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Preview of Dharun Ravi's '20/20' Interview On Tyler Clementi: VIDEO


Dharun Ravi has been making the media rounds following the guilty verdict for his role in Tyler Clementi's 2010 suicide. First there was his sit-down with Newark's Star-Ledger, and now ABC News is promoting their own interview with Ravi, set to air tomorrow on 20/20.

In addition to saying again that he doesn't dislike gay people, Ravi tells journalist Chris Cuomo that he doesn't ultimately feel responsible for what happened.

"I feel like I was an insignificant part to his life. That’s giving me comfort now," he said, "The more and more I found out, it would be kind of obnoxious of me to think that I could have this profound effect on him." He also argues he couldn't have been the sole factor in Clementi's death: "He had bigger problems in his life," which is most likely true.

Ravi does, however, admit he was in the wrong by transmitting Clementi's gay hookup. "Even though I wasn’t the one who caused him to jump off the bridge, I did do things wrong and I was stupid about a lot of stuff." But he does believe he's been "used" to make an example, telling Cuomo, "I understand why people feel the need to punish me. Bad stuff happens and they need to set an example, but it’s unfortunate this has to be the case where this happens."

Watch a preview of Ravi's interview with ABC News, AFTER THE JUMP

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  1. Not interested in hearing this peeping Tom defend himself.

    Posted by: homer | Mar 22, 2012 11:23:50 PM

  2. let's kill the b**tard

    Posted by: DanSwon | Mar 23, 2012 12:37:59 AM

  3. people's emotions are understandable obviously. but i prefer justice to revenge. also, i think ari waldman's commentary on this was spot on.

    Posted by: daftpunkydavid | Mar 23, 2012 12:56:01 AM

  4. Maybe if the elder 'queens' spent more time reaching out to the fledgling members of the community than having public relations of the balcony of a cruise ships...

    The gay community is reflective of the gay "commun-it-me" of if I don't feel it it's not happening, until I can make it about My experience.

    IMO -- If Tyler had had the support of his 'anonymous' (elder) trick perhaps this situation might have h=taken another turn.. .
    Tyler didn't go his, or the the "center"... He went the the bridge.

    And the greater good of no One has been served.

    Posted by: my2cents | Mar 23, 2012 1:11:08 AM

  5. The only person who's at fault for Tyler Clementi's suicide is himself. I was bullied in school, many people were, but I grew up and got over it. It's not Dharun Ravi's fault that Tyler Clementi was a weak person.

    Posted by: Lucas | Mar 23, 2012 1:41:04 AM

  6. Ah, ABC's 20/20, the show that simply can't wait to interview people convicted of anti-gay crimes so they can share "their side of the story."

    The show that helped Matthew Shepard's killers violate their sentencing agreement "to refrain from talking to any news media organizations" strikes again.

    Posted by: bobbyjoe | Mar 23, 2012 2:26:17 AM

  7. I think it's Ravi's tone & attitude that's so disturbing. He's not remorseful in the least. Does he really admit to doing anything wrong? If he does, he's not specific cuz elsewhere he says that he had to turn the cam on cuz Tyler's hookup was scuzzy-looking & he wanted to protect his stuff.

    He's still spouting the same lies, the same denials, with no remorse at all & a "poor me" 'tude. We're supposed to have sympathy for him? I don't. Have fun in jail for 10 years, Ravi. Maybe he can yawn all he wants & look bored like he did at the trial. Have fun back in India afterwards.

    Did he even try to apologize for his actions to Tyler's parents? Of course not. Arrogant prick.

    Posted by: Swine | Mar 23, 2012 2:46:14 AM

  8. Bad move, Ravi. The time to make these statements was in court.

    As David Boies is fond of saying, it's really easy to make all kinds of claims on TV, but court is a lonely place to lie.

    And that's why he didn't take the stand.

    Posted by: Randy | Mar 23, 2012 3:15:28 AM

  9. By next week he'll have his new boyfriend in tow.

    Posted by: Oliver | Mar 23, 2012 4:28:20 AM

  10. What an arrogant lying cur.
    This superior, confident air of taking comfort that he was "insignificant" in Clementi's life makes me very cross.

    The lack of remorse, the self justification, the failure to be totally mortified that he had a part of some one's tragedy all demonstrates that this is one hell of an unrepentant bigot.
    What he did was unforgivable.
    I think 10 years is what he should get......maybe his arrogance will cool off in that time.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Mar 23, 2012 4:46:23 AM

  11. Clementi killed himself because he felt there was no way that he could solve his problems. Even when he wanted to change rooms, he'd reasoned that he could have ended up with a worse room-mate. To me, this looks like the classic "helpless and hopeless" feeling of someone who is deeply depressed and unable to put their problems in perspective. Unfortuntely, such people, when they get that low, sometimes kill themselves.

    He was a young person, away from home the first term, very vulnerable, and didn't have the right support mechanisms. Also, we are only just starting to realise how toxic the online world we have created for ourselves is. It is cruel and simplistic to say he was "weak", as another commenter has done.

    Ravi was a contributory factor - he became represenative of Clementi's insurmountable problem. I'm guessing that there's a good chance that if Ravi had been a nice guy, Clementi would still be alive today.

    But if Clementi had not died, and instead he'd filed a charge against Ravi, the outcome should have been exactly the same.

    Posted by: Tom Stoppard | Mar 23, 2012 5:58:25 AM

  12. I think Tyler cared and was intimidated, but he had other issues as well. I don't trust micro previews like this because its edited so sharply and the interviewer is literally feeding a perspective into Rhavi.

    I don't think he should get 10 years, 3-4 at the most, but his lack of empathy and accountability is disturbing. Its a trend I see in younger adults and teenagers today.

    There is a "I make decisions in my own my life and it has no effect on others, if it does its because of them" which is true, to an extent. But it shows a marked disassociation from empathy and, hell, even sympathy.

    With Facebook and twitter and other social devices our culture (America especially) has fallen into and consensus of approved narcissism.

    I think this is why Rhavi did what he did and feels the way that he did, that what he did was just for fun and it had no real impact on Tyler, but the extent that he tried to cover what he did and what he said on twitter and Facebook shows that he knows what his actions say and imply, even though he says otherwise.

    That was the evidence that told me that yeah, he is a stupid kid, but Tyler being gay did play a part in him trying to use spying as a way to make himself popular.

    Posted by: Alexx | Mar 23, 2012 5:58:40 AM

  13. The point is that this idiot does not appreciate the magnitude of his delinquent action.
    He shows no grasp of what he has done.
    Never was the phrase "motiveless malignity" more aptly applied.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Mar 23, 2012 6:44:03 AM

  14. Just like there were surely other problems in Clementi's life contributing to his decision to jump off that bridge, I have no doubt there were ALSO other actions by Ravi and his circle of friends which contributed to Clementi's feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and shame.

    Such actions most likely included mocking, spreading rumors, teasing, etc... all of which can be much more devastating in confines of a dorm/roommate situation where the victim's "home" is not a safe place and offers no real privacy.

    Clementi was essentially unable to escape his tormentor, who was provided 24/7 access to the victim. And that's why I agree 100% with the guilty verdict.

    Posted by: sparks | Mar 23, 2012 7:13:02 AM

  15. After reading all the comments, I'm almost embarassed to be a gay man. Does anyone here have objectivity? Thank God you people weren't on the jury - you'd have issued the death penalty. Is it possible for you to take your own pro-gay bias out of the equation.

    Yeah, being gay is this BIG stigma and everyone is shocked and horrified by it in such a rural backwards place like New Jersey. Come on. This is college. Kids of all sexuality, race, gender, etc. go thru so much worse in college. And a very small percentage commit suicide. Yes, it's awful. And I'm not saying either roommate wouldn't be an immature jerk or trying to cause trouble. But prison? If Tyler hadn't killed himself, this would be a non-issue.

    But he did. Over something that would have been a NON-ISSUE. So if it would be a non-issue if he had lived, why is it suddenly an issue because he committed suicide? Obviously there's a major missing piece to this puzzle - and it lies with Tyler and his mental state.

    I think the fact that this went to trial, let alone a possible prison sentance, sends such an awful message to the world. That gay men are so fragile and unstable that what would be a normal college prank can push us all over the edge. So, oooooh, walk on eggshells around that uber-sensitive gay boy over there. He could jump at any minute!

    You know who this really hurts? The people who REALLY are bullied. Who are physically and mentally abused on a regular basis. There are people out there who would gladly trade places with a boy who was seen kissing another guy on a webcam by 5 people.

    Two more things. We know that Tyler left a suicide note and that the police haven't released it because "it had no bearing on the case". If that's true, then why has this even gone to trial? Tyler is so devastated and traumatized by Ravi's actions that he's going to kill himself, but not mention it in his suicide note? Ridiculous.

    And why isn't anyone talking about this weirdo he was dating and/or sleeping with? First, how fragile and closetted does anyone think Tyler is if he's meeting a guy online and inviting him to his dorm on campus?? And, does no one think its weird that this MB guy was 12 years older than the 18 year old Tyler? Yeah, 30 years old and NOT OUT. Not even after his boyfriend (or whatever Tyler was to him) committed suicide. Something's fishy there. He says he never knew Tyler's last name. And that even though they texted constantly, he didn't know Tyler had committed suicide until the news reports. But wasn't curious what happened when he stopped getting texts?

    Theres no proof of this, but I think this MB is the key to the case. He either dumped Tyler when he found out about the webcam or he blamed him or went off on him or something. Hes hiding something.

    We know Tyler was out, despite the person here saying he wasn't. He's having a 30 year old guy come to school to spend time alone with him in his dorm room three times in one week. Trust me, everyone knew he was gay.

    Posted by: NJGuy | Mar 23, 2012 7:18:37 AM

  16. @ALEXX. Back in the good old days, kids were respectful, right?

    Posted by: kai | Mar 23, 2012 7:49:10 AM

  17. He made a texts saying "GAYS ARE NOT WELCOMED HERE" in regards to finding out he has a gay roomate.

    Let's switch that scenario:

    "BLACKS ARE NOT WELCOMED HERE" Ravi wrote upon finding out he would have a black roomate, who he made fun of for being black on twitter, and text messaging, and taped having intimacy in an interracial pairing, to which the black roomate expressed sadness and frustration over and took their own life shortly after.

    Now imagine the outrage regarding the above scenario and how 85% of society would want his head cut off. He did it to a gay kid, expressed disdain for his being gay, and is now considered an INNOCENT MARTYR by a great many.

    Yes folks, homophobia is alive and well (even though our gay kids are dying and unwell as a result of it)

    Posted by: Armond J. | Mar 23, 2012 7:50:01 AM

  18. You want to know the REAL tragedy in all this? That every single interview he's given indicates he doesn't believe he did a thing wrong, has no remorse, and believes HE is the one being victimized here. That is the real narative of this entire tragedy for me, and speaks volumes on the kind of soul this kid has when cameras aren't on him. He's guilty in every sense, but most of which for being so unapologetic about his own actions.

    Posted by: Kyle-ATL | Mar 23, 2012 7:53:46 AM

  19. Anyone defending him, or trying to make a martyr out of him, or downplaying his role in this need to seriously step back and do some soul searching, and evaluate their disdain for gays. I truly believe that those who can actually empathize with this guy, knowing all the facts of this story, need to ask themselves why they take issue with gay people.

    Posted by: Michelle | Mar 23, 2012 7:55:25 AM

  20. The most fascinating and tragic thing regarding every story that involved a gay individual targetted by way of homophobia is somehow, someway it is ALWAYS twisted into blaimg the gay, and justifying the homophobic actions of the accuser.

    *Matthew Shepered's senseless killing was spun into him being a druggie who was coming on to his accussers (false, and confirmed as a false speculation by the investigators, but that sure didn't stop the homophobes)

    *Larry King child shot in the back of his head after relentless bullying in school. He was painted as over the top, obnoxious, coming on to his cold blood killer and making the killer feel uncomfortable (false, and a twisted spin on the facts)

    *Tyler Clementi painted as some mentally disturbed, nutcase who was going to commit suicide either way, and his killer was simply a fun loving kid just having fun, being a kid, and Tyler was weak and couldn't handle a prank. Even though his roomate made his discomfort with gays obvious

    Notice a pattern with EVERY single high profile tragic case involving the death of a gay person? by the end of the twisting and spinning, the homophobe is the victim and the gay person "had it coming"

    Posted by: Dynex5 | Mar 23, 2012 8:01:35 AM

  21. Shame on anyone who tries to "hetero wash" this case and erase the known, factual, and obvious elements of homophobia involved. How calculating can you be? Tyler expressed his observations of homophobia in that dorm. Ravi expressed his own homophobia via twitter, texting. Ravi's friend Molly confirmed Ravi did have resent over Tyler being gay. Homophobia is the consistent theme of this case, and shame on anyone who pretends it's not there.

    Posted by: USC Trojan Fan | Mar 23, 2012 8:04:59 AM

  22. Dharun Ravi is not a good person. That's really all I have to say, really all that needs to be said. He is a bad person, he has zero remorse for what he did, and has proven himself as not willing to take any responsibility for his actions. Even people who have been defending him readily can see that Dharun is a very cold, arrogant, jerk. This PR blitz done in an attempt to rehabilitate is public image will CRASH AND BURN for Dharun because he simply does not have the personality people are going to rally behind. It's pathetic at this point. What's important is that the jury saw threw him and he's not gonna get away with what he did to Tyler. That's ultimately what matters here.

    Posted by: Francis | Mar 23, 2012 8:08:06 AM

  23. DYNEX5 gets it!

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Mar 23, 2012 8:10:24 AM

  24. He's a sociopath. Someone who doesn't accept responsibility for his actions, lies about his motives, has very little sympathy for the victim and then plays victim himself...yep, sociopath. He should just join Fox and be done with it.

    Posted by: woodroad34d | Mar 23, 2012 8:22:34 AM

  25. WHO is that doing the interview? It that his defense attorney?
    Sure sounds like it.

    Posted by: MarkUs | Mar 23, 2012 8:38:35 AM

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