11/15/2009
John Mayer: 'If You Are a Man in Life and You Haven't Gone to a Gay Bar, You Haven't Really Danced'
In an interview with The 7pm Project, John Mayer discusses his outing to a Palm Springs gay bar, after which Radar Online reported that he had been kissed by a man, "and seemed to enjoy it."
Says Mayer: “If you are a man in life and you haven’t gone to a gay bar, you haven’t really danced. Because you’re talking about a bar full of men without that dumb, alpha-male, ego, pushing, shouldering… you can actually have a great time without worrying in this sort of alpha-dog defensive position of like, who's over here, who's gonna try and come up, and who's gonna talk shit, and who's gonna do this and do that. You can actually just go and have a great time. We did have such a great time, to hear that somebody had written a story that I was getting kisses planted on me, it just sort of reduces it to that real stereotypical...you know that's why I wrote, after that I was like nobody's more aggressive than drunk white chicks. They're terrible.”
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John Mayer, yum! So nice to see a good looking guy who isn't hung up on the whole posturing thing. What's really great is he seems genuinely unselfconscious about how good he looks-which of course makes him even more attractive. BTW, I agree with him that no one's more aggressive than drunk white chicks. I've had first hand experience with this when I went to my best friends' bachelor party. Afterwards we hit a couple of bars-and these girls wouldn't leave us alone. If I were a straight guy, I'd be in hog heaven.
Posted by: robert | Nov 15, 2009 11:48:15 AM
John Mayer? Based on his hairstyle, I'm guessing he's one of those werewolf dudes from the Twilight movies. (snicker)
Posted by: David in Houston | Nov 15, 2009 12:27:00 PM
John Mayer, you rock. And the arm is beautiful.
Posted by: JeffRob | Nov 15, 2009 1:08:42 PM
that reminds me of listening to paul oakenfold years ago and then attending a performance on a whim -- about 7 years ago...unfortunately not many gay men listened to him prior to that as well, yet, this straight bar was such a mess with a filthy floor and agro behavior. yet, i would have to disagree with john -- years ago, i could see this, yet, lately -- the average manner of hospitality sucks and turning a blind eye to hate crimes and false scripts -- it wreaks of alpha dog piss.
Posted by: richard | Nov 15, 2009 2:43:37 PM
i've always thought Mayer was a hottie. i saw him on that otherwise forgettable show that come on after O'Brien, i mean Fallon, and that d-bag host said something to Mayer to the effect that 'he must like the attention of all those screaming girls' or something like that, and Mayer looked right into the camera and said, 'sure, but i like the boys too.' and they cut to commercial faster than you could say, 'oops' but whatever! i think this music is great, he's great looking, he's evolved and he's from my state of Connecticut originally. i can only dream...... : )
Posted by: casey | Nov 15, 2009 4:15:08 PM
he's a smart, sexy guy. a good man.
Posted by: nic | Nov 15, 2009 6:30:22 PM
Amen!
Posted by: Beef and Fur | Nov 15, 2009 6:48:00 PM
Intelligent and incredibly hot.
Posted by: Mark | Nov 15, 2009 7:23:10 PM
i live in palm springs and he picked a really fun bar to go to, toucan's tiki lounge.
Posted by: psgoodguy | Nov 16, 2009 12:52:26 AM
He's talking a lot of silly made-up b.s. I spend plenty of time amongst straight gentlemen in straight bars and there's no pushy competitive alpha-male thing going on. If anything, a competitive stress goes on in gay bars.
Posted by: JT | Nov 16, 2009 2:14:29 AM
And Casey, I thought you hated white men ?!
Posted by: JT | Nov 16, 2009 2:17:17 AM
No comment on his comments, but he is hot
Posted by: John in Boston | Nov 16, 2009 5:37:29 AM
Delicious! I guess the photos will be surfacing soon.
Posted by: Rad | Nov 16, 2009 6:54:25 AM
He's 100% right. Whenever I've gone to clubs that have straight and gay people together the straight guys are always a bunch of animals. I remember a Victor Calderone show I went to once in New York. All the gay guys were there because they loved the music and wanted to have a good time, but all the straight guys kept getting into fights with each other and pushing each other around on the dance floor. They acted like a bunch of apes. Meanwhile, all their girlfriends were drunk and messy and kept hitting on the gay guys. We were all really glad when they all left and we had the pace to ourselves eventually.
Posted by: MT | Nov 16, 2009 9:39:18 AM
He's talking a lot of silly made-up b.s. I spend plenty of time amongst straight gentlemen in straight bars and there's no pushy competitive alpha-male thing going on. If anything, a competitive stress goes on in gay bars.
POSTED BY: JT
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Straight gentlemen? Really? Are you talking about the Yale club?
Go to any straight bar on the Upper East Side, or the other boros, here in NYC on most nights, weekends better, and you will see exactly what Mayer is talking about. If you want to see a better example, go to any sporting event, you'll see an even sharper one.
I love my family, but if you mix drink with straight guys, toss in drunk white trash women and you have a recipe for alpha male crap. My brothers don't act that way around their wives or any other social settings.
Posted by: patrick nyc | Nov 16, 2009 11:10:56 AM
There's plenty of posturing at gay bars too, and if you are a rock celeb, OF COURSE the chicks will be all over you. You think this happens if you are unknown, bald and fat, John?
Posted by: anon | Nov 16, 2009 12:53:41 PM
As someone who used to be a security/door person at a gay bar, it was always the drunk girls who caused to most problems on the weekends. They would come in with their gay-boys and by the second drink, where making trouble. And when they were asked to leave because they were too drunk, they would throw hissy fits and toss around accusations that it was because they were female. No, it is because your drunk and acting like a fool. Now, go home and sober up.
Man, I am so glad I don't work in the bars anymore.
Posted by: Crash | Nov 16, 2009 1:17:04 PM
We would not go into a bar that admitted stinkfish, Miss Crash! In our day a bar was where sisters went to find sausage. Having fish in the bar would cause us to become nauseous. BTW, are there nude photos of John to confirm the sizemeat rumors?
Posted by: Mrs Patrick Campbell | Nov 16, 2009 3:18:55 PM
I knew it was only a matter of time before misogyny would rear its ugly head. At least it wasn't a long time.
Posted by: Gabe R L | Nov 16, 2009 4:56:32 PM
Crash took the words outta my mouth.
Posted by: John in Boston | Nov 16, 2009 5:13:17 PM
i have been at gay bars which have "straight" nights. straight nights were the only nights where there were fights. one night there was pepper spray sprayed in a confined space. another time, there was a stabbing that resulted in death right outside the main entrance.
john mayer has a point. when cool straight men go to gay bars, there is no tension and no conflict.
Posted by: nic | Nov 16, 2009 7:45:05 PM
egad ! please tell me that he is wearing one of those fake 'tatoo sleeves' and hasn't really permanenly defaced his body that way ! in twenty years(or sooner)he's going to seriously regret having done that to himself.
Posted by: el polacko | Nov 16, 2009 9:22:02 PM
Crash: Did you work at Crash in LIC? I live near there
Posted by: LC | Nov 16, 2009 10:48:46 PM
The fights are caused by admitting the fish because men (aka "str8 guys") like to fight over them. We hate fish!
Posted by: Mrs Patrick Campbell | Nov 17, 2009 3:50:55 AM
You'll never catch Tammy Cruise or homosexual Brad Pitt admitting that they danced in a fruit bar!
Posted by: Mrs Patrick Campbell | Nov 17, 2009 8:31:40 AM