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Gay Adult Film Star Arpad Miklos Dead at 45


Arpad Mikos (aka Peter Kozma), a NYC-based gay adult film actor who appeared in more than 58 films, took his own life sometime on Sunday. Howard Bragman spoke with writer Randal Lynch and broke the news on his web show Gwissues.

Watch Bragman's interview with Lynch, AFTER THE JUMP...

Miklos, who was discovered in Hungary by Kristen Bjorn while working as a chemist, did charity work and also appeared in a 2012 music video for "Hood" by the artist Perfume Genius.

He was 45. Our thoughts go out to his friends and family.

(photo via flickr user nicecatch)

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  1. He was a very sweet and friendly man. I recall one night many years ago in NYC at a crowded bar when my arms were loaded up with drinks for my friends, and Mr. Miklos, unsolicited, walked me back to my friends - leading the way through the packed crowd, so that nobody would jostle my short @ss as i balanced the beverages. a simple act of kindness.

    shame. he seemed to be a good man. a good and handsome man. of course, this means his death with bring out the snark in the trolls.
    must be tuesday.

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Feb 5, 2013 12:30:58 PM

  2. To answer one person's question: For decades adult film stars and drag queens were our stars and icons because no one else, particularly celebs were out in a communally accessible way, and were a driving force in defining American gay culture. They may not hold candles to Ellen and the like THESE days, but they are still a large part of our community's culture.

    So sad about Arpad. He was a kind person from what I knew of him.

    Posted by: SBAMatt | Feb 5, 2013 12:34:36 PM

  3. OMG I was so obsessed with Arpad, he looks so sexy in every single scene. I feel really sad right now.

    Posted by: jeremyrain | Feb 5, 2013 12:35:23 PM

  4. Hm, I guess they won't be using him for the "It gets better" campaign...

    Posted by: Bunny | Feb 5, 2013 12:43:41 PM

  5. Hm, I guess they won't be using him for the "It gets better" campaign...

    Posted by: Bunny | Feb 5, 2013 12:43:43 PM

  6. its just sad to know that it might not even be the porn stars with the could be the casting directors, directors or other parts of the industry...we dont know what kind of criticism they all go through and bullying they must endure while in this career...ur too fat, ur too old, ur not built, ur losing ur hair, ur look should be the industry that needs to be looked into...dont get me wrong, i am a fan of porn, but it doesnt seem to me like its as glamourous as it appears to be...i now understand why SPENCER REED AND DIESEL WASHINGTON want either out of it or get their own studio...they are two perfect examples of what good porn is and considering that SPENCER was almost stabbed to death from his glad he left the US to pursue his DJ'ing and as far as DIESEL, i know understand why u vent like u do as often as u do !!

    Posted by: c | Feb 5, 2013 12:43:47 PM

  7. The long, drawn out essays over at about how sad this is will be epic. Those ladies feel VERY connected to their porn bois.

    Posted by: David | Feb 5, 2013 12:46:32 PM

  8. I realize that not *all* gay porn stars are escorts, but Arpad Miklos was a very public one, winning "Hookies" awards every year since 2008 for Sexiest Escort, Best Top, Best Daddy, etc.

    I don't think anyone would disagree that sex work in America can be tremendously challenging; aside from the legalities, today's sex workers expose themselves to serious dangers that can threaten their physical and mental health.

    Although Arpad may have seemed to be tremendously 'exposed' due to his work in adult film, I don't think any of us have any CLUE what he was experiencing in his actual life.

    And yes, I think it's time for us to stop sugarcoating our porn stars and making them out to be heroes, complete with ridiculous awards for our favorite prostitutes.

    One great thing about the rise of internet dating, Grindr and XTube: it's de-monetizing porn and prostitution. Anyone can star in their own video, and anyone can find a dreamy guy for sex. I'd like to think that as these industries become less lucrative, fewer guys in trouble will turn to them for a quick buck.

    Posted by: GMB | Feb 5, 2013 12:47:37 PM

  9. HOWARD BRAGMAN, GO PUNCH YOURSELF. Good god what a HORRIBLE interviewer. He seemed bored and pissed off. What a dickbag.

    Posted by: Fensox | Feb 5, 2013 12:57:18 PM

  10. I would think that having people attractd to you just for your face, body, etc. can have an effect after a while. Few want you for who you really are inside, which may cause depression and lead to suicide.

    Posted by: Jack M | Feb 5, 2013 1:06:51 PM

  11. At 45, I'm thinking mid-life crisis, but obviously at bit worse than that. However, long-term depression is the most probably explanation. The lines between mere exhibitionism and porn are blurring and what happens to the FB generation when they turn 45 and all their old photos are still out there?

    Posted by: anon | Feb 5, 2013 1:16:46 PM

  12. Sad. RIP.
    @Jon B, it seems so.
    @David, yes, gay porn is a part of gay popular culture (for many reasons).

    Posted by: Matt26 | Feb 5, 2013 1:16:50 PM

  13. This is so sad... He was a very gentle and nice guy. So sorry that he died so young.

    Posted by: raul nyc | Feb 5, 2013 1:23:15 PM

  14. Sad news.

    He certainly had a long and prolific career in the industry. 58 flicks according to his friend Lynch, although lists 113 titles (probably because of some compilations and individual streaming scenes). It seems he worked pretty steadily from 1995 until last year, which is a long shelf life for someone in that business. Clearly his popularity didn't seem to be on the wane with producers.

    I remember several years ago Fleshbot posted an item about him.

    Arpad was dating a guy briefly who broke up with him because he couldn't deal with his work in porn. On his Big Muscle page, he wrote several paragraphs detailing his affection for this guy, his sadness about the break up and his wish that he could have seen him as a whole human being with outside interests, intelligence and warmth rather than just his porn star persona.

    As I recall, it was rather well written, but the fact that he felt the need to broadcast it in such a public forum I found sad, and perhaps a clue that he did suffer from depression.

    I hope he's in a happier, more peaceful place now.

    Posted by: John | Feb 5, 2013 1:39:43 PM

  15. Those who vilify porn stars, yet worship sociopaths in business need to evaluate their values about who actually hurts people with their so called success.

    RIP Arpad Miklos.

    Posted by: Polyboy | Feb 5, 2013 1:41:47 PM

  16. Isn't the bigger issue here suicide, and how we lost another beautiful person (inside and out) to the horrible disease of depression? We are losing people, Bright, wonderful people in our lgbt communities to this. It isn't about what he did for a living. It's about someone believing at least at some level (untrue as it is) that the world would be better off without them. Suicide is a horrible thing for friends and family to have to live through. It's something that will cause people to spend years and years wondering if they could have done something differently, if they missed signs, if it were all somehow their fault. This epidemic of mental illness in our country is something that we need to be aware of and combating. Porn personalities are people and they deserve the same things out of life that the rest of us do. It makes me very angry that someone could dismiss another person as LESS THAN because of their JOB. Because those of you that condemn him for being in porn will probably be the first ones rushing off to buy or download more porn. Glass houses people, watch where you throw your stones.

    Posted by: Cam | Feb 5, 2013 1:43:02 PM

  17. Research has shown that the suicide rate among men in the West in their forties and fifties, already among the highest rates of any age group, has risen sharply since the economic crisis in 2008.

    Posted by: Eric | Feb 5, 2013 1:43:02 PM

  18. This is not the first suicide of a Gay porn star, not by a longshot. Just another reminder, to those who foolishly idolize them, that porn celebrity is not the sort of career that Gay men (or anybody else) should aspire to.

    Posted by: Stuffed Animal | Feb 5, 2013 1:44:33 PM

  19. As a religion (mine), gay male porno has a lot to offer, much better than the twisted, violent, homophobic stories told by the Abrahamic religions. I consider myself a principled viewer -- no BB and no coercion -- and the time spent getting off to porn puts me in touch with parts of my nature too long submerged by power-hungry "authorities."

    Suicide is often from undiagnosed depression -- so a note to anybody feeling that, help is available but you have to seek it.

    Posted by: David Kerlick | Feb 5, 2013 1:45:54 PM

  20. Stuffy, go stick your head in an oven.

    the puritanical ninnies on here are pathetic.

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Feb 5, 2013 1:47:21 PM

  21. I was such a fan. He was just so perfect. I met him for a half-second at Folsom one year. He was such a sweetie--I had (have) such a crush on that man.

    With suicide, I'm always torn: One one hand I feel it is an incredibly selfish and self indulgent act. On the other, I can't imagine being in such a dark place that suicide is the answer.

    I hope he's at peace.

    Posted by: CMLion | Feb 5, 2013 1:50:03 PM

  22. There seems to be a correlation between being a porn star and a higher rate of suicide/early death. On the outside, these guys appear to have so much of what many of us want. Yet, some are clearly miserable. Why, and does it point to larger problems in our community on how we value ourselves and each other? I have no answers - but would appreciate hearing from those who do.

    Posted by: David | Feb 5, 2013 1:50:57 PM

  23. Linda Lovelace was really magnificent in person.

    Posted by: GB | Feb 5, 2013 2:02:13 PM

  24. It says a lot about gay people that we have so many positive role models and heroes of all kinds. And a lot of people in the porn industry are great people (of course not all) and porn itself is a part of our liberation, always will be.

    Posted by: JerryR | Feb 5, 2013 2:03:00 PM

  25. I don't know many porn stars by name, but I remember him because he was great at his craft (see: freakin hot). Rest in peace.

    Posted by: AJ | Feb 5, 2013 2:08:29 PM

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