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Colorado School Bars 6-Year-Old Trans Girl from Using Girl's Restroom; Parents File Civil Rights Complaint: VIDEO

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First-grader Coy Mathis has been barred from using the girls' bathroom at her Colorado school because she is transgender. She has male genitalia but has identified as a girl since 18 months and living as a girl since age 4, Salon reports:

But the school doesn’t see her that way. W. Kelly Dude, an attorney for the Fountain-Fort Carson School District, said the school’s decision “took into account not only Coy but other students in the building, their parents, and the future impact a boy with male genitals using a girls’ bathroom would have as Coy grew older.” Adding, “However, I’m certain you can appreciate that as Coy grows older and his male genitals develop along with the rest of his body, at least some parents and students are likely to become uncomfortable with his continued use of the girls’ restroom.”

The letter goes on to allege that Mathis’ presence in the women’s bathroom would be “psychologically damaging” later in life, and so the school chose to address the matter now.

The Mathis family has filed a complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division, the first claim to test the state’s Anti-Discrimination Act, which includes protections based on gender identity.

Watch several news reports and an interview with Coy's parents, AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. Kim:

    "Doctors have diagnosed her as TG"

    And? Would you like a list of crackpot doctors. You can start with the one who said that rape shuts down conception.

    "this is not a child playing dress up."

    This is, however, a child. One who appears to being coached and indulged.

    "How would you feel if a kid said he was Gay and the school said he had to use the shower in nurses office because the other boys are not comfortable being nude in front of a openly Gay classmate? "

    Logic isn't your strong suit. A boy is a boy. Boys shower in the boys locker room and girls shower in the girls locker room. It's traumatic to many ... they get over it.

    "Separate but equal is not equal"

    This elementary school is accommodating a situation that they have no legal requirement to accommodate. Coy is male. That is inarguable. Males use the male restroom. But they have offered an accommodation. Unlike "separate but equal" there is no intent to discriminate here. Coy is not a girl.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 12:12:49 PM


  2. @Kim,

    Exactly how do doctors diagnose a child as 'transgendered'? They did blood tests? X-rays? This child could have serious mental health issues, including personality disorders. For better or worse, societal norms everywhere, not just the U.S., and the legal system, judges gender by sex organs and DNA. You can't just dress and act in behaviors typical of the opposite gender and expect to be accepted as such.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Feb 28, 2013 12:14:13 PM


  3. @Hearne: you have no idea what you're talking about. Can you link to a single shred of scientific research that backs up your baseless assertions about psychiatry? Will you be presenting to the WPATH about how they're all wasting their time because transsexuality is a "self-diagnosed" condition? I'm sure they will all be wowed by your experience as a nightclub employee. Possibly even to the point that they will ignore your complete lack of knowledge regarding psychiatry, medicine, or science!

    Of maybe you could pay attention to the fact that nothing you've said is based in any verifiable fact, other than your own prejudice.

    Posted by: TheDrDonna | Feb 28, 2013 12:16:30 PM


  4. Donna -

    "Oh David, you've really revealed yourself as a bigot here. Transphobia and misogyny in a neat little package ("trannies"? Really?)."

    No, I'm not buying into the collective orthodoxy based in BS that you are. Where did you get misogyny out of all that?

    "... between boys and girls before puberty occurs. Puberty itself is what causes sexual differentiation, and also is the point at which sex really enters the equation, and any child who manages to come out as trans before puberty gets its hooks into them will be able to take hormone blockers, or cross sex hormones, so that they develop fully into the opposite gender. "

    Your knowledge of human anatomy and biology is seriously lacking. Let me know when a male grows a uterus or a female grows testicles from taking hormones.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 12:34:06 PM


  5. Donna,

    When you respond to my posts with calm facts instead of shrieking so loudly that I can hear it through printed words, then get back to me. The fact that I worked in nightclubs while in college means precisely what? And what are your academic or professional credentials? You don't want anyone else to have an opinion but you want insurance companies and the government to pay for drugs and surgery? You are a waste of time.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 12:41:58 PM


  6. @David: The misogyny was the whole "Girls are fragile and must be protected" line of horsecrap you were spewing earlier.
    My knowledge of human anatomy is just fine. Genitalia do not define a person's sex, but rather its a combination of hormonal balance, genitalia, secondary sex characteristics, mental sex, and genes. Hormones do not change genitalia, but genitals do not change a persons brain either, so someone's mental sex is not able to be changed.

    Posted by: TheDrDonna | Feb 28, 2013 12:42:17 PM


  7. Donna -

    "The misogyny was the whole "Girls are fragile and must be protected" line of horsecrap you were spewing earlier."

    I said "Many little girls are quite fragile and do care if there is a boy in the rest room. That isn't misogyny, it's fact.

    "My knowledge of human anatomy is just fine. Genitalia do not define a person's sex, but rather its a combination of hormonal balance, genitalia, secondary sex characteristics, mental sex, and genes."

    Wrong. Sex is determined by chromosomes.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 1:16:27 PM


  8. David Hearne is a right-wing loon. Ignore his comments.

    Posted by: Francis | Feb 28, 2013 1:26:46 PM


  9. I feel sad when reading LGB people talking about the Transgendered and Intersexed.
    There is a clear disconnect with empathy for some people. Perhaps the painful upbringing many Gay and lesbian individuals have endured in life has rendered us too heartbroken to have empathy for the most fragile members of our LGBT rainbow.

    The fact is, a 6 year old girl (who was born apparently male) is being prevented access to a place to pee! The male bathroom is off limits due to outward gender expression of being female. The clothes, the language, and the play characteristics of girls outwardly express the gender within. We're all aware how hard it is to be different... now imagine it 100 times more powerful - that's Transgender. This little girl is not going to disrupt the girl's bathroom. I don't know where you're from (all those who support institutional bigotry) but in my experience girls and women's bathrooms have stalls for privacy (something us men don't get at the urinal). How can her genitalia ever affect those in the bathroom while she's sitting in a stall by herself. It's absurd. The argument is absurd.

    Schools like this need to respect all students. Having private stalls is necessary. Not "outing" trans students is absolutely imperative so they can exist without discrimination. Institutions that discriminate based on "ick" factors need a wake up call. It's time to treat all children fairly. It's downright disturbing that her school would have barred her a bathroom to use. To say - go to the boy's room - you're not a girl, you're male - was to damn her to a lifetime of abuse that ought to have been avoided. Those teachers should be ashamed.

    Everyone who refuses to put the child first, should be ashamed.

    Posted by: Jason P | Feb 28, 2013 1:28:21 PM


  10. Anyway, I'm out of here. Too many trolls, too many people holding up their ignorant opinions, expecting respect because they've put such a fine polish on that turd. If anyone who's legitimately interested or curious about trans issues I will probably respond to them, but I feel no need to try to foist education on disinterested fools.

    Oh, and David: bathrooms are not divided by sex, they are divided by gender. Unless you propose having an attendant check the genitalia of everyone trying to enter...

    Posted by: TheDrDonna | Feb 28, 2013 1:37:36 PM


  11. @GREG, @JERRY: So instead of recognizing that nobody is going to know anything about Mathis unless an adult makes a point to say, you want to single her out? That's only going to make everybody ask why: Why does she have to use the nurse's bathroom? Is there something wrong with her? Mommy, why do they make me use the nurse's bathroom? Is there something wrong with me?

    This is the exact same stupidity that punishes the victim for the actions of the bully.

    @WIL: No, you're not being serious. Tell us how many times this actually happens.

    @DAVID HEARNE: You need to go back to your biology books. While there are the sex chromosomes, let us not pretend that that is the end of the story. There are many conditions that block response to androgens. This goes back to the previous video where ASAP Science got it wrong about sexual development in the fetus. We are not all female to begin with but instead are hermaphroditic. Now, in the absence of masculinizing hormones during fetal development (that tends to start around day 53 of gestation), the fetus will develop along female lines. Thus, in certain individuals whose cells do not respond to androgens, even though they are XY males, the body develops along female lines: A vagina and clitoris forms rather than a penis and scrotum. The gonads will not descend and the vagina will end blindly rather than opening to a uterus, but the individual will appear female on the outside.

    Are you going to insist on a blood test at birth to "prove" that a person is one sex or the other? Would you force this person into using the men's room?

    The mere existence of intersex people proves your statement wrong. Exactly what is it that frightens you so?

    Posted by: Rrhain | Feb 28, 2013 1:43:25 PM


  12. Jason P., thank you for your eloquent post.

    Look, in the end, people are transgender, and these arguments revolving around restrooms are essentially 100% based on both fear and ick factor. Why would anyone care what bathroom a person uses? And this is a 6 year old girl, presents as a girl, using a stall. This school board and others need to realize what's psychologically damaging is forcing a transgirl into using the male restroom or forcing her to use some separate bathroom altogether. That's the issue. Not treating people equally, not creating issues out of non-issues.

    Posted by: Francis | Feb 28, 2013 2:10:14 PM


  13. RRHAIN

    Spare me your blather. We are not talking about intersex persons. The existence of intersex persons (.05% of all births) does not prove me wrong. It proves that there are intersex persons.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 2:18:20 PM


  14. Francis -

    Coy is a boy who likes to pretend he's a girl. It's not at all surprising given that he's part of a multiple birth, and because his parents are granola crunching dweebs.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 2:24:17 PM


  15. If his parents would just beat the gay out of him like good God-fearing Americans, then we wouldn't have any of this namby-pamby girly crap.

    Posted by: TheDrDonna | Feb 28, 2013 2:30:58 PM


  16. nicely played, DrDonna. Yes. Had Coy's parents been browbeating bigots, Coy could end up instead like the trolls on here. unloved, alone, and spewing misery at others. Woohoo?

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 28, 2013 2:33:18 PM


  17. Nope, sorry, David, but Coy has been determined to be a trans-girl. Doctors>You. Medical experts>You. You know people have to actually go through therapy and have to be observed over a period of time to be medically identified as trans. It doesn't simply happen, if you're under 18 especially. So at the end of the day, Coy is a trans-girl, and she, being a girl, should use the female restroom as any other girl would.

    It's actually borderline comical to me. I'm sort of chuckling. "Likes to pretend he's a girl"...........right. A 6 year old likes to pretend every single minute of every day she's a girl. It's a permanent playing pretend, huh, David?

    You should really let the non-damaged adults speak, David. We've had enough of Rick and he seems to be mostly gone but now you're around. Incredible how someone who is gay can be so negative against the LGBTQ community all of the time, as you are.

    Posted by: Francis | Feb 28, 2013 2:37:50 PM


  18. David Hearne is merely the latest preferred screen name for the same old cowardly troll.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 28, 2013 2:45:18 PM


  19. Think so, Kiwi? Is this another reincarnation of Rick/Jason? Well they both have been mostly quiet of late. Could be true, which in a way would be a good thing, because it would mean there is at least one less horrendous troll commenting regularly.

    Posted by: Francis | Feb 28, 2013 2:55:18 PM


  20. And by "they both", of course, I mean both aliases. Too bad these comments aren't monitored as closely as they probably should be.

    Anyway, lets see how this suit the parents filed goes. This could end up being a landmark case that has national implications.

    Posted by: Francis | Feb 28, 2013 2:57:08 PM


  21. oh, of course. same talking points. pro-gun, anti-woman, anti-black, anti-trans, and all the while doing the same thing: boastful claims of intellectual integrity, anonymously, and complaining about What Others Are/Aren't Doing while refusing to show what they are doing.

    text. book.

    oh well. he'll die.

    I want the privilege to do the same should they ever be in power.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/todd-clayton/queer-community-transphobic_b_2727064.html?utm_hp_ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false

    everyone should read this. they won't, but they should.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Feb 28, 2013 3:05:55 PM


  22. 'same talking points. pro-gun, anti-woman, anti-black, anti-trans,'

    ************ EYE ROLL ****************

    LOL...Give it a phuking rest, Lil' TTTT*,

    *Trash Talking Troll from Toronto

    Posted by: ratbastard | Feb 28, 2013 3:55:12 PM


  23. This is kinda a complex issue. On one hand, I understand that the child wants to use the bathroom of the gender she presents as, but on the other I understand that the parents of the other children, especially little girls, wouldn't want a biological male with intact male genitalia using the same restroom as their girls. The thing is that transitional surgeries cant be performed on children as young as six forobvious reasons. Honestly I think the school is being as accomadting as it possibly can to be fair to both the parents of the other children and the child by offering the use of a staff bathroom. Its a complex issue with no easy answer until Coy is fully transitioned to female. I can't say I blame the other parents for being uncomfortable.

    Posted by: ble.d_out.color | Feb 28, 2013 4:04:45 PM


  24. Jason -

    Position statements don't begin with "I feel." If you want to talk about your feelings see a shrink.

    Posted by: David Hearne | Feb 28, 2013 4:40:27 PM


  25. All the people stating here that the child is for sure 100% a girl, and how dare anyone question that, need to get some perspective. The child, for the moment, is biologically a boy.

    I don't think it's healthy to decide a child is male or female or gay or straight at 2 years old. It's simply impossible to believe the child can be 'sure' when they can't even write and barely speak.

    I had a cousin who repeatedly and continually would try dress in women's clothes when he was little. He's now OBVIOUSLY a straight male. Imagine his parents had taken that as a sign he was 'transgender' and raised him as a girl. It would most likely have negatively impacted him.

    Also, it's not up to the child to decide how the child is raised. It's up to the parents. Right now, the parents are choosing to raise a biologically male child as female. Hopefully, they are right in their decision...but probability might not be on their side, chances are, once he sexually matures, he'll be a straight male. Not all children who claim they are one thing actually are that thing. From my perspective, it makes more sense to raise the child as what he biologically is, or at least permit him to experiment with both sides so he can later choose whichever identity he really is - who knows what kinds of changes to his sexuality might come about later. But there is NO possible way the child can know when he can barely talk or write and is more than a decade from puberty. Children also believe monsters exist, and frequently make up blatant lies for absolutely no reason. As an educator, I've seen this so many times. Some children whose parents cater to their every whim end up being more messed up because of that. I don't believe a child can suffer 'depression' - children are great at going to extreme emotional ends to get what they want and being confused and wrong themselves, it doesn't mean they should be totally indulged.

    It just seems more damaging to raise the child contrary to it's biological nature, when there's no way to know it's sexuality or gender identity at this point.

    Posted by: HOCKEYJOCK | Feb 28, 2013 5:46:35 PM


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