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  1. Chris says

    I mean, perhaps I’m insane but there must be kids out there thinking “If I kill myself Gaga will sing about me and know me”. You need a clear statement that he threw his life away.

  2. Mauricio says

    It totally makes sense that she used this song. it’s about the “prayer” one must say to oneself to express the freedom to be oneself, specially in high school.. It’s such a shame that she had to do a tribute to begin with because 14 year old kids shouldn’t be dying!!

    BULLY’S ARE LOSERS! That kid must have been tormented, I know that those kids that tormented Jamey will never forget what they did and they are probably going to live the rest of their lives with a huge amount of guilt.

    RIP JAMEY

  3. Jake says

    @DAVE You don;t give enough credit to your hair. Look at it, whatever little cliche you fit in your hairstyle fits there too.Even the “I’m too cool to be part of anything” has its own hairstyles.

  4. John says

    Touching, but I just can’t help but feel this type of ‘noteriety’ will only push some mentally individuals to kill themselves.

    This young man was bullied but it’s clear that he knew it ‘got better’ but chose another route. The wider community touched him, obvious from his ‘It Gets Better’ video, but he still chose to kill himself. I think mental illness is probably more to blame than his tormenters. He just didn’t have the coping skills to deal with life.

    Either way, we must make it completely clear to our youth that suicide is not acceptable, ever, and I can only hope and pray this won’t reinforce the opposite.

  5. andypharmer says

    Love Gaga… I need to stop reading the comments on posts because so many people are negative and I am definitely not the most positive person in the world and its scary how bitter some of you are!

  6. JWL says

    I live in Las Vegas and we were there last night. I thought it was well done and I admit that I did think that having arguable the biggest star in the world right now dedicate a song to you may spur others on to suicide. Either way, it was well done from our standpoint. Also, let me mention that this was a five hour concert featuring Jennifer Lopez, Rascal Flatts, Nicki Minaj and Steven Tyler. The real star of the show was definitely and obviously Gaga. She was the main attraction and she had all the attention and she played for almost and ninety minutes…way longer than she had been asked to according to our friends at Clear Channel and I Heart Radio. Her duets with Sting were AWESOME. SO love her or hate her, she isnt going anywhere for a while.
    and PS
    @CHRIS why do you think she would sing someone elses song in a tribute to someone who was a big fan of hers? Do you think at all?

  7. IAN F says

    The Trevor project posted an article about how to talk about suicide in the media and used Gaga as an example of what NOT to do.

    http://outspokennyc.com/shoutout/how-to-talk-about-lgbt-suicide-in-the-media

    I often have mixed feelings about Gaga and her support of gay causes. I appreciate the exposure and think it’s great for her young fans to get the message of acceptance for all. But often I get the feeling she uses the gay community and it’s causes to make it all about her.

    But actual gay entertainers can’t get away with what she does so I guess I’ll end up on the side of gratitude but feeling a little icky about it.

  8. says

    I love her more and more every day. Why hasn’t Streisand stepped forward like this? What about Madonna? I say thank God for Lady GaGa. My advice to Streisand: as the mother of a gay son I say speak out now dammit. Put an end to young gay people committing suicide because they are so bullied and mistreated they end up believing they ave no future. SO SAD that Jeremy, who seemed like an amazing young man, felt he had no reason to continue living life. Very sad. We MUST put an end to gay hatred.

  9. says

    I read the “Dos or Don’ts” that were posted on that linked blog… and I have to say, I disagree. While I don’t disagree that there may be some individuals that they could be right about, if you don’t personalize it, you’re not going to rally the community around to deal with the actual problem. It’s putting the problem in the closet, which is the worst possible thing that can happen.

    Communities that have been forced to deal with this because it’s happened and it’s been public have often been *forced* into dealing with it and through that pressure have actually made significant improvements. This actually happened to the entire Commonwealth of Massachusetts after a few very public suicides related to bullying — the aftermath of which caused us to pass one of the nation’s best anti-bullying laws that is forcing meaningful change in every school system across the state. Furthermore, the focus on the issue from the presonalization of it has prompted the media to quickly get involved with any reported cases of bullying or hazing going on at schools — which has put prompt and effective ends to them in school after school after school.

    Any decision or tactics about dealing with the issue will have pros and cons in individual cases; what we have to do is pick the ways that results in the best aggregate results, that results in the communities and schools becoming the most positive and welcoming they possibly can be. That means we have to be public about the issue, that we have to get it open and we have to talk about it.

    Some of the “don’ts” that would lead to putting bullying issues ‘in the closet’ — by de-personalizing it — are surely valid concerns, but the way to deal with them is to actually ensure that each and every school is looking at each and every person in the school to see how they’re actually doing. To further personalize the issue at the local level. They need to know who the at-risk kids are and they need to intervene early to ensure they’re not only being welcomed into school, but feel welcomes, too.

    As for Lady GaGa, she’s been enormously effective in talking with this issue and putting it on the radar. We need to take that public good will and convert it into tangible results, and then we need to make sure each and every school and school system is following up with it on a student-by-student basis, ensuring *EVERYONE* in their schools feels okay, welcome and isn’t overwhelmed, bullied or harassed.

  10. Joe De Hoyos says

    Lucinda Williams, Chris???? Why doesn’t Lady Gaga use her music? That’s not even a real question. That’s just someone trying to control the message. Chris if you have a better message put out there, say it and stop bashing Lady Gaga for trying to be a positive role model.

  11. Matt says

    I love Gaga & she TOTALLY meant well with this tribute, but I too cringed when I first started watching. Not because of performance or anything– I thought that was touching, actually. But I immediately thought of all the kids who may copy Jamey’s suicide in an attempt to be “recognized” by Lady Gaga, to make a statement, etc. I absolutely think something like that might be possible. Most of Gaga’s young, bullied, depressed fans will know better, but I bet you not all of them will. This was quite a tribute Jamey got from Mother Monster herself! I pray no one else feels the need to get her attention like that.

    Please don’t consider my comments as being “negative.” I love Gaga for caring. I really do. And I was moved by her dedication of this song. I just don’t know if this was the wisest thing to do… in the long run.

  12. Stephen Pickard says

    This was beautiful And Ryan’s post in response was amazing. He really nailed. The rest of the negative responses just sound like a bunch of bitter queens. Lady GaGa you are awesome. We love you!

  13. Paul R says

    Does it occur to any of you worried about repeat/copycat suicides that even a severely disturbed kid would know he or she wouldn’t be around to appreciate the tribute?

    Yes, I realize that there’s notoriety and fame in being recognized post mortem by your favorite star, but it seems unlikely that many kids would kill themselves in hopes of having a song dedicated to them. Their pain runs deeper than that, and suicide among kids is usually based on a very short decision or series of events—children (even the college student at Rutgers) often simply can’t picture the future because they haven’t lived too long.

    Her point is to mitigate bullying, not to make an icon of a sad child who lacked the skills to deal with the challenges he faced.

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