1. Daddy Todd says

    Twenty or thirty years ago this might have been a “transformative” book. Today, it just seems like a stunt.

    Anyone feel like you need to read his book? I don’t.

  2. my2cents says

    his ‘year of posing as gay’ was really an exercise in do-ing rather than be-ing…. kinda reminds me of Elizabeth Gilbert’s spiritual quest: “Eat, Pray, Love” which was paid for in advance with a book deal from her publisher.

  3. Bill says

    Whether he did it for the money or not, the book will be useful reading for people in the Bible Belt. He cited the book “Black like me”, about a guy who pretended to be black by using drugs that temporarily darkened his skin. The reaction to that book might be good model – it became harder for people to deny how racism hurt blacks after reading it. It will be interesting to see if his book causes a similar reaction among fundamentalist Christians.

  4. Bart says

    What the hell. When did being Christian become the antithesis for gay? There’s plenty of Christian denominations, including exclusively gay Christian churches.

    Utterly ridiculous. Not all Christians are crazy. Not all denominations are homophobic assclowns.

  5. Caliban says

    From what I gather his book isn’t written for the gay audience, but the Christian audience. He is a graduate of Liberty University, pretty much Fundamentalist ground zero, so maybe it’ll have an effect with them. I hope so.

    I don’t need his approval. But if it makes some Evangelicals question their beliefs, or just back down from their opposition to gay rights, it’s a good thing.

    I have to say that without the introduction that he’s a straight guy who just PRETENDED to be gay, I’d totally be thinking “That guy is GAY!” I wouldn’t be surprised if this whole thing is some convoluted way of coming out.

    But uber-Christians really throw my gay-dar off. Some of them ARE gay and in denial and some are just prim and prissy and “read” as gay. Either ALL Evangelical men are gayer then pink ink or they’re just really kind of fastidious and prissy and come off as stereotypically gay. Or both.

    F*ck if I know!

  6. iewoodward says

    Okay, who caught this guy giving head? And where did he get the idea that telling his mother that he was just pretending to be gay to write a book? At least we have someone now to write the story of Michelle Bachmann’s soon-to-be-divorce.

  7. iewoodward says

    Okay, who caught this guy giving head? And where did he get the idea that telling his mother that he was just pretending to be gay to write a book? At least we have someone now to write the story of Michelle Bachmann’s soon-to-be-divorce.

  8. scott says

    Wow. look, there’s a lot of disappointment and cause for cynicism in the world today, but reading these comments….. wow. Almost all of them were negative- this guy DIDN’T have to do what he did- and if its one more person on this earth trying to be understanding and loving to us, I’ll welcome them.

    If he really did do it all for a book deal, or isn’t interested in building bridges or helping out the gay community, time will show his true colors. For now, I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt- he did a truly great thing- he reached out of himself and lived as another, more despised person. At least he had the willingness and charity of heart to do that- which is more than I can say for most people commenting on this story.

    Thanks Tim- for trying to understand others in this sad, dark world.

  9. says

    and a point most of the negative commenters on here are perhaps choosing to ignore is that through his process, for whatever reason you feel he did it, he was able to turn his conservative christian anti-gay mother into a proactive and productive being who believes in Equality.

    so why are you so angry? he did what many of you continue to give excuses to not do.

  10. Sean says

    My issue is not with his book, it is with utter lack of substance in the interview. Just when I thought a profound discussion might happen, the show ended. Sad

  11. Mike in Houston says

    I hope that his book has a positive impact… But let’s be clear, he always had the option of setting the record “straight” if things got too hard. Real LGBT people don’t have that option. (Closets notwithstanding)

  12. Brian says

    Has no one seen “Gentleman’s Agreement” or read “Black Like Me?” This man took some very brave steps to walk in another person’s shoes. The shallowness of the interview is second to the impact his experience will have on the Christian right. The more people who read his book, the better. I’d like to believe that he did this to shed light on the subject, and just happened to benefit from it. Not everyone is a shallow a-hole.

  13. Paul in Honolulu says

    Hey you nay-sayers: I am a totally committed gay Christian (yes, there are many of us!) who loves Jesus as friend and Savior. What Tim did was out of real love and compassion. If you can’t accept that, you need to examine the hardness and cynicism of your heart.

    Tim entered his journey knowing that God loves gay people, but also knowing that too many of those who dare to call themselves “Christian” are full of hypocrisy and malevolence. As a straight Christian, he wanted to taste that venom first hand, and to share his utter rejection of it. So give him the credit he deserves!

  14. StillmarriedinCA says

    Hey Paul–there is no God…. so I don’t really care if he loves gay people or not. I imagine Unicorns love gay people, too. Funny how people always know exactly how God feels about everything…. he feels whatever fits their agenda.

  15. bandanajack says

    i’m not going to debate with the embittered, but then, i am old enough to remember how scathing the reactions were to “gentlemen’s agreement” and “black like me” were. count me in the plus column. i think this will be seminal among born again young christians

  16. juan says

    What bothers me is that a straight guy acting gay for a year to reveal what its like to be gay get publicity. Many gay guys act straight their whole lives in a closet because THEY KNOW the pain they feel for being discriminated against. You don’t need a straight guy to explain bullying. Just ask gay guys who hid in the closet for a while. He’s not providing any new information, but saying that the info coming from a straight person must be more valid.

  17. PostPonyPhase says

    This just means that everything Queer is to be decided on by straight people, for straight people, because heterosexuality describes the scope of the people having this conversation. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I didn’t see any gay people at the table.

  18. Lee says

    @ Juan: “but saying that the info coming from a straight person must be more valid.”

    It’s sad but probably true that for most none-gay people, and especially those that might not be very supportive of us, any information about the hardship and discrimination gay people face every day is more valid and relevant if it comes from a straight person. Someone who is “like them”, but has gotten an insight into the “gay world.” There is no way that Kurek’s Evangelical brothers and sisters in faith would ever even consider listening to gay people tell their stories, let alone put themselves in their position. But they might listen to Kurek, who is “one of them”, but brings them a story from the other side.

  19. TampaZeke says

    Barbara, don’t be stupid, New York is FAR from being without homophobia and discrimination against gay people. Their are thousands of closeted gays in New York and gay people NO WHERE in New York, not even in Chelsea, feel completely free to express affection in public with the same ease as straight people.

    Just because New York isn’t as bad as Nashville doesn’t mean that it still isn’t bad compared to the way heterosexuals live.

    Very ignorant statement from a person who should know better.

    I actually applaud this man for what he did. His book will reach people that we never could. I’m VERY surprised by some of the negative reactions here but I probably shouldn’t be.

  20. says

    perhaps, actually, if more of you DID put a face and name to what your experiences have been as gay people in an anti-gay world then there’d be no need for a Straight Impostor to do it.

    talk about the pain. talk about the way you felt alone. be honest and upfront, to everyone in your community and your family’s community, about the fear that kept you closeted. about the reactions, all reactions, when you finally came out.

    seriously. share your story. if more of you did then there wouldn’t be any worth to this straight man doing it. as is, many of YOU continue to give excuses to not share your story, to any real capacity.

    until you’re ready to stand up to be counted yourself it just seems odd to be so angry about a man who tried to walk in your shoes and share “your possible story” with others.

    represent yourselves.

  21. Paul in Honolulu says


    I presume from your username that you feel love for someone, likely your husband, and that you’re gay. If those assumptions are correct, then you can’t be an atheist. Why?
    Because God IS love. When you finally admit that He loves you too, and unconditionally, you will be blessed and on your way to being saved.

  22. SinPhilly says

    Wow, I’m sure because I’ve seen comments in the past, but I’m sure if he was a better looking man, you wouldn’t be so harsh… I don’t understand… At lease he had tried to make us look better in front of the bible thumpers… Get a grip.

  23. Mousie says

    Paul, that is incredibly condescending of you to tell someone they can’t be an atheist. I am an atheist. I am gay, and married. You do NOT get to tell me what I believe.

  24. neel thomp says

    Fear god 4 he is ur lord and savior.not friend and savior.he does not hate gays,he plainly states he will turn his backside and not answer thier is a great sin and that is also stated in our 2000yr old bible.blasphemy of the lord and his word angers him more for thats not balance its destruction the devils venom as one of u said earlier.a gay church, ur not reading my bible or u would know this.

  25. Carpool_Kathleen says

    I like what he did. Yeah, the world’s an imperfect place and it’s hard to make EVERYONE happy…but it’s not like he’s saying he suddenly deserves to be Grand Marshal of some pride parade, somewhere. He changed his thinking, he changed his family’s thinking…GOOD. What’s the problem??

Leave A Reply