Barnes & Noble Pulls Offensive 'Sissy' Calendar From Online Store

Two days ago, Andy broke the story of Christian cartoonist "Joe King's" bizarre "I'm Not Gay, I'm Just a Sissy" calendar, which was for sale at Amazon and The calendar, which promised "12 Months of Sexual Confusion, Not That There's Anything Wrong With That," proposed to make buyers laugh by making fun of straight-identified men with "sissy" characteristics. Or so it seems. The whole exercise was a bit of a muddle, frankly -- the February illustration was entitled "We've All Got AIDS," and an illustration purporting to make fun of sissy Oscar night parties was used to illustrate November.

Now, after complaints from a great number of Towleroad readers and countless others, Barnes & Noble has ceased selling the thing. is still at it.

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  1. Up to 750 negative 1-star reviews on Amazon. You think they'd get the hint.

    Posted by: Steve | Dec 29, 2011 5:38:33 PM

  2. conservatives ban books. and they ban books that prove them wrong. they ban books that challenge and provoke thought.

    nobody is suggesting banning anything. people are calling bigotry what it is, and rightfully making it known to the companies shilling it that they're not impressed.

    that's how we win, boys and girls. when people realize that bigotry doesn't pay. this message will be lost, alas, on those of you who still laugh at fag jokes in hopes that your dad won't think they're about YOU. newsflash. they are. you may be laughing, but know this - our families dont' crack those jokes. no wonder you insist that you laugh to - if you stop laughing with them you'll realize they're laughing AT you. and they are.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 5:51:35 PM

  3. Oh man I took Little Kiwi's bait. He just wanted me to respond again so he could tear my wonderful father down. I hate bitter queens - even the cute ones.

    Posted by: Markus | Dec 29, 2011 5:58:04 PM

  4. i didn't tear him down, you're the one that admitted that when you came out he took the opportunity to let you know that he wouldn't stop making gay jokes. that's no me tearing him down - your dad revealed an ugly truth about himself and his feelings for you as his son.

    it's not my fault that your dad cares more about being able to laugh at gays than loving you. truly, not my fault.

    and this is in no way comparable to book burning. at all. you can't even intelligently explain how it is.

    you know who else else hates bitter queens? your dad. that's why you have to join in laughing at gays with him. it's textbook.

    it's not that you have a sense of humour, Markus. it's that you have no sense of self-worth or dignity. there's a difference. peeing all over yourself to make your family laugh doesn't mean you have a good sense of humour, it means you don't have a spine.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 6:06:29 PM

  5. the first amendment protects free speech from government intrusion. This is a private entity denying an individual a conduit for distribution. He can still make this calendar, he can print it or have any sympathetic printer print it, he can make his own website, and barring littering laws he could throw copies into times square for everyone. These are diff'rent things

    Posted by: MaddM@ | Dec 29, 2011 6:07:30 PM

  6. I know this is going against the prevailing paradigm here but, hey, it's a slow news day...
    My guess is that Amazon believes it IS censorship not to sell items like this (and books) because some people or even the retailer might find the content objectionable and also that they don't support hateful speech but they do support an individual's right to make their own purchasing decisions, as do I.
    But... they still might remove it with enough pressure or after it has made what money it will now that the stupid thing is actually selling.

    Posted by: ljc | Dec 29, 2011 6:08:11 PM

  7. MADDM@, THANK YOU. Exactly.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 6:16:45 PM

  8. Yes Markus@ you did take the bait and no one is more intent on pugnacious, viscious and presumptuos punishment than the awful twerp Kiwi, truly an enfant terrible. He can be a lot of fun (see his quite charming video post from yesterday) but would be much more so if he weren't so unnecessarily insulting. Yet he is the Jesus Christ of gaydom don't you think? The arch example of how to Be gay, sans, however, all regard for those who aren't As gay. But you see, that's all he is. So pity him really, unlike you and me he does nothing productive, he has nothing to really show for his life but invective. So, hey Kiwi show us what you actually DO beyond a blog filled with angry disapprovals. Working in Womens Wear at the local department store won't cut it.

    Posted by: uffda | Dec 29, 2011 6:25:23 PM

  9. This product is repulsive, but I say Amazon should continue to sell it, just so that we can continue to deride it and destroy the reputation of the ass cartoonist who created it. Freedom of speech at its finest.

    Posted by: Gregoire | Dec 29, 2011 6:37:59 PM

  10. you miss my main point, UFFDA, as usual - i don't care "how gay" one is. at all. what i care about is those who complain from the confines of The Closet, or its cousin The Anonymous Online Closet.

    what, if anything, does it mean to be "not as gay"? how about you provide the URL to your own page or video so you can provide an example?

    i've never shown anyone "how to be gay" only how to live openly, authentically, Out, and without apology. something you've yet to learn, alas.

    what do i do? actor and writer. and yes, he makes a living. it's kinda rad. :D you forget, honeybun, a click on my name shows me putting a face to my words. something you've yet to be able to do.

    it's just textbook - we get people defending this calendar who are still insecure homosexuals. we get those screaming about "freedom of speech!" thus proving that they have no understanding of the Constitution, and then those who come on to talk themselves up from a place of complete anonymity.


    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 6:38:30 PM

  11. i do apologize to Markus, however. i was wrong. everyone knows that the true sign of fatherly love is for a dad to let his son know that he'll still be cracking gay jokes, when his son comes out to him. because as a gay man who was, like all of us, once in the closet, i too remember that the scariest part of coming out was the fear that my dad would stop making fun of gay people, and i can understand how relieved markus must have felt to know that his coming out to his father wouldn't stop his father from making fun of gay people.



    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 6:44:04 PM

  12. I'm taking back my cute comment about you Kiwi. You are very ugly on the inside which cancels out surface beauty.

    Posted by: Markus | Dec 29, 2011 6:45:11 PM

  13. just as your father letting you know, as you Came Out to him, that he's still gonna make gay jokes cancels out his acceptance of you. it's very fitting.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 6:49:12 PM

  14. Kiwi:

    Some of us aren't offended by gay jokes, as they understand that they aren't necessarily indicative of anti-gay sentiment. Humor is often found in saying "politically incorrect" things even if one doesn't truly believe them. Not all of us get butthurt over every perceivable slight.

    You talk about "insecurity," but I think it is you that actually suffers from the worst kind of insecurity. You are so insecure about your sexual orientation that you amplify your "gayness" until it is the single most important, overarching thing about you. It informs your viewpoints, decisions, and actions more than anything else.

    I (and others I'm sure) am gay, and I am neither proud nor ashamed of it. It is a fact, it is nothing I chose, it is not an accomplishment. I am out to the extent that I will never lie about my sexual orientation (but also don't feel the need to broadcast it), and comfortable in every way with who I am. But my life does not revolve around the fact that I am gay. Much as I don't go about making decisions based on the fact that I have brown hair, or two legs. It's another aspect of me that does influence what I do, but to no greater extent than any other characteristic I may have. My friends are more straight than gay, not because I wanted it that way, but because that's who I became friends with. I enjoy sports, both playing and watching. I am a gun owner and I enjoy shooting trap/skeet or at the range. I would probably be described as "masculine" by others. I don't believe in the "gay community" because I think that gays have the same interests as every other human being, and see no need to self-segregate. I defend the rights of all people to hold the beliefs they want without government interference even if I disagree with them, so that I can maintain my own beliefs.

    All of these things have been attacked by you at some point as being (for lack of a better phrase) "not gay enough" or that I'm compensating and want my father or republicans to approve. But the truth is, really, that you are the insecure one who needs approval. There was someone who didn't give it to you, or there's some other reason why you fear rejection, and so you turn and go on the offensive, becoming the defender and embodiment of all things gay. By attacking others, you simultaneously feel superior, and hope for the approval of your fellow gays for being a soldier for the cause.

    Essentially, you're a bully.

    Posted by: Jack | Dec 29, 2011 6:58:31 PM

  15. Amazon also sells Secrets Of A Gay Marine Porn Star (, which I imagine is just as offensive to far right wing Christians.

    I'm of the opinion that Amazon shouldn't be deciding what people are and are not permitted to purchase, just like the government. With 800 or so bad reviews, it should be serving to bolster the community. By all means, don't buy it. Tell your friends not to buy it, but leave Amazon out of it.

    Posted by: Joel | Dec 29, 2011 7:01:32 PM

  16. Jack@thanks, you've nailed him. He is most certainly a bully. But Little Piranah Mouth will squirm and never recognize himself. It's OK he will self-immolate eventually.

    Markus@ you've provided an irrefutable last say...I'm sorry to say.

    Posted by: uffda | Dec 29, 2011 8:03:49 PM

  17. For the record, my dad telling me when I came out that he was not going to stop telling gay jokes, was very loving and very funny. It made both my parents and me laugh. My dad tells funny and sometimes not so funny jokes. What he doesn't tell are hurtful, racist or bigoted jokes. Honest to god I have never heard my parents say anything bigoted towards anyone. It was dad's way of saying that being gay will be challenging and that I needed to take everything with a little bit of humor. My parents really could not have been better at dealing with me coming out. They made me feel more loved than before. The best part is they made me feel complete. I had the biggest smile on the drive home that night.

    Right after my dad said that he wasn't going to stop telling gay jokes my mom said, "I can't believe you didn't know." My dad said, "Know what?" Mom said, "That I was a lesbian." It was so funny, so random and such a wonderful ice breaker.

    Posted by: Markus | Dec 29, 2011 8:49:25 PM

  18. when you join the bully in laughing at yourself, you're not showing that you're in on the joke, you're showing that you're scared of the bully.

    some people, sadly, don't have it in them to stand up to bullies. their lives become cycles of "Don't make them mad! let them do what they want and they'll leave me alone!"

    defense of this calendar is just oh-so-GOProud.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 10:09:40 PM

  19. Just shut up Li'l No Account. You've buried yourself.

    Thanks for the larger story Markus all but one of us understands.

    Posted by: uffda | Dec 29, 2011 10:23:47 PM

  20. Hah, that's hilarious, Markus. So he doesn't poke fun at races but he DOES at homosexuality? Well isn't that wonderful. Newflash for your dad: that is called hypocrisy.

    It really is staggering to see so much self-hate from people who just roll with every attack that is directed towards them simply because "it's tough being gay, I guess". If this mentally had continued, that nasty stuff you do under your covers would still be illegal.

    Posted by: Marshal | Dec 29, 2011 10:47:47 PM

  21. prove me wrong jack, got a URL? of course you don't. and i've never "attacked' ANY of the things you listed as being "not gay enough."

    ever. at any point. ever. why would i? i don't hold that belief. one can be perceived as prototypically-masculine and still be identifiably and visibly gay.

    you prove me right by continuing to write essays about me from a place of anonymity.

    seriously. until you put a face and name to your rants you only prove me right. keep it up. ;-)

    oh and amen, Marshal.


    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Dec 29, 2011 11:03:59 PM

  22. So is this open forum becoming just another hate space?

    Jeez, welcome to the new year, I guess.

    Posted by: ljc | Dec 30, 2011 12:10:51 AM

  23. Kiwi:

    You make the mistake of assuming that anonymity means that one is inherently wrong. It's nonsensical, and a replacement for any kind of substantive response, which you haven't provided. Your entire response was "well I have a website and you can see who I am," which really makes no sense and is completely non-responsive.

    If you want to disregard anything I say because I prefer to not broadcast my name and face to the world, so be it. No sweat off my back. Just letting you know what you come off as.

    I don't negotiate or argue with infantile bullies, so this will be the last you hear of me. Oh, and also because unlike you, I'm secure enough to not give a rat's ass what you think of me.

    Posted by: Jack | Dec 30, 2011 2:17:12 AM

  24. Sorry to the GOProud group on here defending this calander under the false pretense of your freedom of speech banner....but you LOST baby. Why? because the rest of us self respecting gays used OUR freedom of speech, and protested this calander, what it stood for, and we won. Freedom of speech is a beautiful thing.

    Posted by: AaronConner | Dec 30, 2011 3:07:18 AM

  25. The same gay posters who defend this man's "freedom of speech" are the same posters who advocate for silencing the gay community when we stand up and speak up. The very people defending this man, are the same people who request the gay community not have pride parades, and not protest the church, and not get too loud. It's all a very calculating attempt to silence us and strengthen them. Don't fall for it.

    Well done Barnes & Nobles. Pure bigotry should never be celebrated.

    Posted by: Greepa | Dec 30, 2011 3:10:40 AM

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