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  1. Rich F. says

    You have blood on your hands, Chambers. I hope you never have a decent night’s sleep, haunted by the lives you’ve helped ruin.

  2. says

    I was more offended by the host, Michael Smerconish, constantly referring to same sex attraction as “homosexual cravings.” CRAVINGS? Really?

  3. HadenoughBS says

    Aren’t Chambers and others like him really more “bisexual” than “gay” (how would Kinsey scale him)? How else to explain that he claims to having a healthy and enjoyable sexual life with a female while still harboring sexual feelings for males?? It all seems like a get-rich scheme by these charlatans proclaiming to “cure” gays of their same-sex attraction.

  4. Justin says

    is it ironic that alan chambers just called his wife, “the object of my affection”? just sayin.

  5. gr8guya says

    @ Sean. The phrase “homosexual cravings” appeared in the New York Times story. Smerconish is just referring to that.

    As to the rest, it sounds like a double negative; I am not not gay.

  6. redball says

    GURRRRL, ain’t u got no other blazers? you wore that for the NYTimes article earlier this week!!!

  7. Tim NC says

    This guy couldn’t respond to a direct question with a direct answer if his life depended on it.

  8. stevenelliot says

    u can take straight males, incarcirate them, and eventually they will have sex with one another due to the inaccessablity of females.

    This is is exactly what this man does to himself. He has sex with a female because he has “jailed” his sexuality. Thats his choice. Its his decision to suppress his primal urges.

    But what about the majority of us, gays, who revel in our desires. Who embrace who we are? Why is it that we are frowned upon? It is my choice, as a free-thinking human to do with my body as I wish.

    I wish, prefer, am programmed, am oriented to…..wanting sexual contact with another male. It is solely my choice and freedom to act as I see fit. as it is solely his decision to abstain from the same desire.

  9. Onehandriter says

    Chambers was pathetic then and worse now. Got himself in a horrible twist claiming love for his “wife” with very strong desires for men. Consider “Born This Way” it is the true reality. Michael Smerconish is a right wing tool. How sad.

  10. says

    What an unreconstructed scumbag closet case.
    Posters here are correct; (@Rich F above ) this phucker has blood on his hands.

    Even now he does not have the integrity or dignity to say he was wrong, apologise and STFU.

  11. says

    How can anyone have a “personal relationship with Jesus” ?

    It’s like having an imaginary friend for grownups….a relationship with someone who doesn’t talk, walk,…….and then these people hear voices……
    Isn’t this the definition of delusional?
    what really bugs me about Christians and all religionists is that they are ready, willing and enthusiastic of speaking of behalf of their gods……..they seem to have no sense of irony about that…..the concept of an infinity being patronised by the deluded doesn’t seem to phase them….

    On the genes/nurture debate , clearly Chambers doesn’t have a clue; just as he didn’t have a clue about praying away the gay.
    He’s just another mouthpiece constructing his own little patch of notoriety…..truly pathetic.

  12. jamal49 says

    @STEVENELLIOT Sorry, even in your circular logic, I have to disagree: I have NEVER EVER had a “choice” regarding my same-sex attraction. It has always been there, from earliest memory. Let me repeat: I have NEVER EVER had a “choice” regarding my same-sex attraction. And, I hazard to opine, neither have 99% of the readers here at Towleroad.

  13. Tom in long beach says

    There are many gay people of faith in loving long term same sex relationships. They do not feel bound by a conservative or fundamentalist interpretation of the bible like Chambers. Personally i think, he must be somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale to be able to stay faithful to his wife. While I disagree with Chambers on many issues I have to give him credit for being real about same sex desires not going away. For anyone struggling with this issue Micheal Wood’s book “Paul on homosexuality” would be a good book to read. Also books by Mel White
    and Troy Perry could be very helpful.

  14. Tom in long beach says

    There are many gay people of faith in loving long term same sex relationships. They do not feel bound by a conservative or fundamentalist interpretation of the bible like Chambers. Personally i think, he must be somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale to be able to stay faithful to his wife. While I disagree with Chambers on many issues I have to give him credit for being real about same sex desires not going away. For anyone struggling with this issue Micheal Wood’s book “Paul on homosexuality” would be a good book to read. Also books by Mel White
    and Troy Perry could be very helpful.

  15. anon says

    Adding to the money angle is the fear of being sued, so yeah, they’ve changed their message.

  16. Stephen says

    just because he says he’s been able to stay faithful to his wife doesn’t mean it’s true – just like his ability to pray away the gay.

  17. Tim NC says

    @Jamal49…. The “CHOICE” that StevenElliot is talking about is the “choice” of how you act on your innate desires. You have “choices”. You can choose to be celibate. You can “choose” to force yourself into a heterosexual relationship as Mr Ex-Gay did. Or, you can choose to have same-sex relationships as StevenElliot has.

    You don’t “choose” your sexual orientation. But, you do choose how you respond to it.

  18. says

    I always ask a question that always gets ignored: if “gay-isms” are nothing more than an affectation by stereotypical gay males who are controlled by The Monolithic Gay Community who Worships Divas and Hates Men, then why is this self-loathing anti-gay homosexual coward Alan Chambers the living embodiment of ALL OF THEM?

  19. Caliban says

    I really don’t understand people like Chambers. If you admit that same-sex desire is unchanging, innate, then you’re also saying you were made/born that way. If you’re religious it follows that God made you that way, but he was “wrong” for doing so, that God made a mistake. But your religion says that God doesn’t make mistakes, so where does that leave you?

    I don’t know, maybe I wasn’t subjected to enough brainwashing when I was growing up but I can’t take the idea that a document written at the tail end of the Bronze Age is the repository of all truth and wisdom seriously.

    And who would WANT to marry a person for whom it took gory threats of eternal damnation to MAKE them say “I do”?

  20. Icebloo says

    This is one of the gayest acting/looking men I have ever seen. I hope he gets a refund because the treatment obviously did not work !

  21. says

    This man is frightening to me. I have written about this before but I have seen what the handiwork of people like this does. Someone I love very dearly has been destroyed by scum like this man. He, thankfully, did not kill himself but has been so deeply damaged and is almost incapable of showing love to anyone. Those of us who have been affected by this see blood everywhere, the amount of times my friend attempted suicide is blood enough. There has to be a way to get these bastards and this abuse to be stopped.

  22. Caliban says

    I don’t believe the “schism” here is really between people who believe gays can “pray away the gay” and those like Chambers who say you can’t. The real schism is political/rhetorical. None of them really believe that sexuality can be changed. But you say, as Chambers has done, that sexuality is inborn, innate, and unchanging then it’s harder to defend hate against gay people. And these people make a LOT of money from hating gay people! It’s a cash cow for them and they don’t want to lose it, plus it helps them manipulate people into voting for the GOP against their own financial interests.

  23. jaragon says

    Seriously now if these people want to convert anyone into the pray away line they need to find a less gay sounding spokesman.

  24. Paul Carter says

    This guy’s an idiot in denial. I thought religion was supposed to set you free but all I ever hear is how it suffocates you. I’ll pass.

  25. scott says

    Agreed @CALIBAN and everyone else who states this for what it is- it’s a cash cow the religious right has created, and they’re slowly (hopefully) losing it.

    On a side note- Lisa Kudrow’s “Web Therapy” has some crazy funny episodes dealing with conversion/reparative/pray away the gay therapy- with Meryl Streep as the counselor no less! :sigh: I feel sad for Chamber’s wife and kids- knowing he could “slip” at any moment. But that’s what happens when people try to be something they aren’t- and in my personal opinion, be something other than the way God created him- and all of us. And that is to love and be loved.

  26. Kyle says

    This man needs to just shut up and go away. He’s irrelevant and needs to stop pretending that he is relevant.

  27. he's cute with a nice butt says

    he’s be downright foine if he weren’t a sociopathic f&ck perpetuating and profiting off the message that gay is pathological.

  28. Mike says

    How many gay people has he murdered using his quack practice? This nut is a criminal and needs to be arrested for crimes against humanity along with the other anti-gay Christians who have killed LGBT people directly and indirectly as a result of their anti-gay torture they call “therapy”.

  29. Mike says

    How many gay people has he murdered using his quack practice? This nut is a criminal and needs to be arrested for crimes against humanity along with the other anti-gay Christians who have killed LGBT people directly and indirectly as a result of their anti-gay torture they call “therapy”.

  30. Karyn says

    I am actually very sad for this man. He admits to still having same-sex attractions, but because he has been brain-washed by someone in a pulpit, he is living his life denying who he really is. And I’m not convinced he is having a traditional marriage with his beard – I mean wife. His two children are adopted, so maybe he and wifey aren’t actually having sex. These people need to get over it – sexuality is not a choice. I didn’t wake up one day and choose to be hetero – I just am. So I see it as arrogance/ignorance when others in the straight community insist that homosexuality is a choice.

  31. Gigi says

    At least John Smid, who used to head Love In Action (the ministry arm of Exodus in charge of the “ex-gay” teaching) was came clean and sincerely apologized for the harm he’d done to the gay community. He also admitted that he’d never met ANYONE who’d successfully changed his orientation and that he was still, and always was, gay. Chambers is despicable.