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Sex and the City: The Interview


GuestbloggerHope you're all enjoying the holiday weekend. We thought we'd bring you something a bit different today and at the same time do our part to add to the overkill media machine propelling the most important movie ever made toward its premiere at the end of the month.

Towleroad correspondents Josh Helmin and Josh Koll (Josh & Josh are Rich and Famous) sat down with the cast of Sex and the City recently at the Ritz Carlton Hotel in New York for exclusive chats about the show’s gay fans, plotlines that never made it to the show, Sex-y fashion, and what it was like to return to their characters’ (high-heeled) shoes for Sex and the City: The Movie. Here's what transpired:


CYNTHIA NIXON: In the first couple years of our show we didn’t have any female writers. Our two writers were gay men. There was a lot said about, “These aren’t really women—these are gay men disguised as women,” and that really bugged all of us. It was like, Why aren’t they really women? Because women aren’t having this much sex? That’s annoying.

It’s a very gay friendly show. Not only do we have gay characters, but one of the central themes is a very gay conceit, which is your family is not the family you came from. Your family [develops] when you come to a place you always wanted to be and you meet people who are like you, and you create your own family. You notice in the series that we almost never meet anybody’s family. Once we met Charlotte’s brother. We heard about Miranda’s father after he was dead. But we never meet anybody’s parents or family. And they really wanted to keep it about the family you create.

SARAH JESSICA PARKER: Because I’m from New York, and I was raised in the theater, the gay community was always part of culture to me. They were always some of the first audiences, always the first people at the preview of a Broadway show, so it wasn’t so shocking to me that they were some of the first, most committed audiences [of our show].

There was a particular attachment to this show, among even my gay friends. It’s less about the salty dialogue and the candid, forthright chat-chat. Your relationship with your gay friends is like your relationships with your straight women friends. It is that deep and that intense and they care about friendships in the same way; they talk and they share. That has been my relationship with gay men, and, of course, the majority of my friends are gay men. And it’s extremely comforting: They always make you feel good, they always make you feel at even your worst moments like a lady—like a girl—and they are never afraid to be honest. They loved the ridiculousness and the absurd and the dirty and costumes, but if there wasn’t an emotional connection to those friendships and what they meant—you know, the gay community can grow weary, and they can move on quickly. But I think that’s what it meant for [the gay community], that kind of connection.

KIM CATTRALL: A lot of people ask me if they feel that I’m playing a gay man in New York, and if I am, I am having the most fabulous time as a gay man in New York. I don’t personally think that, but I think it’s a fun thought. I was very happy to be on the cover of The Advocate. I feel like I have arrived in some ways. But there has been a tremendous amount of support from the gay community, and I’m grateful for it.

KRISTEN DAVIS: We have been hugely supported by the gay community, absolutely, and we love that. I feel like we’ve got support from a lot of different groups, which I think was edifying to us. I think people in general identify with well-written characters.

But I think also for gay culture—men and women—we were not locked into anything particularly rigid—there’s Samantha and Charlotte and everything in between. It’s colorful and pretty to look at, and we’ve got crazy clothes, and it was risky in a way, and with sexuality, and I think that people felt free about that, and so of course the gay community would vibe with it. But also, when I go home to South Carolina, old women come up to me, and I say, “Really, you watch it? You don’t have heart palpitations?” So it’s been a really good cross section. But we love our gay fans, obviously.

NEXT: Back in their characters' shoes...

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  1. I can't wait for my gay's night out!

    Posted by: Jan | May 26, 2008 10:13:01 AM

  2. There is still no force on Earth that is going to get me to the theater to see this movie.

    I am TRULY pleased that these four women have been able to garner a greater career from this show.

    Posted by: Charles | May 26, 2008 10:15:39 AM

  3. I'm waiting for the Golden Girls movie.

    Posted by: Ulrich | May 26, 2008 10:37:33 AM

  4. The gay community? I thought gay people were very diverse, they are talking like if all gay men were only one. Stop stereotyping gay people!

    Posted by: maricielo | May 26, 2008 11:16:02 AM

  5. Ok enough Sex and the City !!! It's all over the place ....

    Posted by: LA Boy | May 26, 2008 11:22:29 AM

  6. groovy girls indeed.
    but definitely a dvd rental... not into watching television at the cinema.
    oh, and her name is Patricia Field.

    Posted by: A.J. | May 26, 2008 11:48:36 AM

  7. This show was boring dreck when it was on television and I don't expect it to be anything more than that as a movie.

    Posted by: JerzeeMike | May 26, 2008 12:11:52 PM

  8. i cannot imagine any circumstance in which this movie would interest me.

    Posted by: nic | May 26, 2008 12:27:41 PM

  9. These girls helped me get through one of the worst breakups of my life. I will be in the theater the minute the film hits the screen.

    Posted by: Anon | May 26, 2008 1:30:40 PM

  10. Maricielo:

    You are whining about women praising their gay following on a blog with 'homosexual tendencies' are an stereotype!

    Posted by: Felix | May 26, 2008 1:54:42 PM

  11. This show was fantastic and the movie is going to be exciting! Silence the sourpuss queens!

    Posted by: brad | May 26, 2008 2:07:55 PM

  12. Bravo on the interview, J&J!

    And to my fellow commenters - enough with the venom! Didn't you ever learn, "if you don't have something nice to say...?"

    Posted by: Justin | May 26, 2008 2:18:43 PM

  13. Yes, Justin, but if you don't have something nice to say, then come sit by me.

    Personally, I'll wait for the DVD. I hated the last few seasons of the show, so I hardly think I'm going to enjoy the follow-up.

    Posted by: Will | May 26, 2008 3:38:19 PM

  14. I can't wait for the movie. I wasn't happy with the way it ended 4 years ago. They all ended up happy & found the right men. I thought, with the exception of Charlotte, they were independent women who didn't need a man to make them happy? I'm glad the film will deal with what happens after 'happily ever after.'

    Posted by: scar2 | May 26, 2008 4:18:47 PM

  15. ...the majority of my friends are gay men". So much so she married one!

    Posted by: davefromtampa | May 26, 2008 4:30:47 PM

  16. Yes, the last couple seasons were going down in flames (the ones in which SJP had more control producing). Nice to know, from her lips, the other reason the early episodes were so much better.


    Posted by: lodenmuse | May 26, 2008 4:56:28 PM

  17. Ugh! I'm SO sick of this show now. Loved it when it was on, but didn't realize what it would reap upon this great city. A bunch of girls from the hinterlands moving to the city thinking they could live exactly like these girls on TV. Well, that ain't New York, ladies! Sadly, that influx of girls (and equally simpy gay men) have ruined this city for a very long time. Let's get back to the REAL sex and the city, please!

    Posted by: Kamasutra Jones | May 26, 2008 6:43:41 PM

  18. I would die happy if I never heard or read the words "Sex and the City" ever again.

    Posted by: Paul R | May 26, 2008 7:28:12 PM

  19. Lets face it if not for this show and Will and Grace 75% of gays, would have no way to know how to act. The “TV gays” watch these shows and believe they know the characters and the actors that play them personally and are their friends. They also emulate them in speech, ideology and morals. If these women told gay men to cut their dicks off many would consider it.

    Posted by: ggreen | May 26, 2008 8:52:40 PM

  20. thank you so much for this.

    these women are absolutely fabulous. LOVE this show..

    but it's KRISTIN.

    Posted by: anastasia_beaverhausen | May 26, 2008 9:47:56 PM

  21. Seriously, it's Kristin. Please please please change. It's disrespectful and unprofessional to interview someone and then spell their name incorrectly.

    Posted by: will | May 26, 2008 10:09:59 PM

  22. I'm so excited by Sex and the City the movie! Here's an interview with Sarah Jessica Parker:

    Posted by: fancastgal | May 26, 2008 11:16:53 PM

  23. Sex And The City is not remotely gay-friendly. What you have here is producers and writers and actresses using the gay community to build a power base. Female entertainers like Madonna have done this before.

    Is there a male-male relationship depicted in Sex And The City? No. Is there a male-male kiss depicted in Sex And The City? Absolutely not. Still think this is a gay-friendly movie????

    We in the gay community really need to stop being dysfunctional in the way we devote our attention (and finances) to people who really do nothing to help our gay rights cause. We have become enablers of the heterosexual male fantasy by propping up these women, women who are extremely vain and desperate to tailor themselves for the purpose of attracting male heterosexual attention. Let's not do it. Time for us to grow up. Time to stop the enabling.

    Posted by: jason | May 27, 2008 12:44:29 AM

  24. Loved the show and I cant wait for the movie.

    Posted by: Dakota | May 27, 2008 3:40:18 AM

  25. true enough about the maybe-not-so-gay-friendly bit. carrie's friend and charlotte's friend were broadly drawn queens, which is fine, nothing against effeminate gay men, but if we really understood what "gay friendly" or "gay positive" meant, maybe we wouldn't be so quick to hold this show up as these things.

    still can't wait.

    Posted by: brad | May 27, 2008 7:36:57 AM

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