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Gay Soldier Outed by Viral YouTube Clip: VIDEO


A few weeks ago I posted a set of YouTube videos from a faceless servicemember who says he is from the Bible Belt, stationed in Europe, and deployed to the Middle East. The powerful videos discussed the anticipation surrounding "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" repeal, and the process of coming out to friends and fellow service members.

Along with those videos, the servicemember posted a cover of Adele's "Rolling in the Deep" by a military band, which, because it's excellent, went viral and was featured on the Carson Daly show, among other places. It currently has more than a million views.

The servicemember says that because his video of the band went viral, his fellow servicemembers discovered the gay-related videos, so he was outed to them. And, he's extremely happy to report that they were "more than okay with it" and offered him congratulations.

The servicemember has also told his girlfriend that he is gay.

Watch his story, AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. I thought something like that might happen when he posted that one, even said a prayer. Glad everything seems to be working out for him, though. I know he's making some memories.

    Posted by: AnthonyCW | Aug 25, 2011 9:30:32 AM

  2. That's a great follow up and maybe a blessing in disguise if the news has been well received. I recall how stressful the 'coming out' process was for me.

    Thanks for sharing.


    Posted by: BosGuy | Aug 25, 2011 9:36:23 AM

  3. Sending good thoughts and prayers his way. He's still subject to dismissal though isn't he?

    Posted by: Geoff M | Aug 25, 2011 9:37:24 AM

  4. Not subject to dismissal. Only dismissals for months have been people who outed themselves and *insisted* on getting dismissed even when the military made it clear they could hang until the end of DADT.

    Posted by: Bill | Aug 25, 2011 9:46:47 AM

  5. Well, the Airman wasn't exactly being all that covert, like telling his friend about himself while showing the guy's face. Nonetheless, good for him. I hope his broader coming out meets with as much acceptance.

    Posted by: Ryan | Aug 25, 2011 10:01:21 AM

  6. I like stories with happy endings!

    Posted by: K in VA | Aug 25, 2011 10:09:48 AM

  7. I dropped him a note via YT and he sent back a nice message. Such a sweetie... and I bet he's cutie too!

    Posted by: Married in MA | Aug 25, 2011 10:21:19 AM

  8. This made me smile. Good for him. :)

    Posted by: Rich | Aug 25, 2011 10:33:07 AM

  9. Bud, here's the deal: once the GOP is back in power, they will reverse the military policy and start kicking gays out of the military again. There is nothing written in stone about the repeal of DADT, and in fact, given how malicious the GOP is regarding gay soldiers, I would fully anticipate that were they to regain power, they will start a policy where gays are ferretted out and dismissed dishonorably from the military. DADT will look good in retrospect!

    Posted by: dancobbb | Aug 25, 2011 10:37:38 AM

  10. I'm glad to hear about the good reception of his sexual orientation by fellow soldiers but still can't breathe a sigh of relief until the DADT nightmare officially sends late next month.

    Posted by: HadenoughBS | Aug 25, 2011 10:39:22 AM

  11. Dancobb, and only 8 republicans voted for repeal compared to almost all of the democrats. GOProud also opposed DADT repeal.

    Posted by: robert in nyc | Aug 25, 2011 10:55:18 AM

  12. and the world did not crumble just a small earthquake which will blamed on marriage equality new york or the repeal of dadt. the worse part their are morons who actually believe it.

    Posted by: walter | Aug 25, 2011 10:58:36 AM

  13. Girlfriend?

    Posted by: brenda | Aug 25, 2011 11:07:48 AM

  14. I am sooooo glad! Congrats! and he has such a sexy looking chest haha =)

    Posted by: Satty | Aug 25, 2011 11:16:08 AM

  15. If this kid is out to himself enough to post this video then why in the hell does he have a girlfriend that he is just now coming out to. I would expect that a person so far along in the game to want to do this video would be long past the "girlfriend" stage of coming out.

    Posted by: TampaZeke | Aug 25, 2011 11:45:19 AM

  16. Uh, HAWT! The porn comes out when?

    Posted by: WOW | Aug 25, 2011 11:47:06 AM

  17. Oh, and Kudos to the kid for finding his own way. I don't mean to be critical about the girlfriend; just curious.

    Posted by: TampaZeke | Aug 25, 2011 11:48:09 AM

  18. Everyone lived happily ever after. Except for the girlfriend.

    Posted by: Jack M | Aug 25, 2011 11:52:21 AM

  19. Never mind about the girlfriend question. Just watched the video again and caught the "6 month" and "girlfriend back home" lines. Now it makes perfect sense.

    Again, kudos to the man! I think he's doing a LOT of good for himself and others. Can't wait to hear more.

    He doesn't have a "Southeast" accent. I would have thought Midwestern.

    Posted by: TampaZeke | Aug 25, 2011 11:57:35 AM

  20. Is it terrible that I alrways feel a strong sense of pity and sadness for the girlfriends in these situations?

    Everyone praises the closet cases but many of these girls are head over heels in love with these men and they just break their hearts by telling them they never loved them in the way they deserve to be loved.

    The entire thing is just amazingly selfish to me.

    Posted by: Cory | Aug 25, 2011 12:14:06 PM

  21. @Cory: Normal to have sympathy for the GF, but bear in mind many guys have true feelings for their spouse/GFs and are the last ones that would want to hurt them. While the ultimate realization that the relationship isn't meant to be can be tragic and painful, it can also lead to the fairest and kindest result, where both are now free to seek true fulfillment. With apologies to Sting, "If you love somebody, set them free."

    Posted by: Steverino | Aug 25, 2011 12:34:07 PM

  22. @Cory - you are correct. There is alot of collateral damage to the closet.

    Posted by: Mike | Aug 25, 2011 12:34:09 PM

  23. @Cory -- the pressure on kids to conform, especially in conservative environments, is overwhelming. It is not hard to imagine that all of his friend had girlfriends, and no doubt his friends and relatives expected him to have one too. Couple this with his own confusion ("i'm just going through a phase") and you should be able to understand his efforts to try to be like everybody else, to have the expected girlfriend, and to hope that maybe it is just a phase. It is not as if he had completely acknowledged to himself that he was gay and then got a girlfriend because he needed a beard. Agreed, that would have been selfish. But in the circumstances he describes, which are the circumstances that many gay men from conservative small towns find themselves in, I think it is a unfair to accuse him of being "selfish." Not everyone has the self-awareness or ability to wake up one day, realize that they are gay, and then live as a fully out gay man from that point on. You can pity the girlfriends, but that need not equate with calling the men selfish.

    Posted by: MiloTock | Aug 25, 2011 12:52:51 PM

  24. "I'm not emotional, I'm pretty stonewall." bless his newbie gay heart. I love that.

    Posted by: willndurhamNC | Aug 25, 2011 1:24:22 PM

  25. I think he's freaking adorable, even without the face shot. And he's very brave and I wish him all the luck in the world!

    Posted by: matt | Aug 25, 2011 1:45:13 PM

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