Prop 8 Proponent David Blankenhorn: 'The Time Has Come for Me to Accept Gay Marriage'

Prop 8 proponent and witness and director of the Institute for American Values David Blankenhorn made waves in April when he came out against North Carolina's Amendment One. Today, in a NYT editorial, Blankenhorn writes "the time has come for me , to accept gay marriage and emphasize the good that it can do," and explains why:

BlankenhornFor me, the most important is the equal dignity of homosexual love. I don’t believe that opposite-sex and same-sex relationships are the same, but I do believe, with growing numbers of Americans, that the time for denigrating or stigmatizing same-sex relationships is over. Whatever one’s definition of marriage, legally recognizing gay and lesbian couples and their children is a victory for basic fairness.

Another good thing is comity. Surely we must live together with some degree of mutual acceptance, even if doing so involves compromise. Sticking to one’s position no matter what can be a virtue. But bending the knee a bit, in the name of comity, is not always the same as weakness. As I look at what our society needs most today, I have no stomach for what we often too glibly call “culture wars.” Especially on this issue, I’m more interested in conciliation than in further fighting.

A third good thing is respect for an emerging consensus. The population as a whole remains deeply divided, but most of our national elites, as well as most younger Americans, favor gay marriage. This emerging consensus may be wrong on the merits. But surely it matters.

Check out the whole op-ed HERE.

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  1. So many gays. So much Stockholm Syndrome.

    Blankenhorn is not advocating Marriage Equality. He is not repudiating his bigoted views. He does not deserve admiration.

    We can be glad that he's giving up. But no debt of gratitude should be incurred. And always be wary.

    Posted by: Love Me, Beat Me | Jun 22, 2012 6:42:42 PM

  2. OK, he may still believe what he believes but he's stepping out of the way, which is the real point here. That's a huge step when you consider the amount of money and time that went to his cause before. He's making it less difficult for same sex couples to marry and raise families when preventing it before. Should gay couples not want to marry now because he doesn't really believe it?

    Posted by: Tim | Jun 22, 2012 7:22:06 PM

  3. David & I went to school together as kids. He was a self important and pompous windbag back then and he still is. He still considers himself smarter than anyone else. I suppose he is. He managed to pay himself tons of money while bilking people for donations. At least that is how it seems to me.

    Posted by: Larry | Jun 22, 2012 8:01:19 PM

  4. this is welcome news. indeed, very welcome. step by step...

    Posted by: daftpunkydavid | Jun 22, 2012 9:22:31 PM

  5. If you don't think he's changed, then please show me previous statements in support of "the dignity of homosexual love", or how gay marriage is a "victory for basic fairness".

    This statement may not meet your approval - but it's going to cost him funding, followers, and maybe even friendships. And he knows it. He didn't have to write on op-ed piece. But he used it to explain how he got from where he was to his current position. It may seem like an insignificant move forward to you, but to his tribe this is revolutionary.

    He just might show some how to reason themselves out of their current all-or-nothing position.

    Posted by: Gerald B | Jun 23, 2012 3:40:51 PM

  6. I don't know what to make of Blankenhorn's change of views. He is a social conservative, as I am, and I suppose I should assume he's sincere. But truthfully he's all over the place in this piece. He seems to be saying that gay love deserves dignity and respect and yet that gay relationships are somehow inferior socio-culturally. He thinks that the anti-gay marriage position still has "merits" but that we should abandon fighting for it because support for gay marriage seems to be the wave of the future. We can easily see why people question whether the motive for his change is finances or convenience as a scholar/writer.

    There is no doubt that many of us on the cutlural right have become more sympathetic to gay rights over time as we learn more about actual gay people and their stories and deal less with an abstract "gay community." Also, it is hard to argue against LGBT families that in most cases are far more "traditional" in actual daily living than tons of "conservative" families that are falling apart.

    Also, Blankenhorn must be admitting what every social conservative knows in his heart - all political policy involves risk. There is no way to be sure what the correct decision is. It could very well be that gay marriage will end up having a relatively small effect on society as a whole. In this case support for it is a move toward justice - one that future historians will praise us for.

    But you must all find it hilariously funny that so many people who were against gay marriage are now coming out in favor of it! And there must be even more who are shifting their views in private. This should be a happy time for you!

    Posted by: Mary | Jun 23, 2012 4:01:54 PM

  7. Blankenhorn is a liberal who, to my knowledge, has supported just about every move for gay equality *except* marriage. In the space of a couple of years, he has gone from opposing to supporting same-sex marriage. Isn't he basically doing what Obama did?

    Posted by: David L Rattigan | Jun 24, 2012 10:38:34 AM

  8. So the head of the Flat Earth Society concedes--just paerhaps--those Copernicus and Galileo dudes mighta knew what they was talking bout yeh?

    But that doesn't mean he's gonna close down the fancy & lucrative Institute, population 1: 'cuz I mean, he's IAV's one and onlyeeeee..

    (Tough to find a job these days)

    Posted by: cwm | Jun 24, 2012 6:51:13 PM

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