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Rupert Everett Tells Young Gay Actors to Stay in the Closet: VIDEO


Repeating a message he's been telling the media for years, actor Rupert Everett talks to BBC's Hardtalk and says that he would not advise any gay actor to come out of the closet because they will be discriminated against in Hollywood.

The interviewer points out Matt Bomer and suggests that maybe Everett's problem with getting roles is his own checkered past.

Replies Everett: "Who's to know? I don't think so."

Everett also tells the interviewer he spent his 20's terrified of AIDS.


On his promiscuity and terror of AIDS:

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  1. When you look up "bitter old queen" (BTW, I'm Rupert's age) in the dictionary, it's accompanied by a photo of Mr. Everett.

    Posted by: Mark Alexander | Jan 14, 2013 2:03:07 PM

  2. You can't really equate Everett's coming out with that of NPH or Matt Bomer. Everett's experience happened in the late 80's/90's, a far different time than contemporary Hollywood/America. Everett's type was more of a 'leading man' type and not so much a character type so that made his success as an openly gay man at that time a lot less likely, which probably also contributed to his bitterness about it all, understandably so. It's also a bit unfortunate for him that he got typecast by his previous roles as a go-to gay character. It's not surprising that he still to this day recommends against an actor coming out publicly. He feels burned by his own experience and can't see past other contributing factors like his inability to not run his mouth about everything, which just as likely contributed to his lack of success as an openly gay actor. As someone who works in casting in Hollywood (for commercials though, not for Theatrical), I can definitely understand where he's coming from, because I see the anti-gay prejudice almost everytime I'm running a callback. I can't tell you how often the supposition that an actor/actress might be gay or comes across looking even the slightest bit 'gay' has kept the client/ad agency types from considering that person for even the most innane role in a commercial, like the guy who just holds the door open for someone. It's beyond frustrating for me to watch happen. Half the time, this discussion will still happen even when I know for a fact the actor/actress is straight. Of course this is all just the world/business of advertising, but I know it's not all that different yet for the TV/Film world. I'm not saying I agree at all with Everett's advice that no actor ever come out, because I still think it's entirely possible to do successfully, especially in today's changing opinions. I just think we as gay fans should be a lot less armchair quarterback critical and catty about the decision of an actor to come out or not to come out. It's an individual choice and whether we want to acknowledge it or not, the actor's livelihood could definitely be affected by that decision, and thusly it is their decision and we should all respect it.

    Posted by: Gary A | Jan 14, 2013 2:11:05 PM

  3. He really sets things back years does he not?
    Good on all the actors that have "come out" in recent years. Just might make some "straight" people realize that we are all human after all. Rupert you need to go back in the closet & stay there. Sad lonely washed up actor.

    Posted by: John | Jan 14, 2013 2:11:25 PM

  4. @Gary A

    Good point, especially as I am bitter that Matt Bomer is a natural shoo-in for Fifty Shades of Grey, but it seems to be going to Thor, a hetero!

    Posted by: iban4yesu | Jan 14, 2013 2:26:44 PM

  5. @Ted B. I agree. The celebrities mentioned have established their careers before they ‘came out’. Let us see how it plays out for those that are just starting out, Chris Colfer for example.

    The ‘test’ of progress will be when they try to move outside their current roles. Nevertheless, let’s go back to Matt Bomer. It has been reported that he was not considered for the role of Superman because of the very issue that we are discussing.

    Additionally, I recently watched Chely Wright’s documentary, “Wish Me Away” – excellent by the way. This topic was the focus of the Doc. No one can deny her talent. Nevertheless, after coming-out, she has not been invited to any Country Music Awards or functions and her airtime on the radio is limited or nonexistent. As a song writer in the doc said, there won’t be fire & brimstone, but they will quietly “ice” her out, which is exactly what happened. She did not regret her decision.

    With that being said, I believe it should be a decision based on personal circumstances. I would not advise someone ‘not’ to come-out, but would hope they are emotionally and financially prepared for the possible consequences and limitations to their career – as discussed in the Doc.

    Posted by: Bethazar | Jan 14, 2013 2:27:05 PM

  6. iban4yesu; Oh please, let Matt far away of that crap, fifty shades of grey is probably one of the worst novels right now. I don't care if it's popular, there are fanfiction better than that crap and if i was an actor i wouldn't play that role even if they pay me millions

    Posted by: jjose712 | Jan 14, 2013 2:35:05 PM

  7. the only way to change this culture he's complaining about is for more of us, all of us, to Come Out.

    it's only hard when so few stand up to be counted. want things to get better? stand in solidarity.

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Jan 14, 2013 2:36:45 PM

  8. lets wait and see how much of a career Matt Bomer will have after White Collar.

    Posted by: aki | Jan 14, 2013 2:45:57 PM

  9. I don't recognize him at all. I would not have been able to guess that is him with a gun to my head.

    Posted by: AJ | Jan 14, 2013 2:49:05 PM

  10. I'd rather hear Rupert Everett stick to his opinions and ideas based upon his personal experiences than have another individual be forced into stating what is politically correct currently in order to placate a bunch of whiny, self-entitled people who buy into whatever they are told they must think in order to be accepted and tolerated. To claim he has no talent and reduce him to a soundbite of apparent bitterness is just ageist and silly. There is so much self-loathing in ageism that it really strikes me as absurd when so many gay men are full of it.

    Posted by: AlexN | Jan 14, 2013 2:49:31 PM

  11. That's funny. Speaking of staying in things, I was just thinking Rupert Everett should have stayed in the last millennium, where he belongs.

    Posted by: Ryan | Jan 14, 2013 2:49:52 PM

  12. I feel sorry for Mr Everett. He must really hate himself.

    Posted by: JerzeeMike | Jan 14, 2013 2:51:42 PM

  13. He should be warning young gay actors to stay away from his cosmetic surgeon.

    Posted by: ChristopherM | Jan 14, 2013 3:04:46 PM

  14. @ ALEXN: Hear, hear!

    Posted by: RC | Jan 14, 2013 3:17:09 PM

  15. I'd be bitter too if I'd morphed from a handsome guy into Mel Gibson's ugly older brother.

    And being scared of AIDS in the 80s after being promiscuous? Wow, what a novel experience.

    Posted by: Paul R | Jan 14, 2013 3:20:20 PM

  16. Bitter party of one ...

    Posted by: David C. | Jan 14, 2013 3:22:49 PM

  17. Stating that gay actors playing straight roles is a sign of a better time is erroneous, gay actors have been doing that forever. We are in an era when the screen is still ruled by and for heterosexuals. Heterosexuals feel that gay roles are merely for their titillation. It's very well known how straight men feel about watching two women get it on but they don't want to hear about that lesbian sh*t. Same with straight women. On some film forums I participated in over the past few years, there were women who would go on orgasmically about man on man scenes in certain films, then hysterically do a homo hating rant if someone mentioned gay marriage or rights issues. So clearly, the current situation is peaches and cream as long as it's an umbrella situation aimed at pleasing straights - like if a gay actor was mentioned in a film forum, the straight women would only want to know if there were any sex scenes of him or if he did any porno. On the reverse side about gay roles in cinema, we seem to be in the "Charlie Chan" era where serious Asian roles were played by while people. This went on well into the 1960s because it was felt mainstream audiences could not tolerate real Asians. I get the impression nowadays that in the same way the idea of a gay actor playing a gay role would make numerous heads in Hollywood (and elsewhere) explode.

    Posted by: RC | Jan 14, 2013 3:53:09 PM

  18. What is most bothersome about his advice is his assumption that the most valuable thing in life is one's career and ambition. When you're young it's easy and excusable to think that way, but usually as you mature you start to realize that the impact you have on other people is much more important than any fame, money, success, etc. that accrues to you personally. Be honest and diligent and kind and you'll live a good life.

    Posted by: Stefan | Jan 14, 2013 4:03:29 PM

  19. As for heterosexuals dominating the culture in Hollywood and in the rest of society. I hate to be too blunt about it, but even the most optimistic statistics put the percentage of the population that identifies as homosexual at 5 to 10 percent. Obviously that's ignoring the whole idea of sexuality as a spectrum, but for self-identification people are still predominantly gay *or* straight. It only makes sense, unfortunately, that the heterosexual perception of gay people is what will translate to what and who we see on screen. It's a fact of life for any minority group with relatively limited purchasing power when compared to the general population.

    Posted by: Stefan | Jan 14, 2013 4:15:01 PM

  20. Bitter because 20 years ago when he was acting, this was true.

    Posted by: topdawgbombadil | Jan 14, 2013 4:21:37 PM

  21. He is so bitter! My only comment is, Rupert, you are no Matt Bomer talent wise nor looks wise. Matt Bomer will have a long prosperous career based on his talent, classy behavior, and looks.

    Posted by: Jensen | Jan 14, 2013 4:48:43 PM

  22. This queen just needs to stop.
    He should just accept the fact that his failure in the industry is not because of his sexual preference but his utter lack of acting chops.
    He's really Narcissus reincarnate, only without anything worthy to be fixated on.

    Posted by: gayalltheway | Jan 14, 2013 5:16:16 PM

  23. Another thing nobody has mentioned is that when he came out, he admitted to having been a prostitute to support himself. An admission like that could have slowed down, if not stopped, the career of even an attractive, female, heterosexual starlet.

    Posted by: EchtKultig | Jan 14, 2013 5:22:08 PM

  24. I think he wanted to have Hugh Grant's career- and he has to blame it on something.

    Posted by: jaragon | Jan 14, 2013 5:39:37 PM

  25. Yes, Neil Patrick Harris and Matt Bomer are out but only on the condition that they play straight. Same as the guy from The Big Bang Theory. Therefore, I'd say that Rupert Everett is correct in a general sense when he accuses Hollywood of homophobia.

    In terms of mass marketing of a male actor, Hollywood won't allow the idea of homosexuality to come into the picture. It would interfere with its marketing towards women, who require that a man be completely heterosexual. This is how Hollywood has sold romance to millions of women through nearly 100 hundred years of its existence.

    Yes, Hollywood HAS changed since those dark early years. However, it has only changed as far as society (ie men and women) have allowed it. The concept of male homosexuality is still considered to be weed killer on a career if you're attempting to market yourself to the masses as opposed to small sections.

    Posted by: stephen lucas | Jan 14, 2013 5:39:58 PM

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