1. AJ says

    **Eyeroll** I don’t think there is a person out there whose twenties weren’t a confusing mess. Actors like Matt Bomer and Neil Patrick Harris are playing straight roles, very convincingly. Times are changing. There have to be pioneers. And shame on you for suggesting actors should stay in the closet.

    Get therapy. Love yourself. Stay out of the public eye. PLEASE.

  2. Matt26 says

    He’s entitled to his opinions, but I disagree with him. Like @AJ wrote, MB and NPH are out and having stable careers. Time has changed and finally gay men can also act straight parts!
    I remember how scary the beginning of the era RE is mentioning was. I was young but still remember the headlines etc. It made me to protect myself and play safe.
    Rupert’s face has changed, somehow he just looks different.

  3. Bill says

    Will he EVER go away?

    A bitter, bitter man who best serves by showing young LGBT people the kind of person they do not wish to become.

    He chooses to blame his sexual orientation for where he is in life, instead of the poor choices that he has made along the way.

    I fully encourage you to become a better man, Everett.

  4. Ted B. (Charging Rhino) says

    I wonder if Bomer and Harris are useful counter-examples to Everett’s point. Both were well-established actors with successful careers before they “came out” in their 30’s. I think that Everett’s referring to much younger actors in their 20s who haven’t establish themselves; I’m thinking of several ex-werewolves or two NYC ex-roommates much gossiped about on this site.

    At the same time, I think Everett’s being overly-broad…and certainly embittered.

  5. Hank says

    Many of us who are a certain age spent much of their 20s terrified of AIDS. But we didn’t all become bitter, jaded, self-loathing queens. If there is one celebrity I wish had never come out, it would be Rupert Everett.

  6. Kevnyc says

    His bitterness has really changed him and it is physically obvious now. When you spend so much time being angry and resntful it starts to show, and oh Rupert, does it ever show. I feel really bad for him, but worse is the damage he is doing by spouting his bitterness in the public sphere. i don’t think he understands that he is doing far more damage than good.

  7. says

    Somebody call the WHAAAAMBULANCE!

    Coming out didn’t hurt your career, Rupert. Being a wanker that starred in sh*tty movies is what hurt your career.

    NPH, Zach Quinto, and Matt Bomer are out and they get lots of work in TV and movies. Stop trying to foist your shortcomings on others and concentrate on getting your own career back on track, OK?

  8. Homo Genius says

    What always bugs me about talking about celebs is that they are different than most of us. The have their real and then their “image” magazines life. Everyone in Hollywood already knows who is gay and who isnt. Its all about people in Ohio knowing or not. The press also already knows who is gay and who isnt but there is an old rule they simply dont discuss it.

    Rupert sort of has a point. Like I dont think Robert Pattison would have been cast in twilight if he were openly gay. Gay actors would probably be passed over for blockbuster action flicks. Gays are still kind of relagated to supporting roles. This has more to do with the “money” people in the industry than anyone else.

    But sadly yes, Everrett has come off as old and bitter for the past 30 years. Seems like i’ve read this same article like 100X.

  9. says

    Such a shame that Rupert can’t see the truth of his own career decline. Obviously also not being able to see his negativity and cattiness the way others can, he latched blame onto the only other factor one might not be offered leading male roles.

    Whether you guys accept it or not, coming out (or being out) HAS impeded many gay actors. It just so happens other factors were the culprit in Rupert’s case.

    It’s a shame, as well, what he’s had done to his face. He was an adorable young man when Another Country was filmed, alongside another who some might not think has aged well .. Cary Elwes. (Don’t get me wrong. I would STILL do Cary in a freakin’ heartbeat, just remembering his precious face in Princess Bride… god he was pretty.) Anyway what the hell was I saying? Need a glass of water.

  10. says

    Talk about not being self-aware. Has he ever watched any of his own films? Occasionally he showed some talent, but not often enough to make a difference to how he’s perceived. Perhaps he didn’t get some parts because he was gay, but more likely he should blame his own attitude: “I’m not going to get this because I’m gay. Poor me.”

  11. Joey says

    Rupert needs to face facts. Other actors have come out, and it didn’t affect things for them. He came out, but his career flagged. Maybe, just MAYBE, it is because he’s not as talented as the others, and maybe, just MAYBE, his movies weren’t really very good.

  12. says

    Rupert is one tiresome soul…makes me yawn (no wonder he has no good roles)…perhaps Downton Abbey could work him in as another not-so- noble queen on the run (something requiring little sex appeal but lots of posturing would be fine).

  13. says

    You can’t really equate Everett’s coming out with that of NPH or Matt Bomer. Everett’s experience happened in the late 80’s/90’s, a far different time than contemporary Hollywood/America. Everett’s type was more of a ‘leading man’ type and not so much a character type so that made his success as an openly gay man at that time a lot less likely, which probably also contributed to his bitterness about it all, understandably so. It’s also a bit unfortunate for him that he got typecast by his previous roles as a go-to gay character. It’s not surprising that he still to this day recommends against an actor coming out publicly. He feels burned by his own experience and can’t see past other contributing factors like his inability to not run his mouth about everything, which just as likely contributed to his lack of success as an openly gay actor. As someone who works in casting in Hollywood (for commercials though, not for Theatrical), I can definitely understand where he’s coming from, because I see the anti-gay prejudice almost everytime I’m running a callback. I can’t tell you how often the supposition that an actor/actress might be gay or comes across looking even the slightest bit ‘gay’ has kept the client/ad agency types from considering that person for even the most innane role in a commercial, like the guy who just holds the door open for someone. It’s beyond frustrating for me to watch happen. Half the time, this discussion will still happen even when I know for a fact the actor/actress is straight. Of course this is all just the world/business of advertising, but I know it’s not all that different yet for the TV/Film world. I’m not saying I agree at all with Everett’s advice that no actor ever come out, because I still think it’s entirely possible to do successfully, especially in today’s changing opinions. I just think we as gay fans should be a lot less armchair quarterback critical and catty about the decision of an actor to come out or not to come out. It’s an individual choice and whether we want to acknowledge it or not, the actor’s livelihood could definitely be affected by that decision, and thusly it is their decision and we should all respect it.

  14. John says

    He really sets things back years does he not?
    Good on all the actors that have “come out” in recent years. Just might make some “straight” people realize that we are all human after all. Rupert you need to go back in the closet & stay there. Sad lonely washed up actor.

  15. iban4yesu says

    @Gary A

    Good point, especially as I am bitter that Matt Bomer is a natural shoo-in for Fifty Shades of Grey, but it seems to be going to Thor, a hetero!

  16. Bethazar says

    @Ted B. I agree. The celebrities mentioned have established their careers before they ‘came out’. Let us see how it plays out for those that are just starting out, Chris Colfer for example.

    The ‘test’ of progress will be when they try to move outside their current roles. Nevertheless, let’s go back to Matt Bomer. It has been reported that he was not considered for the role of Superman because of the very issue that we are discussing.

    Additionally, I recently watched Chely Wright’s documentary, “Wish Me Away” – excellent by the way. This topic was the focus of the Doc. No one can deny her talent. Nevertheless, after coming-out, she has not been invited to any Country Music Awards or functions and her airtime on the radio is limited or nonexistent. As a song writer in the doc said, there won’t be fire & brimstone, but they will quietly “ice” her out, which is exactly what happened. She did not regret her decision.

    With that being said, I believe it should be a decision based on personal circumstances. I would not advise someone ‘not’ to come-out, but would hope they are emotionally and financially prepared for the possible consequences and limitations to their career – as discussed in the Doc.

  17. jjose712 says

    iban4yesu; Oh please, let Matt far away of that crap, fifty shades of grey is probably one of the worst novels right now. I don’t care if it’s popular, there are fanfiction better than that crap and if i was an actor i wouldn’t play that role even if they pay me millions

  18. says

    the only way to change this culture he’s complaining about is for more of us, all of us, to Come Out.

    it’s only hard when so few stand up to be counted. want things to get better? stand in solidarity.

  19. AlexN says

    I’d rather hear Rupert Everett stick to his opinions and ideas based upon his personal experiences than have another individual be forced into stating what is politically correct currently in order to placate a bunch of whiny, self-entitled people who buy into whatever they are told they must think in order to be accepted and tolerated. To claim he has no talent and reduce him to a soundbite of apparent bitterness is just ageist and silly. There is so much self-loathing in ageism that it really strikes me as absurd when so many gay men are full of it.

  20. Paul R says

    I’d be bitter too if I’d morphed from a handsome guy into Mel Gibson’s ugly older brother.

    And being scared of AIDS in the 80s after being promiscuous? Wow, what a novel experience.

  21. RC says

    Stating that gay actors playing straight roles is a sign of a better time is erroneous, gay actors have been doing that forever. We are in an era when the screen is still ruled by and for heterosexuals. Heterosexuals feel that gay roles are merely for their titillation. It’s very well known how straight men feel about watching two women get it on but they don’t want to hear about that lesbian sh*t. Same with straight women. On some film forums I participated in over the past few years, there were women who would go on orgasmically about man on man scenes in certain films, then hysterically do a homo hating rant if someone mentioned gay marriage or rights issues. So clearly, the current situation is peaches and cream as long as it’s an umbrella situation aimed at pleasing straights – like if a gay actor was mentioned in a film forum, the straight women would only want to know if there were any sex scenes of him or if he did any porno. On the reverse side about gay roles in cinema, we seem to be in the “Charlie Chan” era where serious Asian roles were played by while people. This went on well into the 1960s because it was felt mainstream audiences could not tolerate real Asians. I get the impression nowadays that in the same way the idea of a gay actor playing a gay role would make numerous heads in Hollywood (and elsewhere) explode.

  22. Stefan says

    What is most bothersome about his advice is his assumption that the most valuable thing in life is one’s career and ambition. When you’re young it’s easy and excusable to think that way, but usually as you mature you start to realize that the impact you have on other people is much more important than any fame, money, success, etc. that accrues to you personally. Be honest and diligent and kind and you’ll live a good life.

  23. Stefan says

    As for heterosexuals dominating the culture in Hollywood and in the rest of society. I hate to be too blunt about it, but even the most optimistic statistics put the percentage of the population that identifies as homosexual at 5 to 10 percent. Obviously that’s ignoring the whole idea of sexuality as a spectrum, but for self-identification people are still predominantly gay *or* straight. It only makes sense, unfortunately, that the heterosexual perception of gay people is what will translate to what and who we see on screen. It’s a fact of life for any minority group with relatively limited purchasing power when compared to the general population.

  24. Jensen says

    He is so bitter! My only comment is, Rupert, you are no Matt Bomer talent wise nor looks wise. Matt Bomer will have a long prosperous career based on his talent, classy behavior, and looks.

  25. gayalltheway says

    This queen just needs to stop.
    He should just accept the fact that his failure in the industry is not because of his sexual preference but his utter lack of acting chops.
    He’s really Narcissus reincarnate, only without anything worthy to be fixated on.

  26. EchtKultig says

    Another thing nobody has mentioned is that when he came out, he admitted to having been a prostitute to support himself. An admission like that could have slowed down, if not stopped, the career of even an attractive, female, heterosexual starlet.

  27. stephen lucas says

    Yes, Neil Patrick Harris and Matt Bomer are out but only on the condition that they play straight. Same as the guy from The Big Bang Theory. Therefore, I’d say that Rupert Everett is correct in a general sense when he accuses Hollywood of homophobia.

    In terms of mass marketing of a male actor, Hollywood won’t allow the idea of homosexuality to come into the picture. It would interfere with its marketing towards women, who require that a man be completely heterosexual. This is how Hollywood has sold romance to millions of women through nearly 100 hundred years of its existence.

    Yes, Hollywood HAS changed since those dark early years. However, it has only changed as far as society (ie men and women) have allowed it. The concept of male homosexuality is still considered to be weed killer on a career if you’re attempting to market yourself to the masses as opposed to small sections.

  28. Icebloo says

    As much as I despise self absorbed, narcissistic and over rated Rupert Everett I have to admit that I think he’s right about it being better for gay actors to stay in the closet.
    Just think how many out gay male actors are given good parts in Hollywood !
    Although accused of being run by gays the US movie industry is one of the most homophobic places in the whole country.

  29. stephen lucas says

    Rupert Everett is correct. Just because Hollywood allows a small number of gay-identifying actors to star in roles in movies and TV shows, it doesn’t mean it’s gay-friendly. You will note that virtually all of those roles require that the gay actor play straight.

    50 years ago, Rock Hudson was playing straight, and he made a lot of money out of it. He was THE Hollywood heart-throb. The studios sold him as the type of man a woman would love to go to bed with and the type of man that another man would want to be. Rock Hudson was sold as heterosexual romance, basically.

    Hollywood was built on the idea of selling romance. Romance, romance, romance. The public mass of women demand romance from men. If a male actor isn’t capable of romancing the female viewer in her own mind, she’s not interested. She won’t pay to go see him.

    Hollywood changes with the times, and it HAS changed somewhat in its attitude to male homosexuality. However, it will never change in essence, for then it would not be Hollywood. At the level of mass marketing, it will ALWAYS be anti-gay at heart.

  30. Paul says

    Bad advice, now is the time to stop hiding all of you who are LGBT and come out and support them LGBT Movement for Freedom and Civil and equal Rights. The evil anti-gay Christians want you to hide and die and if they have their way they will kill you one day if you do not come out now and support your rights and freedoms in America and around the world. Only a slave master wants his slaves to be good slaves and do as they are told. Freedom is yours if you come out and fight for it while you still can. There is no choice if you let them win they will find you and kill you sooner or later. Now it the time to stop the evil oppressors before it is too late.

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  32. Audi-owner says

    Funny how so many of you are calling him a bitter old queen,when many of you claim that people in their 20s are confused and stupid as well as labeling any man under 30 as a “twink”. Take a look a good,long,hard look in the mirror bitches,because the post above is what you resemble in many ways.

  33. jamal49 says

    Gosh, Rupert. Those sure were some inspiring words you had there. Now, pour yourself another, snort another line and please, sit down and shut the hell up. Thank you.

  34. John says

    I am pleased that he has eased off on the plastic surgery. He now has a face that moves and is a handsome man who looks his age. Some people are by nature bitchy and negative and that appears to be his lot. He was marvelous in Another Country and My Best Friend’s Wedding. I choose to remember him that way. We must also remember that he came out many, many years before the current crop who came out in a more welcoming time. Things have come a long way for gay actors in the last 10 years.

  35. Houndentenor says

    NPH is a model of how to reinvent your career. He made the transition from child star to adult actor by doing several well-respected theater projects (including a run in Assassins on Broadway). Smart actors know that theater gives you cred as a performer. Then he started getting offers and next thing we know he’s on a long running sitcom again. Contrast him to other actors who keep doing the same thing and wonder why it’s not still working. Everett is bitter that his career didn’t skyrocket like he thought it would. Rather than find a niche he bitches and moans to any reporter who will listen. The only surprising thing about that is that anyone still cares.

  36. Whatevs says

    Neil Patrick Harris and his lines/demeanor while hosting the Tony Awards. Zachary Quinto, “American Horror Story” first season. Chris Colfer, “Glee.” Matt Bomer playing Andrew Rannells’ former boyfriend on “The New Normal.” Guess they were all excused from the condition that they play straight.

  37. ratbastard says

    Some of what he says, from a strictly practical and self interest angle, is true. Even in 2013, entertainers, especially male actors, will face discrimination and potential income loss, if known as being gay.

  38. GregV says

    “Yes, Neil Patrick Harris and Matt Bomer are out but only on the condition that they play straight. Same as the guy from The Big Bang Theory.”

    @Jason: NPH, Matt Bomer snd Jim Parsons have all had success playing gay characters as well as straight ones. Matt Bomer played gay on The New Normal just last week, and he’s just been cast to star (in a gay part) with Jim Parsons (also in a gay part) in The Normal Heart (also with Julia Roberts and Mark Ruffalo).

    Gay actors have sleays played straight roles since the silent film era, but used to have to stay closeted. That has changed in a big way as more come out andaontsin their success.
    I would love to see a good 10% of roles be gay someday, and would hope they’d mostly be covered by straight actors (with a good proportion of straight roles covered by gay actors who are finally able to be out).
    An actor’s orientation should be as irrelevant to a role as whether he’s “really” a Catholic or “really” a doctor or a psychopath or a social studies teacher.

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