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Second Activist Finds Illusory 'Ex-Gay Therapy' At Marcus Bachmann Clinic

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Oh, snap! Marcus Bachmann's "counseling centers" in Minnesota have again been exposed as anti-gay Christian proselytizing centers that try to "convert" gay people to heterosexuality.

The clinics came under intense scrutiny last year when Truth Wins Out journalist John M. Becker went undercover and later wrote about how counselors tried to steer him toward Christianity and shame him for same-sex desire. Well now there's another undercover report hitting the figurative streets.

Kristina Lapinski, a colleague of lesbian filmmaker Melanie Nathan, recently paid the clinic a visit and pretended to be struggling with her innate desires and a fabricated engagement. The duo posted their results on Nathan's website, Gay U.S.A.

I told [counselor Sheila J. Marker] I had been with a woman, and found that to be true love.  I made my uncertainty clear, that I had two options either to go through with the marriage or to refrain because I thought I was a lesbian.

She asked me if I had slept with my fiancé and I told her that I had not yet and that I was not attracted him. She said “how can you know how it will be until you try?”

She asked if I believed in God, and I answered, “yes.”  She pulled out a bible, handed it to me and asked me to read a passage out loud. It was about love, and then she asked me to analyze it with her. We talked about love and commitment, and even though I have never been attracted to my fiancé, the commitment, she noted, was a form of love.

She told me to follow God’s road. “The bible says one man one woman… two great halves come together….” and then spoke to some extent about a woman’s duty to keep the man company… I found that oddly sexist.

She then went on to convince me about what was right and never ever explored the option that I could possibly in fact be a lesbian. She told me the commitment part was important and the love part would grow over time.

That's the same kind of mentality behind arranged marriages: enough time with one person will breed romance, love and respect. Anyone who has ever been in an unhappy relationship can tell you that's not the case.

Lapinski's misadventure will soon chronicled in Nathan's forthcoming documentary, Gay U.S.A: The Movie. Hopefully someone will send the Bachmanns an advanced copy.

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  1. ERIKA: Given that I am in a long-term, monogamous relationship with my partner of nearly 25 years, I'd say that "open ended" hardly describes my feelings about commitment.

    The description of the young woman is of someone in conflict. A responsible therapist helps the client explore all sides of an issue. Even if dealing with someone with a substance abuse problem - clearly harmful to self - one does more than just say, "don't do it." One explores pros and cons, pluses and minuses, with the hope that despite the benefits one gets from the substances (e.g., escape, pain relief, social lubrication), the person will eventually choose to take better care of themselves. The therapist in this case did not walk alongside the client. She pushed an agenda. One that was not about choosing what's best for that person. One that was about an ideology, that she should get married to someone of the opposite sex. Even if the woman ultimately decided to go through with the marriage, helping the client be sure she was comfortable with the decision to suppress her sexual orientation til death they do part would be in order. But maybe, expecting a Christian Counselor to be client-centered is ultimately beside the point. Maybe it should be understood from the beginning that what the client wants or needs is irrelevant. Maybe "Christian Counselor" is an oxymoron.

    As for commitment, many pastors provide pre-marital counseling prior to performing the marriage service with the idea of making sure he couple knows what they are getting into. Many might even suggest, once they get to know the couple, that they aren't ready or aren't compatible. Imagine! They don't put the verbal "commitment" of saying yes to "will you marry me?" above the living commitment of marriage! Because keeping your word ought to include making sure you are ready to give it.

    Perhaps you are so defensive because the fact that your mother pushed heterosexual marriage as the right thing to do rather than really trying to understand the client makes you uncomfortable. What does that mean regarding her acceptance of you?

    Posted by: TJ | Apr 12, 2012 8:23:20 PM


  2. I have never found a Biblical passage opposing female homosexual relations. Perhaps it is because at its core the Bible is a cultural document and the thought that women would be interested in other women would not have occurred to the book's paternalistic writers.

    Posted by: Chris | Apr 12, 2012 9:25:00 PM


  3. @ Erika Thanks for trying to answer my questions. Let's not quibble over vocabulary.

    Why do I ask? Seems to me many in the gay community would find it very interesting to learn Bachmann knowingly employs a counselor with an lesbian daughter. To have been able to introduce your girlfriend to Bachmann & Associates as 'my girlfriend' would indeed have been an exceptionally impressive indication of your passion for "the cause."

    And yes, I have enjoyed a social and sexually honest relationship with my mom's employer. She's retired now but many of her former co-workers are dear friends of the family. It can happen. Peace.

    Posted by: Roger | Apr 12, 2012 10:16:04 PM


  4. Erika...you sound like a mess and apologist. Please stop pretending to be "passionate" about the cause. we'd rather not have people like you who play both sides on OUR side. Stay in your own lane.

    Posted by: IonMovies | Apr 13, 2012 1:43:00 AM


  5. Oh Erika, we in minneapolis know how much of a violent and abusive drunk you can be to your girlfriends (I have witnessed the violence towards and ex first hand). Seriously , for this Sheila person to call herself a therapist is fraudulent. Erika you and your mother are frauds. No one who attempts to change people's innate being should ever be called a legitimate counselor or therapist. I am sure your mother and father's unconditional love and support for you as a gay teenager had no impact on your drug and alcohol problems?!?!
    Such ignorance and denial.
    People, take Sheila and Erika's comments with a grain of salt, if they are even worth that much.

    Posted by: Nadda | Apr 13, 2012 10:56:47 AM


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