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  1. and another thing, i've out for so blood long now and have never in my many gay years met an "effeminacy hating" gay man that didn't come from a family that resented having him for a son.

    does this mean that all gay kids brought up in anti-gay misogynistic households become self-loathing homos? no. in fact, most don't. most defy it, rise above it, and challenge it.

    the sad few become like GOProud - whipped slave doormats. they're not loved, they're not accepted - they're "tolerated" on the grounds that they "not be like those other gays"

    this is evidenced by the comments of RICK and his aliases and the sheer fact that all the "i can't stand femmes" commenters are wholly unable to put a public face to their comments, or gay identities. you're still angry that the people you resent being compared to don't live under the same fears you do.

    oh well. tis your own prison, boys.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 11:41:19 AM

  2. @ Little Kiwi aka failed actor Raymond Miller of Toronto, now living in NYC:

    Raymond, why is your acting career such a massive fail? Is it because you have a nasty and abusive personality and people in the business can't stand you? Is it because you like to crossdress in women's panties and post the pics on your blog? Or is it because you are becoming fat like the other members of your family, with the beginning of hair loss at 30?

    Posted by: Matteom | Apr 3, 2013 11:56:43 AM

  3. ..laughing at Little Raymond making a point to tell us how many "masculine" lovers he has had...gee, I wonder why? he undercuts his whole "pro-fem" argument...tell us Little Raymond, how many fems you have had??? I suspect far fewer....

    Posted by: ProMasculine | Apr 3, 2013 12:42:14 PM

  4. depends on who's defining them as "masc" or "fem" and on what criteria. i don't think any closeted guy is in any way "masc" - as i've never associated insecure cowardice with masculinity.

    some folks would deem some of them "masc", some would deem some of them "femme" - point is we don't care. we're too busy enjoying our gay lives to worry about what others think.

    and i don't know why you think stating my name as opposed to my nom de plume will upset me. i've been Out since i was a teen. i'm not scared, baby.

    but yes. clearly i'm fat. i'm SO fat. i'm like the fattest thing in the world.

    in all the right places :D

    but hey, you're more than entitled to obsess over me. it's ok. i'm used to it. and lord knows anonymous trolling is all you have to live for. so, you can enjoy it. :D

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 12:52:56 PM

  5. ProMasculine:

    Bringing up sexual attraction or sexual tastes opens a whole new area which is very private. This discussion is about respecting people's differences. It's about not trying to force or shame feminine males into putting on a false "butch" performance...and for what?

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Apr 3, 2013 12:54:14 PM

  6. Derrick - it's very simple, gay men who hate "effeminate gay men" are always coming from a place of cowardice. they're not accepted as gay, they're tolerated as long as they're "not fem" - and they know this, so they angrily spew venom at the people who get to be what they're not allowed to be.

    it's textbook. and that's why. to any young people on here who are reading the innorant and hateful words of these cowardly trolls, just know that you're not gonna have to deal with these bullying wimps in the Real World. they're not strong enough to live outdoors, don't worry - their hatred exists in the vacuum of cyberspace.

    now if you'll excuse me i need to go get fatter :D

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 1:00:30 PM

  7. No Derrick it isn't. The discussion is about behavior. There is this perception that fem gay men are acting natural and masculine gay men are simply "acting". The underlying premise being that essentially all gay men are fem to one degree or another. Yet, when you dig deeper, all these pro-fem gay men are secretly craving the very masculinity from other men that they publicly rail against.
    The fact is that some gay men are finally saying that they don't have to rally around feminity and all that...and when all is said and done, most of the masculine bashers are themselves secretly (and not so secretly) craving masculinity too....actions speak FAR louder than words my friend.

    Posted by: ProMasculine | Apr 3, 2013 1:06:59 PM

  8. too bad nobody's said that, "pro". that's called a strawman argument.

    it's what losers do when they realize they've lost but are too stubborn to concede.

    actions speak louder than words, eh? then prove you're this masc man you claim to be with your words online.

    *crickets crickets tumbleweeds crickets*

    there's not even such a thing as "pro-fem" - there's simply "anti-prejudice", you halfwit.

    but let's see if actions speak louder than words. rather than writing, click "record" on Photobooth, and post a video where you talk about this. because you're such an action-loving masculine man. right? :D

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 1:11:22 PM

  9. ProMasculine:

    Thank You!

    Posted by: Audi-owner | Apr 3, 2013 1:46:27 PM

  10. and not one of you can put a face to your statements or identities.

    your inactions prove your words empty. :D

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 1:55:04 PM

  11. Little Kiwi:

    You do realize that not many of us here take you seriously. Maybe a few do but I'm certainly not part of those few. You go on these constant superiority bull**** tirades about showing your identity,all I see is just another b****y queen with a weak ego who feels it necessary to tear down other gay men with opposing views from his own. Revealing your identity on the "interweb" doesn't make you better or smarter than any of the other readers here. Somehow you're hellbent on thinking otherwise. And it just makes you come off as nothing more than a fool. A childish "I know you are but what am I" fool. Just like every other catty queen I come across here and on other gay blogs. Lawd knows JMG is full of 'em too. And while we are on the subject,it's that kind of s****y attitude that drives many masculine gay men to just outright reject this enhanced/extreme feminine crap that alot of feminine gay men throw at everyone. It's tiresome and it has long corroded at my damn nerves and I am simply not embracing it in order to appease people like you. The mudslinging back and forth gets nowhere,so go on and make some dry comment about how "insecure" I am and be on your way. I'm done!

    Posted by: Audi-owner | Apr 3, 2013 2:26:49 PM

  12. and all i see are insecure boys who can't (in their own terms) "man up" and do what this Queen does :)

    yes. i'm tearing down people who...uh...tear down those who are different. how AWFUL of me.

    i don't know what you mean, though, by "masculine men rejecting______"

    I don't know any masculine gay men who reject what you've said. i don't know any "traditionally masculine" gay men who reject or harbour disdain for "perceived effeminacy" in other gay males.


    i'm glad, though, that it's corroded your damn nerves. shows what a whipped little wimp you are.

    i don't need to point out how insecure you are. your inability, like the rest of the cowards on here, to put a face to your boastful claims proves me right, and proves you wrong.

    glad you're on your way. have ten or twelve drinks and drive yourself home :D

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 2:32:40 PM

  13. It's sad that a discussion of the nature of affectation, the function of it, how it's a primarily a learned social behaviour, and the nature of group dynamics is being derailed by people who seem to feel they are better than everyone else simply because they have a blog, are exhibitionists, and are obvious attention-seekers.

    It really wasn't that long ago that many gay people I knew thought the idea of marriage equality was some sort of joke, or some sort of sell-out. To deny how gradual the concept of marriage equality has taken hold within our own community is to commit the worst kind of historical revisionism there is. Not everybody was instantly on-board. It's a fact. Deal with it. Don't lie and pretend it wasn't something that took some discussion over time. If you're too young to even remember, talk to older people, read, learn. But for Christ's sake, STFU and stop making a fool of yourselves.

    There are people obviously on both sides of the masculinity/femininity spectrum that clearly have some issues. The nature of gender, and how it is defined socially is a discussion worth having. But not if it has to constantly devolved into pretending that there's something inherently defective in how people choose to express their gender. I think that's what's lost here. It seems to me that people on both sides of the argument are determined to impose THEIR OWN personal ideas of what their gender IS on the community at large.

    There are gay guys that work on cars, live a monogamous relationship, and aren't interested in flamboyance or the urban gay ghetto ideal. There are flamboyant gay guys that feel the need to express themselves in a way that always garners attention wherever they go. This is reality. Deal with it.

    I have friends across the spectrum, and fortunately most of them are mature enough to simply accept each other for who and what they are.

    Try it sometime. Evolve.

    Posted by: Franklin | Apr 3, 2013 4:20:30 PM

  14. Little Raymond Kiwi..go have some (more) bread to go with your chicken wing arms

    Posted by: FatSupportGroup | Apr 3, 2013 4:22:08 PM

  15. My butt hurts from all the anonymous sex I have with ugly meth heads in dark clubs !

    I think my behaviour is something I was born with, something I can't change, something to be proud of, no matter how ignorant it makes me look !

    I learned it from other rude, young, sheltered, lucky young queens that enjoy a sense of freedom that we didn't earn, and refuse to give credit to all the broken bones and bloody noses the older generation suffered to pave the way for me to be able to act out in public like such a dirtbag !

    Check out my blog, and my many pictures of me with fake black eyes, because, you know, looking like a battered wife is so HAWT !

    I'm such a "boi" !

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 4:26:24 PM

  16. actually, i live the way i live to honour and thank those who came before me, who refused to Blend In.

    thank you, Stonewall Generation :D

    every time you hide anonymously, you only prove me right :D

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 4:29:35 PM

  17. And I'm always so right. Look at me ! Look at my blog ! Look at my pictures !

    I'm SO much better than everybody else !

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 3, 2013 4:32:53 PM

  18. I don't get why it is that people are confusing "flamboyance" with feminine behaviour.

    If the issue is that the "flamboyance" being complained about is a kind of attention-seeking, distracting, rude kind of behaviour that is a constant campy distraction in a school environment, then why shouldn't people be somewhat critical ?

    School isn't a bar or club, it's school. Sorry, but it's not all about a need for constant attention and conflict and affirmation.

    Posted by: Rickie | Apr 3, 2013 4:44:35 PM

  19. @Little Kiwi, aka Raymond Miller:

    If you are so open about yourself, please tell us your next acting gig. We can all be sure to come down to see you perform. C'mon you've been in NYC so long now, you surely must have *something* lined up. LOL!!

    Posted by: Matteom | Apr 3, 2013 5:27:47 PM

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