Gay Buffalo Teen Kills Himself After Years of Bullying: VIDEO


Jamey Rodemeyer, a 14-year-old gay teen from the Buffalo, NY area, killed himself last weekend after what his parents say was years of bullying, WIVB reports:

Soon after coming home from a family camping trip, Jamey was found dead Sunday. His parents say he was always under pressure because of struggles with his sexuality. Jamey’s mother Tracy Rodemeyer said, "So he hung around with the girls a lot, so then the teasing started happening like 'Oh you're such a girl or you're gay or whatever and that bothered him for many years."

Jamey’s father Tim Rodemeyer said, "To the kids who are bullying they have to realize that words are very powerful and what you think is just fun and games isn't to some people, and you are destroying a lot of lives."

Buffalo News adds:

On Saturday night, he posted a lyric from Lady Gaga's song "The Queen" on his Facebook page: "Don't forget me when I come crying to heaven's door."

Then around 1:30 a.m. Sunday, Jamey posted two final messages to his main public Tumblr blog. One said he really wanted to see his great-grandmother, who had recently died, and one offered thanks to Lady Gaga.

That was his last entry.

Jamey was very active online, with a Tumblr blog, and YouTube account. He "routinely blogged about school bullying and thoughts of suicide in between upbeat posts about his pop star idol Lady Gaga" and posted to his followers about National Suicide Prevention Week, the paper adds.

He even recorded an 'It Gets Better' video.

Watch Jamey's heartbreaking video, and a news report, AFTER THE JUMP...

WIVB report:

Parents carry on anti-bullying message:

The Gay and Lesbian Youth Services of Western New York can be reached at 855-0221 or .

There are also national places to turn to for help. They are all free and confidential and available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

The Trevor Project
24/7 Suicide Hotline for GLBTQI Youth

USA National Suicide Prevention Hotline
24/7, Free & Confidential

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  1. Congratulations to Christian Coalition's Robert Newman.

    Your attitudes and acceptance of anti-gay bullyin have claimed another child's life and destroyed another family.

    I hope you're pleased with yourself.

    Posted by: MikeInSanJose | Sep 20, 2011 12:10:41 PM

  2. No, no, no, no, no, no, NO!

    This has got to stop.

    Posted by: michael | Sep 20, 2011 12:10:52 PM

  3. How utterly sad and tragic. Condolences to his family and friends; peace to his spirit.

    Posted by: Joel | Sep 20, 2011 12:11:28 PM

  4. I feel so very sorry for this boy's family and friends. Words cannot discribe what anger and loss these folks must be feeling at this moment.

    People say that every civil right's battle has been at the cost of bloodshed. How many more innocent victims must die before the bloodshed will end? I don't remember African Americans committing suicide because of bullying and feelings of being oppressed before they gained civil rights. Were there such suicides?

    Posted by: Randy | Sep 20, 2011 12:14:37 PM

  5. "So he hung around with the girls a lot, so then the teasing started happening like 'Oh you're such a girl or you're gay or whatever and that bothered him for many years."

    And this is the essence of the problem. Boys who realize they are attracted to other guys do not have masculine role models that can help them understand that one's sexuality does not mean that one has to forfeit one's masculinity (and the respect that comes with it). In part they do not have this because the prevailing culture of "gay"--ironically, in tandem with the larger culture--gives them no alternative but to become quasi-girls, which, in turn, leads them to be disrespected and ridiculed by other boys, destroying their self-respect and any hope for living a natural life.

    And in this case, you see that juxtaposition in its most tragic and sickening form--idolization of Lady Gaga and suicide going hand-in-hand, both symptoms of the same problem.

    And the longer some of you people go on equating being gay with being a sissy/quasi-girl and go on condoning such an associatiion, both in the gay community and in the society at large, these tragedies will continue to occur.....

    It is YOUR fault, whether you are willing to face it or not....

    Posted by: Rick | Sep 20, 2011 12:22:36 PM

  6. "I don't remember African Americans committing suicide because of bullying and feelings of being oppressed before they gained civil rights. Were there such suicides?"

    No, because regardless of what society threw at them, black men still had self-respect; gay men, by and large, do not have self-respect, because they have let society strip them of their masculinity instead of fighting against it.....

    Posted by: Rick | Sep 20, 2011 12:27:41 PM

  7. RICK - I've seen you post this deluded nonsense before. Some people are just more effeminate than others. It's their personality.
    Not all straight men are hardcore butch either. Your whole post shows how much self-hate and denial you yourself have.

    Posted by: TyN | Sep 20, 2011 12:27:57 PM

  8. That child was an angel on Earth who was driven to the grave by the monsters that he was surrounded by purely due to an accident of geography. Another place might have had another outcome. That's why we must always work to make everywhere safe for every LGBT child, especially the most vulnerable, the most sensitive, and the most beautiful.

    And, Rick, seriously: get over yourself. This is not the time or place to be a self-aggrandizing ass. Nobody cares what you think.

    Posted by: justme | Sep 20, 2011 12:31:00 PM

  9. Once again, Rick opens his crack on Towleroad and spews out a lot of hateful diarrhea. I guess every website needs its resident nutcase, yes?

    Posted by: Gregoire | Sep 20, 2011 12:31:04 PM

  10. @ Gregoire- that's why towleroad should go the way of Gawker commenting to avoid trolls.

    Posted by: TyN | Sep 20, 2011 12:33:00 PM

  11. guys like RICK are the reason this young man took his life. RICK is a bigoted coward who is still sucking up to a misogynistic anti-gay rather who hated him, and hated "femme fags" and RICK has decided to lash out at the young people who are defying this baseless bigotry.

    we're losing beautiful young souls because grown-up cowards like RICK never grew a pair of balls, and join in with the heterosexual bigots in mocking, demeaning, insulting and demonizing young LGBT people who don't happen to embody some ridiculous concept of gender-conformity.

    the problem isn't that "people think gay = sissy"

    the problem is bigoted cowards like RICK who think that any gay men who doesnt embody the most classless, neanderthal boorish qualities associated with a "man" is deserving of mockery.

    RICK, you deserve to die alone.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Sep 20, 2011 12:36:54 PM

  12. Can't begin to imagine Jamey's torment. Also can't help wondering through which crack his decision to leave us seeped in? Especially after reading this bio sketch and watching his vids. May we understand where these cracks can appear so that we as a society can try to provide reinforcements. Rest peacefully Jamey and condolences to the family.

    Posted by: Schniffy | Sep 20, 2011 12:38:52 PM

  13. @Rick
    You understand nothing. I love my girlfriends. It does nothing to take away from how I view my "masculinity" whatever that means. People are going to go where they get understanding, support, and joy.

    I know have always I felt more respect because the people I surround myself with respect me for who I am.

    No one should ever live to others expectations. That is a struggle in life.

    I am very sorry to everyone in Jamey's life.

    Posted by: MattCA181 | Sep 20, 2011 12:39:53 PM

  14. "Gay bullying isn't's just a part of the maturation process"

    - Robert Newman
    The Khristian Koalition of Kalifornia

    Posted by: TampaZeke | Sep 20, 2011 12:41:09 PM

  15. Why is Rick still allowed to post here? Between this nonsense and the HIV-doesn't-cause-AIDS crap he posts, his messages are downright dangerous.

    Towleroad, which honestly has had the same crap design for 10 years, could really benefit from a beefed up comment system that lets us vote these idiot trolls down.

    Posted by: nodnarb | Sep 20, 2011 12:42:00 PM

  16. "Lady Gaga and suicide go hand-in-hand"????? Lady Gaga speaks to these young people, they identify with what she is saying. Take away all the make-up and flash and listen to what she is saying to them in her songs. They are thanking her for speaking to them through her music, it is just too bad they could not get past their individual pain.
    You are entitled to your opinion, and I'm entitled to mine. Your an a$$ h0LE

    Posted by: John Racicot | Sep 20, 2011 12:47:00 PM

  17. this is why we fight.

    rest in peace, jamey.

    Posted by: jake | Sep 20, 2011 12:48:18 PM

  18. RICK complains, every day, about "femme gays" and the need for "masculine gay male role models" and yet in every other post he demands that gay people don't "have" to Come Out.

    this is why he's a wimp. he hates that "femme gays" are visible and yet demands that gays that "pass for white" (as i like to call it) don't HAVE to Come OUt.

    so RICK is a wimp and a coward. He's not MAN enough to be Out, visibly and vocally, to be a face and name and voice for the LGBT Community, and is pissed off that all the men and women who DO have that strength are "too stereotypically gay"

    Put up or SHUT up, can't blame other gays for having more strength, courage and BALLS than you.

    you can't complain about the lack of male role models and then in the same breath say it's nobody's business and your "right to privacy" to not be Out.

    we get it. your dad didnt' want a fag for a son, and he got one, and the only way you were able to win his tolerance was by castrating yourself, and insist to him that you'll hate Blacks and Other Gays just as much as he does , in hopes that one day he'll love you again

    judging from your nonstop hateful anti-gay posts every day, that moment never came. your dad didnt hate you because you're gay, but because you're such a complete wimp about it.

    i was more man at 16 than you'll ever be.

    guys like you are the reason this beautiful young soul in the story took his life - you're such a coward you choose to side with the bullies and bigots to save your own ass, not stand up to defy hatred and prejudice.

    you'll get what you deserve.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Sep 20, 2011 12:50:03 PM

  19. So sad I think that is why stories like this need to be share

    Posted by: lisa | Sep 20, 2011 12:52:05 PM

  20. I feel terrible that this nice kid should have found his situation so unbearable.....
    My sympathies go out to his family and to those who supported him.....

    @RICK: if I had to hang out with jocks to be considered "normal" I'd sooner eat sh* far as I'm concerned following jock culture (sic) is beyond pathetic.

    And WTF is a "quasi-girl" ?

    And being disrespected by other boys , is the other boys' problem , not the victim's.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Sep 20, 2011 12:53:33 PM

  21. @Rick

    There is a time and a place for whatever it is you're saying or something...I don't know.

    I just know that it is inappropriate now.

    How do you know that having those "girl" friends didn't keep him around that much longer? People can't live in isolation, children especially.

    This is so sad. I look at his little face and I'm crying. It's terribly tragic.

    As a mother, I swear I would pull my child out of school and either home school or take them somewhere else if this happened to one of them. But before I did that I would be at these kid's homes speaking to their crappy parents about what evil, horrible little monsters they are raising.

    Parents NEED to be aware of how serious this is and be serious about it. Kids today can't get away like we did. They are bullied at school, through texts, through social media.

    Your kid may hate you for moving them to another school, but let them hate you. At least they will live and some day forgive you.

    What a freakin' terrible shame.

    Posted by: Rin | Sep 20, 2011 12:55:08 PM

  22. Can't we set up an alternate site for "Rick" to post comments on? We could call it "Trollroad".

    Posted by: Chuck | Sep 20, 2011 12:58:22 PM

  23. Another tragedy. The only thing positive is that at least now the media is covering this stuff. I dont think this is anything new guys - sadly - though maybe the internet has made bullying more intense. Suicide has always been a serious issue for young people in our community. We all need to think about ways we can do more.

    Posted by: mike128 | Sep 20, 2011 1:00:13 PM

  24. @MIKE128: Yes, you must surely and tragically be this only the tip of the iceberg that we are hearing about ?
    Is it a huge problem everywhere ? And sadly the teachers belong to a generation that glorified the jock atmosphere. ( culture would be too flattering a word for it ).

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Sep 20, 2011 1:08:33 PM

  25. This is so tragic, so unnecessary . . . and the irony of Jamey having filmed an IGB promo makes it an especially bitter pill to swallow. Just another reminder that Dan Savage's narcissistic "suicide prevention" project is divorced from reality:

    Posted by: Stuffed Animal | Sep 20, 2011 1:13:26 PM

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