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Gay Adult Film Star Arpad Miklos Dead at 45


Arpad Mikos (aka Peter Kozma), a NYC-based gay adult film actor who appeared in more than 58 films, took his own life sometime on Sunday. Howard Bragman spoke with writer Randal Lynch and broke the news on his web show Gwissues.

Watch Bragman's interview with Lynch, AFTER THE JUMP...

Miklos, who was discovered in Hungary by Kristen Bjorn while working as a chemist, did charity work and also appeared in a 2012 music video for "Hood" by the artist Perfume Genius.

He was 45. Our thoughts go out to his friends and family.

(photo via flickr user nicecatch)

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  1. Miklos, was in my eyes,a really nice guy who measured up to his daddy roles on screen.

    I wish someone could have talked him out of suicide.

    This is news because he was a legend in gay male porn and that he was a really nice guy.

    We mourn his death and yes, guys, we need to keep our tribe alive in his memory. AIDS killed without mercy for years. We need to treasure our lives and reach out to buddy bond and make a statement that our lives are always about living.

    Posted by: BF | Feb 5, 2013 5:12:43 PM

  2. @DMS

    Porn stars are not "role models." That may be the single dumbest thing I've read today.

    Posted by: JT | Feb 5, 2013 5:28:00 PM

  3. I am truly sad. Arpad had a wonderful quality about him besides his good looks. I will definitely miss him. :(

    Posted by: Brettcajun | Feb 5, 2013 5:33:12 PM

  4. Of course gay porn stars are part of our culture- don't be an idiot- and show some respect for the dead.

    Posted by: jaragon | Feb 5, 2013 5:47:01 PM

  5. I always called him Mr Shooting Range. His trajectory is jaw-dropping. And by "is" I mean his immortality is assured by his body of work in porn. Gay porn, for me, is the most powerful antidote to the toxic alienation I experience every day as a member of a sexual minority, and Arpad is right up there, brightly lit, in my pantheon of heroes.

    Posted by: Manny Espinola | Feb 5, 2013 6:13:09 PM

  6. Aging and depression, a bad mix

    Posted by: Marky | Feb 5, 2013 6:27:57 PM

  7. Funinsnows, how can it be a "blessing" when a person with people who loved him commits suicide? Are you so anti-gay that you are actually glad this man died? Sounds pretty damn heartless to me.

    My condolences to all on this board who knew Mr. Miklos personally.

    Posted by: Mary | Feb 5, 2013 6:29:23 PM

  8. Funinsnows is now off to engage in self-hating self-pleasure.

    Poor lamb.

    And R.I.P., Arpad. You seemed like a pretty decent person.

    Posted by: Rey | Feb 5, 2013 6:59:33 PM

  9. I'm sorry you are so unhappy with how your trans surgery turned out, but his is hardly the time or place...

    Posted by: JustSayin' | Feb 5, 2013 7:45:32 PM

  10. Little Kiwi,

    It is NOT a nice industry. It is dominated by users, drug addicts and pimps. What you see on the screen is often drug-enhanced. Is this your idea of the holy grail?

    It might be hard for you to understand but have you ever tried falling over? It might knock some sense into you.

    Posted by: jason | Feb 5, 2013 7:54:07 PM

  11. Isten nyugtason Téged, Ferikem!

    Posted by: sandor | Feb 5, 2013 8:06:26 PM

  12. Isten nyugtason Téged, Ferikem!

    Posted by: sandor | Feb 5, 2013 8:13:19 PM

  13. This is horrible! Unbelievable! :(

    Posted by: Fabio | Feb 5, 2013 8:18:57 PM

  14. What a sweetheart!! RIP dude!!

    Posted by: Alan Brickman | Feb 5, 2013 8:20:16 PM

  15. Like other people here have suggested, perhaps hitting 45 was terrifying for someone whose career and identity were so closely associated with their looks and the physical body.

    Hitting 45 for any gay man can be traumatic, gays are so ageist. Either way it is very sad.

    We are so used to fighting oppression, but I think we gays can do ourselves a favor by more closely looking at our own problems and prejudices, especially when it comes to aging.

    Posted by: Andy | Feb 5, 2013 8:50:58 PM

  16. I'm with Kodiak--I actually gasped when I saw this headline. I was looking at a scene he did just a few days ago, and marveling at the passion and commitment he put into it. (It was a scene with another very masculine guy, not a twinky boy.) It seems ridiculous to venerate adult film actors for their "technique" or performing abilities (they ain't Streep), but Miklos was one of the few guys I've seen on film besides the late Steve Regis (R.I.P.) and maybe Joey Stefano (also R.I.P.) who genuinely seemed to be making love to his partner(s).

    As gay men, since we don't have a lot of role models or people to walk us through how to have sex, a lot of us pick up certain tips and tricks (and occasional unhealthy standards) from erotica. The best performers, like Greek art come to life, don't just show us how to screw; they show us how to make love--passionately, tenderly, with exquisite attention to your partner's pleasure as well as your own. It may be an over-romanticized notion, but you really do learn a lot about people's innermost selves from how they make love--and even if it's on camera, a lot of times it's very easy to ascertain who is a selfish, boring, or unmotivated or ungenerous lover. Arpad took the screen like someone immensely comfortable with himself, and he took care of his partners with a masculine grace that was very, very sexy.

    I'm so sorry that he had his demons that brought him to this point. Best to his family and friends, and rest in peace. (And not to be morbid, but can someone check on Mason Wyler and see how he's doing? I heard through the grapevine that he retired from erotica after testing HIV+.)

    Posted by: Dback | Feb 5, 2013 9:05:40 PM

  17. Is it possible that Funinsnows is God's way of punishing me for having been anti-gay in the past? "Fun" is really ruining the fun of Towleroad for me. I wish Andy would ask him to stop posting. Then again, maybe I should just ignore his posts, since this is what I used to suggest people do when my own posts offended them. I guess we reap what we sow.

    Posted by: Mary | Feb 5, 2013 9:18:31 PM

  18. Well, Mary. You've come a long way, I'll give you that. I used to loathe you like the pest ;), but you somehow activated your brain at some point. So there, I said it! :)

    Posted by: DeeperStill | Feb 5, 2013 9:31:31 PM

  19. "Fun"insnows, go curl up in a corner, and die in pain. Slowly...

    Posted by: DeeperStill | Feb 5, 2013 9:33:49 PM

  20. Arpad, I can't believe it. You had so much to live for. You were sexy and your charisma was to die for. I can't believe that someone of your stature would want to end their life. Y O Y.
    Rest in piece, Dear Arpad. I will miss you very much.

    Posted by: Doug Archer | Feb 5, 2013 10:20:03 PM

  21. Yes, Deeperstill, I remember you! You're from Denmark aren't you? We really had a fierce exchange once. You were pretty mad at me, despite my best efforts to calm you down with civility. Glad you're not angry anymore. Does this mean I can now visit Denmark in safety? (just joking!)

    And "Snow", if everyone whose behavior you don't like should commit suicide and their kind be "reduced to zero", who would be left? And why do transsexuals bother you so much? If they are mutilating their bodies this might be a reason to feel sorry for them. But why wish them death? Are you afraid that sex-change operations will become some kind of new fad? Considering their financial cost and the emotional and physical upheaval they entail, that would seem very unlikely. And to reduce gay/lesiban "behaviors" to zero would require a cop in every bedroom, or every room where people can access gay/lesbian porn on their computers. You've mentioned gays. lesbians, and transsexuals. What about bisexuals? Should they also be "reduced to zero?" If so, why?

    Posted by: Mary | Feb 5, 2013 10:20:19 PM

  22. Not only can you visit Denmark in safety (and maybe attend a same-sex Church Wedding with me? ;), but I would cook you an awesome meal, and we could talk, talk, talk all evening.

    Just tell me when you're coming, Mary! :)

    Posted by: DeeperStill | Feb 5, 2013 10:42:26 PM

  23. This is sad.

    Posted by: Andy | Feb 5, 2013 10:47:49 PM

  24. Yes Lil' Phukface, do what Jason suggests and fall over so you'll have some sense knocked into you.

    And indeed the porn industry is not full of nice people. Pimps, users, and drug addicts sums it up well. You would assume most adult men would realize the 'performers' of most porn they jack off to are desperate and looking for quick $, usually for a drug addiction. No, it's not 'nice', anymore than the child and slave labor that's used to produce your ipad or other gadget, yes, mine included.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Feb 5, 2013 10:58:32 PM

  25. Arpad Miklos was the ultimate model. He could convey so much warmth, intimacy, tenderness, intelligence, and SOUL. He was so far beyond the superficial, he was completely unselfconscious, he was generous with this beauty and confident masculinity. This is absolutely a stunning shocking tragedy. My heart is breaking thinking about his last days, his secret agonies, his confusion, his feelings of being totally isolated, leading to this act of a complete self annihilation. It is a place of total ambivalence and grief, melancholia reaching into one's deepest being. I am praying that he will be remembered as a unique beautiful spirit who bravely shared with everyone his staggering appeal. Miklos Arpad Magyarül Ül százszor Kösönöm Szépen!! Resquiescat In Pacem

    Posted by: Vincent de Amgelis | Feb 5, 2013 11:06:56 PM

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