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State Champion Colorado High School Coach Micah Porter Tells Team: I'm Gay

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Outsports has the story of Micah Porter, a four-time state champion high school track & field coach in Denver, Colorado who recently came out to his students, the culmination of a four-year journey in which he came out to his wife and two children, school administration officials, and had begun changing in a school bathroom for fear of accusations of impropriety from conservative parents.

Porter now finally appears to have taken the most important step of all:

Porter called his team together before practice a week ago and told them he had some news. He let them know that an article about him would be coming out this week, and that the article discussed him being gay and would talk about his partner, Brandan.

The news was met with the same silence that stared back at him when he came out to his wife four years earlier.

After a few seconds, one of the team leaders - who Porter says could end the season as a conference champion - stood up, shook his hand, told him it didn't matter to him, and asked what that day's practice had in store for them. The rest of the team laced up their shoes and followed suit.

Read the full story at Outsports.

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  1. And this is commendable... why exactly?
    Why is this news?
    "Closet case finally grows a pair and comes out, original family (ex-wife and kids) devastated. Story at 11"?
    It's not a cause for celebration. What it is, is sad.
    You could've come out 25 years ago, Micah. I know this because I did.

    Posted by: Chris | Sep 21, 2013 12:10:17 PM


  2. Having evidently had a post removed just for criticizing religion as the catalyst for the societal pressure under which some gay men construct closeted lives, it astounds me what sort of posts are allowed to stay up around here.

    Posted by: sparks | Sep 21, 2013 12:53:32 PM


  3. So he's around 40. Has a kid in high school. The ex-wife is angry. They still work together. The Brandan Rader that shows up in Denver is around 23. BF now comes to track meets. Coach says, "There are parts of my life I hope to repair...". Something tells me the story is a bit more messy, much less rosy, than the article portrays.

    Posted by: Mitch | Sep 21, 2013 12:54:10 PM


  4. @Chris -- don't be such a hard-ass. He came out and that is to be celebrated. Perhaps life for the rest of the world might have been easier if he had come-out earlier, maybe not. Had he come-out earlier he might not have been able to be in a position to be a positive influence in so many kids lives.

    We know that "misery loves company" and it is easy to catalog all the injustices you have had to suffer because of being out (I did it in 1972 and, believe me, it was not an easy road) but the impulse to say "I had to suffer these indignities, so you should too" is a selfish and fruitless one.

    Ask yourself WHY you came out and after you have listed all the reasons which benefitted you, think about the ways it benefitted those around you and the world. Part of coming out (especially coming-out early and often) is paving the way for others to find the courage to do it as well.

    Because you and I are out, he was finally able to do it. It is not up to us to judge other people's lives but to deal with them effectively. If they are out -- that means to support them where they are. If they are doing evil to our community -- it is to confront and challenge them.

    It is not useful to confuse the two.

    Posted by: Alex Parrish | Sep 21, 2013 12:55:04 PM


  5. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/D%27Evelyn_Junior/Senior_High_School#History

    Sounds like a great example of what a bunch of rich*, white*, suburban* parents can accomplish when they manipulate a "charter schools" program intended to improve failing urban schools to create a publicly funded school for their kids and only their kids. Yay, teamwork!!!

    Anyway, glad the coach is out and living a more true life. But, geez, stop changing in the bathroom. Maybe the Director McWhorter can start using the private changing room with the toilet...

    Posted by: BobN | Sep 21, 2013 1:12:42 PM


  6. Ooops. Forgot to footnote.

    * check, got that covered

    * check

    * formerly

    Posted by: BobN | Sep 21, 2013 1:14:15 PM


  7. Ooops. Forgot to footnote.

    * check, got that covered

    * check

    * formerly

    Posted by: BobN | Sep 21, 2013 1:14:16 PM


  8. The reason I came out is that I felt and still feel that it is important to live one's life with honesty and integrity.

    I don't want this guy to suffer indignities. I just think that any celebratory impulses be tempered by the reality that his cowardly decision to live a lie had devastating consequences for other people. Like his ex-wife.

    Posted by: Chris | Sep 21, 2013 3:50:56 PM


  9. Porter is bisexual, not gay. I know that gay men fear male bisexuality but let's not distort what is happening here. He's a man who is attracted to both genders but who has now cbosen to pursue a relationship that involves a man.

    There's no glory in leaving your wife and kids. Admittedly, however, it is often the woman's fault. Women tend to not tolerate bisexuality in their male partners even if those feelings are never practiced.

    Posted by: Adam | Sep 21, 2013 4:53:20 PM


  10. Adam: we get it. You're actually just Rick posting under a different name. Putting a new name on the same copy-and-pasted anti-women, homophobic rant won't change the fact that you're Towleroad's most persistent and insufferable troll. We see you and honestly we think you're just the worst.

    Posted by: Tyler | Sep 21, 2013 5:51:09 PM


  11. A straight guy whose midlife crisis entailed trading in his middle-aged wife and kids for a new girlfriend who happened to be a model/actress practically half his age (according to Facebook) would not be applauded. This guy's no different, except he went for a model/actor half his age.

    Posted by: Profe Sancho Panza | Sep 21, 2013 8:19:27 PM


  12. Nice way to freak out the young boys. Steel underpants have sold out in that community.

    Posted by: EB | Sep 21, 2013 10:49:19 PM


  13. @EB: Who let you out of your cage?

    Posted by: FFS | Sep 22, 2013 1:18:31 AM


  14. How many have walked in his shoes?

    How many were there to tell if he lied or if he was convinced he was straight?

    How many have the fortitude to face your kids after realizing you are queer? -- I have a friend who cant tell his kids and has stayed with the wife, who knows.

    Posted by: Bob | Sep 22, 2013 4:49:55 AM


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