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North Carolina Cafe Owner Hands Lesbian Couple Letter Condemning Homosexuality As They Leave


Ariel and Shawnee McPhail, a married lesbian couple from North Carolina, say Ed McGovern, the owner of the Sting Ray Cafe in New Bern, handed them a letter as they left his restaurant, condemning their homosexuality, WCTI reports.

Said the letter:

God said in the last days that man and wom[a]n would be lover of self, more [than] the lover of God.

That man and woman would have unnatural [affection] for one another. Then, the coming of the Son of Man, who is Jesus. So please, look at your life. See how it hurt[s] everyone around you. And ask the Lord to open your eye[s] before it [is] to[o] late.

The Love of Christ

P.S. my daughter also was gay. It destroy[ed] her life and my grandson."

McGovern says he didn't like that the couple was kissing outside his restaurant, which they deny doing.

"First of all, we didn't kiss. We don't kiss in public. We were holding hands," said Shawnee McPhail. "Secondly, if I did kiss my wife in public, what married couple would you go to and say, 'how dare you. You cannot hold hands and you cannot kiss in public therefore you deserve my judgement.'"

Watch WCTI's interview with the couple HERE. Read the letter below.


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  1. Why is it that many homophobes seem to obliterate the English language while they're trying to spew their hate?

    Posted by: MikeKV | Jan 11, 2013 9:27:10 AM

  2. Apparently Ariel and Shawnee's money was good enough for the cafe owner, but their sexuality isn't. You would think he wouldn't want money from such sinful individuals, but I guess greed overcomes all.

    Posted by: Francis | Jan 11, 2013 9:35:25 AM

  3. I woulda' balled up that paper..threw it at him - then vomited up his meal....

    Posted by: Disgusted American | Jan 11, 2013 9:39:43 AM

  4. In addition to being wholly inappropriate and riddled with spelling errors, is this even theologically correct? The guy is obviously a bible nut, but I'm pretty sure he made up all those bible quotes. I"m sure if that stuff were actually in the bible the rest of the biblethumpers would have been throwing that at us long ago.

    Posted by: Brian | Jan 11, 2013 9:40:03 AM

  5. Christians should be fed to the lions again

    Posted by: Steve | Jan 11, 2013 9:40:19 AM

  6. Also what "destroyed" his daughter was the religious nuttery of her family, the shame she grew up with because of them and their rejection.

    Posted by: Steve | Jan 11, 2013 9:41:36 AM

  7. I wonder if Mr. McGovern would like it if people came into his cafe and handed him a note that read:

    Leviticus 11:7-8

    And the pig, because it parts the hoof and is cloven-footed but does not chew the cud, is unclean to you. You shall not eat any of their flesh, and you shall not touch their carcasses; they are unclean to you.

    How would he like that?

    Posted by: Akula | Jan 11, 2013 9:49:44 AM

  8. He said he gave them the letter "out of love." Awww, how sweet of him! Imagine how delighted straight evangelicals would be if gay business owners took their money and then, on the way out, handed them a letter saying: "please look at your life see how it hurt every one around your."

    I think we can guess who destroyed his daughter's life.

    Posted by: Ernie | Jan 11, 2013 9:51:58 AM

  9. Btw, for all we know his daughter lives happily with a woman, they raise her son together, and he just thinks her life is destroyed because she is living the "homosexual lifestyle"

    Posted by: Steve | Jan 11, 2013 9:55:24 AM

  10. Just more bible b*ll s*it !!!

    Posted by: andrew | Jan 11, 2013 9:59:47 AM

  11. The letter just confirms that ignorance and lack of education is the very basis of homophobia.
    What a sad little creep to think he's the righteous one instructing the fallen.
    It's this self righteous , smug, speaking for God arrogance that drives me into a frenzy.
    One of these evangelicals ran away from me once in the street, after he had tried to "save" me.
    And if he had given me and my BF that letter that would not have been the end of it.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jan 11, 2013 10:01:57 AM

  12. Clearly a lack of education. Odd how a lack of education and Bible-thumping seem to go hand-in-hand.

    Posted by: Darrell | Jan 11, 2013 10:04:40 AM

  13. LOL. Even in this small North Carolina town, there is HUGE backlash. Several people saying "I disagree with homosexuality but what you did was rude". Not smart, Ed McGovern. You're not very smart. Oh well. Wonder when we'll see the obligatory apology to try to save business.

    Posted by: Francis | Jan 11, 2013 10:05:17 AM

  14. Why aren't all these Bible thumpers thanking the Gay community for helping to bring the Second Coming a little faster?

    You're welcome.

    Posted by: Lobotomy | Jan 11, 2013 10:09:25 AM

  15. Wasn't there recent research showing that homosexuality may be X-linked mother-to-son (which I'd already thought was beyond obvious - a mother would only have to be a carrier, but I know many gay people with maternal gay relatives) AND father-to-daughter? So, in other words, this guy is yet another crazy closet case who's very familiar with the "love of Christ" preventing him from acting on his true feelings.

    Posted by: EchtKultig | Jan 11, 2013 10:23:06 AM

  16. There are also lots of Christards who say "He wasn't hating, but showing them his love"

    Posted by: Steve | Jan 11, 2013 10:26:52 AM

  17. "P.S. My parents were straight, FoxNews-watchin', Christian evangelicals, and their 'lifestyle' made them so dumb and socially rigid that their children were too embarrassed to introduce their school friends to them. Didn't actually succeed in ruining their lives (or cause the children to become illiterate misquoters of the Bible), but sure made for a miserable adolescence. And the embarrassment continues to this day."

    Posted by: Orphaned by the Bible. | Jan 11, 2013 10:31:41 AM

  18. So the solution is if that offends you enough, then don't patronize that business anymore.

    Americans need to be allowed to hold convictions in life, and be free to share them. This whole blog site embodies that. We need to stop being so super-sensitive and instead learn to move on with our lives. If you don't like what a business owner says to you (even in a letter) while you are in his place of business, then don't buy from him. If you don't like the point of view of Fox News or the Colbert Report, then don't watch them.

    This man was not forcing these two to break up and not see each other again. Let's walk it back a few steps here, shall we?

    Posted by: Jon | Jan 11, 2013 10:43:43 AM

  19. Once again, here's another reason why the Christian faith should be banned in the United States. Hate mongers.

    Posted by: OS2Guy | Jan 11, 2013 10:45:32 AM

  20. @Jon
    What fanatics like you need to understand is that there is a difference between holding a belief and expressing it. He can believe whatever you want. But he doesn't necessarily have the right to act on it.

    Posted by: Steve | Jan 11, 2013 10:52:05 AM

  21. I'm sure he "Loves the sinner ; hates the sin".

    And it must be that his letter was "taken out of context";
    and "if he offended anyone....blah blah ";
    and "some of my best friends are gay...blah blah ",
    Let the revisionists begin.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jan 11, 2013 10:53:35 AM

  22. Meh. He's a jerk, sure, but he's helping us. This makes the news and more neutrals come to our side.

    Who wants to be associated with an incoherent argument obviously written by someone of little education? Who wants to be associated with a business owner (or a business itself) that judges every customer that walks through its doors?

    When this makes the news, we win.

    Jesus's army of mouth-breathers combined with the Internet is the best thing that could happen to our movement.

    Posted by: kpo5 | Jan 11, 2013 10:57:52 AM

  23. Jon, businesses are a "public accomodation". We pave the streets so people have access to the business, provide police protection and keep the electricity running. It is well settled law that we can expect minimum behavior in exchange, the most basic of which is not humiliating people because of the essence of their being. So no, let's not step back from the most basic elements of civilized democracy.

    Posted by: Phil | Jan 11, 2013 11:02:57 AM

  24. @Steve,
    You are demonstrating the problem in our community...just because I encourage our community from not being so over-the-top in our reactions to individuals expressing their convictions, you classify me as a "fanatic".

    And then to read these statements about Christianity should be banned and Christians fed to the lions. You all are behaving worse than those you oppose.

    I'm sorry my level of outrage over matters does not rise to your level. But that does not make me, nor anyone else, a fanatic.

    Walk it back. Walk it back.

    Posted by: Jon | Jan 11, 2013 11:07:35 AM

  25. Bull, JON. These "beliefs" of "christians" would have us killed if they had their way-our reactions are not extreme, but understandable. Homophobes ARE outrageous.

    Posted by: nikko | Jan 11, 2013 11:27:39 AM

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