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Alan Chambers Thinks 'Praying Away The Gay' Is 'Lazy Stereotype:' VIDEO

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Exodus International leader Alan Chambers appeared on MSNBC's Hardball last night to discuss his organization's ballyhooed decision to disavow reparative therapy, the so-called "gay cure."

Explaining again that he still has same-sex desires, Chambers tells guest host Michael Smerconish that the concept of "praying away the gay has been a lazy stereotype. That's not what I did."

He goes on:

As far as reparative therapy… We endorsed that and had people within our movement who did therapy, but so much of the focus is changing there where they're talking about 100% cures and using that word specifically with me in private conversations and even introducing things like heterosexual pornography to help instigate attraction. I don't find that healthy at all.

Chambers was also asked whether he's contrite for the damage Exodus, he and other "ex-gay" activists have caused, and whether he's ready to apologize. His reply: "If someone hears my message — that those feelings are going to go away and their lives are going to be anything like my life, I am sorry for that. That has never been my intention."

Watch it all, AFTER THE JUMP.

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  1. You have blood on your hands, Chambers. I hope you never have a decent night's sleep, haunted by the lives you've helped ruin.

    Posted by: Rich F. | Jul 10, 2012 9:04:15 AM


  2. I was more offended by the host, Michael Smerconish, constantly referring to same sex attraction as "homosexual cravings." CRAVINGS? Really?

    Posted by: sean | Jul 10, 2012 9:04:47 AM


  3. Aren't Chambers and others like him really more "bisexual" than "gay" (how would Kinsey scale him)? How else to explain that he claims to having a healthy and enjoyable sexual life with a female while still harboring sexual feelings for males?? It all seems like a get-rich scheme by these charlatans proclaiming to "cure" gays of their same-sex attraction.

    Posted by: HadenoughBS | Jul 10, 2012 9:10:17 AM


  4. is it ironic that alan chambers just called his wife, "the object of my affection"? just sayin.

    Posted by: Justin | Jul 10, 2012 9:21:26 AM


  5. I wonder how many people have killed themselves because of this man.

    Posted by: homer | Jul 10, 2012 9:25:43 AM


  6. I hope this guy steps on a Lego

    Posted by: Solomon | Jul 10, 2012 9:25:58 AM


  7. @ Sean. The phrase "homosexual cravings" appeared in the New York Times story. Smerconish is just referring to that.

    As to the rest, it sounds like a double negative; I am not not gay.

    Posted by: gr8guya | Jul 10, 2012 9:30:08 AM


  8. GURRRRL, ain't u got no other blazers? you wore that for the NYTimes article earlier this week!!!

    Posted by: redball | Jul 10, 2012 9:30:26 AM


  9. This guy couldn't respond to a direct question with a direct answer if his life depended on it.

    Posted by: Tim NC | Jul 10, 2012 9:32:55 AM


  10. c.f.: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/07/us/a-leaders-renunciation-of-ex-gay-tenets-causes-a-schism.html?pagewanted=all

    Posted by: redball | Jul 10, 2012 9:33:28 AM


  11. u can take straight males, incarcirate them, and eventually they will have sex with one another due to the inaccessablity of females.

    This is is exactly what this man does to himself. He has sex with a female because he has "jailed" his sexuality. Thats his choice. Its his decision to suppress his primal urges.

    But what about the majority of us, gays, who revel in our desires. Who embrace who we are? Why is it that we are frowned upon? It is my choice, as a free-thinking human to do with my body as I wish.

    I wish, prefer, am programmed, am oriented to.....wanting sexual contact with another male. It is solely my choice and freedom to act as I see fit. as it is solely his decision to abstain from the same desire.

    Posted by: stevenelliot | Jul 10, 2012 9:34:09 AM


  12. Chambers was pathetic then and worse now. Got himself in a horrible twist claiming love for his "wife" with very strong desires for men. Consider "Born This Way" it is the true reality. Michael Smerconish is a right wing tool. How sad.

    Posted by: Onehandriter | Jul 10, 2012 9:35:52 AM


  13. What an unreconstructed scumbag closet case.
    Posters here are correct; (@Rich F above ) this phucker has blood on his hands.

    Even now he does not have the integrity or dignity to say he was wrong, apologise and STFU.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jul 10, 2012 9:41:25 AM


  14. This little rat looks terrified.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jul 10, 2012 9:47:41 AM


  15. How can anyone have a "personal relationship with Jesus" ?

    It's like having an imaginary friend for grownups....a relationship with someone who doesn't talk, walk,.......and then these people hear voices......
    Isn't this the definition of delusional?
    what really bugs me about Christians and all religionists is that they are ready, willing and enthusiastic of speaking of behalf of their gods........they seem to have no sense of irony about that.....the concept of an infinity being patronised by the deluded doesn't seem to phase them....

    On the genes/nurture debate , clearly Chambers doesn't have a clue; just as he didn't have a clue about praying away the gay.
    He's just another mouthpiece constructing his own little patch of notoriety.....truly pathetic.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Jul 10, 2012 9:56:21 AM


  16. @STEVENELLIOT Sorry, even in your circular logic, I have to disagree: I have NEVER EVER had a "choice" regarding my same-sex attraction. It has always been there, from earliest memory. Let me repeat: I have NEVER EVER had a "choice" regarding my same-sex attraction. And, I hazard to opine, neither have 99% of the readers here at Towleroad.

    Posted by: jamal49 | Jul 10, 2012 11:15:13 AM


  17. There are many gay people of faith in loving long term same sex relationships. They do not feel bound by a conservative or fundamentalist interpretation of the bible like Chambers. Personally i think, he must be somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale to be able to stay faithful to his wife. While I disagree with Chambers on many issues I have to give him credit for being real about same sex desires not going away. For anyone struggling with this issue Micheal Wood's book "Paul on homosexuality" would be a good book to read. Also books by Mel White
    and Troy Perry could be very helpful.

    Posted by: Tom in long beach | Jul 10, 2012 11:25:07 AM


  18. There are many gay people of faith in loving long term same sex relationships. They do not feel bound by a conservative or fundamentalist interpretation of the bible like Chambers. Personally i think, he must be somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale to be able to stay faithful to his wife. While I disagree with Chambers on many issues I have to give him credit for being real about same sex desires not going away. For anyone struggling with this issue Micheal Wood's book "Paul on homosexuality" would be a good book to read. Also books by Mel White
    and Troy Perry could be very helpful.

    Posted by: Tom in long beach | Jul 10, 2012 11:25:10 AM


  19. Adding to the money angle is the fear of being sued, so yeah, they've changed their message.

    Posted by: anon | Jul 10, 2012 11:39:19 AM


  20. just because he says he's been able to stay faithful to his wife doesn't mean it's true - just like his ability to pray away the gay.

    Posted by: Stephen | Jul 10, 2012 12:37:00 PM


  21. @Jamal49.... The "CHOICE" that StevenElliot is talking about is the "choice" of how you act on your innate desires. You have "choices". You can choose to be celibate. You can "choose" to force yourself into a heterosexual relationship as Mr Ex-Gay did. Or, you can choose to have same-sex relationships as StevenElliot has.

    You don't "choose" your sexual orientation. But, you do choose how you respond to it.

    Posted by: Tim NC | Jul 10, 2012 12:41:08 PM


  22. I always ask a question that always gets ignored: if "gay-isms" are nothing more than an affectation by stereotypical gay males who are controlled by The Monolithic Gay Community who Worships Divas and Hates Men, then why is this self-loathing anti-gay homosexual coward Alan Chambers the living embodiment of ALL OF THEM?

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Jul 10, 2012 1:33:39 PM


  23. I really don't understand people like Chambers. If you admit that same-sex desire is unchanging, innate, then you're also saying you were made/born that way. If you're religious it follows that God made you that way, but he was "wrong" for doing so, that God made a mistake. But your religion says that God doesn't make mistakes, so where does that leave you?

    I don't know, maybe I wasn't subjected to enough brainwashing when I was growing up but I can't take the idea that a document written at the tail end of the Bronze Age is the repository of all truth and wisdom seriously.

    And who would WANT to marry a person for whom it took gory threats of eternal damnation to MAKE them say "I do"?

    Posted by: Caliban | Jul 10, 2012 2:18:00 PM


  24. This is one of the gayest acting/looking men I have ever seen. I hope he gets a refund because the treatment obviously did not work !

    Posted by: Icebloo | Jul 10, 2012 2:18:27 PM


  25. This man is frightening to me. I have written about this before but I have seen what the handiwork of people like this does. Someone I love very dearly has been destroyed by scum like this man. He, thankfully, did not kill himself but has been so deeply damaged and is almost incapable of showing love to anyone. Those of us who have been affected by this see blood everywhere, the amount of times my friend attempted suicide is blood enough. There has to be a way to get these bastards and this abuse to be stopped.

    Posted by: WayneMPLS | Jul 10, 2012 2:30:35 PM


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