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NFL Free Agent Kerry Rhodes Addresses Gay Rumors: 'I Emphatically Said No...'

NFL free agent Kerry Rhodes addressed rumors he is gay in two separate interview sessions this week. The first was with ESPN and Rhodes denies he was blacklisted after rumors began circulating last year that he was in a relationship with his male assistant, supported by affectionate photos of the two of them together:

Rhodes"I don't think I was blacklisted," Rhodes said during a phone interview Tuesday. "Especially with the NFL I don't think they would do that ... to me it was a product of me wanting to do other things and not finding the right opportunity."

As the NFL is about to welcome the first openly gay player in Michael Sam, who will enter the NFL draft this season, many assume Rhodes had not been offered a job after a former associate told a number of websites that Rhodes was gay. Some speculated that Rhodes wouldn't feel comfortable coming out, but Rhodes said that has never been the case.

"I emphatically said no once and that's all I need to say and people who know me know that's definitely not the case," Rhodes said. "To me I'm definitely not and I can't control what people think, so I move on."

Rhodes also commented on the league's would-be first gay player Michael Sam:

Rhodes said he thinks Sam will have to prove himself, just like every rookie does, in order to be accepted.

"Not just him being Michael Sam the gay player, with his sexuality being at the forefront," Rhodes said. "But accepting him as him as a man and as a player."

Sam's teammates may face more scrutiny, but Rhodes doesn't expect that the locker room will need to change to accommodate the first openly gay player.

"I don't think the locker room will change," Rhodes said. "I think they will be more cognizant of it, it's such a big deal right now. I think they'll try to police it a little more but I don't think the locker room will change. Every locker room has a different dynamic."

Rhodes again addressed the rumors (a popular topic) in an AMA on Deadspin yesterday:

Questioner Sam G: "Are you kind of peeved that everyone assumed you were gay, or at least closeted, after the reports from your assistant? It seems like the media kind of jumped on that story quickly and the narrative became one of a talented corner being blacklisted because he's gay, regardless of your comments on the subject. Personally, I think this stems from people wanting to see an openly gay player in the NFL because it would be a very public step in the equal rights movement, and would be a pretty big deal for gay folks in athletics everywhere."

Rhodes: "Great question. I agree with you in the sense that the media and or blogs are way too quick to report a story without investigating what is really going on first."

Rhodes was also asked if he thinks there's something wrong with being gay since he declined to make a "not that there's anything wrong with that" statement in the ESPN interview.

Said Rhodes: "I have friends from various backgrounds. Of course there is nothing wrong with being gay."

Rhodes also answered "yes" when asked if he's tired of the gay discussion.

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  1. Of course he isn't going to come out (if it were true) after the "anonymous" statement that was published during the Michael Sam issues.

    Posted by: NotSafeForWork | Feb 21, 2014 10:32:13 AM

  2. I have no idea if he's gay, but those are perfectly reasonable responses. I'm getting sick of the NFL gay discussion myself, and I'm not even tangentially involved.

    Posted by: Paul R | Feb 21, 2014 10:32:32 AM

  3. i don't know if he's gay or not, but he is physically magnificent.

    Posted by: ryata | Feb 21, 2014 11:00:12 AM

  4. Well, I turst his words. He looks very handsome, by the way.

    Posted by: Matt27 | Feb 21, 2014 11:05:32 AM

  5. So after reading this I went to Google images and searched for "Kerry Rhodes gay" and the many different images of him and his assistant are very telling.

    Reporters should stop asking him if he is gay, I bet most African American men on the DL don't consider themselves gay. Reporters should instead ask him if he has sex with men. Being gay today is an identity and isn't just about sex...perhaps he is "straight" but just likes to have sex with men.

    And to answer anyone who says "it isn't our business" I would respond that if he chooses to make lots of money through fame then this stuff comes with the job. If you want privacy then go have a 9 to 5 job like everyone else.

    Posted by: Will | Feb 21, 2014 11:06:34 AM

  6. Very interesting and accurate comment, Will.

    Most of the guys that I had sex with in the 70s and 80s would never consider themselves Gay. Hell, they wouldn't even call themselves bisexual. We queens called them "trade".

    I look back on those after midnight meetings with "trade" as a complete waste of time.

    I envy those you who have had meaningful Gay relationships (whether long or short term). All I got out of those many many many meetings with "trade" is a loose bottom (every type of pun intended).

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Feb 21, 2014 11:21:12 AM

  7. @Will
    I disagree with your statement,
    "And to answer anyone who says "it isn't our business" I would respond that if he chooses to make lots of money through fame then this stuff comes with the job. If you want privacy then go have a 9 to 5 job like everyone else."

    Individuals make lots of money on their talent/skills and whatever situation they manage to get others to 'pay' them for those talents or skills. Unless that individual is a sex worker or doing adult/porn then I don't believe said individuals private sex/love life is any of your or anyone's business. And even for porn stars or sex workers their private sex/love life away from 'work' is their business. Why do you feel there is a difference in going to work 9-5 and someone who is 'supposedly' famous from their work? Money has nothing to do with it.

    Hypothetically, if I came to your job and found out you were screwing the bosses son and spread that information around the office and the local media, it may not go viral or national(these days who knows --it might), but it would cause a small sensation in your community or amongst the circle of people who know you and possible get you fired dependent upon where you work and/or who pays you for your talent/skills.

    Posted by: SPDRCR | Feb 21, 2014 11:39:30 AM

  8. @ WILL,

    one more thing. I wouldn't consider Kerry being on the "Down Low". DL guys claim that they hate effeminate males.

    If you've seen the "child" that was Kerry's assistant(also lover) on Youtube--well, let's say that he is very feminine. That's why I'd use the term "trade' to describe men like Kerry Rhodes. They don't hate queens or sissies--they have sex with them...us. Well, I guess there is one sissy Kerry surely hates now...LOL

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Feb 21, 2014 11:51:50 AM

  9. It is no one's business to ask if he is gay. It is no one's business to ask about someone's private life (this holds true for straight people). If he wishes to provide personal details of his life, then good for him. If he doesn't wish to provide any details, then good for him as well. This obsession gay people have with making everyone gay for their own personal benefit or for the so called benefit of the gay "community" is reprehensible. Mind your own business.

    Posted by: Perry | Feb 21, 2014 12:32:56 PM

  10. What pathetic queen will believe this closeted homo?

    Posted by: litper | Feb 21, 2014 12:41:34 PM

  11. How can this guy not be gay? Have you seen the online pictures of him kissing his bf?

    Posted by: Chris L. | Feb 21, 2014 12:59:12 PM

  12. Who cares?

    Posted by: enchantra | Feb 21, 2014 1:13:17 PM

  13. There's a lot of smoke and you can just make out the flames from behind the curtain.

    Posted by: anon | Feb 21, 2014 1:41:22 PM

  14. It's not anybody's business (and he is smart enough to avoid an homophobic answer).
    I'm all for player to come out, but the ones who really want to do it (or need to do it, some people never reach their goals if they are not fully true to themselves).
    The rest are free to do what they want, the only reason to out someone it's if he is doing damage to the community, and Rhodes seems very far from doing that, there's no reason to not believe him, and if he is lying i only feel pity for him

    Posted by: jjose712 | Feb 21, 2014 2:17:08 PM

  15. @derrick from Philly

    I agree with you that the pics of Rhodes and Miss Thang did get me to wondering whether he was actually "out" or not or what does that even mean.

    He looked quite comfortable to me. Rhodes might have been (and may still be) out on a need to know basis.

    Posted by: Chitown Kev | Feb 21, 2014 4:45:43 PM

  16. Now what gay man doesn't want to be in a relationship with that body...

    Posted by: jarago | Feb 21, 2014 5:50:49 PM

  17. @ Chitown Kev,

    understand and appreciate your response. I don't know what this affair was all about.

    The "child," , (whatever the f.ck his name was) he claims the relatiohship was sexaual and LOVING. Well, I think it was--yeah, I do.. I'm envious as hell. Yes. child!!!! To have sex with a football player...oh, my.

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Feb 21, 2014 6:19:46 PM

  18. What's he denying, though, specifically that he's gay? He could be bi, right?

    His answers don't seem wildly different from what we might hear from Kevin Spacey or Queen Latifah, yeah?

    As long as they're not being homophobic (or, arguably, presiding over a mass wedding on television...) I'm cool with it, personally.

    Posted by: antisaint | Feb 21, 2014 7:38:34 PM

  19. He's scared. Feel sad for guys that buy into that down low crap.
    Living a lie. Hurting everyone involved.

    Pull a Michael Sam and own your truth.

    Posted by: SERIOUSLY | Feb 21, 2014 9:00:26 PM

  20. M. Sam is a paradigm shift that has left the haters and self haters in the past. Sam changed the dialogue and the dynamic.

    Posted by: miami | Feb 22, 2014 7:13:35 AM

  21. Kerry missed his chance. Oh well!!!

    Posted by: Kissyfur | Feb 22, 2014 8:14:57 PM

  22. Hi Derrick from Philly and chitown Kevin, I remember both of you from Rod Beta.

    Posted by: Jacob | Feb 23, 2014 7:31:49 AM

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