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Avoid Grindr, a Recent Grad Tells Gay High Schoolers: VIDEO

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Don't worry about finding a boyfriend, don't crush on the straight boys, and stay away from Grindr, says advice vlogger David Levitz.

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  1. Love him.

    Posted by: Djeip | Aug 27, 2012 9:24:38 AM


  2. A nice and genuine kid, giving good advice. Awesome.

    Posted by: Jack | Aug 27, 2012 9:34:13 AM


  3. Adorable. I love seeing people who speak as quickly as I do, because I've been mocked for that way more than for being gay.

    Posted by: Paul R | Aug 27, 2012 9:46:11 AM


  4. I have been a subscriber of his since the beginning of his YouTube 'career'.
    He is a genuine sweetheart with some good content, plus he is easy on the eyes, and he never exploited that fact.

    Posted by: Blake | Aug 27, 2012 9:47:07 AM


  5. Try cutting down on the Caffeine! :O)

    Posted by: Kevin | Aug 27, 2012 9:50:29 AM


  6. Grindr is probably the worst thing I can imagine someone that young doing. Get to meet a bunch of other meth heads and have your self esteem ruined by other self hating homos who are too messed up to go out and meet people the old fashioned way. Pretty sad.

    Posted by: Jerry | Aug 27, 2012 10:05:39 AM


  7. He's adorable.
    He make's me feel confident that there is hope the Gay community will make a better place for all of us someday.

    Posted by: 1♥ | Aug 27, 2012 10:12:13 AM


  8. I love the age we are living in. Oh, how I wish I had access to this when I was young, gay, lonely, confused and suicidal.

    Sound advice from a wise-beyond-his-years young man.

    Posted by: jamal49 | Aug 27, 2012 10:18:19 AM


  9. Grindr is pretty sad for any gay guy at any age. It reduces the experience of being gay to being about nothing but physical appearance and emotionally detached getting off. For those who can handle that, enjoy. But based on the many gay men I've known, most admit that being slutty (yeah, I used the "s" word) is not compatible with their emotional, mental, and physical health.

    Posted by: Stefan | Aug 27, 2012 10:20:03 AM


  10. Non-cynical attitude (which I love), but it also helps that he resembles Brent Corrigan.

    Posted by: S. | Aug 27, 2012 10:23:50 AM


  11. @Stefan - you got it exactly right.

    Posted by: Jack M | Aug 27, 2012 10:47:06 AM


  12. and he did it all without taking his shirt off!! I think that's the ultimate message he maybe didn't intend- if you have something legit to say, people will pay attention to that without having to sex it up

    Posted by: MaddM@ | Aug 27, 2012 11:08:52 AM


  13. *SMOOOOOOCH*

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Aug 27, 2012 11:12:49 AM


  14. I met my boyfriend on grindr here in china, and we've been together 8 months. Travelled all over, live together, and completely exclusive.

    Posted by: Reed | Aug 27, 2012 11:15:49 AM


  15. Reed, assuming you're telling the truth, your experience would seem to be the exception rather than the rule.

    Posted by: db | Aug 27, 2012 11:52:09 AM


  16. I dunno. I've had great experiences with Grindr. It is what you make of it. You know, like everything else in life.

    I've even made exceptional friendhips from meeting guys on Grindr.

    it is what you make of it.

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Aug 27, 2012 11:58:08 AM


  17. His point is moot because Grindr is 18+ so unless someone is lying about their age then they shouldn't be on it.

    Posted by: 18+ | Aug 27, 2012 12:02:51 PM


  18. Tip #1: be gorgeous looking.
    Tip #2: don't be ugly looking.

    Follow this advice, then, everything is easy!

    Posted by: anon | Aug 27, 2012 12:09:44 PM


  19. tip #3: be as specific and explicit about yourself as possible to avoid any possible confusion.

    Posted by: LittleKiwi | Aug 27, 2012 12:15:16 PM


  20. Good for him. This generation is rejecting the dysfunctional and unhappy subculture that was created by urban gay men in the 1970s and which has dominated and defined gay life for decades thereafter. It is a subculture that commercially promotes and celebrates frequent, loveless sexual encounters. Grindr is just the latest iteration of this. The result is increased loneliness and depression among those gays unfortunate enough to inhabit the subculture. If young gays are opting out, that is a great thing.

    Posted by: Dennis | Aug 27, 2012 12:22:23 PM


  21. I met my current boyfriend on Grindr. I also met my best friend on there as well. The app is what you make of it. If you go on there looking for random sex, that's what you're going to find. If you're looking for something more serious, be explicit about that and you'll weed out the people just looking for a hookup.

    In my case, I moved to Pittsburgh with my job and didn't know a single soul here, it made the transition so much easier.

    But I agree with this guy, I would not recommend a teenager download it, lol.

    Posted by: BEAHBEAH | Aug 27, 2012 12:30:42 PM


  22. Gay bar culture wasn't a great thing in some ways (it promoted smoking and drinking, for two things). However, it also provided spaces where gay men could, for the first time, hang out together and talk and make friends. Lots of people scored going to gay bars; however, millions more met some of their best friends there, planned political action campaigns there, exchanged notes on gay culture and shorthand there (what books have you read? What movies have you seen? What albums do you own? Here's what you should check out:). Grindr has the potential to completely eliminate the need for any sort of "gay spaces," as it cuts right to the hookup; this can be nice, but also potentially problematic--as folks said up above, you could easily wind up a sex addict and never make any gay friends at all, just a series of hookups. (Then again, that happened with some folks during the bar scene as well.)

    Love this guy (David)--he's pure human sunshine. Hope thousands of young people (or anyone coming out at any age) benefit from his sage and compassionate advice. Hugs!

    Posted by: Dback | Aug 27, 2012 1:13:15 PM


  23. When I was a gay teen in the '80's, it was much harder to be slutty. Thanks internet and smart phones.

    Posted by: QJ201 | Aug 27, 2012 1:22:24 PM


  24. It sounds like a lot of good advice from a level headed guy.

    Posted by: andrew | Aug 27, 2012 2:35:42 PM


  25. It is funny how the upstanding gays bashing grindr as if it is some sort of the disease. I agree with LittleKiwi, just because you are on there, doesn't mean you have to be slutty and it is really what you make it to be. If you want to get STD from it I am sure it is as easy as a bath house, a bar, a club or any venue of your choosing. Just because you went to a bar, got semi drunk with courage and then hooked up with someone doesn't make it any better than grindr.

    Congrats! you are getting STD/Screwed/Messed-up the traditional way, it is much better than getting all that from grindr (simply because you initiated the action through face to face?!). However, if you had a good experience on grindr, then it is just as good as the old way. Do you even see the fallacy in your statement? It is about preference and choice and stop judging every step of the way.

    However, to the point of the original post, I think being in high school, a gay teen should not be on grindr at all. It is just too early and plenty experienced older men can exploit that and manipulate that to their advantage. Especially in cases when gay kids aren't ready to be completely out there in the public and grindr provides the anonymity for them to explore the possibility, they are that much more eager and vulnerable.

    Posted by: david | Aug 27, 2012 2:38:50 PM


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