle choice”. Isn’t it a lifestyle choice to come out of the closet? That’s how I always take it. It’s semantics, people, and Ellen is DEFINITELY one of the good guys. There are far bigger enemies to blow up at that talk about “Sodomy Marriage” and other absolutely vile and disgusting things. Do NOT waste your time and energy picking apart the words of those who are on our side.

  2. WordsMatter says

    The term “lifestyle” when applied to gays is used to denigrate lesbians and gay men, suggesting that their sexual orientation is a choice and therefore can and should be “cured”. Ellen should know better.

  3. gregv says

    @Wordsmatter: You’re right that she should, and I’m sure does, know better. It must have been a slip of the tongue.

    @AJ: Could not choosing to lie about any other aspect of your life be a “lifestyle?”
    For example, I once met a woman who told people she was part French, though I heard she wasn’t and just thought it sounded classy. So if I answer occasional questions about my own ethnic background without lying, is that a lifestyle? I think it’s a bit of a stretch.

    But even if we were to say being out is a “lifestyle,” the “lifestyle” that was referred to in the exact words of the sentence was “homosexu,ality,” not “being out.”

    Asher was 13 years old and had only come out to his parents the same day. When I was a 13-year-old gay kid (but not out to anyone), my lifestyle consisted of actions like going to school, doing math homework, building snow forts with the boys up the street and visiting my grandparents for Christmas.
    None of these kids were bullied because of their lifestyle, but because of their perceived identity. Some were out and some were not (some may not even have been gay but were perceived to be so and attacked on that basis).
    I can excuse Ellen because she’s amazing and otherwise did a great job, but I do hope when she got home she said to her wife, “Oops, I slipped up and really should have worded that differently.”

  4. antisaint says

    While I don’t think it’s worth faulting Ellen over, or calling her out on it — I think it’s very clear that when Ellen does speak on sexuality she’s speaking right from the heart — I do think there’s a negative connotation to “the gay lifestyle” or our “lifestyle choice,” particularly when coming from religious folks.

  5. DH says

    Anderson is absolutely right. If McCance called these kids n*****s and said he is happy whenever n*****s kill themselves, he would have been fired immediately. Apparently gay kids are not worth as much in the eyes of the public.

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