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Zachary Quinto Won't Say if He's Gay

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The NYT asks Angels in America star Zachary Quinto about rumors that he's gay.

While Mr. Quinto accepts the occasional fan ambush as part of the movie and television stardom package, he chooses to keep his distance from what he regards as mindless celebrity-gossip culture. “I’m grateful that celebrity or notoriety wasn’t thrust upon me when I was in my 20s, because I think I would have buckled under the weight of it, as so many people do,” he said. “But I’ve come to realize through experience that ultimately I really do have a lot of power in terms of the way I relate to the public or to people outside of my intimate circle of friends and family. Boundaries are very important to me.”

Despite Mr. Quinto’s efforts to keep his private life private, the blogosphere is rife with speculation about his sexuality, no doubt fueled by his support for gay rights and organizations like the Trevor Project. He prefers not to feed that rumor mill with either substantiation or dismissal. He speaks passionately about gay marriage, about “don’t ask, don’t tell” and about the recent wave of gay bullying and suicides.

“The fact that these things are such hot-button issues right now, socially and politically, I would much rather talk about that than talk about who I sleep with,” Mr. Quinto said. “I would love to be a voice in this maelstrom of chaos and obsessive celebrity infatuation that says, ‘Let’s talk about something that matters,’ ” he added.

Of course it's up to Quinto to decide when and how he comes out, if he is gay, but surely having out and proud examples matters to those considering harming themselves over their sexuality.

Quinto's 'It Gets Better' video, AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. Who the fuck is asking him to tell us "who" he sleeps with? And he's "passionate" about DADT?? His hypocrisy is sickening.

    Posted by: Will | Oct 25, 2010 9:20:38 AM


  2. How can we convincingly tell people that it gets better when we're still not comfortable living our lives openly?

    Posted by: Andrew | Oct 25, 2010 9:29:46 AM


  3. He can be open about his sexuality or he can tell people it's none of their business because THAT'S ABSOLUTELY TRUE.

    I dislike this coercion from the community, where they have supposedly decided he has to declare his sexuality. What we'll see now is all the gay blogs, sites and magazines effectively hounding him until he's forced to say something. And, of course, this will be right next to another story about, say, someone who was forceably outed against their will with an editorial banging on about the importance of privacy.

    Posted by: dreamfish | Oct 25, 2010 9:30:32 AM


  4. It gets so much better, I ZQ am still hiding in the closet professionally and to the public out of fear of losing cash because people may hate who I am

    Posted by: tony x | Oct 25, 2010 9:30:48 AM


  5. Anderson Cooper would be proud.

    Posted by: CandL | Oct 25, 2010 9:36:57 AM


  6. You know what sort of gay political awareness I'd REALLY like to see from Celebrities? Talk about the value of Outness and how the willingness to represent oneself in a representative democracy is what has lead directly to the (partial) change in attitudes we've seen today.

    Just saying.

    Posted by: 33mhz | Oct 25, 2010 9:42:51 AM


  7. IF he's gay. IF I saw him at Beige. And speaking of beige, this kind of colorless response went out of fashion in 1997. How do we as a community expect straight people to put themselves on the line for us if we don't put ourselves on the line first? Why would anyone who knows him think that being gay is anything but shameful? Yes, staying in the shadows is a personal choice, just so long as you are clear that by doing so you are part of the slow progression of LGBT rights in this country. It is tacit approval of homophobia through your own internalized homophobia. But as long as you are cool with that, knock yourself out!

    Posted by: Derek Hartley | Oct 25, 2010 9:52:16 AM


  8. Zachary is living in the real world. Just like Anderson Cooper, Matt Bomer, John Travolta, Tom Cruise, Queen Latifah, etc. In the real world, actors ARE blacklisted because of their sexual orientation. Especially in lead romantic roles. Their entire livelihoods are at stake. So they have every right to protect their careers by keep their personal lives private. -- I'm not saying any of this is fair or right, sadly it's just the reality of our society.

    Posted by: David in Houston | Oct 25, 2010 9:52:18 AM


  9. You guys are making me sick. He's got every right to want his private life kept private. Why the hell should details of ANYTHING he doesn't do on stage or screen be your business, when at the same time gays are asking conservatives not to stick THEIR noses into our private lives? Guess what? Actor or not, it's none of your business who he's with, if anyone, and his job is to act, not be some kind of example for you or anyone else you know. Want young gays to have a positive role model? Stop bitching on this forum and go volunteer with gay youth groups or something, rather than expecting every fucking POSSIBLY gay person with ANY notoriety to do what you SAY you would do if you were them. Tacky bitchy queens.

    Posted by: Joey Y | Oct 25, 2010 9:57:18 AM


  10. Have courge Tony X, as most of you who have posted here have given me.

    Posted by: terryp | Oct 25, 2010 9:57:44 AM


  11. He is obviously a tube-jumper. Shame on him for not musterng up the courage to come out.
    He is cute and hairy, two qualities. I did not realize though what a wisp of a thing he is. A few years in the gym and another 25 well-placed pounds and we can talk more seriously.

    Posted by: tweedle | Oct 25, 2010 9:57:49 AM


  12. I don't know his story and I can't judge his choice of discretion, which is the best choice for some people.
    He may be straight and is tired of hearing straight people deny they're gay as if to shore up their privileged status.
    Or for all I know, he could be gay and is planning to do some humanitarian work in Haiti and fears for his life if word gets out before he returns...
    or maybe he is waiting for a Mormon great grandmother to die before he mentions he is bisexual because he knows she would spend her last month depressed over something that shouldn't be sad and that she'd never understand anyway.

    I can think of a lot of other reasons someone might legitimately not choose to tell the press that they are straight, gay, bi or even something else (like intersexed), but there's no reason to jump to conclusions and decide that anyone who doesn't announce his/her orientation is both gay and cowardly.

    Posted by: gregv | Oct 25, 2010 10:03:04 AM


  13. @ Tony et al

    Are you willing to risk your security and career by publicly declaring your sexual orientation - especially in an industry where there is sensitivity around the issue - or is this what queers employed in high-profile positions must do?

    Quinto has chosen to be a high-profile advocate on queer issues. Let's be grateful for our allies be they gay or STR8.

    Posted by: Dickster | Oct 25, 2010 10:09:12 AM


  14. Celebrities are in an odd position. Most of us, if we're out to our friends, family, and co-workers, consider ourselves out. Celebrities can be out in this way and still be considered closeted. If they are private people, I can understand the hesitation, and the fear--legitimate or not--that being publicly out will hurt their career.

    That said, it's disappointing that Zachary reduces coming out publicly to talking about who he sleeps with. Coming out is NOT talking about who you sleep with, it's proudly acknowledging a fundamental part of who you are. It is recognizing the dignity of who you love. The tabloids may want to know who he sleeps with, but that's not what coming out is. Stars who refuse to come out imply there is shame in living openly and honestly, and that sends a message to young people that if you want to get ahead, you need to hide. It's particularly strange to do an "It Gets Better" video from the closet.

    Posted by: Ernie | Oct 25, 2010 10:22:45 AM


  15. @Dickster

    "Are you willing to risk your security and career by publicly declaring your sexual orientation - especially in an industry where there is sensitivity around the issue..."

    What really made this stick in my craw was his supposed "passion" about DADT, which means he's passionate that gay men and women should be able to publicly declare their sexual orientation in an environment where there most definitely is "sensitivity about the issue." It's all about having courage and integrity. Practice what you preach Zachary.

    Posted by: Will | Oct 25, 2010 10:36:08 AM


  16. If anyone wishes to devote time and effort to/for a "cause", having to reveal your orientation shouldn't be an issue. The only thing that matters is that your a human being that cares.

    Posted by: Harris | Oct 25, 2010 10:42:26 AM


  17. Since when is being gay a "personal" or "private" issue? Being straight isn't considered either. Wake up and smell your internalized homophobia, boys.

    For all Zach's advocacy, his coy denial of who he is sends a clear message that being gay is shameful. Shame on him and the posters that defend the closet.

    Posted by: CandL | Oct 25, 2010 10:57:17 AM


  18. @Will: I don't see DADT so much about people "publicly declaring" their orientation (which brings to my mind an image at someone in the barracks with a megaphone) as it is about people being forced to hide and lie in ordinary conversations and activities.
    A lot of people have been drummed out without telling anyone they're gay for things like being accidentally spied greeting a same-sex spouse while on leave or after having private e-mails to family intruded upon by superiors or for using the accurate pronoun in a sentence when asked about family back home.
    The supporters of DADT seem to have inaccurate and ridiculous ideas that what getting rid of DADT really means that we either want people doing things like standing on mess hall tables yelling that they're gay (and "heterosexuals don't do that, so why can't gays be just as discrete?") or demanding that soldiers be allowed to have sex with their superiors (and, again, "heterosexuals can't do that either, so why should gays get extra rights?"
    We really need to drill home that what we're talking about is simple free speech.

    Posted by: gregv | Oct 25, 2010 11:03:42 AM


  19. This outness thing is a complex issue. As long as he is out there doing other positive things for the LGBT community, I don't feel fully comfortable criticizing him merely for failing to speak the words "I am gay." At least, not yet.

    Posted by: Matt | Oct 25, 2010 11:10:21 AM


  20. He's an actor who needs to be constantly looking for a job to pay the bills like everyone else. Granted it's a very public job. How many of us actually discuss our sex lives with strangers? Our co-workers? Our employers. If you say it's none of their business then you understand every closeted gay/lesbian actor's predicament. There is a fine line between privacy and public disclosure. He is setting a positive example for young gay/lesbians, that's all we really can appreciate at this time.

    Posted by: KMC | Oct 25, 2010 11:19:21 AM


  21. That's your problem, KMC. Being gay isn't one's "sex life". No one is asking Zach if he enjoys rimming. Sheesh, you're depressing.

    Posted by: CandL | Oct 25, 2010 11:26:45 AM


  22. "How many of us actually discuss our sex lives with strangers?"

    Coming out is NOT the same as discussing your sex life with strangers. Homophobes (like the ones who fired Seth Stambaugh) perpetuate this myth, but we shouldn't. Coming out is acknowledging a fundamental part of your being--how you choose to have sex behind closed doors is another matter entirely. Celebrities do face a predicament that is different from the one most of us face (they also have a lot more privilege than most people), but publicly coming out should never be equated with blabbing your bedroom secrets.

    Posted by: Ernie | Oct 25, 2010 11:30:56 AM


  23. "He is obviously a tube-jumper. Shame on him for not musterng up the courage to come out.
    He is cute and hairy, two qualities. I did not realize though what a wisp of a thing he is. A few years in the gym and another 25 well-placed pounds and we can talk more seriously."

    And this is one of the reasons why celebrities don't come out.

    And, what Dreamfish said.

    Posted by: whammo | Oct 25, 2010 11:38:50 AM


  24. I don’t know why everyone must be compelled to tell his sexual orientation. Is there any identity card you are suppose to have, hidden anywhere? I mean why to take against the guy. Would we be as bitchy against a straight guy if we assume he likes to come in between his wife tits and he doesn’t tell, something that is personal, as we are with gay people just not wanting to discuss who they sleep with or come out? Just as in a rainbow of choices we can have different approaches when defending the rights to a plenty sexuality whatever it is. And let not forget that there are also bisexuals out there, why we must make them come out as something they are not? Just because we see everything in black and white? The very fact that we can be overly aggressive even against our supporters –whatever their sexuality is- shows us why many of them are afraid to identify themselves as whatever, it’s because sometimes we seem obsessive in judging every little step they make once they come out, as if they are forced to a kind of militancy. Chill out. Times are changing. Don’t waste your bullets against those who support us.

    Posted by: Lexxvs | Oct 25, 2010 12:03:06 PM


  25. @Will

    Definitely a case of physician, heal thy self.

    Too bad he isn't Dr. McCoy.

    This is all typical, self-righteous Hollywood hypocrisy though. They aren't even half as liberal as they seem to think they are. The other causes stars in California are "really passionate" about include saving the whales from Japanese fishermen (even though they eat unsustainable sushi); restoring the Dalai Lama (even though most of them are Christian); no blood for oil (they drive a Hummer); and adopting a single African war orphan to parade in front of the press (never mind the millions who are left behind),

    Posted by: John | Oct 25, 2010 12:13:52 PM


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