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Cynthia Nixon: Technically, I'm a Bisexual Who Has Chosen to Be in a Gay Relationship

Cynthia Nixon released a statement to The Advocate clarifying some of her recent remarks about choice and sexuality.

C_nixon"While I don't often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have 'chosen' is to be in a gay relationship. As I said in the Times and will say again here, I do, however, believe that most members of our community — as well as the majority of heterosexuals — cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex. Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognizes all of us as full and equal citizens."

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  1. Okay, THAT makes sense. Homosexual relationships are chosen, but homosexual (or bisexual feelings) are not. Cynthia, I'm sure the backlash hurt, but thanks for taking the time to be a bit more articulate. It makes a huge difference.

    Posted by: Yeek | Jan 30, 2012 3:18:42 PM

  2. Okay, memo to Cynthia Nixon's PR people: make her stop talking.

    I commend CN for ultimately standing up for the full equality of all citizens, which I think is her main point. However, it's gotten somewhat muddled in her ruminations on her own sexuality (and other people's), and that's just not helpful. Plus it makes her look like a flake. Again: STOP TALKING.

    Posted by: Andalusian Dog | Jan 30, 2012 3:19:06 PM

  3. That's "homosexual (or bisexual) feelings are not." Oops.

    Posted by: Yeek | Jan 30, 2012 3:23:29 PM

  4. we're still on this?

    make it stop, make it stop.

    please make it stop.


    Posted by: truthiness | Jan 30, 2012 3:24:25 PM

  5. Seriously. she is the WORST. Making harmful controversy to promote Wit.

    To her credit I know it exist now. I just never want to see her in anything ever again.

    Posted by: David in NYC | Jan 30, 2012 3:25:36 PM

  6. she be trollin'! hahaha

    Posted by: Pahima | Jan 30, 2012 3:28:44 PM

  7. PHEW! Her legs must have gotten quite a workout from doing all that back pedaling.

    Posted by: David | Jan 30, 2012 3:38:26 PM

  8. Ok we get it
    Thanks again for clarifying, we really need to move on

    Posted by: George M | Jan 30, 2012 3:39:17 PM

  9. I think pretty much anyone who understands the science already knew that she had made a poor choice of words, and the Advocate's readership didn't need the clarification.
    The damage that was done was to the ignorant masses who don't understand psychology and read in their local paper that she chose to be straight one day and gay another and that gay activists on "the other side of the debate" were claiming homosexuality is "a compulsion." (Of course, we can assume that's not what they really said, but that's what was made up by some news writers).
    The original comments were far too easy to twist into a source of more misunderstanding on the part of the ignorant masses.
    Just say you're bisexual. NOBODY is disputing that you chose both your present and former individual partners, so let's not pretend that's a topic of debate.

    Posted by: Gregv | Jan 30, 2012 3:46:47 PM

  10. If you pay TAXES = You get all THE RIGHTS. How about that? Does that sound fair and EQUAL to everyone? If you pay to see a movie, you get to see the entire movie, from trailer to credits. Not this BS where some people can see the credits, some people can see trailer... all should be equal!

    Posted by: Hollywood, Ca | Jan 30, 2012 3:55:05 PM

  11. Isn't it time for her to just shut up, already?!

    Posted by: Walt | Jan 30, 2012 4:09:13 PM

  12. I'm glad she finally said this. It does take a lot to (sort of) admit that you were wrong.

    Had she said this in the original article her entire point would have been fairly strong. Instead she upset a lot of people and made herself look foolish in the process. Hopefully she'll start to feel more comfortable with her bisexuality in the future.

    Posted by: RandySF | Jan 30, 2012 4:13:19 PM

  13. she didn't make herself look foolish. a large number of gay people made themselves look foolish by freaking out over her statement, which my gay ass totally understood.


    only the most plebeian folks in our communities didn't understand what she said.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Jan 30, 2012 4:19:21 PM

  14. Enough already!

    Posted by: Jack M | Jan 30, 2012 4:20:38 PM

  15. Thank you Ms. Nixon

    Posted by: Dana Chilton | Jan 30, 2012 4:27:38 PM

  16. Good for her; this makes much more sense.

    Posted by: Paul | Jan 30, 2012 5:21:33 PM

  17. @ Little KIWI.... The point of the controversy wasn't what the people in the LGBT community could figure out that she really meant. It was what the right-wing bigots would do with her statement that she chose to be gay. the right-wing wouldn't be generous in "figuring out" what she really meant. They would have just forged ahead and used her statement to bash the LGBT community.

    Posted by: Tim NC | Jan 30, 2012 5:29:52 PM

  18. I somehow don't think Nixon is a reader of Michel Foucault, but it's interesting that her comments do reflect the conflict between two philosophical views of homosexual identity: either that it's what you ARE, or that (Foucault's argument) it's a social category determined by what you DO. In her earlier comments, Nixon seemed to be arguing based on the latter idea: that she is gay BECAUSE she's in a same-sex relationship. Foucault's argument isn't too popular in America outside of academic circles.

    Posted by: Sancho | Jan 30, 2012 5:37:02 PM

  19. As a public figure who has the potential to influence others through her coverage in the media, I hope she has learned her lesson with regards to comments towards the gay community. We've never picked her as our spokes person, and I'm sure we wont. But imagine being 12 or 14 and hearing that some Bisexual actress said that her Lesbianism was really a choice, and that Homosexuality really is a choice? She dragged our name in the mud... I don't have any Lesbian friends.

    Posted by: Rafa | Jan 30, 2012 5:38:45 PM

  20. silly TIM NC! right-wingers don't exist in Kiwitopia.

    Posted by: Pahima | Jan 30, 2012 5:49:51 PM

  21. OK.
    Now let us pray.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jan 30, 2012 6:00:58 PM

  22. She's turning me straight ... no ... NO

    Posted by: J.D. | Jan 30, 2012 6:42:14 PM

  23. she's NUTS if she thinks anyone actually believes she could be anything but 100% lesbian!

    Posted by: Joe | Jan 30, 2012 6:52:34 PM

  24. Thank you Tim in NC for explaining to Little Kiwi what he needed to hear.

    Posted by: jmg | Jan 30, 2012 6:52:56 PM

  25. y'al keep forgetting that "the right wing" choose to ignore any and every piece of scientific evidence that points toward Evolution, and they choose instead to favor the baseless mythology of Creationism.

    why, then, do you think any form of scientific data will make them give a damn about sexual orientations or gender-identities?

    these bigots choose what they want to see and hear. whatever suits their peabrains.

    you're also all forgetting that the bigots don't say "being gay is a choice!" as if things that are a choice are inherently negative. they're saying being gay is WRONG. BAD.

    Ms. Nixon isn't.

    the "lie" isn't that that bigots say being gay is a choice, the lie is that they say it's a negative and hamrful choice.

    attempt to understand that.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Jan 30, 2012 7:01:03 PM

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