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'Nightline' Interviews Gay Mormon Josh Weed, Happily Married to a Woman: VIDEO


Several weeks ago Brandon posted about Josh Weed, a gay relationship therapist Mormon happily married to a woman, after Weed came out to readers on his blog:

Some might assume that because I’m married to a woman, I must be bisexual. This would be true if sexual orientation was defined by sexual experience. Heck, if sexual orientation were defined by sexual experience, I would be as straight as the day is long even though I’ve never been turned on by a Victoria’s Secret commercial in my entire life. Sexual orientation is defined by attraction, not by experience. In my case, I am attracted sexually to men. Period. Yet my marriage is wonderful, and Lolly and I have an extremely healthy and robust sex life. How can this be?

Shortly thereafter, there were charges that Weed practices "ex-gay" therapy, accusations which Weed strongly denied.

I do not practice, nor do I believe in, reparative therapy or change therapy. Quite the opposite, my therapeutic stance is one that favors (but does not depend on) the idea that sexual orientation is immutable.

My therapeutic approach is to meet clients where they are--wherever that might be--and then help them to analyze the goals and aspirations that they have for their own life.

This week, Weed and his wife were interviewed on Nightline.


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  1. He is a lying sack of fecal matter.

    Of course he is an ex-gay therapist. The place he works for also has clear ties to Evergreen - the official Mormon ex-gay organization. He is just a bit more sophisticated than the reparative therapy crowd. Instead of turning people straight, he tells them that they can't develop a gay identity and that they have to be either celibate or marry someone of the opposite sex. That's only marginally better and equally damaging.

    And contrary to his lame and unconvincing protestations, he is held up by other Mor(m)ons as a shining example. Parents are already asking their gay kids why they can't be like him. He deserves every bit of scorn he gets.

    Posted by: Steve | Jul 20, 2012 7:13:16 PM

  2. I have no idea what his genuine motivations are, but he sounds like he has deluded himself. And it really concerns me that he is a therapist.

    Ugh, they need to just go away. Live in a quasi-closet if you want, but just go away.

    Posted by: brandon h | Jul 20, 2012 7:17:01 PM

  3. He has Bachman crazy eyes in that picture.

    Posted by: Polyboy | Jul 20, 2012 7:25:39 PM

  4. Steve gets it!

    And yes, brandon -- he should just go away. But he won't alas.

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Jul 20, 2012 7:26:03 PM

  5. He is bisexual. If you are only attracted to men and 100% gay, then you find the women's nether regions to be a complete turn off and unnatural. I wouldn't even be able to get an erection if I was with a woman.

    Posted by: Aiden Raccoon | Jul 20, 2012 7:26:10 PM

  6. You mean hot robust 'lesbian sex'...

    I'm kinda reminded of the time when I met a gay couple who were both TOTAL bottoms and asked my myself (after asking myself WHY!?!?!) HOW? How can this work?

    Maybe they (like this mormon heathen) just finger each other and call it 'robust' ... maybe its robust 'fingering'... now I get it.

    BTW this is story is bull, I heard that this guy is getting paid by the church to do this charade on BEHALF of the church. They do pay a lot of mormon airheads to put their ugly faces out there (on youtube for example) to peddle and excuse the teachings of this anti-american mosanic racist church.

    This guy is not only a swindler and a weasel but totally a danger to some gays who still think pounding vagina AND LIKING IT is very much in reach, which means that these freaks do not care about their female partners and are only in it *to prove something that they are not* using and abusing these women to satisfy a sick mormon fantasy and to continue this idolatry of vaginal sex which has lead to lust rather than actual loving relationships where you are fully 100% sexually and romantically attracted to one another. What a complete joke and farce to the human race this guy is.

    Posted by: Jose S | Jul 20, 2012 7:28:30 PM

  7. I'm disturbed by his wife. She said something like, I feel so special that he would give up a core part of his life for me. The question should then be, why are you so selfish that you want your husband to live his entire life as a lie, just to please you? She's obviously too terrified to be intimate with a heterosexual man. That would require real intimacy and real sexual feelings. Thanks to the Mormon church, they're both damaged goods. Who knows how many lives they're going to destroy, just because they wanted to appease their God. Which makes me wonder why God would bother making gay people if he wants them all to pretend to be straight. What would be the point?

    Posted by: David in Houston | Jul 20, 2012 7:38:42 PM

  8. If you're not sexually attracted to women, Josh, then why are you married to one? Why not let her get married to someone that isn't picturing Brad Pitt's face instead of hers every time they have sex?

    You know who else sleeps with people they aren't attracted to? Prostitutes.

    At least prostitutes are honest about doing it for money, and don't enter into a sham marriage to further the Mormon church's anti-gay agenda.

    Posted by: FuryOfFirestorm | Jul 20, 2012 7:47:52 PM

  9. "His parents were accepting" which is why he -- and they -- never revealed his secret to any other living soul FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS except his current wife.

    Yeah, that's real "accepting".

    Posted by: BobN | Jul 20, 2012 7:49:44 PM

  10. He's not gay. He may be a homosexual, but he has said he has never kissed a man.

    I would feel sorry for him, but anyone involved in the ex-gay scam deserve to rot in hell for the misery and deaths that result from that "therapy."

    Posted by: homer | Jul 20, 2012 7:57:22 PM

  11. How about we get a straight guy (an actual one, not one of the fake ones from porn sites) to marry a gay guy and go on TV saying how happy he is?

    Two can play that game, Josh.

    Posted by: FuryOfFirestorm | Jul 20, 2012 8:01:40 PM

  12. The Boys in the Band. As has been said about others, he hates who and what he is. He does not want to be a Homosexual, but he is.

    Posted by: Sargon Bighorn | Jul 20, 2012 8:11:49 PM

  13. This story is rather grotesque. Of course the Moron "Church" is involved. I have nothing against Mormons, and have met quite a number of reasonable, worldly Mormons who, much like decent, sane Christians, can operate in the real world and live a fulfilling life within their faith without beating the rest of us over the head with it.

    This story breaks down in a number of ways but here's the part that kills me: "Lolly and I have an extremely healthy and robust sex life." No, no you don't. That's where it all breaks down. I could honestly, completely live with some self-loathing, religious nut job who said much of what this moron tool says. "Hey, my religion is paramount, I get that I'm gay, but I don't think it's "God's" way, so I'm married to a woman, I have kids [procreation good] and I don't act on my gay feelings." Well, bully for you, knock yourself out. That doesn't affect me and I don't care. But when you say all these things and then move on to this Moron BS, obviously, a sad, sick ruse.

    Enough publicity for this garbage. Religion is a choice, go with "God" or whatever belief works for you, but do not use it as an excuse to deny American citizens equal rights. You have no right to do that.

    Posted by: SoLeftImRight | Jul 20, 2012 8:14:44 PM

  14. As a formerly married man with two grown children, who has now been in a 22 year gay relationship, let me give this gentleman some advice. Don't presume to know what is best for others. You are desparately confused, and are in a state of denial. I hope you can get help. You have no business offering help to others when you are so obviously confused yourself.

    Posted by: candideinnc | Jul 20, 2012 8:19:56 PM

  15. He's MORMON. That IS conversion therapy

    Posted by: utopia | Jul 20, 2012 8:19:58 PM

  16. He's MORMON. That IS conversion therapy

    Posted by: utopia | Jul 20, 2012 8:20:04 PM

  17. As if his Mormon faith has nothing to do with this outcome?....C'mon now

    Posted by: Real Talk | Jul 20, 2012 8:20:33 PM

  18. If he was part of the Mormon Church....he's been practicing reparitive therapy to change his sexuality since birth. That church, it's teachings, it's practices and everything it conducts is all geared toward a gay person changing their sexuality to straight. So let's be honest with ourselves here

    Posted by: Mark Jenkins | Jul 20, 2012 8:22:29 PM

  19. So why is he doing the media rounds? Why is he going for big time media outlets to tell his story of "being a gay man married to a women" other than to suggest "YOU CAN TOO!" and give ammunition to homophobic hate mongers.

    Mormon Church plant? I think so.

    Posted by: Rachel | Jul 20, 2012 8:23:49 PM

  20. Josh Weed is correct when he says that sexual orientation is defined by your feelings and not your behavior. In most of us, our feelings translate directly to behavior which reflects those feelings. In some of us, it doesn't. Josh appears to be one of the latter.

    Maybe he has this super-attraction to his wife's personality which translates into sexual arousal that enables him to have sex with her.

    Posted by: jason | Jul 20, 2012 8:25:31 PM

  21. Clearly a prop orchestrated by the Mormon church to promote anti gay bigotry. This is their NEW spin on converting our sexualities. They lost with the ex-gay movement so now they'll pitch this in an attempt to A.) sell the idea that any gay person can be in a "loving" committed straight relationship.
    B.) If we REALLY want marriage, there's a straight partner for us to get married to without needing to "Redefine" the word

    It's all well organized by the caluclating Church. Don't ever be foolish to think anything they do is sincere, especially when they do it in front of cameras.

    Posted by: MusicFantastic | Jul 20, 2012 8:26:01 PM

  22. Imagine if the ABC show featured a "straight" man who has happily married to a guy and they had a very active sex life. Until things cut both ways, there is a not-so-subtle message that "gay is not completely okay"

    Posted by: Joe in SF | Jul 20, 2012 8:27:21 PM


    I have something to tell you....

    Posted by: Marky | Jul 20, 2012 8:39:41 PM

  24. He has gay porn on his phone and when he is in the bathroom he MOST definitely is jacking off to it

    I am laughing at this so much, but its SO SAD, the last 25 seconds of this video says it all, listen to that sputtering.

    But he at least has his eyes wide open and not pretending to be straight so..

    The best line is when she said i am really the only woman he wants LOL!!!!

    Posted by: Marky | Jul 20, 2012 8:44:45 PM

  25. He's not gay, he's not gay, for the 1000th time, HE'S NOT GAY! Gay men DO NOT live "happily" as straight people; only STRAIGHT people do. To hell with the bisexual theory, to hell with his nonsense, to hell with him for all I care, HE'S STRAIGHT! Oh sure, he's a huge pansy, but so what? JUST BECAUSE you're a guy and a pansy doesn't mean you're gay.

    Posted by: Matt | Jul 20, 2012 8:52:12 PM

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