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Long Island Mom Won't Let Her 'Innocent Son' Attend Birthday Party for Girl with Two Gay Dads

(edited image via huffpost)

Prejudice is taught, and this week's lesson comes from a mom in Baldwin, NY who would not let her son attend his seven-year-old classmate's birthday party.

The mother's note went viral this week after it was printed on the K-98.3 Facebook page.

It reads:

Tommy will NOT attend. I do not believe in what you do and will not subject my innocent son to your "lifestyle." I'm sorry Sophia has to grow up this way. If you have an issue or need to speak to me: [number erased]

Since the note was originally printed with the woman's phone number visible, we'll bet she got quite a few calls about it.

UPDATED: The story is a hoax.

Dear K-98.3 Listeners,

On Wednesday, we told you the story of Sophia's birthday party, and one parent's objection to the same-sex household of Sophia's parents. We also posted the invitation on our Facebook page, and invited comments from our followers.

This story was, in fact, totally fictitious, and created by the two of us. This was done without the knowledge of K-98.3 management or ownership.

We were attempting to spur a healthy discourse on a highly passionate topic, but we made a mistake by misleading our listeners into thinking that this specific situation actually existed.

We are very sorry that we perpetuated this falsehood, even after it was clear that it had taken on a 'life of its own.' We deeply apologize for violating your trust, and we will work hard to regain that trust.


Steve & Leeana

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  1. ah, christian love.

    Posted by: EO | Feb 14, 2014 10:21:20 AM

  2. Why print the phone number?

    I think "gotcha's" like this would be more effective if they showed the offensive quotation without the opportunity for those of us who have appointed ourselves "gay police" to phone them up and harass them.

    Posted by: Jonster | Feb 14, 2014 10:24:17 AM

  3. ughh... poor little boy who lives with that crazy mom!

    Posted by: woody | Feb 14, 2014 10:27:56 AM

  4. Get over yourself, you stupid c*nt. It's a just birthday party for children - a gay orgy isn't going to break out all of a sudden.

    Posted by: FuryOfFirestorm | Feb 14, 2014 10:31:07 AM

  5. Hoax? Hoax.

    Posted by: Mikey | Feb 14, 2014 10:32:22 AM

  6. There's a question as to how real this story is.

    Posted by: Jeffg166 | Feb 14, 2014 10:34:01 AM

  7. Here's the thing, if a radio station is involved, I'm highly skeptical of the authenticity.

    Posted by: Craig | Feb 14, 2014 10:34:51 AM

  8. Tommy is the one we need to feel compassion for. Imagine growing up with such a bigoted narrow-minded mother? His life will be one of sad bitterness. As for Sophia - best wishes on your birthday sweetie. Your tie-dye party will be the best 7th birthday you will ever have! What a lucky little girl you are to have two dads who shower you with so much love!

    Posted by: Mike Ryan | Feb 14, 2014 10:43:05 AM

  9. This makes me sad. I have many friends who have created wonderful families. I can only imagine that they were excited to plan their daughter's party with every detail meant to create a fun environment for the kids. To receive such a response must be heartbreaking. While we know hate still exists, it doesn't make it any less painful to experience first hand.

    Posted by: John | Feb 14, 2014 10:51:19 AM

  10. Homosexuals involved with a tie dye party?! TOO CRAZY TO BE TRUE.

    Posted by: JeffRob | Feb 14, 2014 10:53:47 AM

  11. Homosexuals involved with a tie dye party?! TOO CRAZY TO BE TRUE.

    Posted by: JeffRob | Feb 14, 2014 10:53:52 AM

  12. My, my. Will those Baldwins never stop making headlines?

    Posted by: Wavin' Dave | Feb 14, 2014 10:55:10 AM

  13. it is unforunate that tommy does have to live with this type of mentality..not only is his parent teaching him some pretty screwed up ideals but he will grow up with a very different idea of how the world is changing daily.
    additionally why do gay men always feel that there must a "story"..a hoax connected to this..reading this seems not too far off every second story we read in every newspaper round the world.
    i think it sad so many gay men are soooo jaded and bitter and cant just read something for what it is without turning it into something else.

    Posted by: darren | Feb 14, 2014 11:01:24 AM

  14. Well! I never!!

    Posted by: clutchthepearlsAKAratbastard | Feb 14, 2014 11:15:27 AM

  15. More cake for Sophia!

    Posted by: Bond1965 | Feb 14, 2014 11:18:37 AM

  16. It's sad that this mother won't let her son go to the party, but it's even sadder that this private correspondence between two sets of parents got into the hands of the media. Can't adults work through things now-a-days without making a big Media Field Day out of everything?

    Folks need to start acting like adults and stop running to the media and legal system for every little thing. Work it out, people!

    Posted by: Jon | Feb 14, 2014 11:23:27 AM

  17. I don't know if it's a hoax or not, but I grew up on the south shore of Nassau County, Long Island - not too far from Baldwin - and I can say unequivocally that it has the ring of truth.

    Also: the lady's phone number was published. If this was a hoax, it would have been established immediately. Either the number is nonworking or the person who owns it would be screaming his/her innocence. That has not happened.

    Posted by: scott | Feb 14, 2014 11:24:14 AM

  18. Poor mom. Imagine going through life so fueled by hatred and ignorance? Imagine waking each day with this disease. Imagine the poor child who has to listen to this drunken idiot on a regular basis. Just because you CAN have children doesn't mean you SHOULD have them.

    Posted by: DC Insider | Feb 14, 2014 11:27:20 AM

  19. Yeah, I'm smelling a hoax here, too. It's just too perfect, right down to the scare quotes around "lifestyle". If it's real, well, it's just sad. I guess we'll find out the truth soon enough...

    Posted by: Charles | Feb 14, 2014 11:41:21 AM

  20. We have been burned on notes like this too many times. I will wait until it is vetted as real. Yes, she may have left a number and email. But even that seems a bit odd. Why would they invite children to the party whose parents they don't know well and already have contact info for? This woman could have easily just said "you know how to get in touch with me".

    Time will tell. But until then, skeptical switch on.

    Posted by: Quicksilver | Feb 14, 2014 11:48:38 AM

  21. It does, indeed, smell like a hoax. Supposedly the radio station asked the mother if they could publish her phone number and she said yes, but everyone calling it got a mechanical answer over a VOiP line, and the box was never full. I've not yet seen a single instance of someone supposedly reaching and speaking to the mother.

    If true, an instance of pure evil.

    If a hoax, these kind of examples of fake bigotry do nothing to help us, when there a plenty of clear examples that are ignored and neglected every day.

    Posted by: MrRoboto | Feb 14, 2014 11:55:53 AM

  22. Saw this on Facebook with the number. Many of us have called the wretched wench. She has not been pleased.

    Posted by: jamal49 | Feb 14, 2014 11:57:06 AM

  23. @ JAMAL49 - quite a few posters here say it is a hoax, is made up, is not real, is fake ... (how jaded have we become?)

    HuffPro spoke to one of the two Dads yesterday and the written response is real. Perhaps if they do a Skype with the guy and post that the naysayers will be convinced?

    Posted by: Mike Ryan | Feb 14, 2014 12:32:47 PM

  24. Quicksilver - Kids today are expected to invite everyone in their classroom to their birthday party, lest they be accused of marginalizing, excluding, being selective or mean

    Posted by: enchantra | Feb 14, 2014 12:39:45 PM

  25. @MIKE RYAN... Everyone interviewed the waitress with the hoax receipt and she said it was real too. So. Forgive me if I'm jaded and have a problem taking anyone's word for it nowadays.

    If you're going to go through the trouble of taking a photo of the bigoted comments, tell us who the offender is. We'll take it from there. How can you expect to challenge the behavior if we have no one to protest to?

    Blind faith no longer works in these situations.

    Furthermore, bigotry still exists. Simple-minded people are a way of life in America. Unless this "bigot" walked up to Sophia and threw the Bible at her and said she and her family are going to hell... just suck it up and quietly throw the invitation away.

    Posted by: BRIAN | Feb 14, 2014 1:22:05 PM

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