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Grady Smith 'Comes Out' As Christian And Gay, But Won't Act On His Desires: VIDEO

Grady Smith

Former Entertainment Weekly writer Grady Smith put up a blog post in May titled "Coming Out As A Christian" wherein he described living a "closeted" life at his job, fearful of letting slip that he was particularly religious. This would have been courageous if he'd provided any examples of his workplace being hostile to believers in any way - and, you know, if being religious were a social classification that subjected one to institutionalized hate and discrimination reinforced by corporate policies and federal law - but all he provides are imagined hostilities that only existed in his own insecurities.

Last Thursday he posted a follow-up entitled "Coming Out As A Christian (Part 2)" wherein he admits to being a gay Christian. It would be wonderful if the article provided insight on a difficult journey and a reconciliation between two contradictory facets of one's being, but unfortunately it's just gay shame masked in proud acceptance of God's will. This is made evident when Smith states,

Now, I choose to not act on my gay desires because I think scripture makes it pretty clear that that’s not God’s ideal plan for people. I’m not angry or jaded about that fact, nor do I look at sacrificing my own sexuality to God as a tragedy. To me, it’s simple obedience — and it is not shame-based.

Except that it is. The religious arguments against homosexuality are universally flaccid and based entirely on shaming someone for being who they are, and framing LGBT sex drives as unnatural abominations that should never be acted upon is the height of that shame.

The post in itself is a shame. Smith accurately points out a great many flaws in the church, such as the special level of judgment leveled at homosexuals and the philosophical bankruptcy of "Love the sinner, hate the sin." Unfortunately, rather than strongly stand by a statement saying the church and Bible are just flat-out wrong on homosexuality - just as they were with slavery - Smith accepts that his teenage addiction to pornography (colloquially known as "being a teenager") and his attraction to men and the wrongness of same-sex desire are in fact sinful flaws within his imperfect human self, but the church should just be nicer about pointing it out.

Smith is starting a YouTube series about the intersection of his faith and sexuality, and you can hear him speak for himself - and start placing bets as to when he will get caught hooking up in a gay bar - AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. So what do you want him to do? Have sex against his own moral conviction?

    Posted by: aki | Jun 29, 2014 8:41:37 PM

  2. The writer of this article needs to be a bit more empathetic. This is his journey not yours.

    Posted by: tagg | Jun 29, 2014 8:45:17 PM

  3. That was superbly written CHRISTIAN.

    Posted by: UFFDA | Jun 29, 2014 8:49:27 PM

  4. What a Sad, Hot, Man.

    Posted by: elwoodl | Jun 29, 2014 8:50:41 PM

  5. He wants an audience, but of whom? Who makes a video of this kind and for what purpose? Infamy, blackmail? I held this same impossible ground at 21 shortly before jettisoning organized religion entirely. It doesn't wear well on somebody even older. Just live your life.

    Posted by: Josh M. | Jun 29, 2014 8:51:12 PM

  6. This article made my left eye start twitching.


    How sad for him. I hope he doesn't waste his whole life being obedient to hateful nonsense written by a bunch of dirty fools.

    Posted by: Galbanum | Jun 29, 2014 8:57:08 PM

  7. Universally flaccid? #epicfail

    Posted by: Peter | Jun 29, 2014 8:57:10 PM

  8. He's hot. He's gettin' it on the downlow, gimme a break.

    Posted by: leprechaunvict | Jun 29, 2014 8:59:33 PM

  9. Such a waste of a hot piece of man. Give me an hour with him and he'll be real close to God

    Posted by: Derrick | Jun 29, 2014 9:01:42 PM

  10. The air is thick with suffocating judgment by the writer of this Towleroad article, sitting in judgment on how Grady Smith has chosen to handle who he is. Everyone handles life his or her own way...is Towleroad so threatened by this guy wanting to approach his homosexuality different than the "party line"?

    Posted by: Jon | Jun 29, 2014 9:01:45 PM

  11. If he wants to be miserable for the rest of his life, fine. But he doesn't need blog about it and make videos. That will just harm people because his religious friends will hold him up as an example to their children and gay people in general.

    Posted by: Steve | Jun 29, 2014 9:02:06 PM

  12. Who am I to judge? it is his life.

    Posted by: Jay | Jun 29, 2014 9:12:13 PM

  13. "Coming out as Christian"

    Really? The dominant religion and litmus test of the country and he has to come out?

    Get off the crucifix.

    Posted by: Polyboy | Jun 29, 2014 9:14:08 PM

  14. @steve Why not ? There are probably a lot of people like him out there and they need a support system .
    Someone who thinks gay sex is a sin and biblically forbidden is not going to be reached by people talking at them about "bronze age goat herders" and "magic skyfairies".
    You can't force someone to accept a pro gay interpretation of the bible or convice them of atheism.

    Posted by: aki | Jun 29, 2014 9:14:51 PM

  15. Sounds like the story a lot of priests tell. But give him time. He's struggling with things, some real and some imagined. Maybe he'll figure things out.

    Posted by: jason MacBride | Jun 29, 2014 9:14:59 PM

  16. This man is to be pitied. Religion has no place in modern life. It does far too much harm and too little good.

    Posted by: nativo | Jun 29, 2014 9:19:12 PM

  17. I agree that this man is on his own journey. Coming out is a process, not a static state. He has every right to express himself through his blogs or whatever. But I have every right to say that religion is a self-imposed curse. The logic is monstrous. "Thank you, perfect deity, for making me so imperfect that I will never measure up to your standards, and for punishing me forever just for giving me life." All the wonders and pleasures of life must be sublimated to a vengeful authoritarian who'd rather gleefully torture you forever if you dare to enjoy your life. Who among us who has ever felt real love for another, could ever imagine that eternal damnation could ever come out of real love. It's stockholm syndrom codified by thousands of years of degression. They worship evil. Love doesn't act like that.

    Posted by: stranded | Jun 29, 2014 9:19:29 PM

  18. Re: NATIVO
    "This man is to be pitied. Religion has no place in modern life." Amen.

    Posted by: Rob | Jun 29, 2014 9:21:18 PM

  19. *regression, not degression

    Posted by: stranded | Jun 29, 2014 9:21:23 PM

  20. Of course, it's his life and he can do as he pleases. But his logic is twisted: My decision to abstain from my natural inclination is not shame-based. I'm not going to do it because the Bible says that it's an abomination.

    That makes sense if you're willing to stand before your God and tell him that you disobeyed one of his commands, but you're not ashamed of it.

    Posted by: Dattexas | Jun 29, 2014 9:24:04 PM

  21. Guess when you have Jesus that far up your hinder, you can proclaim yourself gay, Christian and chaste.

    Posted by: Quicksilver | Jun 29, 2014 9:27:34 PM

  22. I just feel sorry for him. If he continues in this manner, he'll never know how it feels to be in love. He'll never feel the joy of holding someone, or kissing someone, or having really great sex with someone. Even bad sex would be an improvement over what he has now. The article mentioned taking bets on when he gets caught hooking up in a bar. For his sake, I hope it's soon.

    Posted by: Mike in the Tundra | Jun 29, 2014 9:35:59 PM

  23. "... start placing bets as to when he will get caught hooking up in a gay bar."

    I'm sure he's a regular at the local bathhouse already.

    Posted by: S. | Jun 29, 2014 9:43:26 PM

  24. His life, his decision. As long as he isn't looking for ways to restrict the rest of us, it's no one's business but his own.

    The minute he signs up with the Anti-Gay Industrial Complex, though, let the doors be shut upon him.

    Posted by: tim b | Jun 29, 2014 9:44:23 PM

  25. SMH, what a tortured soul. The mental gymnastics he goes through day and night I wouldn't wish on anyone.

    Posted by: ny2.0 | Jun 29, 2014 10:09:27 PM

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