"Ex-Gays" | Gay Marriage | New Jersey | News

Angry 'Ex-Gay' Nurse Rages 'Homosexuality is Not a Civil Right' at NJ Marriage Equality Hearing: VIDEO


Here's another intense video from what I would call an extremely damaged gay man and human being at yesterday's marriage equality hearing in New Jersey.


Greg Quinlan from Roxbury:

"Homosexuality is not a civil right. Civil rights are based on innateness, whether or not you were born that way. To date, there is zero evidence that anyone is born a homosexual. Zero. In fact it's homosexual researchers and scientists that are proving that homosexuality is not innate and has no biological ideology. Homosexuality is not immutable. People do change. People have a right of self-determination. They can choose to change from being gay to straight. Why can't they choose to change from being straight to ga?

"People do it all the time. There are many ex-gays. Anne Heche, to name one. Sinead O'Connor. And myself. I left the homosexual lifestyle almost 20 years ago. Lived as a homosexual activist for 10 years of my life. I'm a registered nurse. I watched 100 of my friends and acquaintances die of AIDS before I stopped counting. I've seen lots of things but homosexuality does not deserve to be codified or recognized as marriage in any state."

Quinlan is the president of Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays (PFOX). He also demanded an apology from the bill's sponsors for calling people of faith 'bigots':

“I want to talk first of all about something I heard from the very beginning by people of this Legislature that we are bigots as people of faith, because we do not hold that homosexual marriage should be codified. That somehow we are bigots and we are ideologues because we are people of faith. I want to address that hate. Everyone in this room who is a person of faith deserves an apology from one of the sponsors of this bill for calling us bigots.”

Feed This post's comment feed


  1. Bisexuality exists. And O'Connor said that she would consider women when she put out her casting call for a partner

    Posted by: Steve | Feb 3, 2012 10:45:20 AM

  2. Too bad he was "scared straight" instead of moved to compassion for all human beings by the AIDS crisis. He is a sad man.

    Posted by: Jack M | Feb 3, 2012 10:48:51 AM

  3. When did Anne Heche ever left homosexuality? I thought she was bi or pansexual. If I didn't feel sorry for this guy, I'd be angry.

    Posted by: Sarina | Feb 3, 2012 10:49:14 AM

  4. What a sad, damaged, angry and self-hating man. One wants to give him Harold's speech to Michael at the end of BOYS IN THE BAND.

    Posted by: Abel | Feb 3, 2012 10:49:51 AM

  5. Oooooo, get her!

    Posted by: Michael W. | Feb 3, 2012 10:50:50 AM

  6. Is that the queen from PFOX? He's fatter than his stock photo, which apparently was taken in 1993, lets on.

    Poor thing. He's so twisted up inside that he can't wrap his addled little brain around the fact that his chosen path is not the only path. Just because some minute portion of the gay community could conceivably live an outwardly heterosexual life doesn't mean that the rest of us should be compelled to do so, and it doesn't mean that those of us who find happiness with a same-sex partner should have to abandon all hope of enjoying our full measure of civil and human rights.

    And really... Anne Heche? You're holding up Anne Heche as some sort of role model? Didn't she pull a Margot Kidder not that long ago, winding up mumbling and staggering and disoriented in someone's backyard? And didn't Sinead O'Connor just get a divorce after 15 seconds of marriage? Something to do with going to a sketchy neighborhood RIGHT after her wedding to score drugs? THESE are your examples of happy, healthy ex-gay lives? Really?

    Anyone who takes this fool seriously is a lost cause to begin with. Focus on the moveable middle, and ignore these clowns as they continue their unstoppable slide into irrelevance.

    Posted by: The Milkman | Feb 3, 2012 10:53:15 AM

  7. since when did civil rights have to be derived from immutable qualities? freedom of religion is a civil right but one's religion is far from being immutable or innate.

    Posted by: brian | Feb 3, 2012 10:53:19 AM

  8. What this guy doesn't understand is that most of the witnesses for the PRO marriage equality side were "people of faith", ministers and rabbis.

    Posted by: Dastius Krazitauc | Feb 3, 2012 10:53:31 AM

  9. This guy is incredibly sick.

    Posted by: OS2Guy | Feb 3, 2012 10:56:18 AM

  10. I partly agree with Greg Quinlan. It IS possible to leave the gay male social scene and its associated lifestyle. Personally, I find it a sex-centered scene that is obsessed with body image and porn, not to mention alcohol. Objectively, it is not a nice scene.

    Honestly, I think men would be better off socializing within the mainstream. There, you'll find a bit of reality and balance. You will meet nice people of all orientations. You won't get caught in this sexual vortex called the gay scene.

    Where I disagree with Mr Quinlan is his suggestion that one's innate sexual feelings can be discarded like a shopping trolley. Such a thing isn't possible. Your sexual thoughts and feelings are automatic. No choice is involved.

    Posted by: jason | Feb 3, 2012 10:56:29 AM

  11. Don't know if anyone else has noticed, but it seems to me that people who claim to have converted from homosexuality to heterosexuality seem angry, while those people who claim to have once been straight, but "chose" to be gay seem happier about that "choice."

    The heart wants what it wants. Any deviation from that will make one miserable, no matter how vehemently one tries to convince one's self otherwise.

    Posted by: mytwocents | Feb 3, 2012 11:07:09 AM

  12. As Brian said above, religious beliefs aren't immutable. Yet freedom of religion is a civil right. Quinlan is a self-loathing idiot, that has zero credibility.

    Posted by: David in Houston | Feb 3, 2012 11:07:51 AM

  13. @Jason, I don't know what gay male social scene you inhabit, but mine does not reflect any of what you describe. Maybe it's because all of the people in our scene are all adults who have more things to do that drink martinis and talk about Beyonce, Lady Gaga, and Glee.

    Also, the sex-centered scene obsessed with body image and porn, not to mention alcohol, is not limited to the gay male scene. Have you ever seen many of the mainstream movies that people consider hilarious, such as "The Hangover"? Have you ever been to Spring Break in Daytona? How about a singles bar? How about folks getting married for 72 days?

    Just an observation. Need more coffee.

    Posted by: Verdon Coleman | Feb 3, 2012 11:12:34 AM

  14. Is there ANY evidence that Quinlan was EVER a "homosexual activist" or even ever gay? We know that these people will tell any damned lie to push their agenda. I'm just wondering if he's ever provided any evidence that he ever identified as gay.

    And another point. Quinlan, if anything, was exactly like, but the reverse of, Cynthia Nixon and was a bisexual who CHOSE to live as straight.

    This is why Nixon's original, ignorant comment was not only inaccurate but dangerous and why it was necessary for her to correct her mis-statment.

    I honestly believe that most of the rabidly anti-gay people who have homosexual desires and behaviors (Haggard, Wide Stance, Luggage Lifter) are bisexuals who feel that they are making a naughty choice and that everyone who claims to be gay is actually just like them and making the choice, an evil, disgusting, unhealthy, unChristian choice, to be gay and that, like them, could make the choice to just be straight.

    Posted by: TampaZeke | Feb 3, 2012 11:14:10 AM

  15. A few points, in no certain order:
    re: Civil rights are based on innateness, whether or not you were born that way.
    This statement in inaccurate. Civil rights based on religious expression and beliefs are granted, and no one is born a Muslim, Christian, or of the religious Jewish faith.

    And even if a person did choose to "be gay"....why would that automatically deny them the equal access/protection of the laws regarding civil marriages...marriage is about persons committing to an equal partnership in their lives, supporting each other to help make their lives better...mores stable, more productive, more secure...and those relationships help stabilize the community, and the community reaps those benefits...I just do not understand the rationale.

    Posted by: Robert in SF | Feb 3, 2012 11:15:45 AM

  16. Oh, and can I mention that Quinlan looks like he just had his back blown out the night before?

    Posted by: Verdon Coleman | Feb 3, 2012 11:16:01 AM

  17. Verdon Coleman,

    I agree that the straight scene can be sex-centric. But in the gay male scene there is a concentration of very powerful sex drives, which makes it even more sleazy in my opinion.

    In any case, two wrongs don't make a right. Just because one is sleazy, it doesn't justify our own sleaziness.

    Posted by: bruce | Feb 3, 2012 11:18:21 AM

  18. Wrong, Jason, there is no "lifestyle" associated with the gay community except what bigots have pinned to us. No two gay men live the same "lifestyle" because everyone has different lives. It's naive to think that "socializing within the mainstream" would be better for gay men because most straight men are just as sex and porn and alcohol obsessed as gay men are. If you want a better, more healthy gay community, that will only come from what you contribute to it.

    Posted by: Wrong Jason | Feb 3, 2012 11:21:16 AM

  19. This "ex-gay" decided one day he's straight and hates gays. Ok. Why then he doesn't look happy?

    Posted by: Matt26 | Feb 3, 2012 11:27:24 AM

  20. Bruce, you are wrong on so many counts. The gay community isn't sleazy. It's just you.

    Posted by: Wrong Bruce | Feb 3, 2012 11:30:12 AM

  21. Anne Heche. Sinead O'Connor. FUTFACTDL!(fall upon the floor and choke to death laughing)

    Posted by: Leroy Laflamme | Feb 3, 2012 11:36:12 AM

  22. "Jason" if you're posting in here oyu haven't left the gay spocial scene.

    Has anybody read Harold's final speech in "The Boys in the Band" to you lately?

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Feb 3, 2012 11:36:59 AM

  23. Sad bitter pathetic shell of a man. He would sooner deny others liberty than allow it to himself. He does not have to die to go to hell, he has arrived.

    Posted by: Dave | Feb 3, 2012 11:39:50 AM

  24. cray

    Posted by: David in NYC | Feb 3, 2012 11:41:07 AM

  25. "To date, there is zero evidence that anyone is born a homosexual" It is because he has not read a book in 20 years. No definite conclusion doesn't mean "there is no evidence".

    Posted by: simon | Feb 3, 2012 11:46:30 AM

  26. 1 2 3 4 »

Post a comment


« «NJ Teen Makes Heartbreaking Plea to Lawmakers to Let Her Gay Dads Marry, 'Be Equal': VIDEO« «