1. Drew Jollard says

    I’ve really come to the conclusion that the most tangible way in creating effective change for LGBT lies in…..our hands. And truly boils down to us coming out, and being transparent with those around us.

    I say this from personal experience with my own family. For years I waited hoping, and wishful thinking that with legislative change, and judicial progress, and others speaking in favor of our rights, and elected officials my family admired speaking favorably of us, and even our state passing gay mariage would help that positive mental shift….but nothing. They didn’t get it, nor did they want to get it.

    It was all foreign to them.

    UNTIL me- their son, brother, nephew, cousin, grandson, uncle- came out. When I came out, it humanized it all for them. They got it, and by virtue of knowing me they felt like they were almost indirectly part of our community. For some it took longer than others, but almost all of them are accepting and even championing gay rights.

    I helped that happen.

    -Be the change you wish to see. Don’t wait for heterosexual politicians and elected officials to mandate a stop on homophobia. Come out, live openly/honestly, and be that change and see what an incredible impact it will have on those around you. THAT is how you make societal change.

  2. Alex Parrish says

    Very touching and so very, very important. Thank you Derek for your strength and courage. We can only imagine how much your honesty has and will cost you, but rest assured, you have unimaginably large support in the LGBT community and beyond.

  3. Stefan says

    @Drew–Thanks for writing that. You’re so right. I remember when I decided to expand my “coming out” to co-workers, some of my less close friends, and my extended family. Just as it was with my parents and close friends, there was a little time needed for adjustment but now they’re almost all supportive of gay rights.

    The most amazing part is that those who remain vehemently opposed to my “lifestyle” have become marginalized. Even if people struggle to understand and support those who are gay, most can recognize when someone is being a bully or jerk to a good person. When you live your life with honesty and kindness and happiness it makes any people who are hateful toward you seem deeply troubled. Eventually that same dynamic is what will drive current BSA leadership and similar groups into obscurity.

  4. ErstwhileScouter says

    Everyone who’s been involved in these camps and knows the type of personality that succeeds in this type of role, knows that he is not the “only one”. Yet the leadership of the Boy Scouts will cast him out and have him shunned.

    I applaud his courage, but my heart goes out to him, because I know that he will not be able to continue in scouting.

    He is a martyr for a worthwhile cause. Scouting and its Mormon overlords need to be encouraged to change from every angle.

  5. SoSeriouslyY says

    You can see how nervous and fearful he is. He’s braver than most folks. He states his position well and (I guess) just tendered his resignation.

    I know families who are involved with Scouting, and they are (to a one) some of the most LGBT friendly folks I have ever met. One family actually threw an Engagement Party for me and my soon-to-be hubby.

    It really is sad that the Upper Management of the BSA is so insanely shortsighted. This guy has been an amazing employee (I mean the guy is excited by getting a rock for an award, that’s the very definition of a team player).

    I wish him well and hope he finds a terrific job.

  6. says

    What century are you people living in, in the U.S.A.? Here in Canada I can’t remember a time when it was illegal to be a gay boy Scout. I was a Scout for years when I was a kid and had a great time. I feel sorry for this young guy – having to go through this nonsense in the 21st Century. U.S.A. wake up!!

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