Read: HRC President Joe Solmonese Letter to Obama on DOMA

FULL TEXT OF LETTER (Download Solmonese letter to Obama re DOMA brief June 15 2009)

June 15, 2009

President Barack H. Obama

The White House

1600 Pennsylvania Ave., NW

Washington, DC 20500

Dear Mr. President:

I have had the privilege of meeting you on several occasions, when visiting the White House in
my capacity as president of the Human Rights Campaign, a civil rights organization representing
millions of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people across this country. You have
welcomed me to the White House to express my community’s views on health care, employment
discrimination, hate violence, the need for diversity on the bench, and other pressing issues. Last
week, when your administration filed a brief defending the constitutionality of the so-called
“Defense of Marriage Act,” I realized that although I and other LGBT leaders have introduced
ourselves to you as policy makers, we clearly have not been heard, and seen, as what we also are:
human beings whose lives, loves, and families are equal to yours. I know this because this brief
would not have seen the light of day if someone in your administration who truly recognized our
humanity and equality had weighed in with you.

So on behalf of my organization and millions of LGBT people who are smarting in the aftermath
of reading that brief, allow me to reintroduce us. You might have heard of Del Martin and
Phyllis Lyon. They waited 55 years for the state of California to recognize their legal right to
marry. When the California Supreme Court at last recognized that right, the octogenarians
became the first couple to marry. Del died after the couple had been legally married for only two
months. And about two months later, their fellow Californians voted for Proposition 8.

Across this country, same-sex couples are living the same lives that Phyllis and Del so
powerfully represent, and the same lives as you and your wife and daughters. In over 99% of
U.S. counties, we are raising children and trying to save for their educations; we are committing
to each other emotionally and financially. We are paying taxes, serving on the PTA, struggling to balance work and family, struggling to pass our values on to our children—through church,
extended family, and community. Knowing us for who we are—people and families whose
needs and contributions are no different from anyone else’s—destroys the arguments set forth in
the government’s brief in Smelt. As you read the rest of what I have to say, please judge the
brief’s arguments with this standard: would this argument hold water if you acknowledge that
Del and Phyllis have contributed as much to their community as their straight neighbors, and that
their family is as worthy of respect as your own?

Reading the brief, one is told again and again that same-sex couples are so unlike different-sex
couples that unequal treatment makes sense. But the government doesn’t say what makes us
different, or unequal, only that our marriages are “new.” The fact that same-sex couples were
denied equal rights until recently does not justify denying them now.

For example, the brief seems to adopt the well-worn argument that excluding same-sex couples
from basic protections is somehow good for other married people:

Because all 50 States recognize hetero-sexual marriage, it was reasonable and rational for
Congress to maintain its longstanding policy of fostering this traditional and universally-
recognized form of marriage.

The government does not state why denying us basic protections promotes anyone else’s
marriage, nor why, while our heterosexual neighbors’ marriages should be promoted, our own
must be discouraged. In other words, the brief does not even attempt to explain how DOMA is
related to any interest, but rather accepts that it is constitutional to attempt to legislate our
families out of existence.

The brief characterizes DOMA as “neutral:”

[DOMA amounts to] a cautious policy of federal neutrality towards a new form of
marriage.

DOMA is not “neutral” to a federal employee serving in your administration who is denied equal
compensation because she cannot cover her same-sex spouse in her health plan. When a woman
must choose between her job and caring for her spouse because they are not covered by the
FMLA, DOMA is not “neutral.” DOMA is not a “neutral” policy to the thousands of bi-national
same-sex couples who have to choose between family and country because they are considered
strangers under our immigration laws. It is not a “neutral” policy toward the minor child of a
same-sex couple, who is denied thousands of dollars of surviving mother’s or father’s benefits
because his parents are not “spouses” under Social Security law.

Exclusion is not neutrality.

Next, the brief indicates that denying gay people our equal rights saves money:

It is therefore permitted to maintain the unique privileges [the government] has afforded
to [different-sex marriages] without immediately extending the same privileges, and
scarce government resources, to new forms of marriage that States have only recently
begun to recognize.

The government goes on to say that DOMA reasonably protects other taxpayers from having to
subsidize families like ours. The following excerpt explains:

DOMA maintains federal policies that have long sought to promote the traditional and
uniformly-recognized form of marriage, recognizes the right of each State to expand the
traditional definition if it so chooses, but declines to obligate federal taxpayers in other
States to subsidize a form of marriage that their own states do not recognize.

These arguments completely disregard the fact that LGBT citizens pay taxes ourselves. We
contribute into Social Security equally and receive the same statement in the mail every year.
But for us, several of the benefits listed in the statement are irrelevant—our spouses and children
will never benefit from them. The parent who asserts that her payments into Social Security
should ensure her child’s financial future should she die is not seeking a subsidy. The gay White
House employee who works as hard as the person in the next office is not seeking a “subsidy”
for his partner’s federal health benefits. He is earning the same compensation without receiving
it. And the person who cannot even afford to insure her family because the federal government
would treat her partner’s benefits as taxable income—she is not seeking a subsidy.

The government again ignores our experiences when it argues that DOMA § 2 does not impair
same-sex couples’ right to move freely about our country as other families can:

DOMA does not affect “the right of a citizen of one State to enter and to leave another
state, the right to be treated as a welcome visitor rather than an unfriendly alien when
temporarily present in the second State.”

This example shows the fallacy of that argument: a same-sex couple and their child drives cross-
country for a vacation. On the way, they are in a terrible car accident. One partner is rushed into
the ICU while the other, and their child, begs to be let in to see her, presenting the signed power
of attorney that they carry wherever they go. They are told that only “family” may enter, and the
woman dies alone while her spouse waits outside. This family was not “welcome.”

As a matter of constitutional law, some of this brief does not even make sense:

DOMA does not discriminate against homosexuals in the provision of federal benefits….
Section 3 of DOMA does not distinguish among persons of different sexual orientations,
but rather it limits federal benefits to those who have entered into the traditional form of
marriage.

In other words, DOMA does not discriminate against gay people, but rather only provides federal
benefits to heterosexuals.

I cannot overstate the pain that we feel as human beings and as families when we read an
argument, presented in federal court, implying that our own marriages have no more
constitutional standing than incestuous ones:

And the courts have widely held that certain marriages, performed elsewhere need not be
given effect, because they conflicted with the public policy of the forum. See e.g.,
Catalano v. Catalano, 170 A.2d 726, 728-29 (Conn. 1961) (marriage of uncle to niece,
though valid in Italy under its laws, was not valid in Connecticut because it contravened
public policy of th[at] state.”

As an American, a civil rights advocate, and a human being, I hold this administration to a higher
standard than this brief. In the course of your campaign, I became convinced—and I still want to
believe—that you do, too. I have seen your administration aspire and achieve. Protecting
women from employment discrimination. Insuring millions of children. Enabling stem cell
research to go forward. These are powerful achievements. And they serve as evidence to me
that this brief should not be good enough for you. The question is, Mr. President—do you
believe that it’s good enough for us?

If we are your equals, if you recognize that our families live the same, love the same, and
contribute as much as yours, then the answer must be no.

We call on you to put your principles into action and send legislation repealing DOMA to
Congress.

Sincerely,

Joe Solmonese

Comments

  1. says

    “I know this because this brief would not have seen the light of day if someone in your administration who truly recognized our humanity and equality had weighed in with you.”

    with the words above in Solmonese’s letter, i can’t support it. they let Obama off the hook. they give him an out.

    there is no “out”.

    Axelrod, Emmanuel, someone not only knew about it, but okayed it. the problem is whoever did it needs to be fired if, in fact, Obama hadn’t been “weighed in”. BUT Obama still bears the blame.

    as Harry Truman said, “The buck stops here.”

  2. says

    Three cheers to Joe Solomonese for saying eloquently what needs to be said. Three cheers to Jason Bellini for forcing his hand.

    But– I’m a middle aged white guy, and even I think Solmonese needs to either step down or find a spokesperson of color to bring a different face to the HRC. I want to know that the HRC is not just white rich Dems who don’t get the real issues we face out here in the rest of America. I would love to see HRC hire Pam Spaulding!

  3. anonymous says

    This letter made me far happier than the hate crimes amendment to the tourism bill. Sorry possible ammendment.

    Nice to see HRC state the obvious and call out the administration.

    Hopefully this will lead to others bills being passed. EDNA anti-DOMA and anti-DADT.

  4. says

    This letter does indeed give Obama an out. A very very narrow one, but an out.

    There are only two options now. Take the VERY generous “out” that was offered (by putting the weight of the White House behind DOMA repeal), or poison the hearts of the GLBT people who supported him (as well as their friends, families, colleagues, and all who believe in GLBT equality).

    It’s hardball time, folks. No more silence from the White House.

  5. seeldee says

    FYI: Comments aren’t appearing. I opened comments in a separate tab expecting to see five of them; only one is here (MIKE/’s comment). Glitchy systems…

  6. max says

    Letters, marches, protests, etc, ain’t gonna do jack! Obama AND congress have no spine — and frankly, we’re not powerful enough to make them grow one.

    I’d rather spend my time biting my nails, waiting for my Canadian legal residency papers to arrive.

  7. Sargon Bighorn says

    Okay Max, you wait and when you get your papers you can go. We Americans however will stay and fight for Equality. Just like Women did, just like Blacks did, just like Gay Americans are doing. Yeah I know, call us dumb ass, but I for one like America and will fight for equality. I’m in this for the long haul. When we get equality here, which we will. Now come here and let me give you a big hug deep into my ample bosom before we have your send off party.

  8. Andalusian Dog says

    Solomonese’s letter does nothing to convince me of his sincerity. I am not fully convinced that he is not behind the current administration’s silence on marriage equality, because he has pushed for other “more pressing” issues, as was hinted at in the reporting from two weeks ago.

    If he is so “in” with the White House, then what’s to say that this is not a giant PR stunt to get himself back on his community’s good side? Which may mean that this letter was cleared by the White House itself before it was made public. The White House will continue to do nothing and Solomonese comes out looking like a prince. This all may seem very conspiracy theory, but we cannot trust him or the White House any more.

    I’m sorry, the man’s officially tainted. Time for new blood at the top of the HRC. Perhaps someone who is really fighting for our rights in a transparent manner. He cannot be the only one, or the most powerful one, speaking for us anymore. He is no leader.

  9. Cameron Johnson says

    I am so tired of HRC and its devotees complaining about Obama — it’s as if they have no faith in him. In this case, they made the mistake of forcing the administration to defend a law that it disagrees with, and now they’re flipping out when they follow the laws they have to?

    Our country is in crisis — but Obama is a man who keeps his promises. He’s shutting down Guantánamo, he’s stopped torture, he’s saving the economy (or at least, he’s trying) — can’t we be patient, and just believe that he’ll do what he said he would?

    This is the first president we’ve had who has considered us to be equal members of society, and who has pledged to make that equality into law. So, let’s use our vast resources to help Obama make that happen, and to stop homophobic states and religious groups (our real enemies) from stripping away our rights at the local level.

    The man is our ally — let’s help, instead of harm.

  10. Alan says

    Was just thinking that at Pride yesterday, it’s essentially a big block party where all races, men, women, young, old, straight, gay, colors got along harmoniously together without incident even though a right was TAKEN away from them… yet after a Lakers game an improptu parade breaks out and devolves into a massive violent riot.

  11. Mike says

    I sent an email to HRC’s Federal Club yesterday, which I am a member for now. I asked them why I should continue to contribute a lot of money to them every year when the “supposed” lobbying organization for us (HRC) is blindsided by this. I am awaiting a response. I will be patient for a day then I pull the plug on my money. Might be better spent elsewhere to help with equality for all.

  12. shane says

    Ditto to CAMERON JOHNSON. Obama is going to shut this cpntroversy down, when he’s damn well & ready. It’s his timetable, on his terms, when he decides, and we’ll hear about it loud & clear soon enough. Maybe not tomorrow, or next month, but certainly in the next year or two. It will happen. And he will be on the right side, our side. Til then, we have to find our own way. Keep fighting grassroots, changing hearts & minds, and funding the groups/persons that have our interests at heart. We already voted for Obama, let him be.

  13. Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com says

    If your point, Alan, was that those in DC should have shown their PRIDE by, for instance, booing Obama’s House Faggot John Berry off the stage, then I agree.

    BUT they can make up for it by not just boycotting but DISRUPTING the [now] ludicrously named DNC LGBT “Leadership” Council Pickpocket Party er Dinner next week.

    Whatever HRC’s history, Solmonese’s letter is near perfect. BRAVO!

    Now it wold be even better if HRC used their some of their $$$ millions to pay for a series of nationwide full page newspaper ads and 30 second TV ads more simply saying the same things, and also about O Inc’s hideous DADT defense in court just a few days before that most seem to have already forgotten.

    Way past time to get Middle America who support us by majorities in everything but “marriage” to get involved. And, remember, this lawsuit was ONLY about what Obama promised to fight for: mutual recognition between states of legal gay unions and federal benefits NOT what such unions are called.

    Explain to nongay Americans how much THEIR and their family’s personal safety is endangered by DADT discharges and DEMAND O freeze them until Congress acts!

    If not 40 years after Stonewall….when?

  14. Paul R says

    Since when is Joe a policymaker? Policymakers are elected or appointed, and they have the power to directly affect policy.

    As for Obama reading this entire thing, good luck.

  15. Johnny says

    Finally the gauntlet’s been thrown down and Obama will either have to apologize for the brief and promise action, or it’ll be clearly established that he doesn’t respect our equality.

    Rachel Maddow’s going to be on fire tonight, can’t wait!

  16. jmdrwac says

    Poor man thinks he is part of the Obama administration. In reality they’ve co-opted and corrupted him.

    HRC has never understood what it takes to win civil rights victories. This letter is proof they still don’t.

    Why people continue to give them $$$ is a great mystery.

  17. jmdrwac says

    Poor man thinks he is part of the Obama administration. In reality they’ve co-opted and corrupted him.

    HRC has never understood what it takes to win civil rights victories. This letter is proof they still don’t.

    Why people continue to give them $$$ is a great mystery.

  18. jmdrwac says

    Poor man thinks he is part of the Obama administration. In reality they’ve co-opted and corrupted him.

    HRC has never understood what it takes to win civil rights victories. This letter is proof they still don’t.

    Why people continue to give them $$$ is a great mystery.

  19. says

    JMDRWAC, I agree. HRC is not the only game in town! There are many other great organizations out there, so let’s stop acting like HRC is the be-all end-all of the movement!

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